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Pregnant after a miscarriage, as the bumps get bigger we get braver, 1st,2nd or 3rd trimester and even graduates cuddling there babies!!, reasurance and hand holding aplenty!

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gemdrop84 Sun 09-Dec-12 08:21:13

Thanks ladies. Glad I'm not the only one then to feel that way re hogging the baby. Honestly started to panic a bit about it, silly me....but as you say sod what anyone thinks. Your mil sounds like a nightmare state and I don't blame you for organising xmas that way! Your poor nephew sad I've always felt uncomfortable if a baby cried when I held them, before I had dd, but I would try allsorts to soothe them.

001001 Sun 09-Dec-12 08:32:56

Thanks state :-)

FoofFighter Sun 09-Dec-12 09:32:41

Hello all can I come in please, I just poas about 10 mins ago and got two lines.

We lost our first baby together in April, mmc at 9 weeks, would have been due last month.

OH is asleep still. I'm in shock and shitting bricks that it's all going to go tits up again. Can I not tell him for a few weeks to protect him?

WLmum Sun 09-Dec-12 09:48:01

Whilst I was in the shower this morning, dd1 was sitting in the nursery wearing my breasfeeding support cushion and breastfeeding a succession of soft toys! Bless her! Touch wood they are both excited about the arrival of their new sibling.

WLmum Sun 09-Dec-12 09:53:13

Hey foof, come on in! Love the name btw. Sorry and congrats, I know exactly how you feel - I seriously thought about not telling DH for a bit this time to try to protect us both but decided against it - I needed someone to share the secret with, and his first reaction (delighted) was priceless. That said, I have found this thread invaluable in having somewhere else to air my anxieties so as not to pressure cook here too much.

Countmyblessings Sun 09-Dec-12 18:59:45

Welcome Foof - congrats to you! this thread gets very busy as we have so much to share! Holding hands after dealing with either a MMC, MC or ectopic is so important couldn't cope with MN!
I also had a loss in April, I was totally shocked to see lines also am 26 weeks now!

LittlemissChristmas Sun 09-Dec-12 19:13:21

Hi everyone can I also join?
Nearly 13 weeks after 3 mc's. still can't quite believe we've made it this far!

wifey6 Sun 09-Dec-12 19:28:34

Hello...can I please join the thread?
Am feeling very anxious as am 9+6 & symptoms are fading & I'm scared as had a MMC in April. Never realised how anxious I would feel this time sad
Is this normal or am I being daft?

WLmum Sun 09-Dec-12 19:42:45

Hi little - sorry and cOngrats - fingers xd your past the danger zone now - have you had a scan yet? We all understand that the anxiety hangs around for a long time though.

Hi wifey not being daft at all. I had a melt down at around 9 weeks with this pg (now 38 weeks) as my symptoms disappeared - I was convinced that I'd mcd again. Luckily I was due an early scan at that point which showed all was well. I did lots of googling and asked every health professional I could and they all said disappearing symptoms did not necessarily mean a mc. Fingers crossed this is the case for you too.

wifey6 Sun 09-Dec-12 19:56:00

Thank you WLmum...have MW appointment Thursday & a scan in 2 weeks. Don't suppose dopplers are recommended this early?

WLmum Sun 09-Dec-12 20:04:04

Probably not - I'd guess it would be quite hard to get the exact right spot to hear a hb so could just lead to more stress - that seems to be the general consensus for dopplers at most stages. I'm sure thurs and 2 weeks seem a long way off but try to take one day at a time and they'll come round.

wifey6 Sun 09-Dec-12 20:09:00

Thank you..just worried sad

GaryBuseysTeeth Sun 09-Dec-12 20:13:09

Another newbie, if you'll have me?

