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Did you poop on the bed? And a few straightforward practical Qs

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iamwhaticallpregnant Wed 23-Jan-13 18:01:26

My main fear as a first time at labour person, other than the pain, is doing a poop on the bed?
So can I ask a few practical Qs
1/ Did you do a poo?
2/ If yes, how did the MW react?
3/ If your partner was by your head did he see and was it mortifying?
4/ is there a plastic sheet underneath you? or normal bed sheets?

May sound very very trivial - but these sort of indignities really do get to me...

TheCountessOlenska Wed 23-Jan-13 18:05:28

1. Yes but it was in the birthing pool
2. She didn't comment really, just got rid of it. I, however, was quite chatty on the subject blush (too much Gas and Air blush )
3. Yes, it was in the pool so I expect everyone saw. He's never mentioned it since though.
4. N/A

Sorry! grin

MayimBialik Wed 23-Jan-13 18:06:00

I fully expected to as I think most people do, but apparently I didn't. I had to ask DH after so I had no idea if I'd pooed or not.

So basically even if you do you really won't care and won't notice. Honestly, your dignity goes out of the window believe me!

PickleSarnie Wed 23-Jan-13 18:12:05

I pooed on my living room floor. All I really remember of the pushing part is me going "im going to pop myself" over and over again. I can't actually remember any of the pain so really the poo had a positive side effect!

Midwives literally don't give a shit. They see it all the time and don't make a big deal of it.

PickleSarnie Wed 23-Jan-13 18:12:30

Poo, not pop!

fantashtic Wed 23-Jan-13 18:15:05

I just read Call the Midwife and according to that, in the 1950s it was common to give an enema in the v early stages to avoid the poo issue. I guess. Does anyone do this now?!

toffeelolly Wed 23-Jan-13 18:17:07

you will be in so much pain . pooing will be last thing on your mindwink

chickenyummychicken Wed 23-Jan-13 18:19:24

i was also totally paranoid about this.
I didn't poo with any.
I actually had the runs in early labour each (4) times.
last dc - told midwife i had to poo and she looked down below and said 'no dear ' the head is there!

phantomhairpuller Wed 23-Jan-13 18:20:04

You really won't care by that stage! Pooing on the sheets will be the least of your worries grin

rednellie Wed 23-Jan-13 18:21:33

Have you ever had an enema? I have. They're awful and not something I'd include on my birth plan!
1. Yes
2. Mw didn't react, just discreetly got rid of it
3. Dh saw, laughed. Couldn't stop laughing. Opened windows. Laughed some more. Still sometimes wakes in the night laughing. hmm grin
4. They have these special highly abhorrent squares of material that they layer under you. They remove when they're dirty for whatever reason

TaggieCampbellBlack Wed 23-Jan-13 18:23:51

Enemas make you leak liquid shit for hours.
And if you do poo yourself it's a Good Thing. It shows your baby is almost out.

fantashtic Wed 23-Jan-13 18:23:58

Rednellie - no and I just cannot imagine the logistics

TaggieCampbellBlack Wed 23-Jan-13 18:25:04

[hrin] highly abhorrent poo squares.

HappyJoyful Wed 23-Jan-13 18:25:13

After over 15 hours in labour - and knowing I needed a poo all the way through (bit like as Pickle describes- I think I was just like, ohh it's going to come!) it did finally come out in the final stages.. it wasn't nearly as bad as you'd imagine and honestly you wont give a toss! Infact, I was sort of oddly 'proud' as the Midwife was great and didn't even pat an eyelid but said 'you're pushing exactly as you should be, well done!' (she says recalling hazily)

Relax and accept it might happen and honestly don't worry, the midwife had gloves on and again hazy, but I think it was just sort of wiped up and gone from the bed and that was it in a matter of seconds. It's totally natural and all part of the process

GossipWitch Wed 23-Jan-13 18:27:12

Nope, not with either of mine, but did have a poop during early labour both times so that helped.

FurryFox Wed 23-Jan-13 18:27:18

I told my midwife I needed a poo. She put a small plastic sheet under me and said go on then do it, I was a bit like this shock. She wouldn't let me go to the toilet because I was fully dilated, or very nearly there anyway. I did it, she took it away in the sheet and that was that, she didn't bat an eye lid.

