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Anyone else under 12 weeks pregnant and not told work/ friends etc yet?(85 Posts)
Found out we were expecting #2 on Saturday, my guess is I'm 4/5 weeks...docs appointment is a week away on Monday.
Anyone else nervous but excited and under 12 weeks?
I'm not pregnant, but I just wanted to say congratulations, you sound so thrilled
Congratulations! Having only just found out i'm expecting tonight- will be booking Docs tomorrow. Will tell my boss after that appointment (will require risk assessment for my job) but tell him to keep it quiet amongst other colleagues until 12 week scan. And yes, nervous, excited... that's me. Congratulations again!!
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Im 6/7 weeks and my best friend know and the ex husband...who got me pregnant(sleeping together after splitting up....long story) But Im not telling anyone else until my scan to see if all is ok. I am gonna get judged, his family are gonna be mad at me Im really not looking forward to saying anything,but I want this baby sooo much so Its gonna be worth it x btw congrats to the rest of you expecting xxxx
I'm 6 weeks and sooo nervous about something being wrong but ridiculously excited at the same time!
I saw the doctor last week and he said for me to wait for the mw to call. Any idea on when the booking in appointment happens? X
clca we we probably be seen in january now, and congrats! x
I'm 13+6 weeks, DH and I have no intention of mentioning the pregnancy until I'm 20+ weeks and had my second scan.
Don't need to tell work until 25weeks anyway.
I think I am! Tested Saturday and think I got the faintest of lines! Waiting to test again this week but getting the twinges constantly all day today. I can think of nothing else and am impatient for a proper positive (going to use a digital later in the week).
I will tell immediate family as soon as I know and prob work after Christmas but won't want everyone to know until scan. Although there may be some pretty obvious changes at work and people may guess. How do I manage that one? They've all been waiting for it to happen!
Good luck everyone!
Anyone got/used the 'Listen to Mother' service? Where you book to see a midwife and get a de-brief on your last birth. Change to find out exactly what happened incase you were off your face on gas and air like I was!!!
Yep, I'm 4-5 weeks. Bit too worried something will go wrong to be too excited yet. But it's hard knowing I'm going to have to go through christmas not telling anyone, feels like lying every time I see someone and don't tell them, so I'm using online and the anc thread on here as an outlet. I haven't got any sickness this time yet, but if I do, it will be hard to cover up when staying with family so I'm nervous about that.
Not heard of that mcbobby is it nationwide? I'm booking in to a nhs funded private midwifery service so I'll ask about that when they come to my home this week.
Not sure if it is nationwide or not. Some authorities may offer the service under a different name?
I too am trying not to get too excited and am more worried something will go wrong than the first time, mainly because I've since had a coil fitted and then removed after two years in order to conceive. So a little anxious incase that has caused any problems. Bizarre that I am waiting for my morning sickness so at least I know it's all happening which means it's all ok!
Oooh dave they have that near here I think (on the Wirral) I tried to book in today and because of my pre-eclampsia and pre-term labour with DD I'm being allocated a consultant.
I'm 4 weeks today (based on lmp but 4+3 actual) and confessed to my family on Sat, how sad is it that one fizzy drink at dinner leads to immediate questioning?
My Dad offered me wine, runny eggs, prawns and mulled wine before he came out and asked when the baby was due!
I'm about 7 weeks with DC1 and have told family and 2 close friends. I have a dilemma though, I work in a work-hard drink-hard culture and always enjoy a good night out. I've already been clocked not drinking and have 10 more days of parties and nights out. I look really well (one of the few bloomers it seems) and my boons are 2 sizes bigger already. I might as well be wearing a neon sign. I've booked in for early scan tomorrow. Should I just fess up after that or brazenly lie knowing its blatant?
Ps I am super excited but worried til I reach 12 weeks...
I am about 7 weeks with #2. I have managed a weekend with family without anyone guessing. Did the driving so I didn't have to drink, and took a half glass of wine at lunch to throw people off the scent. I have our works Christmas Lunch this Thursday, and having gone on about how much I was looking forward to a boozy afternoon, not sure how I am going to deal with it.
I've had 2 MC since DD was born, so I have no intention of telling anyone until I have to, certainly not before 12 week scan, and given I am over the age of 40, will probably be scanned again, so may wait until 20 weeks.