5weeks pregnant after a mc in October (luckily got pg the cycle after mc), going to book in with Dr at about 7wks, after I've had a private scan (don't want to return maternity exemption card/cancel mw apts again)....still poas every few days!

wifey, there was a MN-er on another thread who mentioned she got a hb on the doppler from about 10wks, but that's very early, I would leave it awhile, if you can't find one it would make you more nervous!

wifey6 Sun 09-Dec-12 20:15:57

Gary..thank you. Sorry for your loss & congratulations on your pregnancy.
I think I will hold off & just try & be positive x

Welcome aboard to all the new people, feeling terrified is pretty normal, I'm 38wks and it still gets me sometimes! From our last few threads it seems a huge range of feelings are normal, its a long hard journey but some day it will end in a baby.

It was a year ago yesterday my MMC was discovered, this wednesday it will be a year since my erpc. Next wednesday, december 19th, this baby is being delivered by elcs! Its all bittersweet but I can honestly say its made this pregnancy so much more precious and amazing, every scan has had me enchanted.

Hand holding is always available as are hugs and a ear for anything, from epic rants to small victorys. Take every day as it comes, one at a time. We've had 3 graduates already since I started the first thread in April, and me and WL are both welcoming babys next week! We have a high sucess rate here smile

LittlemissChristmas Sun 09-Dec-12 20:25:01

gary I did the same, didn't want to cancel so didn't see midwife till 10 weeks. Had a scan at recurrent miscarriage clinic every week from 6 weeks which put my mind at ease but also gave me something to worry about and sick at thought of every week.
Had 12 week scan now so starting to relax more but finding it difficult to get too excited.

wifey6 Sun 09-Dec-12 20:29:59

Aww state...what a lovely post.
Sorry to hear of your previous loss...I agree it must make this pregnancy that even more precious.
How wonderfully exciting that your little one & WLmums baby will be here soon. smile Gives hope x

Storys of sucessful pregnancys after mc/mmc I've read on mn are all that have kept me going, and the lovely ladies on here.

I have a 5yo ds and 4yo dd aswell who I fell pregnant with and carried without a care in the world so to then have 2 mcs and a mmc was quite a shock to the system and made me realise how lucky and naïve I was before.

Huge good luck to all of you in the first trimester <shuffles up to make room on the sticky pregnancy sofa and offers round cake>

yellowsnownoteatwillyou Sun 09-Dec-12 20:45:46

Can I join? smile Currently 10 week.... I think will find out on Wednesday, after a mmc at 6 weeks found out at 11.

I am terrified for the dating scan on Wednesday incase it shows nothing again.

Even though i Feel totally different this time, loads of symptoms, heartburn for the first time in my life, and nighttime nausea. Loads of cramping though.

DH is keeping his madness to himself, as was a total mess after mmc. So trying to think good thoughts.

WLmum Sun 09-Dec-12 21:19:06

Fingers crossed for you yellow. It's easy to forget about the chaps isn't it, I know my DH said he wouldn't want to try again if we lost this one as the mc and mmc have been just too hard. It's good to hear that you have a caring DH, hope you can support each other. Here is great for support too.

sundaesundae Sun 09-Dec-12 21:22:59

yellow, cramping is almost certainly your uterus stretching to accommodate your growing bean smile

I'm now 25 weeks after a MC and a termination for medical reasons. Things do get easier, but worry does strike very suddenly and I think it will always be there. I envy people who have only know pregnancy joy, but maybe that will change when I hopefully have my baby in March.

yellowsnownoteatwillyou Sun 09-Dec-12 21:37:57

Thanks, I am trying to think good thoughts, don't think I will believe its real until I get the scan on Wednesday, which is what I'm scared off as well. Booked it for 10am so don't have the whole day to stress.

DH very supportive indeed, but also terrified. Will update on Wednesday.

Wishing lots of luck to everyone as well. grin

sundaesundae Sun 09-Dec-12 21:40:54

I begged for the first scan of the day and was crying before she even put the transducer on my tummy and came out with the now infamous to us line of "there's nothing in there, and if there is it is dead..." queue much silence from the room. Oops.