Dh saw it, we've had a giggle about it since. Wasn't embarrassing at all and mw really couldn't have cared less smile.

Flisspaps Wed 23-Jan-13 18:29:26

I pooed in the pool. Several times. DH sieved it out. Not a peep from him.

I pooed on his dressing gown.

I think I pooed in the ambulance.

I think I pooed in theatre.

I didn't care. The MWs just quickly wiped it away and disposed of it. I was busy trying to force an 11lb 7oz baby out of my body, if that meant shitting on everything I passed along the way, then so be it - I just wanted him out!

There'll be disposable bed mats under you on a bed. The MWs do all the sorting and cleaning. When you push, they tell you to push like you're doing a poo so it's not unlikely that some will come out.

It's fine - the idea of pooing in front of people is mortifying under normal circumstances, but these are NOT normal circumstances!

iamwhaticallpregnant Wed 23-Jan-13 18:39:20

Thanks all. My partner has a very cheeky sense of humour and I fear he is actually quite excited at the prospect of me pooing myself in front of him and will . never . let . it . go .
The power will forever be his. He is amazingly supportive - but does have a dark sense of humour.

Is it a plastic sheet ???

iamwhaticallpregnant Wed 23-Jan-13 18:46:37

sorry - read all the responses now. Flisspaps - i am rolling around in agony laughing at ur response.

ScottishLassAboutToPass Wed 23-Jan-13 18:47:44

Yes I poo'd with DD2. DH saw and sometimes mocks me for it! Midwife, DH and most of all me didn't care less and as said above just cleaned bed. Far more pressing issues to concern ourselves with!

rednellie Wed 23-Jan-13 18:48:16

iam - your DH, my DH, they sound like peas in a Chris Moris soaked barrel. DH will never let my poo go. Apparently he found it 'sweet' and then proceeds to guffaw.

But I don't mind, it did felt like it was a watershed moment in my labour. And it wasn't gross.

fantashtic - I don't think they give enemas anymore as a) there's no need really and b) it can aggravate the contractions you're already having. It's like why they tell you not to encourage labour by downing loads of cod liver oil. Not very pleasant after effects...

rednellie Wed 23-Jan-13 18:48:59

Not really plastic, it's more like a giant expanded softer sanitary towel...

I have tears running down my cheeks in hysterics reading this thread!!! Oh my gosh, it's almost enough to hope that I do poo, just so I have a hilarious story afterwards!!!

Lol sorry, I work with nursery kids so think I have a slightly immature sense of humour grin

Pascha Wed 23-Jan-13 18:54:29

The midwife knew I'd had chilli for dinner the night before because undigested kidney beans float in the pool...

GirlOutNumbered Wed 23-Jan-13 18:55:35

Omg I'm trying to feed son while reading this and I'm shaking with laughter! I am so so glad though that I didn't read this before I had a baby!

iamwhaticallpregnant Wed 23-Jan-13 18:56:47

Honestly - every time I mention it he does a stupid grin and his eyes twinkle. I think if I did poo myself it'd be the best thing that has ever happened in his life - I think he will talk about it till the end of time. I think it will be our dinner party story forever. It'll be like if I ever take the piss out of him again or he does anything stupid he will just say "Whatever love, you shat yourself!"

TwitchyTail Wed 23-Jan-13 18:57:28

I witnessed/participated in about 20 births during my training.

Almost everyone pooped early in the pushing stage. It was expected. The baby's head comes down and pushes anything in the rectum out. And the action of a good push is the same as doing a big poo.

There will be a pad underneath you and it will be whisked away, with poo, so quickly that you will probably not even know it's happened. No one will care or bat an eyelid.

If you're having a water birth there is a pooper scooper device for this very purpose, because it's so common, natural and expected.

Relax grin

iamwhaticallpregnant Wed 23-Jan-13 18:58:42

And people keep saying "oh you wont care about your dignity" but I really really really really will.

iamwhaticallpregnant Wed 23-Jan-13 19:00:20

I don't want to relax Twitchy - that's exactly the sort of thing that will make me poop. Only joking. Good to have a good laugh after the last few days.

wigglesrock Wed 23-Jan-13 19:05:18

iamwhaticallpregnant Hello grin I did with 2 and not with 1. I realised really quickly and the midwife whipped the sheet away in about 2 seconds. I was lying on the perforated paper type sheets at this point (sort of like the ones you see in a Doctors room on the bed) so it was all dealt with discreetly and my husband never mentioned it.