Only problem is my norks are getting massive already!
I had to tell work pretty much immediately as it affects the work I can do, so I also told close family as I don't like the idea of work knowing and them not. I went with the thought that if the worse happened, I would need time off work and support with my DD, so they would find out anyway. The idea of waiting until 20 weeks would be impossible for me, not to mention that it would be completely flipping obvious with my belly hanging out already, lol! Happily at 13+1 all is well x
Me too! I'm 4/5 weeks in with DC2, and have only told the husband so far.
We will tell people (family, work) before the 12 week point because last preg ended at 12 weeks with mmc and I want people to be aware of the mildly (!) stressful situation we are in, get extra support with crazy two-year old son - AND so I can get risk assessment done at work early - better safe than sorry!
Congrats to all - we might be popping them out around the same time - summer babies - yay!
Hi congratulations everyone, I'm 8 +6 with #2, work know but only because my mam owns the salon I work in and my sister is my boss.
Trying desperately to get to my scan on the 27th before telling everyone but I'm really struggling to hide the very obvious bump I already have. Doesn't help we've been married 2 month so we both keep getting asked when will you have #2? Feels awful lying when I actually want to say July 2013 lol
I'm really worrying about christmas, it's all such bad timing. I have 2 big nights out with lots of friends left to do, within walking distance of home so no driving excuse... So will do the alcohol free beer trick and work the next day again for that and hope for the best. But the few days with family, oh god, my mum always buys me a cheese board and lots of beer specially. I might have to cut bits off and throw them away, what a waste!
rugbugs I'm wirral too!
For anyone that's due in August and hasn't found this yet: http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1618382-Due-August-2013
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I had my 20 week scan today & will ring my family tonight with the news.
Congratulations to everyone! I keep getting scared because I just dont feel pg - no weeing alot, no sore boobs am tired but also a ft working mum to a 1 year old...last time I was weeing loads, sore boobs, exhausted and cramping at this stage.
congratulations everyone! i'm 8 weeks with my 1st very excited! I have only told my manger and a very close friend at work, (both of them have been sworn to secrecy, until my 12 week scan) although I think everyone at work has guessed as I have been quite ill and off sick in between as well :/ I hate lying to them as its also put my friend in an awkward position as everyone has been asking her if I am ok? and why am I off sick? :/
I'm 7 weeks & have told my sister & my best friend. I had to tell work straight away as I have to change roles while pregnant. It's really weird that people at work know (mind you, they don't really know me!) before everyone who matters to me!
I want to tell my parents face to face so when they come over for Christmas we're going to tell them. There is no way I'd be able to dupe my whole family while they stay in my house over Christmas!
I'm already 12+5 but have just told my best friend. The family will be told over Christmas and work probably not before January.
I'm almost 6 weeks and also dreading all of the Christmas events coming up. I don't know how I'm going to get away with not drinking and not arouse any suspicion.
So far we have only told our parents and my best friend.
I'm 7 weeks with DC2 tomorrow - not told any family yet, we'll wait until we see them all in person at Christmas.
Told two of my very close NCT friends - both of which also told us really early when they fell pg with their #2s.
And this week I told my H&S officer at work, in confidence - I work in a science lab and need to have the risk assessment done. Also one colleague who works very closely with me, so that I have an ally in the lab for the things that I can't do anymore. Not telling anyone else, even my line manager, until the first scan, which will be mid-January.
There was a really good thread on here about how to disguise not-drinking at parties, def worth looking at!
I have literally just found out that I am pregnant! The test says 1-2 weeks so I am guessing that I am 3-4. I won't be telling colleagues and friends until after the 12 week point if possible.
I am in absolute shock right now!! Can't wait until the scan!!
I'm about 7 weeks, but the 12 week dating scan will give a bit more certainty. Only DH knows, and I also blurted it out to SiL last week but she is sworn to absolute secrecy. Have managed to get away with not drinking by being designated driver, although it is hard work, especially with being super tired, and having much enhanced boobs!