Welcome aboard yellow I had loads of cramping this time, I'm sure its because we are super aware of what's going on and analysing every single thing, I went in to my scan expecting nothing, the thing barely touched me and the sonographer said, "ooh this is a busy one, nice strong heartbeat" I was so shocked I couldn't speak and had a huge lump in my throat. Good luck, ill keep my fingers crossed for you. X

yellowsnownoteatwillyou Sun 09-Dec-12 21:47:13

Wow, what a harsh way to deliver news.

The first time I knew when I walked in as I had started bleeding the day before and just knew, but still stared at the screen and saw and empty space.
Don't think I will look this time until they say good things. DH has agreed to do the same. I couldn't get the empty space on the screen out of my head for ages.

sundaesundae Sun 09-Dec-12 21:48:55

Sorry, I came out with that line, not the sonographer! I was the rubbish one about my own baby!!

yellowsnownoteatwillyou Sun 09-Dec-12 21:49:35

Thanks state. I feel totally different this time so hoping for good things, though now freaking out incase there's more than one. Ha ha

We shall wait and see, it's going to be a long 3 days.

yellowsnownoteatwillyou Sun 09-Dec-12 21:51:42

Thank goodness sundae, would have well been reporting them.

To be honest, I was kind of the same last time because I just knew, Dh was saying it will be fine, I just knew it wasn't.

sundaesundae Sun 09-Dec-12 21:56:26

OH was so embarrassed by me I don't know how he didn't walk out. The woman just kept handing me tissues and located baby and heartbeat in record time. I am a radiographer and I did an elective rotation in ultrasound, so have been there when giving that news, it is the worst thing ever. You are desperately hoping to find a HB or a hiding fetus, but you know and you know how devastating the news is going to be.

I think it is so much worse having the big screens on the wall, I think they should only turn them on once they have located things and done a quick measure. I was horrified to be staring at it praying for good news.

Now being treated to kidney kicks by my little lady reminding me she is all well and growing away in there.. makes the panic much less I must say!

I am sure you will be fine, you just have to get through an hour, a day, a week, a month at a time. I have calmed down a lot since 20 weeks, it isn't easy this preggo lark!!

AlphaBeta82 Mon 10-Dec-12 06:58:47

Marking my place!

AlphaBeta82 Mon 10-Dec-12 06:58:49

Marking my place!

gemdrop84 Mon 10-Dec-12 08:09:04

Hello to all you new ladies, as state said feel free to rant or talk through your worries, it's really helped us get through. Take one step at a time, whether that's a minute/hour/day- I was anxious with worry/panic, it's been very hard but it has really helped me coming on here, talking about it, hearing that I'm not in fact going crazy and most of what I'm feeling is normal given what we've been through. The ladies here are fab! grin Wish you all happy and healthy pg's thanks

AlphaBeta82 Mon 10-Dec-12 09:31:51

Hello all new ladies! I echo gemdrop after 3 MCs (all before 12 weeks) I am finally starting to enjoy my pregnancy at 16 weeks with little one kicking away!
It really is a step by step, moment by moment process! Everyone on here has been my sanity, I went through some really rough spots but finally feeling like it is coming together.
Wifey I picked up HB on angel sounds doppler from 11 weeks, BUT, it was very hit and miss for the first few weeks, so don't panic if you can't get it!
foof I understand completely about not wanting to tell DH, after my 1st MC I really thought twice about it over the following 3 pregnancies but in the end I told him each time. It is an anxious and worrying time and two shoulders are beter than one, and when I did miscarry it was wonderful to have his support, and when I didn't we both have celebrated together!

MrsReiver Mon 10-Dec-12 09:32:12

Hi to all the new ladies, this is a safe place to rant and express your worries. We've all been there so we know exactly how you are feeling. I remember when I was new and I was looking at State, WL and Wellies wondering how on earth I was going to manage to get that far along. However here I am, 29 weeks today with a very healthy wriggler booting my insides all day long as if to say "Mummy, I'm still here and I'm okay!"