I was obsessed by this before I went into labour, it was one of my biggest fears blush and to be honest it happened so quickly that it never really registered.

MayimBialik Wed 23-Jan-13 19:07:30

iam you WON'T care about your dignity guaranteed. I've never met a woman who, on the later stages of labour, felt embarrassed by something. You literally think 'whatever, just get it out!!'

Flisspaps Wed 23-Jan-13 19:11:07

iam I thought I'd feel the same. I was petrified of having a MW help me wash post-birth when I was pg with DD.

When it came to it, they could have hosed me down in the street, on live telly, and I wouldn't have cared. Same as the poo. Even now I'd be mortified if I pooed and someone saw. Even DH.

After I'd had DS, I had a reaction to the drugs they gave me in theatre. I had a spinal and felt nothing. The MW in recovery was alerted to me having shat the bed by the smell. I hadn't felt it, or smelt it.

I shat myself a further two times on the PN ward, once during visiting hours when the cubicle next to me had about 15 people in. I smelt that. The HCP was trying to clean me up whilst I couldn't feel my legs and the curtain separating the bays was flapping about from the game of pass the baby next door. Everyone was very matter of fact about it, honestly, it IS different in the labour/birth/postnatal ward bubble.

In labour, your primal brain takes over. There's no room in your head to worry about piss or shit or farting or being naked - hormones take over, the pain kicks in and it's all about getting that baby from in there to out here. Afterwards, meh, who cares - you had a baby, forget about the poo!

FoofFighter Wed 23-Jan-13 19:16:49

iam - honestly you will look back and realise you really really really didn't care at that point! i know you probably think we are all just saying that, but it is true smile

I pooed with dc1 (whisked away almost before I even realised, everything is stretched and weird feeling down there I didn't really realise), not with dc2, let you know with dc3 in August!

wigglesrock Wed 23-Jan-13 19:22:37

The thing is that pooing during labour is something you can't do anything about - its just nine times out of ten what happens. The midwife will have seen it happen several times through each birth she has attended.

But if you have specific things that may make you feel more comfortable then you can do them. Its not about preserving your dignity its about helping you feel part of something not that something is happening to you.

For example I didn't give birth naked, I kept a cheapie nightdress/ vest on for each of my births. I can't explain why but its what I wanted to do and it worked for me.

iamwhaticallpregnant Wed 23-Jan-13 19:22:40

Thanks all - we will see I suppose. Meanwhile partner is dancing around singing poo pun based songs. I try not to think of people seeing my VJJ too. Hate the thought of that. But am at the stage now where i am desperate to have the baby.

iamwhaticallpregnant Wed 23-Jan-13 19:24:00

oh god no i dont want to be naked! I thought you wore a nighty??

Stepawayfromthesweeties Wed 23-Jan-13 19:27:02

So glad you posted this, I have been stressing so much about pooping everywhere & dh thinks its hysterical. I usually have to make him go downstairs if I go to the loo for a poo in case he hears anything!!! He calls me mrs prim & proper altho not so much anymore as this baby has turned me into a wind farm, the flatulence is awful & could easily kill a human if they inhale grin

CheeseStrawWars Wed 23-Jan-13 19:30:33

1 - No, I had diarrhoea (sp?) for about an hour in first stage of labour, which was fine, just waddled to toilet til everything was cleared out.
2 - n/a
3 - DH said he had other things to worry about and wouldn't have noticed if I did
4 - think it was normal sheets, but they get stained with blood, amniotic fluid and allsorts so they get taken away anyway.

You can wear what you like - I had a baggy t-shirt on. Some people find wearing anything unbearable, get hypersensitive to anything touching them. Do what's comfortable for you. The midwives will have seen it all, don't worry.

wigglesrock Wed 23-Jan-13 19:31:10

You can wear whatever you want within reason grin I wore a £4 Primark thing for dd1 and dd2 and I ended up giving birth to dd3 wearing a maternity vest - which I hated as it felt like it was the only thing I had worn in about 4 months - so tbh I would have willingly pooed on it.