Hoping to wait til after that scan before telling anyone, provided it is good news. Thank goodness for mumsnet and havnig somewhere to share worried/symptoms/excitement in the absence of RL confidants
im 10+1 and so far only told my mum, brother, grandparents and best friend. Not even told DCs yet. Not planning on telling anyone else until after results of scan in New Year. Had a MC before and it was hard enough un-telling close family, let alone the whole world. Dont feel particularly pg, so cannot allow myself to get excited at all yet. Luckily i have two v small DCs so have no social life to speak of so I dont have to hide not drinking when out!!!
Congratulations to all!
I'm 4-5 weeks, and haven't told anyone. Had a mc in July, and agree about it being hard untelling people so am keeping schtum this time (though I only told a few people last time). I might tell a close friend in January.
I'm also nervous about Christmas, mainly feeling ill with my family around (hoping that I do get symptoms) as I'm bound to be really narky!
How do you all manage to hide it until the 20wk scan??! My bump was sooo obvious from around 13wks with #1 (and earlier with #2), there was no way I could hide it!!
Plus I feel horrendous during first tri, which is really really hard to hide (particularly the fainting parts..). With #1 I thought I was doing so well hiding it until I told my boss at 14wks. His response was "We all know. But congratulations ;)".
Congratulations to all!
Only 2 friends at work know. But not my manager yet, I will wait until 12 week scan.
I had a pregnancy test in my handbag and one of my friends asked if I was pregnant, I said I didn't think so but had got a test in my bag as my period had been late.
She wanted me to do it then but true to form I didn't need the loo. All of the sudden I had 3 glasses of water on my desk and then went and did the test. I had one of the ones where you need to see the cross and it doesn't matter how faint the line is (rather than digital).
So was walking back to my desk and asked what the verdict was to which I honestly answered I wasn't sure as the test wasn't clear. I guess I was having a little bit of denial, so was rushed to a meeting room and she confirmed I was pregnant.
Apparently she already knew I was pregnant because she had a dream about me and fishes! (if that makes sense to anyone)
I can't wait to tell everyone.
maximus I believe most people are talking about 12 week scan, not 20. But I'm almost 13, have no bump and feel totally fine, no fainting or nausea. Even my assistant, who sits opposite to me the whole day and is mother of 3, had no idea (told her today).
I got my positive tonight! Very early days but will tell parents at the weekend....!
Got to work out when to tell three year old too! Any ideas?
Congrats to everyone!
I'm 10+3 and so far have told DH, my best friend, my parents and ILs and my boss. And about 3 different doctors, not that it's done me any good in getting me a scan or anything. Getting quite nervous now that I won't get my nuchal in time. I will probably wait til after results from blood/ nuchal are back just to be on the safe side.
With DD, we didn't tell a soul until 16 wks (and MIL not until 38 wks, but that's another story...).
This time I'd love to hold off for a similar amount of time, but I suspect I might get a similar response to the one you got, maximus, I'm showing so much earlier (12+6). I am also a bit scared of sharing my news at work as I have a couple of lovely colleagues who are desperately TTC with no success, whereas I am now on #2, and I really feel for them. I think I'm just hoping that by the time I tell, they'll all have guessed.
I was rumbled by an acquaintance at a Christmas party the other night, and had to kind of smother her grinning "gotcha"-face in a big wrestly "hug" before she could make an announcement on my behalf, and make her promise not to say anything. In my experience, once the cat is out of the bag, your pregnancy becomes public property in a way, and a free-for-all to quiz you, paw you, predict the sex of your baby and give you well-meaning advice and I for one found all that a bit overwhelming the first time around. I quite enjoy this bit of secrecy, it'll be over soon enough.
I am 5 weeks with DC2 and next week will have a 6 week scan. They do that here when you have been referred to the fertility doc. All being well I fly home to the UK for Christmas the day after and will be telling my family but no one else. I had a prearranged party here last weekend and poured 4 glasses of wine down the sink. I think I got away with it! My family all know we have been trying for ages so they will be pleased but worried for us (we are anxious too). Waiting for the 12 week scan to tell everyone else
Hello and congratualtions everyone
I'm 5 weeks with my 2nd, and so far only DP and my doctor know. I have had occasional boob tingliness, but that's all. I'd really love a symptom or two!
