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'I was up a step ladder painting the week before x was born', ' I worked right up to my due date!'

(85 Posts)
smiler389 Sun 03-Feb-13 12:44:32

Well good for you but I'm shattered and can't seem to manage changing the bed! Anyone else feel like this at 17 weeks?

PhyllisDoris Sun 03-Feb-13 12:49:44

I found I was very tired for the first half, then not so much in the second half. Second half I was just plain uncomfortable. (I worked to 5 days before DD2 was born - she was 2 weeks early).

bogwoppitinatree Sun 03-Feb-13 12:50:29

23 weeks and counting down the days until I can leave work. Hopefully at Easter which is 2 months before my due date, despite my work seeming to be full of people who worked to the day before or even, one woman, went into labour at work!!!

cyclecamper Sun 03-Feb-13 12:51:44

Me! I could barely move for the first 4 months (didn't know why, since I didn't know I was pregnant till 16 weeks!). I'm 21 weeks now and only marginally better. I feel like a right wimp! I used to cycle 20-30 miles every day and at the moment I get worn out walking for 20 minutes. shock

tasmaniandevilchaser Sun 03-Feb-13 12:53:33

Gaaah! Whenever people say things like that I just smile and nod. Inside I'm not smiling or nodding.

Don't bother changing the bed, just lie down on it!

I got tired later on, sorry, you probably didn't want to know that! But it was probably down to anaemia. Worth getting it checked out, when are your next bloods? Or you could just take floradix and see if it helps?

I was incapable of anything the whole way through my second pregnancy. My first wasnt too bad. But even getting out of bed was a struggle with DD2!

mirry2 Sun 03-Feb-13 13:01:14

I took maternity leave as soon as i could with my first pregnancy on the grounds that I would never again have time to myself - and I loved it Having worked for all my life up to then it was pure luxury to get up when I wanted, mooch round the shops during the week days, visit places I'd always want to go but never been able to because of work.

DontmindifIdo Sun 03-Feb-13 13:01:20

Different pregnancies are different, with DS I was fine, bouncy, tonnes of energy right up until 34 weeks when it all left me - annoyingly I'd planned to work until 38 weeks but was able to bring that back to 36.

This time round, I'm completely different, I'm 22 weeks, I have no energy, my hip kills me already (It hurt for the last week or so last time round, but fine before). I've had morning sickness (nothing with DS), I've fainted 3 times on the train on the way to work.

I know woman who've worked until the last minute, none of them had physical jobs or long commutes, and no one does a good job past 37 weeks IME.

freerangelady Sun 03-Feb-13 13:03:27

I'm 40 +'4 today and was feeding cattle this morning.

Didn't feel like it though -'I'm just walking everywhere to try and move baby!!!!

Everyone is different.

ithaka Sun 03-Feb-13 13:04:33

Everyone is different. I am afraid I am one of those annoying types who worked up to her due date with the first. With my third I was still seeing to my horses on the day I gave birth. However, I would say I was utterly knackered in early pregnancy (before it showed). Once I had the first 3 months over, I felt fine. Listen to your body and do what is right for you.

There is always a one-up-man ship I worked uNeil 37 weeks with both dd and ds, I am shattered thus time 30 weeks but just have to get on with it. Due to eye ops can't drive so have to do school and preschool trips 6 times a day. So the housework slides for a bit.

I remember a thread where everyone was listing all their achievements recently 'I have 4 children, produced a tv series and redecorated the whole house' erc type comments. Then one 'I are two cream cakes today' or suchlike I'm still chuckling about it now typing it!!

TwitchyTail Sun 03-Feb-13 14:25:44

Oh gosh this annoys me so much.

I stopped work at just over 30 weeks (I did save up my annual leave so maternity is technically only starting at 37 weeks). And it's the best thing I ever did. I feel so much better, and the problems I was having with the pregnancy have almost completely resolved themselves. I need regular growth scans and the baby's growth has accelerated markedly since I stopped work, which of course may be a complete coincidence, but I know my body and I suspect the two are related. I got a few "oh, so early?" comments (funnily enough, mostly from people who hadn't had children grin ) but just ignored them.

Rest during pregnancy is very under-rated in my opinion. I've been seeing a physio for SPD and she mentioned that in "her day" the norm was for women to stop work at 29 weeks, and if you wanted to work longer most jobs required a letter of support from the woman's doctor. Since there has been a more recent trend towards working until late in the third trimester, they are seeing more women with pregnancy-related problems.