CaseyShraeger Wed 23-Jan-13 19:32:56

You wear what you want, iam. You may find when you get to it that you want to shed clothes, or you may not. FWIW I've ended up in (first and second times) PJ vest tops and (third time) my regular ordinary-clothes top (and, actually, my knickers for the first push, because she turned up a bit faster than anticipated).

1/ Did you do a poo?
I don't think so first time (although that's because I'd spent the previous 24 hours vomiting constantly and I don't think there was anything left in my digestive tract, which is probably not what you want to hear as a first-timer). Yes second and third times.

2/ If yes, how did the MW react?
Just cleared it away discreetly and matter-of-factly

3/ If your partner was by your head did he see and was it mortifying?
He didn't arrive until #2 was crowning, so wouldn't have seen anything. I have no idea what he saw with #3 but it didn't seem mortifying.

4/ is there a plastic sheet underneath you? or normal bed sheets?
There's a sort of absorbant pad with waterproof backing.

VivaLeBeaver Wed 23-Jan-13 19:33:58

I'm a midwife. I get a bit excited if someone poos on the bed as it means the baby's nearly here. Unless its the dad I suppose, then I'd be a bit cross.

I'm very discreet clearing it up and wouldn't mention it.

Flisspaps Wed 23-Jan-13 19:34:03

I wore a t-shirt for both of mine - the same one. Some women do prefer to be naked though and that's fine. You won't know until it happens though, the urge to strip is oxytocin driven smile

CheeseStrawWars Wed 23-Jan-13 19:35:19

I've 2DC btw, and had the diarrhoea both times. Also shivering, which I'm told isn't that unusual.

rednellie Wed 23-Jan-13 19:39:03

Viva grin

With my second labour (twins) I ended up butt naked with 16 (I counted them) people in the room. I could not have given a shit. But I did.

<shakes head at self>

CaseyShraeger Wed 23-Jan-13 19:39:20

(I did have the diarrhoea every time as well as the vomiting, so there wasn't a huge amount even with the latter two)

iamwhaticallpregnant Wed 23-Jan-13 19:41:03

stepawayfromsweeties - that is EXACTLY what I am like - miss prim and proper. I have never ever ever broken wind infront of my other half - even through this 9 months - and by God i needed to!

TheTiger Wed 23-Jan-13 19:47:45

I did not poo <proud> I was in the pool so it would have been fairly obvious!

I had a lovely maternity tankini top to wear in the pool for my modesty. When they said I could get in the pool I stripped off faster than lightning and did not care one bit. I didn't get dressed for ages after DS was born, had lots of lovely naked skin to skin. DS did poo on me, but funnily enough he didn't care if anyone saw!

Oh and when I got home a few hours later I went to the toilet. I shouted DH into the bathroom because I felt like I needed to poo and I was scared. I made him hold my hand blush

wigglesrock Wed 23-Jan-13 19:48:41

CheeseStrawWars God, I was freezing too, someone had told me to bring socks in my bag and I was "really?" but I had them on me. I'm sure I looked delightful.

stargirl1701 Wed 23-Jan-13 19:50:55

I pooped in the pool. I didn't notice. The MW sieved it out apparently. DH saw me poop and saw the sieving. He didn't mention it till I asked him directly 4 months later. I really don't care tbh. My labour and birth were really lovely and my dd is gorgeous.

AuntPepita Wed 23-Jan-13 19:53:38

1/ Did you do a poo?
Yes both times

2/ If yes, how did the MW react?
Don't know, can't imagine she was bothered!

3/ If your partner was by your head did he see and was it mortifying?
He Sieved it out the pool. It was not mortifying because we are grown ups, not about 12 and I was pushing a baby out.

4/ is there a plastic sheet underneath you? or normal bed sheets?
N/a in pool.

With ds I managed to poo on my notes. Beat that ;)

No, I didn't. Either time.

I asked DH in the end, because, as mortified as I would have been, I couldn't stand the not knowing.

iamwhaticallpregnant Wed 23-Jan-13 20:02:08

Good for you Auntpepita - unfortunately, my partner is a child.