I remember my 12 week scan, I'd vomitted the night before with nerves. Unfortunately the sonographer was one of the women I'd seen during my MC and I said to her "just tell me, is there something there and is it alive?" she located the heartbeat almost instantly and let me and DH watch it for ages while we howled. I was so happy afterwards that I hugged her. The feeling of relief and joy was incredible, I can still conjure it up when I think back to how low I was this time last year, and how happy I am now.

Countmyblessings Mon 10-Dec-12 11:49:33

Big Wave & Congrats to you wifey6 - I remember you from another thread its def hard after " loss" but you will get through it one day at a time!
I'm 26 weeks and reassured due to moving baby!
Sundae- not to long now!!! Roll on 3rd trimester!!!!

I guess receiving pain news at a scan is a long lasting memory very hard to shake off, forget and move from!!! I refused to look until I heard and there's your baby and heartbeat!!! DH had no feeling in his hand for a good 10 minutes!!!

Countmyblessings Mon 10-Dec-12 11:54:47

Welcome & Congrats to - little miss, Yellow and Gary!!
Was so excited to see Wifey on here I forgot!

wifey6 Mon 10-Dec-12 11:59:53

Aww count..thank you. That's made me come over very emotional blush
Yes I was on the Nov 12 thread but fell off it with a mighty crash in April. I'm now on here <thank goodness I found you all> & July 13 thread <another bunch of lovely ladies>
How lovely on you pregnancy..26 weeks..not too long to go. smile

FoofFighter Mon 10-Dec-12 12:54:01

Hello Wifey, thought I recognised your name, I was on that thread too, it wasn't a very lucky one for quite a lot of us was it sad fingers crossed we can make it this time smile

Thank you for the welcome, looking forward to getting to know you all smile I have told OH, he says he knew already ha! we had an incident last week where I was in a pub with him and kept saying I can smell Xmas! and wandering around trying to locate said Xmassy whiff - we both happen to need to use facilities at the same time which were upstairs and through two closed heavy doors- and there was the xmas pong, some festive scented loo roll!!! confused

I feel very different this time round, from the start last time it didn't feel quite right although nothing I could put my finger on, I did have sore boobs and bloating as symptoms, same as just now but I feel strangely positive and not particularly worried actually. The pg test I did yesterday morning was just an internet cheapy stick type, and brought a stronger result back than any of the tests I had done previously last time, again hoping a good sign. Oh and am getting increasingly interested in lovely juicy cold fruit like satsumas and pineapples.

I'm 5 weeks today give or take a day, the EPU said to call them when I got pregnant again and not go to MW for booking in till they had confirmed a pg, not sure when would be best time to call and get that ball rolling, especially at this time of year - thoughts anyone? When is best time to have an early scan to confirm things are where they should be and ticking away nicely?

I can't say I am really looking forward to being in that room again especially if it's the same bitch woman as before - I think I might just close my eyes and not look. Coping tips welcome too please.

bonzo77 Mon 10-Dec-12 13:06:58

Marking my spot. I think I'm being discharged later. DS2 has moved from NICU to SCBU. Still on hourly feeds etc and I'm heartbroken at being sent home without him.

AlphaBeta82 Mon 10-Dec-12 13:12:48

Great news Bonzo, though sory you're not able to come home with little man, I hope you are reunited soon!
Hi Foof, my EPU was brilliant with me, giving me scans at 7 wks, 9wks before my 12 week which made all the diference. Glad you told DH. smile

wifey6 Mon 10-Dec-12 13:23:42

Foof...yes I remember you from that thread. Sorry again for your loss. Lovely to see you here expecting again. Plenty of hand-holding,prayers & positive thinking for everyone here.

bonzo I hope he's home with you really soon.
<Indulgent whinge alert>
I'm so over being useless now, when I was pregnant with the older two I never got to the stage where I just couldn't do stuff. This time I'm useless I can't bend, getting off the sofa/bed etc is a huge effort and the mere thought of getting dressed makes me want to weep. So today I haven't I got up sorted the dcs and dp took them off to school and I spent the morning snoozing on the sofa, I'm staying in my pjs I've decided. Its frustrating me a lot feeling like this as I have so much to do. But I figure one day off isn't the end of the world as tomorrow I've got a lot to do, finishing christmas shopping!