Every pregnancy is different, and every job has different demands in terms of physical and psychological stress. My take on it is that women should listen to their bodies and not feel ashamed to rest. If someone feels well and wants to work up until their due date, great - but this should be the exception rather than the rule.

beckie90 Sun 03-Feb-13 15:57:52

Ds1 first half of my pregnancy was fine not too tired and bad, but from 23wks I grew really ill had anemia and often had blackouts, were I worked was constantly stood up, so my employer gently said to me we have put you on the least demanding job we can and your still too ill to do it, so she was great, she put my mat leave in from 29wks but my holidays in from 26wks, so I left at 26wk.

Ds2 I was shockingly ill first 16wks after that I got more energy back but due to anemia again had a few spells were id just have to stop everything n lay down on the floor. But towards end I was quite well really, my labour was 5 days long on day 4 I decided to take ds out on a walk as it was a hot day to try speed it up, which ended up in me chasing him round the park through contractions lol. I could not of done that with my first pregnancy, had no energy, so I think its just down to every pregnancy been different smile x

Missingthemincepies Sun 03-Feb-13 16:11:07

It's particularly hard when your boss is one of those women that had 5 kids and never had any problems, worked til due date.....

I worked til 37 weeks with DS, active job. Tired but ok. Annual/mat leave booked from 34 weeks this time but off sick from 28 weeks with SPD and painful braxton hicks. Didn't have anything like it last time, didn't anticipate it at all and feel rubbish for abandoning work. But I genuinely couldn't do it.

Agree with all pp, every pregnancy is different.
Counting the weeks......

LazyMachine Sun 03-Feb-13 16:46:48

I only worked until 30 weeks. No health issues or pregnancy problems of any sort, and it wasn't a stressful or strenous job. I just didn't want to work anymore. Am 39+1 now (with DC1) and it's been brilliant having the last 2 months to lounge around, read, have lunch with friends, prepare for LazyBaby, watch movies and some very crappy daytime tv. I've absolutely loved all the free time!

RubyrooUK Sun 03-Feb-13 16:49:57

Don't let other people's experiences bother you - every pregnancy and person is different. And at different times, you feel better or worse.

I worked till 38 weeks with DS1 and walked seven miles the day before he was born. I felt great at the end. However, for the first three months of that pregnancy, I had to make excuses to leave work for 5:30pm and go straight to bed. I felt grim.

I am working till 39 weeks with DS2. BUT this is because I want to take off all my maternity leave after his birth, not because I want to be a superwoman. Oh and DS1 is such hard work on my knackered back that even though my job is tough and stressful, it isn't as hard work as late-pregnancy toddler care!

MrsHoarder Sun 03-Feb-13 16:57:04

I stopped at 24 Weeks (studying and the next logical breakpoint was after due date although he still hadn't been born. It was great, I rested and pottered. We did move house at 36 Weeks though.

SamSmalaidh Sun 03-Feb-13 17:00:04

I finished at 32 weeks and had 9 lovely, long child-free weeks reading, sleeping in and doing as I pleased for the last time ever

binkybonk Sun 03-Feb-13 17:02:15

Everyone and every pregnancy is different. But despite everything I now realise I loved working on the Monday, giving birth on the Tuesday to DS as I'm now 40 weeks w DC2 and took a week off 'in case it comes when DS1 did' and every precious day is a day without DC2 at the end of maternity leave.hmm
But then I don't live in the UK where Maternity Leave is a bit better than here -where it is unpaid from day 1, no benefits, and people think you're nuts to take more than 8 weeks I have saved like a demon for a year to get my 6 months off.

cupcake78 Sun 03-Feb-13 17:02:49

This afternoon I've just had the 'well I had 5 kids to look after'. Yes but we're you working full time hours within school hours and evenings, running your own business, dh works 12 hr days, suffering from hypermensis etc etc! Arrhghhhh. I seriously wanted to scream at them! This was topped off by a comment from a 70yr old male pig who said, 'there was none of this bought rubbish like cakes and ready meals, everything was made with real food and ready on time. Homemade bread every day and always a cake for tea'. angryangryangry.

I'm 19+5 and utterly exhausted, sleeping on average 4hrs a night, full of cold, still throwing up on some days, feeling nauseous most days and trying to earn as much as possible while I can.

I know I'm hormonal but angry

Mother2many Sun 03-Feb-13 17:03:31

I had no choice. When my daughter was due to arrive my XH still didn't bother to fix the remaining room for her brother to move into! (so she could get his crib) I was drywalling, mudding, and doing all that wonderful stuff, including painting, just to get ready... We had started on building a NEW room, so, only 2x4's for up!! Wasn't easy but I had help with my teenage sons...