I had a MC in June and we hadn't told anyone as we were waiting for the 12 week scan, so there was no one to un-tell. But now I'm wondering if that was the best course of action, as I am a bit nervous about this pregnancy, but I can't explain to family without telling them there was a MC they didn't know about.
I'm still not sure when we'll start telling people, maybe around 8 weeks. If we tell MIL we may as well just put it in the paper, she couldn't help herself, she'd tell everyone.
Am toying with the idea of telling SIL and MIL, but telling both of them they're the only one that knows, and not to say anything. Wonder who will crack first? Hee hee!
Come join us on the due in august antenatal thread!
I'm about 5 weeks at the moment, DH and Dr knew until today when we told both sets of parents (I can't keep a secret from DM)
Congratulations to everyone
I found out I'm expecting DC4 (fourth and last) yesterday.
I reckon I'm also about 4/5 weeks.
We won't tell family or friends until I'm 12 weeks.
When we tell family, that's the same as telling work, as I work for the family business.
Two birds, one stone.
It shouldn't stand out too much at Christmas, as I have never been a big drinker, so no-one thinks anything if I don't have alcohol.
I need a bit of advice im 6 weeks with 2nd pregnancy, first one ended up in a mmc at 5 weeks. the job i did then involved lifting heavy things including people and being on my feet for 12 hrs a day. And to be honest, they couldn't have cared less, even after nearly getting punched and having to drag someone to the ground.
I am in a slightly better situation now still doing 12 hours but im driving, i do have to move massive gates and carry heavy cases full of keys.
I have refused to work at night without saying why, because i have to work in pretty unsafe places and have to deal with break ins of the properties.
When should i say something?? i dont want to jinx it.
yellow I would say something now tbh.
So sorry to hear of your previous mmc.
When I had my first child I didn't say anything until I was twelve weeks as I was working and wanted to be as sure as I could be that everything was going to be ok. With my second baby I told my mother as soon as it was confirmed by the doctor, in those days it was at about seven weeks, and with my third baby I told my mother at five weeks when I had a positive test result done by Life.
Last night my second son called me to say that he and his partner are expecting in July - my second grandchild, as my daughter has already given me a brilliant grandson. They are only nine weeks pregnant - they've kept the secret since five weeks. I am so excited and happy - and it makes 2013 a good year before it even begins. Good luck to all you Mums and Dads having 2013 births!
When we had number one we found out ourselves just a few days before xmas in 2009 and we told everyone on xmas day. I had a mmc in July this year though at 10.5 weeks and we had told most people because i'd had an early scan at 7.5 weeks and everything was fine, plus I was really really ill so I'd needed some time off work and everyone I worked with knew as well as family and friends, so it was really tough having to let everyone know what had happened.
So this year I don't know what to do! I'm about 5+5 now, starting to feel very queasy, seeing GP on 20th Dec and booking in and scan with midwife at the end of Jan around 11 weeks. No idea when to tell people!! Christmas? Sooner? New years? If I get as sick as I've been the last two times it will be very hard to keep the cat in the bag!!
I have just emailed my 2 managers as I work mobile so its not like i see them and will see what reply i get. I have a feeling that its not going to go down well.
Just found out an hour or so ago that we're expecting #2. I'm lurching between excitement, relief that it's happened again, trepidation that it probably is going to happen again and disappointment that I won't be able to knock back the £200 worth of Xmas booze that we got in last week!
According to lmp, I'm 4/5 weeks. Already my jeans are too tight!
PatButchersEarring - congrats! I remember when I found out in 2009 it was 23rd December and the idea that I might be pg (cos I wasn't ttc) just kind of crept up on me and I knew I had an old test in the bathroom - meanwhile DH was out at Tesco buying OUR christmas booze!! Oh well, it'll do for the christening party
yellow - good luck with your managers
I'm 11w but was showing at 6. A couple of people have guessed because of that but I haven't told the world.
I wanted to give the scan picture to my Mum and MIL with their Xmas present but my scan is in the new year.
So they will just have to believe me
and look at my stomach if they don't which is all the evidence needed really
yellow too bad to your managers if they dont like it, you and your babys health is more important. Good luck with the response.
Still completly symptomless, think I'm 4w+5d. Petrified of a mmc. Feels nothing like last pg.