9 days to go...

WLmum Mon 10-Dec-12 13:33:33

Hey bonzo great news that little man has been 'downgraded' but I can't imagine how sad you must be at going home without him. Any idea how long it might be before he joins you?

foof that sounds good that your epu asked you to get in touch - I would do it sooner rather than later and ask their advice but I think they generally say not before 6/7 weeks so they can be sure of seeing a hb. This time I had a scan at 9 weeks and dr google told me that a healthy hb at 9 weeks gives a 99./. Chance of a successful pg. Depends whether you can bear to wait that long. With my previous mmc I had a scan at 6ish weeks which showed a hb and was falsely reassured and then devastated at the 12 week scan. Those early weeks are so hard [squeezes hand].

WLmum Mon 10-Dec-12 13:46:27

state you and me both! I feel exactly the same. Was pretty fit and active right up til the end with dds but this time as you say, just feel totally immobile and everything is so much effort. I'm having a bit of a feet up on the sofa day today as DH has a day off work (having worked all weekend) and have warned him that I am going to be selfish about taking every chance I can this week to rest. I just feel totally exhausted - not helped by dd1s cough still waking her and I up in the night. I've even been looking forward to my c sec, not just for getting my baby of course, but for the laying down!

8 days left for me. Pre op assessment on Friday so will found out of I'm am or pm.

I've had all that done already 7am I've got to be in hospital, I've got the tablet to take the night before --that I'm paranoid about forgetting/loosing-- and I need to have bloods done by friday.

Ds was just 16mo when dd was born, he was barely walking and I carried him all over the place all through my pregnancy, I've no idea how I did it!

I'm trying to write a list of final things for hospital bag/christmas etc. So far I've wrote nothing but I know there is lots to sort!

GaryBuseysTeeth Mon 10-Dec-12 15:49:32

Booked my early scan for next week, now terrified of having to cancel it as I'm having 'orrible period-esque cramps <slaps self>

Foof, if you're sure of the dates, if I were you I'd try get a scan end of this week/next week as a hb should be visible then....no sure how much worse the 'rush' of women getting pg over Christmas will affect services/how long it takes to be given appointment dates?
Hope you don't have the same bitch again & glad you've told OH.

State, alpha, gem...thanks, it's reassuring to know I should be able to relax soon. It's much more reassuring coming from women who know what you're going through.

Good luck with sorting the hospital bag State, I underpacked last time & then found out the hospital shop didn't sell nappies, DS lived in a towel for a few hours.

FoofFighter Mon 10-Dec-12 16:29:51

Bonzo, I don't know your story but that sounds very positive that your little one is now, what did someone call it, "downgraded" smile I hope that the hospital isn't too far from you so you can be there a lot of the time with the baby, and of course that it won't be long before they are home thanks

I'll dig out the details for the epu and give them a call tomorrow to see what they say, in my experience they are pretty useless :/ if there was somewhere else I could go I would, the joys of living in semi-rural Scotland sad

WLmum Mon 10-Dec-12 17:18:08

I know I've still got loads that could/should be sorted but to be honest at this stage I just don't care!

I just need to relax, I'm driving myself up the wall. I kept putting off ordering the carseat adapters for the pram and now the shop I was buying them from is out of stock, and I'm anxious about ordering online from bugaboo, no idea why.

Ooh hello, lost you there for a bit! Welcome and congrats to the new posters on the thread - it's always the best thing about starting a new thread, new people come along! grin

HJBeans Tue 11-Dec-12 03:13:14

Hello all. Popping over from the metalling thread and marking my place if that's ok? I'm at 6w6 after two early mcs (5-6 weeks) in March and June.