(yep...XH was such an A@#)

Mother2many Sun 03-Feb-13 17:03:50

oh, and I was 9 months pregnant tooo

peanutMD Sun 03-Feb-13 17:12:14

I have 10 working days left and I will be 37 Weeks.

I have had continuous sickness and SPD and tbh I would've loved to have finished earlier but felt that I couldn't as I found out I was PG the day before I started this job in August so I'm lucky to even be allowed to keep my job but my bosses have been lovely about it smile

I work in a daycare centre so I've had to comprise quite a bit in what I can/can't do which has been a bit odd and I when I was asked by a colleague a few days ago how far on I would be when maternity leave started she stated that she was surprised I wanted to finish so early because she'd be bored by the time baby came and was I being made to leave then?

She is 23 and has no children hmm

zzzzz Sun 03-Feb-13 17:18:45

Oh ignore them, they are annoying arses.

I always have a terrible urge to respond "but you produced a really scrawny baby, I want a nice one." But best not eh? wink

Pontouf Sun 03-Feb-13 17:23:40

I hear this a lot. I work in operating theatres and there is very much an ethos of just keeping working despite any personal problems/illness/horrendous pregnancy symptoms you might be suffering. I once rang into work because I'd been in A&E till 6am with my 10 mo son who had croup and had had to be blue lighted in. My boss genuinely thought I was being totally unreasonable in saying I couldn't come in that day. Bear in mind my job involves assisting in operations, so I do kind of need to be with it!

I finished work at 34 weeks with DS (my first) as I had terrible swelling and was carrying tons of water (I lost a stone and ten lbs overnight when i had DS and he was only 7lb 3oz) and working ten hour shifts, on my feet all day with only one half hour break. I had lots of tutting and eye rolling and comments that "well in my day you didn't get maternity pay so you had to just work rigt up till you dropped." angry

This time I am much healthier and haven't put on as much water weight so I feel generally better. I am planning to work till 35+3 and have had lots of people say that I am finishing too late and that they don't think I'll manage to work that long. You can't bloody win.

OhGood Sun 03-Feb-13 17:56:27

17 weeks with number 2 and exhausted. Exhausted.

Stupid horrible delusional work. Scares with baby at scans (now hopefully resolved but am frightened every time I go to midwife.) And now these horrible headaches.

Can barely move.

I am not going to have another, and I so wanted to have a good experience of pregnancy. Ha.

OhGood Sun 03-Feb-13 17:57:02

And obviously feeling v sorry for self!

dizzy77 Sun 03-Feb-13 18:06:33

I worked to 34 weeks with DS, whilst my job is office based and not physical itself, I have a 90min commute and that was too much, I could easily have stopped at 30wks. I did immediately feel physically better when I stopped commuting and could have been one of those women up a ladder decorating on my due date - I swam for an hour a couple of times each week on mat leave, and was planning to go out for my last one when I concluded those cramps were probably contractions...

This time round I'm at 22 weeks and, despite being part time, could happily stop now: another one with scares at scans and I'll have a whole load of fortnightly appts on my working days. I had hoped to get to 36wks as being at home with a toddler isn't exactly restful, but who knows how long this one will stay in.

smiler389 Sun 03-Feb-13 18:08:41

Wow thank you for all of the responses. I think I knew this would touch a nerve so to speak. Everyone has an opinion on all aspects of pregnancy don't they, sometimes I feel guilty for moaning and a bit uncomfortable at the thought of stopping work...although I don't see an alternative. Anyway, to all of you who have said every pregnancies different, can we agree to spread that around!? Don't get me started on comments on the .size of my bump

smiler389 Sun 03-Feb-13 18:09:04

Pregnancy's **

PandaOnAPushBike Sun 03-Feb-13 18:16:40

Can't manage changing the bed? I can't even get up the stairs without needing to go and have a lie down. Thankfully my bedroom is off the living room. So today I have been extremely active. I got up, I got dressed, I made the bed, I put a load of washing on, I sat on the sofa watching TV and MNing for the rest of the day while husband waited on me and even that feels like too much effort.