AuntPepita Wed 23-Jan-13 20:04:42

Sorry iamwhat that came out a bit more terse than it sounded in my head!

iamwhaticallpregnant Wed 23-Jan-13 20:10:42

ha ha - that's ok! He really is a child - but incredibly lovely in every other way. and very supportive - but is overly thrilled at the idea of me doing a poop.

I did and dp has joked about it since. shock He said he saw the midwife look and thought it was the baby so he had a look and saw poo gringringrin haha. I really didn't care. I knew I had pooed but I was so into my labour that I was just thinking 'get the baby out'

Doraemon Wed 23-Jan-13 20:14:57

Don't remember pooing with either of mine, but with very little pelvic floor control remaining at 33 weeks pregnant and DC3 head down on my bladder this evening I really shouldn't read threads like this that make me laugh blush

Yes I'm worried about the pop, I know it's normal and natural but honestly how can your partner ever look at you the same again once they've seen you shit yourself!

iamwhaticallpregnant Wed 23-Jan-13 20:28:56

EXACTLY purple - i just think how will we get the romance back?!

rednellie Wed 23-Jan-13 20:29:20

Because they've also seen you have their baby purple. The poo pales into insignificance.

Cheffie100 Wed 23-Jan-13 20:36:45

Thanks all - this has made by bad day a whole lot better

TheSecretCervixDNCOP Wed 23-Jan-13 20:37:47

1/ Did you do a poo? Yes, teeniest poo ever.
2/ If yes, how did the MW react? I asked DP as he has more recollection of DD's birth than I do - Gas and Air- she just got rid of it no real mention
3/ If your partner was by your head did he see and was it mortifying? I was quite away with the fairies and just said oh dear, did I poo? I'm sorry!!! DP did not care grin
was there a plastic sheet underneath you? or normal bed sheets?
Normal sheet on top of the bedsheets if that makes sense, which was removed and replaced when I pooped on it.

It happens to pretty much everyone, it can't be helped, and all the messy labour stuff will be forgotten as soon as baby is in your arms.

P.S romance not dead considering what poor dp was subjected to! Am pregnant with DC2 as well!

Flisspaps Wed 23-Jan-13 20:39:04

Exactly rednellie - the poo means nothing when they're presented with an actual person that's come out of your body!

DH is a big fan of rude jokes. We don't even wee in front of each other at home. But my shitting over half of Shropshire is not discussed.

DimLight Wed 23-Jan-13 20:48:48

I didn't poo with DD, but with DS I did a wee with every contraction for about 2 hours. I was high up on a bed on all fours in just a bra & Santa socks, my waters went with a bang & were brown & stinking, then I did a poo... The room stank! But the MW was so nice & I was only embarrassed when I saw her at the bus stop a few weeks later! But really, you just don't care... Good luck!

PukeCatcher Wed 23-Jan-13 20:49:31

Pooing was my biggest fear too! I had no birth plan, wasn't bothered about the pain, but I was shitting myself about, well shitting myself. DH was instructed to keep away from the sharp end

I spent a good 20 minutes in the loo because I was desperate for a poo, so I thought, but every time I sat down it felt like the baby was coming it was so I was stuck in a sit down stand up cycle of hell.

Eventually, I waddled out shouting "press the button!!" to my DH, and when they examined me sure enough it was time to push.

I was trying to push whilst trying not to poo, completely wrong, kept being shouted at for not pushing properly. They threatened me with bringing the doctor in and told me that baby was in distress.

They brought straps for my legs, which I did not like the look of so I pushed reeeealy hard and out came baby and poo I expect

Don't worry about it, honest, you need to push like you're doing a massive poo, tis the only way!

FrostyScherenschnitte Wed 23-Jan-13 20:54:31

Just don't eat anything with sweet corn in it from about a month before you're due; your DH will still find it funny eight years later to make a jokey comment every time you have corn on the cob or tuna pasta bake... wink

iamwhaticallpregnant Wed 23-Jan-13 21:00:12

and to think when i started this thread i was worried id get shouted at for being so silly and not get any responses!

chubbychipmonk Wed 23-Jan-13 21:00:42

Imagine sitting on the toilet & feeling like you need the biggest poo in the world. . . .

Now imagine pushing out that biggest poo in the world . . .