Thanks for the lovely warm welcomes gemdrop, alpha,and mrsr. Encouraged me to stop lurking and say hello.

yellowsnownoteatwillyou Tue 11-Dec-12 08:24:06

good morning all, only 1 day to wait for a scan.

i am presuming this is a good sign but should i have a definate bump already at 10/11 weeks?

im wearing a hoody this morning and can definatly see a bump through it.proper round and hard. I am allowing myself to get slightly excited now.

wishing good things for everyone.will update tomorrow.

AlphaBeta82 Tue 11-Dec-12 08:54:35

hi yellow I had a definate bump at 10/11 and look properly pregnant (IYKWIM!) now at 16 weeks - I am sure I didn't show this much, this early with DS though!
Good luck for tomorrow. smile

yellowsnownoteatwillyou Tue 11-Dec-12 09:02:46

thanks Alpha, keep making Dh pat it, to confirm its not in my head.

However the smell coming from the box of new pans i just unpacked is making me want to be sick, this may even top the bag of flavoured coffee i bought for a present yesterday at a xmas market that is currently in the car as the smell is over powering. Dh had his face in the bag making yum noises.

bleugh, never had these smell things last time, i am feeling positive.:D

MrsReiver Tue 11-Dec-12 09:40:03

I showed a lot earlier with this baby, I think our stomach muscles are all shot to pieces after at least one previous pregnancy.

My arm is still sore - it's not been really painful, just achy. The swelling and redness are starting to go down. My friend's baby girl had her first lot of jags during the week and I have a huge amount of sympathy for her. grin

AlphaBeta82 Tue 11-Dec-12 09:47:27

Smell is a good sign of rising hormone levels believe. Best of luck! After having 3 consecutive early scans where I was told nothing was there (I did suspect/ know each time as symptoms had all disappeared and/or heavy bleeding) it is the most wonderful feeling when you get that positive scan! I wouldn't look at the screen until DH was telling me it was ok, our baby was kicking away happily! x

yellowsnownoteatwillyou Tue 11-Dec-12 10:27:58

DH and I have agreed to not look until whoever is doing it says something good,

i am going to tell them this when we go in.

Is it like tv that you actually get to hear a heartbeat or just see it, if im 10/11 weeks?

AlphaBeta2012 Tue 11-Dec-12 11:02:59

they can point out the HB to you, we just saw it. To be honest at my first scan (7 weeks) I couldn't see anything, they kept pointing and saying there is the HB and I just thought 'well I have to trust you!' By 10 weeks I could see what I describe as a kidney bean with legs! Then was amazed at the 12 week scan (even though we've a Dc already!) that it was actually a little baby kicking away! I think I thought it'd still be a kidney bean thing and couldn't believe the growth!

Mrsd77 Tue 11-Dec-12 12:59:22

Hello all. Can I join you? You seem a lovely bunch!
Am nearly 6 weeks pregnant with dc2. Fourth pregnancy with the last diagnosed as a partial molar pregnancy at 12 week scan in May.
Just had a scan this morning and seen a bean measuring six weeks with a good heart beat. You could have knocked me down with a feather! Hcg levels have increased well and I'm allowing myself a couple of hours chill! I honestly thought it was game over after some blledibg over the weekend. They saw some bleeding near the sack but dr was totally unconcerned (I think in a good way!)

So, that's me! Fx I'm around for a little while longer yet! smile

WLmum Tue 11-Dec-12 13:12:47

Hello hj and mrs welcome aboard! Great to see a string of positive posts, long may it continue!

Good luck for Tom yellow, hb should be clear, and if they had a Doppler handy, audible too (although don't think sonographers normally do). I showed right away with this pg and was really struggling with non maternity clothes at less than 12 weeks but was determined not to go into maternity clothes before I knew all was well. People now tell me it seems like I've been pg forever cos it's been so obvious for so long. Not for much longer now though - just one more week to go!

MrsReiver Tue 11-Dec-12 14:04:09

Yellow, the hb should be visible yes, a little flickering patch that will be the best thing you've ever seen grin good luck!