27+5

HexGirl Sun 03-Feb-13 18:19:57

I was up a step ladder painting the week before DS was born but that was only because DH had painted the top half of the walls in DS's room whilst I'd done the bottom and he'd (in my very hormonal opinion) cocked it up. So I was up a step ladder trying to balance a very enormous bump and being only 5ft 1 and trying to reach a corner on a eight foot high ceiling hmm. Not one of my finest moments given I'd sprained my ankle two months earlier, had awful carpal tunnel in both hands and massive swelling in my ankles. Later that day at my checkup I wa diagnosed with pre-eclampsia and DS was born three days later and two weeks early by emcs. this meant i only got just over a week of my mat leave instead of the planned three. Still not told anyone that I was daft enough to be up a step ladder and would not recommend it to anyone in the latter stages of pregnancy grin!

birdofthenorth Sun 03-Feb-13 18:32:01

I my colleague was like this, was were working outside for a whole day & she didn't mention her contractions has started until news of a baby came the next day!

She then reappeared at work part-time after two weeks (we're in an odd profession and it was a busy time and she felt -and was- under pressure to do so). She has made juggling the baby & work look an absolute doddle since then, thanks in the most part to her partner who earns less & works v flexibly. I am quite sure it has not been a doddle, but my (largely male & childless) colleagues now believe it to be, which is a shame for me as I'm expecting my second (had a very different job with normal mat leave for my first) but my partner works away in the week and we have no other family nearby so I will not be performing any supermum acts any time soon!

CointreauVersial Sun 03-Feb-13 18:35:16

Sorry, that was me.

But I felt rotten at 17 weeks.

In the last couple of weeks I had a bad attack of nesting and did all sorts of mental things, but I did feel fine.

specialknickers Sun 03-Feb-13 18:39:10

With ds1 I cycled for miles every day, did pregnancy yoga, went swimming... I was fit and healthy. I'm now 17 weeks pregnant with dc2 and have sent most of it lying like slug on the sofa. There is literally no way I could hold down a job, I can't even stand up for more than half an hour. Ms, Chronic pelvic girdle pain and a series of nasty colds (3 and counting) and now tonsillitis confused have totally done me in.

I am so envious a women who can enjoy their pregnancies, this is my last one and I'm just spending every day hoping that this constant illness and lack of activity aren't going to harm the baby.

Wiggy29 Sun 03-Feb-13 19:22:05

I'm still at work at 38 but to be honest have bags and bags more energy than I did at 17 weeks when I felt dog rough! I'm doing it mainly for financial reasons but if you don't need to, then don't! There's no medal for it and I'm sure you'd be happier (therefore baby would be happier) if you were nice and chilled before the birth. If money matters were different, I would have loved to have stopped at about 36 weeks.

PS- touch wood it gets better for you, I really did just go to bed at the same time as dc1 (that's about 8 o'clock) at that stage and was still feeling exhausted/ lousy.

Overcooked Sun 03-Feb-13 19:23:51

Sometimes if you work in the kind of job where you are expected to keep going, or you are limited the the amount of time you take off then you do just HAVE to keep going.

I went to a week before my first and two weeks before on this one because I am the main earner so we need my wage to save and because we can only afford nine months off so if I went off three months early I would only have six months with the baby.

I don't tell people my reasons for working so late tho, it's no-one else's business - so some might think I'm boasting, I'm not, I'm
just stating facts.

Wiggy29 Sun 03-Feb-13 19:28:19

Just remembered that I too went crackers nesting, at about 30 weeks DP came home to find the kitchen piled neatly in the yard after I ripped it all out with a crow bar blush. Again, this is not something I boast about- more a sign of how crazy hormones make you in pregnancy. I thought I was better this time round but the other day I started sobbing because dp said the doors didn't need glossing.

HSMMaCM Sun 03-Feb-13 19:28:44

At 17 weeks, I could barely move ... by 36 weeks, I was organising a party.

GinGirl Sun 03-Feb-13 20:09:08

I was like the thread title with DC1, worked til 38 weeks, painted rooms in my mat leave and bottomed out the house, my DH used to dread coming home to face the next bout of havoc I'd created!

I have got decreasingly like this with each subsequent pregnancy (pregnant with no.4)! Now my family are lucky if their bedding gets changed, clothes are washed and they are all fed. I just about to manage to look after my children/house before collapsing into bed by 9pm each night!

openerofjars Sun 03-Feb-13 20:15:49

I felt like shit at 17 weeks and just wanted to sleep and puke, but when I was 37 weeks pregnant and had just started maternity leave we finally sold our house, so I was showing the surveyor round on my due date and negotiating with an estate agent when in early labour. I was sooooooooo desperate to be moving house!

It is what it is and it what it isn't is a competition. If you feel like crap, look after yourself and I hope you feel better soon.

I'm still active, doing sport etc at 36 weeks, but I'd say that was down to luck more than anything as I have had an easy time of it all the way through. The midwife did comment that being active on and your feet is good as bad posture and lounging on the sofa can increase the risk of a transverse or breech birth position. That alone is enough to make to walk miles and sit on a ball when resting!