Littlemiss Thanks for congrats. I think I'm still a bit in shock tbh, but slowly coming round to the idea of a teetotal(ish!) Xmas...
LoveYou If it's any consolation, my first pregnancy was totally symptomless (apart from missed periods and getting chubby!). I also had light bleeding on and off for the first 10 weeks or so. I was convinced I was going to miscarry at any moment. It was fine. DD is now 3.5
and the biggest madam I have ever met
Just had two BFPs yesterday. I only tested as a formality, as I was feeling weird, kept having cramps and my period was late - but tbh I thought it was stress! No idea how far along I am as I genuinely can't remember whether I had a period in November or not, it was a pretty busy month. Still kind of in shock. :S
PatButchersEarrings, thank you for your post, I am 4-5 weeks and been bleeding on and off for over a week now. I have had 2 blood tests this week to compare HCG levels to see if they are going up, and I find out tomorrow, I am so scared, it is reassuring to know that you had bleeding and everything is fine. My boobs were huge in my first and I felt very slightly sick for almost exactly 12 weeks, in fact that is why I first did the test, I wasn't even late at that point, I've had none of that this time.
Woah, and breathe!! Sorry.
Got a definite positive after a few days of wondering about the faintest of lines at the weekend. Started feeling a bit bloated and sickly yesterday. No idea when I'm telling people. Was planning to tell parentals today but didn't! Don't know why...!
pat thank you so much.
such fun and loveyou
You're welcome. I wouldn't want anyone to go through the (what thankfully turned out to be totally unnecessary) worry that I went through.
Looking back, I honestly think I was of greater risk of mc through the stress of worrying about it than anything else. The GP did nothing to allay my fears either- in fact, I wasn't concerned about it until I saw her. Her reaction to the bleeding was so totally OTT it was unreal.
In fact, I think it's something like a third of pregnancies have light (and sometimes more) bleeding at some point. An ex colleague of mine even passed an entire blod clot when 4 months pregnant with her (now 20 year old) son.
Congrats all who are expecting!!
I'm in 2 minds about getting an early pg scan....what's everyone's thoughts? Shall I just wait til 12 weeks?
I might be out, after all this.
Five weeks pg and started bleeding today. Had a missed mc in July - terrified now. My doc would not authorise HCG bloods (why why why???) and told me to wait till week 7 then I "might" get a scan.
I'm in hell right now.
Have told my headteacher - she knows about July mc - and I'm staying home from school to rest tomorrow. My DH is going to tell my parents tomorrow - I just don't know how I can go on with my daily life when I might be losing this pregnancy.
I have a private scan booked for end of week 7 but might call them tomorrow and see what they can advise. Stupid NHS, they don't want to help - despite the new NICE guidelines.
I can kiss a nice Christmas good riddance.
oven how are you today? Has the bleeding stopped? I know its impossible to do but try not to panic it might not be a mc, there are lots of explanations for bleeds in pregnancy. Good luck!
Hope you are ok Oven
Sorry to sabotage a lovely thread.
Bleeding is heavier today. Went to see my doc and insisted on HCG bloods being done - I cannot face Christmas with this misery hanging over me. Have another blood test booked for Monday to see what HCG levels are doing.
It would be foolish to get my hopes up, so I'm trying to let it go for now. But the bleeding is more than during my periods, I can't believe I am NOT miscarrying.
A long weekend ahead...
Congrats to everyone here
I didn't tell most people until I was 20 weeks, as I was waiting for test results. Family I told within a few days of finding out.
I am so sorry tpo hear you are going through this oven. I think it's probably best to prepare yourself for the worst mentally, but also it's very important not to lose hope completely. There are many people who have bleeds, even very heavy bleeds that go on to have perfect healthy babies.
Are you cramping with the bleeding? is the blood bright red or dark? good luck and we're here for you.
I've just got a positive test today for first pg. scary and exciting. Told a friend who knew I was late and trying. Will tell mum tomorrow but not anyone else until after Christmas. However i am going on holiday over NY with friends who are big drinkers so it's going to be pretty obvious when I don't drink!
How have you been oven?
It's certainly over. Bleeding continued last night and I passed the indicative matter (sorry ladies if tmi). So at least I know now. Will cancel the scan that is booked.