It's EXACTLY the same feeling when you're pushing out your baby, you won't give a flying fuck what your pushing out, I could've been pushing out my bowel for all I cared. . . All I knew was that I just needed to push push push push PUSSSHHHH . . . Oops, there goes a poo! grin

rednellie Wed 23-Jan-13 21:11:07

But it's like Puke said - by worrying about not pooing she was inhibiting the actual baby coming out.

It's weird. We don't poo in front of each other normally. But we don't give birth, scream, grunt or discharged massive amounts of bodily fluid in front of each other either.

With birth, you have to let go a little bit, just to let it happen.

Seriously, iam, despite all the teasing, you'll be grand. The fact your DH has a sense of humour about it is a good thing. I just knew nothing I could do in labour would shock DH. He might take the piss later, but he was (and still is) 100% behind me.

sillymillyb Wed 23-Jan-13 21:37:25

Honestly, dignity really does go out the window - you won't give a toss. I was wheeled past a load of builders and work men on way to delivery, on all 4's with my bum in the air. The mw kept trying to pull the sheet over me, and I kept pulling it off as I couldn't bear being covered up!

As for poo, I needed stirrups and forceps in the end, and the doctor said, "oh dear, the baby has pooed on my shoes" but, in retrospect, I'm certain it was me.... Oh well!

LMichelleA7X Wed 23-Jan-13 22:02:43

So glad someone made a post about this!

This is something i'm completely terrified of doing, sounds silly i know!

My sister, god bless her, whilst having her stitches, pissed all over the poor bloke doing it. She didn't realise because she was completely numb.

I thought that sometimes leading into your labour, your body does empty yourself so your ready? Is that not always true then?

Springforward Wed 23-Jan-13 22:05:57

I don't think I did, but if I had I suspect I wouldn't have cared right then. DH stayed at head end throughout so probably wouldn't have seen if I had? I never did quite get brave enough to ask him though....

Meringue33 Wed 23-Jan-13 22:44:45

I posted the same question a couple of months ago, gave birth two weeks ago! As it happens I didn't poo myself as with the onset of labour had to run to toilet several times so by the time we got to hospital I was totally empty. It is totally true though what everyone says you will really, really not care at that point. When pains ramped up I felt so overheated I ripped off all clothes and was on all fours on the hospital floor (had not been admitted to delivery suite or pool). I could see that waters or wee or whatever were leaking out of me, every contraction felt like the bottom half of my body was being wrung out like a dishcloth. But I really didn't care, just wanted baby to come and some relief from the pain and heat! Hopefully when it comes to it your DP will have some compassion dammit it is a lot to go through to birth his child! Good luck smile X

ShowOfHands Wed 23-Jan-13 23:09:04

I am a prude. I do not fart in front of my dh of 14yrs. I hate being looked at. The idea of pooing in labour terrified me. I was unhealthily worried about it. People said I wouldn't care. I scoffed. They didn't know me. There was bog all way I would leave my dignity anywhere.

I had a bluelight transfer to hospital after 6hrs of pushing. I was attempting a homebirth. I distinctly recall trudging, naked, bleeding and contracting over the neighbour's lupins, heading for the waiting ambulance. The midwife chased me screeching "please, at least put on some knickers". I didn't give a flying monkey's left testicle if the pope, the cast of Starlight Express and Damian Lewis himself saw my fanny. I was Busy.

I am a prude again now. I am buttoned up and uptight. But in labour? Well, I just didn't have room to worry. Everything contracted down to the birth and getting dd out safely.

I didn't poo with either btw but ended up with an emcs both times.

Ok, possibly a bit grim for anyone who's operation squeamish, but here's my poo story!

I had a super quick labour and I kept saying to the midwife that I needed the loo, but she wouldn't let me go because 'We don't want a baby in the toilet'. I was trying to explain that I didn't feel like I needed to push, but she didn't believe me and just said 'Wanting to go to the loo IS feeling like you want to push'.
I had a twin pregnancy so they whisked me into theatre just before the pushing bit was due to happen (still no urge mind you), and then it all got a bit complicated and they popped me under GA to do an EMCS. Apparently when they made the cut <grim bit coming up> my bladder popped right up because I was so desperate for a wee. Why I couldn't have just said "Actually I need a wee, not a poo" I have no idea! Some misplaced notion of retaining dignity, despite, as with rednellie having around two dozen people in theatre staring at my nether regions! I am also weirdly proud of my pelvic floor to be able to not wee myself despite being 10cms dilated with twins!