Notmyidea Sun 03-Feb-13 20:28:32

I'm doing a good job of being fabulous at work Mon-Fri at 30 weeks...but I've just spent the whole weekend in bed. My daughters have missed after school activities in the last week because I nodded off on the sofa. Thinking I need to reconsider working to 37 weeks...

LazyMachine Sun 03-Feb-13 21:16:44

I, too, have had loads of energy in my 3rd trimester - and I think weekly yoga and swimming, coupled with riding my bike or walking everywhere has been paramount to LazyBaby staying head-down and engaging early. (Who knows, though, if I'd been working & commuting post 30-wks I might've been too tired to do anything.)

For those of you still in the 1st and 2nd trimesters - I imagine that your energy levels will really pick up as you get further along. It's happened with almost everyone I know - working or not.

And while you're having periods of extreme exhaustion, please try not to feel guilty for resting and taking care yourself. It's hard work to cook a baby!

bbface Sun 03-Feb-13 21:32:39

OP, first child?

When you have your second, you do not have any choice at all. You simply have to be energetic and very physical, especially if they are a very highly energetic two year old boy! I think this can actually help with the tiredness because you have no chance of dwelling on it.

I too struggled with tiredness in early pregnancy (actually, more nausea than tiredness), but once through third tri, no tiredness. Now at 37 weeks, I never feel tired and yet i go to bed far too late I.e. midnight. But lots of people struggle with tiredness without being pregnant, so makes sense they will suffer more when pregnant. Whereas I rarely if ever struggle with tiredness.

When my newborn comes along, now that will be a different matter entirely!

orangetickle Sun 03-Feb-13 23:52:56

How is all this bitching acceptable? If it was the other way around ('Gosh that 20wk pregnant woman is so lazy') it would be roundly chastised.

Some women sail through pregnancy, others don't.

It's not a competition.

Jojobump1986 Mon 04-Feb-13 01:49:27

I was volunteering at a café when my waters broke with my first pregnancy. This time it's exhausting enough just getting to the café & sitting around drinking tea & chatting & I'm only 22 weeks. If someone suggested I should be being helpful I might actually hit them! I really enjoyed pregnancy last time but I'm just so exhausted & had constant nausea from 3 weeks until about 17 weeks that was so debilitating that I could hardly get out of bed! In a funny sort of way I'm kinda glad I got to experience both good & less good pregnancies - I felt really guilty last time when one of my friends was being hospitalised with HG in the 2nd trimester & I was still really healthy & energetic at full term! I totally understand women who say they can't wait to get the baby out now though! I'm already counting down to 37 weeks & planning how I'm going to shake the baby out! I might cry if it's overdue! 14+1 weeks to go! wink

I took mat leave at 32 weeks and there have been a few raised eyebrows at me taking it so early, but once I explain that I teach in a nursery for children with behavioural difficulties and that I was having bricks thrown at me/ getting kicked in the bump/ having kids climb all over me all the way through my pregnancy, they seem to change their minds about that fairly quickly!! For me it was about keeping me and baby safe rather than exhaustion, and actually it's only been since 34 weeks that I've felt exhausted/uncomfortable/tired etc. Still been trying to take dog for walk daily and swim once a week though - must've worked cos baby's head is engaged and ready to go!

As other posters have said, every person experiences pregnancy differently and it's not a competition. People who say stuff like that to you are clearly looking for a gold medal or a pat on the back that they feel they deserve but will never get. Pity them!!

My favourite thing to do is say "I just listen to what my body is telling me" - very difficult to argue with that!!!

StuckOnARollercoaster Mon 04-Feb-13 07:15:08

I'm 22 weeks and am managing to act fairly normal at work compared to before pregnancy (I'm a contractor and don't want to give any reason for them to terminate me early and hopefully may get a chance to go back afterwards so I want to keep up a good impression). But when I get home - I can just about manage to make it to the sofa!
Am going on mat leave at 30 weeks - hopefully then will be able to do a bit more than sleep and make some preparations for this baby!

seeker Mon 04-Feb-13 07:17:35

I spent the night in the car stuck in snow in the M25 at 39 weeks. Do I get a prize? For either heroism or stupidity?

seeker Mon 04-Feb-13 07:18:33

I discovered later that my brother had reassured my mother by saying "don't worry, there are always air ambulances"

CheerfulYank Mon 04-Feb-13 09:54:01

I'm 24 weeks and am exhausted. I'm so tired I nap, then can't sleep at night...vicious cycle!