At least I know I can have a drink, eat brie and pate over Christmas without doing any harm. I'll get New year out of the way, and then think about trying again. I'm boosted by the over 40's thread I found on here - lots of old ladies giving it a go, so I might give it some thought.
Good luck to all of you ladies pg - exciting times ahead. I have a son, aged 2, and he is my world. When it does happen it's like a gift from God, truly.
Take care ladies.
oven I am truely so sorry to hear this. I really hope you feel better soon, rest up and enjoy your ds over xmas. Once you're ready to ttc again I wish you all the best of luck.
Newbie here. Just found out yesterday I'm pregnant, 3w6d. Complete surprise and still hasn't really sunk in! So exciting though. This is our first. We haven't sold anyone yet and going to wait until after the 12 weeks to tell work and colleagues. I will be 5 weeks pregnant on Xmas day and considering telling my mum and sister then as we are spending Xmas with them. I am so nervous about telling them and oh's parents! I keep thinking they will be disappointed in us for some reason. Although we are both 24 and have been together for 6 1/2 years, living together for the past 3 years. Is it normal to be this nervous?! And do you think it's too soon to tell parents? We don't want to tell friends/colleagues until my h later on but I don't think I can keep it in when I'm around my mum and sis!
I guess I'm just petrified of something going wrong like a miscarriage
Do u think we should tell them at Xmas?
Hope your all well and i am excited start my pregnancy journey with you all xxx
Forgot to mention I have my work Xmas party this coming Friday, I am worried people will start to suspect something as i am usually one to have quite a few too many drinks and so I think people may question why I am avoiding alcohol! Anyone got any tips?! Xxx
hi hannah congratulations! why do you feel nervous telling your family? re: your xmas party you could say you are hungover from the night before or you're on antibiotics?
I've had my first day back at work and I can't concentrate at all. Just want to tell everyone - even though I know that is an incredibly stupid idea.
How do women cope for so long not telling anyone>??!?!?!?
Hi I'm around 7 weeks I think, found out Saturday told my partner, sister in law as she was trying to pile me with drinks and kept buying alcohol for me and told my mum this morning now they are out of the way don't have the urge to let everyone else know!
And luckily at home already with 11month old so no work to inform this time round thank god!
hello! i am currently 6 wks with my first, haven't told work yet as i really dont need to so holding off for 12wk scan. telling the parents on christmas as a surprise! but if anyone could help me......when i called the doc, i was told i had to wait until i was between 8-9 wks to see a midwife. is this normal?
Have too just discovered Im pregnant (with #2).
Due August 2013.
Like others Christmas and NYE will be interesting, might suddenly be on antibiotics!
I have to tell parents this week (as we have a family holiday planned for next summer...abroad), but other than that will wait to tell family at 12 weeks.
I had another question I hope others might be able to help with...after first baby (4 years ago) I fully intended to lose baby weight but didn't (technically Im obese). Would it be ok for me to decide to start excising more regularly than I previously have (power walking)?
Im not trying to avoid putting weight on, I just want to make sure I have a healthy, fit and manageable pregnancy.
I planned to start taking a circuit class in the NYE before finding out, might have to swap it for swimming or cycling (any ideas ;)!)
All the best to everyone xxx
Yeah don't get seen straight away and don't get scanned until as close to 12 weeks as poss I haven't even been allocated an appointment yet x
In my experience anyway not sure if its the same everywhere! X
We will see a midwife after 8 weeks, don't even see my gp.
Seems to be managed centrally where we are by the local hospital.
So lovely to hear all the good news. So sorry oven
Well, I had a 6 week scan yesterday, heard the heartbeat and saw it flicker. Brought a few tears to my eyes as we had been trying for a while for DC2. I'm in a different country and was treated with a fertility drug so that's why I had an early scan. Saw the nurse today and had everything confirmed and she made sure I was doing all the right things. I will now see a doctor every 4 weeks until 30 weeks, then every 2 until 36 weeks, then every week. So different from the UK. So happy to go back to Scotland tonight and tell my family. They will be over the moon with their wee Christmas present Just a shame I have to get an overnight flight with a 2 year old out of the way first, by myself. Hope he's good! Merry Christmas everybody
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