FromHereToNextTuesday Thu 24-Jan-13 12:11:12

I suspect most people do, and the ones who believe they didn't had a very discreet midwife!

SeeYouSoon Thu 24-Jan-13 12:40:58

1/ Did you do a poo?
2/ If yes, how did the MW react?
I can't remember!
3/ If your partner was by your head did he see and was it mortifying?
he saw it, he wiped my bum. No it wasn't mortifying, it just happened. He does like to remind me of it now though, the git grin
4/ is there a plastic sheet underneath you? or normal bed sheets
they put absorbent throw away pad things down.

NAR4 Thu 24-Jan-13 13:17:54

I have had four Dcs and only knew I had done a poo with one of them. Dh said I did with three of them (when I asked), but he said the midwifes are like poo ninjas and get rid of it super quick without any reaction at all. He had never mentioned it before I asked and didn't feel it was a big deal. He was much more impressed by me managing to push a baby out.

I am a youth worker and now 37 wks pregnant with number 5. About a month ago one of the senior members was saying how she wanted to train to be a midwife and then loudly announced that all women poo themselves during labour. This started a massive discussion with the focus being all the young people wanting to know if I had pooed myself during my labours. blush Not really a discussion I wanted and much worse than when it actually happened.

Honestly you probably won't realise and if you do won't care because it happens as the baby comes out/is about to come out, so you are rather distracted.

OhThisIsJustGrape Thu 24-Jan-13 13:22:20

No idea if I pooed with DC1, had an epidural and pushed for nearly 3hrs so strongly suspect I might have done.

DC2, was totally unprepared for what it felt like to be close to delivery (due to epidural previous time) so was shouting to anyone who'd listen that I needed a poo. MW said it was just baby coming, she was born shortly afterwards so I don't know if I pooed. DH found it hilarious and told everyone afterwards that I didn't know the difference between a poo and a baby stupid man

DC3 was a home birth, I think I pooed as just as baby was crowning I felt MW wipe my arse. I had bad piles so I don't know whether she was wiping poo off me or pushing my piles in shock Unsurprisingly I didn't dare ask!

DC4, was having a lovely labour - yes, really, minimal pain, nice and quick, and had got myself as comfortable as possible leaning against the back of the bed on my knees. So, I was upright. MW declared that I was ready to push but my 'rectum was full of poo' (no surprise there, piles were back with avengence and had been constipated) and said if I delivered like that I would poo on the baby shock She made me turn round and deliver almost lying down on the bed. I was so upset, I was uncomfortable and knew it was a rubbish position to deliver in and I pushed for 50 mins to deliver DS. I know he would've been out so much easier had I remained where I'd been but I didn't want to poo on him hmm I still don't know if I pooed, and I wish I'd been strong enough to tell her I was staying upright.

TwitchyTail Thu 24-Jan-13 13:23:16

Poo ninjas grin

OhThisIsJustGrape Thu 24-Jan-13 13:23:33

Just to add - you honestly won't care if you do poo. Really, really, really won't care grin

iamwhaticallpregnant Thu 24-Jan-13 13:37:36

poo ninjas is brilliant!

HappyJoyful Thu 24-Jan-13 14:48:38

what a great description, that's it - my midwife was so a poo ninja!

friend nearly gave birth in the bath/toilet thinking she had hours and hours (1st baby) to go and that it was just a poo she needed to do - when infact the pushing was the baby coming. Incidentally 2nd time, gave birth in the hospital car park.. though this time she did know it wasn't a poo coming.

iamwhaticallpregnant Thu 24-Jan-13 15:58:43

Ooh - i like that story HappyJoyful - as it will be my first time. A nice quick labour.
Embarrassing secret - sometimes when i am on the toilet i do worry if i strain too much (whilst having BHs) the baby might pop out. But I am afraid it is probably not that easy.

MamaMary Thu 24-Jan-13 16:04:34

To quote my DH after birthing DD1,

<In tones of sheer awe, not disgust>:

'The stuff that came out of you!'