I really want to get my sleep habits more regulated though, I have no energy and the house is falling apart.

LoopsInHoops Mon 04-Feb-13 09:55:57

Well, you know what? I was up a stepladder painting and renovating a house the day before my DTDs were born. They were born prematurely, and DTD1 died. sad I have been told it's not my fault for working so hard to get the house habitable before they arrived, but I will never quite believe it, nor will I ever get over the guilt.

Relax. Please. smile

weeblueberry Mon 04-Feb-13 10:05:24

I suspect most people who work right up to their due date are in office based jobs where they sit down all day and just have to get up and move about when they want to. Personally I'd like to work up as late as I possibly can because sadly I can only afford to take a certain amount of maternity leave and (as much as I'd love time to myself) I'd much rather spend it with my new baby.My boss has said if it gets to the point where I can't drive they'll send someone for me and to take me home.

The other thing to remember (and, my God, I'm no expert as this is my first) is you can't judge how tired you'll be at the end by how tired you are midpregnancy. Until about 20 weeks I was EXHAUSTED all the time. Could barely keep my eyes open. But as I move into my third trimester I'm getting a lot more energy and am quite keen to get going in the mornings. It's not always going to get worse. I know you can look at yourself at 17/18 weeks and think 'My God if it's like this now, how will it be in another 20 weeks??' but it's not always a downhill slope. wink

fl0b0t Mon 04-Feb-13 10:39:01

Women can be terribly competitive about who is the busiest/ whose life is hardest and most importantly egos is tbd biggest matyr. I'm 7wk and have spent most.of the last week in bed with sickness. If this lasts, I may never leave the house again.....!

TashEv Mon 04-Feb-13 11:41:07

Hiya

I am in the process of getting all my baby bits (29+2) and I wondered whether I needed to worry about baby baths/supports yet or would I just be top and tail washing her for a few weeks?

I'm sure I could have waited to ask my midwife but I'm impatient! smile

Actually while I am on here are there any other essential items I should get now that I may not already have on my list?

Thanks
Tasha

Notmyidea Mon 04-Feb-13 11:55:51

Hi Tash! Baths can be very soothing for a baby. They have been living in a bag of fluid in utero after all. I used them from day one with my older two and expect to again.
My antenatal shopping list includes pack of vests, pack of sleepsuits, cotton wool, wipes, nappies, moses basket and bedding, baby bath, car seat, maternity pads, breast pads, sleep bras and big, comfy knickers. Everything else can wait.

bbface Mon 04-Feb-13 12:16:35

Disagree notmyidea! That is NOT all you need, but a good start.

Add...
Nipple gel if you are planning to breastfeed
Formula and bottles if you are not planning to breastfeed
A pump is worth looking at too. I used mine on day five as I felt like I was going to explode. The utter relief when I expressed was practically drug-like!
a digital thermometer (braun is great)
a really soft towel just for baby after bath time,
a rain cover for the car seat
swaddle blanket (depends on your personal view. My boy was swaddled every time he slept for first to few months, and he was so content.
At least a handful of newborn vest and sleep suits. My boy was 8.5lbs and yet still in newborn gear for a good few weeks.

Wibblytummy Mon 04-Feb-13 12:37:20

I'm 8wks with a 20mo DS and feel exhausted. Cannot move exhausted. Plus I've got a stinking cold that's coming up for 2 weeks and cannot shake. My bed is the most glorious comfy place but I do not get to be in it enough. I just do not remember this exhaustion with DS1.

TashEv Mon 04-Feb-13 13:54:39

Opps just realised I attached this to someone elses thread! Will re-post!!

Sorry baby brain. smile

MrsHoarder Mon 04-Feb-13 13:57:46

Loops so sorry to hear that. thanks

redwellybluewelly Mon 04-Feb-13 15:34:31

First pg I left work at 13weeks - yes 13 and went self employed until about 34weeks which worked out very well as I had a lot of time to enjoy however had we moved house as I had wanted too it would have been time well spent.

This pg has been hell, just constant nausea, exhaustion, I sit at my desk 80% of the time rather than 50/50 on site, I can barely think and I'm crazily anticipating working until 38weeks (ELCS scheduled for mid June). That said I am beginning to feel better but at 17weeks I was still being sick and fainting if I went without food for longer than an hour - can only assume this baby will be a big one!

CailinDana Mon 04-Feb-13 16:40:10

I worked as a primary teacher up to 38 weeks with DS. I am clearly a mentalist, and at nearly 38 weeks with DC2 I have absolutely no clue how I managed it. That said I did fall asleep while listening to a poor child reading at 37 weeks so I should have clocked then that I wasn't really coping! I didn't teach in my last week, just tutored, as I couldn't stand up any more. I am still surprised I managed to do that though, I seem to be so much more tired this time round - perhaps due to having a toddler to look after. Pregnancy has been easy I'm just so heavy and big that getting around is a struggle.

I work from home now, very part time, so I could technically be working on my due date. It's all computer work though so it's not taxing, although my brain isn't exactly working at lightning speed at the moment so it is tough going. MW keeps asking me if I've finished work yet and looks horrified when I say no, I don't think she really gets how my job works.

BadMissM Mon 04-Feb-13 18:34:30

It also depends a lot on your job. When had DD had a job that demanded lifting, physical work, and standing up from 9am-7pm with a break if I was lucky... with a journey of an hour and a half on bus, metro and walking for 30+ minutes...this following on from the pg before which ended in a stillbirth. I got to 25 weeks and was really ill....bad joint pain, sickness, anaemia, migraines from hell... struggled back as didn't get sick pay, off again, got worse

30 weeks and was finally signed off, developed pg diabetes. DD arrived at 31. Think your body can only take so much. If employers unwilling to adapt job or help, makes it even worse...

GingerDoodle Mon 04-Feb-13 20:11:35

I was knackered a lot but it gradually got better and I was one of the annoying ones who was walking 5+ miles up until the day DD arrived (labour started when I was inconveniently in the middle of London having dinner - born in Chichester) and was on stage at my DH band's gig the week before.

That said I finished work at 36ish weeks. I had carpal tunnel in both hands and a very demanding boss (I'm a PA) - I wouldn't have hacked working to the end.

HumphreyCobbler Mon 04-Feb-13 20:24:43

"When you have your second, you do not have any choice at all. You simply have to be energetic and very physical, especially if they are a very highly energetic two year old boy! I think this can actually help with the tiredness because you have no chance of dwelling on it."

This was not my experience - my first pg I had lots of energy and taught in a primary classroom happily until 37 weeks. My second pg, with a 1 year old to look after was much more exhausting, with every step painful until ten days before my due date when miraculously the baby stopped being back to back and I was able to move without pain. I was still knackered though! It was incredibly hard.

My third pg, which sadly ended in miscarriage at three months, was unbelievable in terms of how knackered and ill I felt. Horrendous. I was back at work and dealing with an inspection too...

tasmaniandevilchaser Mon 04-Feb-13 20:31:44

loops I'm so sorry

pixi2 Mon 04-Feb-13 20:39:55

Just tell them to faff off. I worked up to my due date with ds because I didn't have much choice financially. I finished early with dd to go on holiday with dh and ds before dd came along as our situation had changed.

Incidentally, my mum finished work 5 weeks before I was due for a rest. She was in labour with me the next day.

I feel exhausted and am 17 weeks too. I did, however, manage to be up some scaffolding painting a 'feature wall' four days before DS was born wink Goodness knows why DH thought it was a good idea to send me up there...

TinkyPeet Tue 05-Feb-13 00:08:30

With ds I was working (bar work) and training (karate) untill 39.2, ds was born 39.5, but this was sue to the fact his pregnancy was a breeze and I was completely fine! No weight gain whatsoever just looked like I had a football up my top!....yep, I even wanna kick myself for that one, but if it makes it any better, karmas a bitch!.....
With dd I ballooned straight from the off, stopped weighing myself at 28 weeks after I had put on 6stone, I was a very careful eater, just someone had it in for me I think! And I stopped work at 29 weeks, but I did have 4 weeks holiday and a leu week to take, and that was less physical work!(kitchen)
This time, I'm 16 weeks, not yet put on any weight despite stopping smoking, but I do look like someone has Inflated a beach ball inside my belly! Am back on the bar (karate went out the window a long time ago!) so will just have to wait and see!
But I totally agree, when you get the 'I did this and managed that while juggling this that the other and had a sweeping brush up my arse' speech it's totally acceptable to kick said 'lovely person' in the shin what pretending to sneeze!
Xx

TinkyPeet Tue 05-Feb-13 00:10:26

Oh, and this time spd has found me! So when I'm not at work or ferrying the little ones to wherever they need to be or whatever they want to do, I'm either in bed or on the sofa! Xx

MrsReiver Wed 06-Feb-13 11:00:41

I'm 37 weeks, I go on maternity leave on Friday, and I really, really wish I'd arranged to start it earlier.