I did bleed a fair bit with DD1 because of episiotomy, but yes I believe poo was involved grin

givemeaclue Thu 24-Jan-13 16:05:11

...the benefits of a section... No pooping.

But you won't care really you won't. And midwives are very discreet.

belleat40 Thu 24-Jan-13 16:17:36

Didn't poop but did have a complete stranger shave me 'down there' before c-section whilst dh was in the room (disclaimer, dd2 was 7 weeks early and I wasn't prepared). We have never discussed it.
Honestly, your dignity really does go out the window, you won't notice/mind/care!

HappyJoyful Thu 24-Jan-13 16:18:29

Yes do be careful into reading too much that it will be long, long drawn out process and trying to learn 'every stage' of it as my friend did and thinking you will experience them all.

Don't be afraid - have every faith that it will be a nice quick labour, you never do know, keep positive. 1st delivery was first contraction to birth in 1hr 10mins I think was what my friend did, as I said, her 2nd was even quicker, possibly under the hour and as I say, it came out whilst she was on all fours in the hospital car park.

GirlOutNumbered Thu 24-Jan-13 19:50:06

Never pooped due to c sections, but DH has seen my insides.... Literally.

Nicky1306 Thu 24-Jan-13 22:22:15

I did and for a split second remember being mortified!! blushblushblush I didn't even realise until the mw lifted the pad from under me and replaced it!!! Then the next contraction came along and I forgot all about it exDP never mentioned it. Dreading doing it again in front of my now DP sad

X x

PirateShit Thu 24-Jan-13 22:27:44

I remember keeping saying that I'd done a poo, and my dh saying no no, you've not, it's just the head, but then one time I said it he just patted me, so I obviously had!! I didn't care though. Honestly, didn't care one jot!! That was with my first. I don't think I pooed with my dd but not entirely sure. The midwives will see it all the time, they just stealthily clean it up and don't comment on it. Bless em.

How do they deal with wiping if they just whip the matt from under you?!
I'm not sure this thread is putting my mind at ease! DH will totally freak!

Kafri Fri 25-Jan-13 02:18:36


I had prepared DH and told him there is a risk ill poo. He was not impressed!

In the end I had a quick labour once I got to 3cm - just 2.5 hours from 3cm to birth. As soon as I felt the urge to push I remember saying frantically to my mw 'I just feel like I need to poo' and was really worried.
She just told me to go with how my body felt. In the end I didn't poo - 20 mins of feeling like I did resulted in ds!

Mw said its not as common as people think and that they (mw) don't bat an eyelid. Also that they just clear it away and more often than not neither mum or dad know its happened!

Honestly, at the time it'll be the least of your worries and if you are embarrassed, just think, sad as it is - you'll probably never see the mw who brings your child into the world again! 24 hours after giving birth your just another birth to that mw.

My advice. It sounds weird but enjoy your labour. It wasnt as hard as I expected it to be. Early labour was long. It took me 32 hours to get to 3cm but then like I said 2.5 hours to get from 3 to birth. I just kept in my mind that after relying on IVF to get pg, it could be the only time I do it. Go in prepared fir it to hurt but that there's an end to it and above all, it's doable. Millions of women do it every year and then go back for more. And more than anything, try not to fret as it approaches. Months if fretting will only make you anxious and the whole thing worse.

Good luck and if you poo, well, you poo! It's fine!x

HandMini Fri 25-Jan-13 07:51:55

I'd just like to add that to push the baby out you are told to push "down in your bottom"....pretty much exactly as if doing a poo. If there is poo within, it WILL come out, but that means you're pushing effectively, and a baby will also come out. BE PROUD TO POO DURING LABOUR!!

Also, exactly as others have said you are in a different zone during pushing stage labour...I truly could not tell you whether or not I pooed while birthing DC1, just assumed that I did at some point.

mcsquared Fri 25-Jan-13 08:28:19

My husband assures me I didn't poo during but I was always of the mindset that I'd rather errr be emptied out during labour than have to face pooing straight after!

The fact I had to ask my husband to check shows how little you notice. I also never thought I'd have conversations with people so casually while my legs were in stirrups and my downstairs was waiting for stitches!

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