This is DC2, DS1 was born at 34 weeks when I was still fortunate enough to be feeling pretty great, so I figured how much of a difference could 4 weeks make?

What a fecking idiot.

I'm knackered, by the end of the day my feet and ankles are puffy, my lower back hurts, my hips hurt and everything pisses me off.

I'm just glad I only work part time, so today will be spent on the sofa while DS is at school, watching Borgen and eating toast.

BerryLellow Wed 06-Feb-13 12:01:52

Pfft, I didn't get to either of my due dates. One DS arrived 3 weeks early, the other 2.

Do what's right for you dearheart, and to fuck with what other people do.

Happysurprise Wed 06-Feb-13 18:11:52

Is it possible to develop a "bump" after only 5 wks and 5 days? My stomach is bloated (as are boobs) but my weight is the same. Obviously I know the baby is somewhere between sesame seed and apple pip but does everything inside swell up or do you retain water on your tummy in preparation? My diet hasnt really changed except no booze and I wasnt drinking much anyway.

bigkidsdidit Wed 06-Feb-13 18:21:31

I'm working till due date if poss this time ( number 2, now 22 w). I'm an academic and spend all day at the computer, wih a comfy back-supporting chair, taking breaks when I want. As soon as DS goes to bed at 7pm I lie in te sofa.

When I stop work I'll have to look after him full time which is far more physically demanding!

I'm 28 weeks+ and there have probably been about six or seven days this while pregnancy when I have actually had energy. And yes, changing bed sheets seems like doing the 1000m in the Olympics at the moment. I do the pillowcases and DH does the duvet covers grin

recall Wed 06-Mar-13 22:07:05

I worked up to my due date with my second and third because I work for myself and needed the money. It was a fucking horrendous nightmare, lots of sweat and braxton hicks.

I remember I had to drive up to Manchester to meet a customer, about a 4 hour journey. I felt drowsy, so pulled into the Motorway Services to have a little nap. I woke up 4 hours later grin

I carried a big rug from ikea all the way home on public transport when i was 37 weeks....not that i wanted too!

But i didnt have a car and i didnt want to pay for a cab.
The next day i went to hospital for reduced movment and was immeadiately admitted and induced two days later.

Relax put your feet and dont listen to any one brew

LouiseD29 Thu 07-Mar-13 06:27:11

Just seen this thread again and it made me smile as I am 17 weeks now and tried to change the bed last night. I did so much huffing and moaning over it and DH was doing most of it!

SanityClause Thu 07-Mar-13 06:32:23

I worked right up until the birth and was back again within days of giving birth. Why? I am self employed, and had no choice!

MortifiedAdams Thu 07-Mar-13 06:55:15

From about 25 weeks my working day involved slacking off 15mins early so I could beat the traffic and be home for 4.15 (when on an early shift) where id get straight into bed and sleep til dh got in at 5.30. Id be up for tea and a bath and then straight back to bed til morning. I was so so tired. THankfully I have a desk job and 15min commute, however did shift work so often finish at 11pm and sometimes back at my desk for 7.30am.

I worled til 38wks but that was due to having no annual leave left and the worst thing was training my replacement. She was with me from 32 weeks and I had to be so so switched on and with it on days when I just felt barely able to clear my intray.

Next time.im taking alllllll of.my.AL in the six weeks before ML starts at 38wks. Not that im.og or even ttc I just feel v.strongly!

MortifiedAdams Thu 07-Mar-13 06:57:16

The worst pains for me was my ribcage. It felt like it was going to be sbapped apart, and it still hasnt gone back to where it was. I used to fantasise all day about fetting in and taking off.my bra

ButteryJam Thu 07-Mar-13 09:42:10

I've requested leave at 37 weeks but now I'm thinking of changing that to 33 weeks. I'm just worried I might regret it as I may get bored, but I'm so tired, I feel it's unfair to do half hearted work (I work mainly from home). Any advice folks?

smiler389 Thu 07-Mar-13 18:25:42

Oh no I really didn't mean for this to sound bitchy, I hoped it would be obvious that I'm jealous and in awe of women who work late in their pregnancies. Since I started this post I've been put under consultant care because of placenta prevea:-( mw has advised me to take it easy and be prepared for c section so I am rethinking my plan to work to 39 weeks. Although I do have much more energy at 22weeks I am finding work really tough and don't want to risk any bleeding.

Anyway thanks for talk the posts, as always puts just good to hear other folks' experiences :-)

I've not been at work since 16 weeks pregnant due to SPD and bleeding I'm 36 weeks now and really struggled this pregnancy .

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