FoofFighter Tue 11-Dec-12 14:08:38

Constipation confused ow. That be all.

MrsReiver Tue 11-Dec-12 14:10:43

Lactulose. Minging. But it works.

yellowsnownoteatwillyou Tue 11-Dec-12 14:13:20

thanks everyone, just needed to know what to expect since it all went wrong before.

congrats Mrsd

Mrsd77 Tue 11-Dec-12 15:00:57

Thanks yellow. My 12 week scan with DS (now 3.5) was such a relief after mmc first time round. It really does blow your mind when it looks as it should! Fx!

Welcome mrs and hj I dip in and out of the metallers thread, I was there a lot in the early days, those ladies really know there stuff!

I'm more pregnant this time than before, a definate pregnant shape by 16wks --despite never loosing the baby weight from elder 2-- now at 38+3 I'm so pregnant grin

WL just a week to go!!!!! One week one day for me! How scary/exciting is that!

My shopping trip didn't go to plan I'm too pregnant and grumpy so I gave up and headed to wetherspoons for lunch!

WLmum Tue 11-Dec-12 17:58:02

Sounds like a better plan state. So unlike me but I didn't leave the house yesterday, and not today until school pick up - normally that would drive me crazy but I'm so done in I think I could have stayed put for a few more days!

WLmum Tue 11-Dec-12 18:03:42

Ouch foof - I second lactulose but also second the yuk! Could try lots of fruit/juice

I'm feeling v emotional at the moment - hormones ramping up for last surge plus extreme knackeredness I guess. Dd1s Carol concert is 18/19th - my c sec is 18th :-( I'm also currently sitting out her first session at rainbows - bless her shy little heart. She was a bit overwhelmed to start with but is being brave and trying to join in.

Countmyblessings Tue 11-Dec-12 18:14:43

Ahhhh welcome newbies - I know how very worried you can be at the early stages! Most times when you have a scan you def can see a strong heartbeat and you then breath!!! Although sometimes that still not enough reassurance to those who have had to deal with sorry of a loss after good news from early scans!!!
But it's so great to hear such great stories of wonderful and healthy pregnancies and babies being born to offer hope and hand holding to others who find this thread!!!
I def feel the more dc you have the earlier your belly grows!
26 weeks and feel huge already!
Had to buy mat wear as I felt I wasn't excited about being pregnant which wasn't good!!! Def after 20 weeks I started believing I may just bring a baby home in March!
Any advice and hand holding we can offer to help ease the early concerns just holla!!!
I constantly kept saying each day " today I'm pregnant so smile"

Countmyblessings Tue 11-Dec-12 18:16:23

Thank God for Internet shopping facing the shops right now is a no no!

FoofFighter Tue 11-Dec-12 19:11:57

Actually don't think it's constipation now although things are a bit slow moving! You know that feeling you get when your bladder is fit to burst? it's more that kind of a thing although am emptying regularly. Hope that doesn't mean impending infection :/

CMB - I for one will definitely be hollering don't worry!

I need to pluck up courage to ring the EPU. Maybe next week...? Still early days yet, only 5 weeks yesterday by my dates.

wl I didn't get dressed or leave the house yesterday in preperation for today, and I slept in the car on the way home to fetch ds, then the way to my aunts for tea, and again on the way home ha!

foof I'd ring whenever you feel ready, for me contacting midwife/epu was a huge step but if you want an early scan about 7wks you need to get in there. X

I'm blooming exhausted I'm not leaving the sofa for some time.

elliejjtiny Tue 11-Dec-12 19:34:23

Welcome to all the newbies.

(((hugs))) to those with anniversaries coming up or just gone. DD's EDD anniversary is on 16th (can't believe she would have been 7) and DS4's scan and erpc anniversaries are on 20th and 23rd.

Mrsd77 Tue 11-Dec-12 20:01:44

Thanks for the warm welcome everyone.

My optimism has now been slightly tarnished by a little more blood! Rational me says it's the bleed they saw on the scan just passing through. Stupid me is thinking I've jinxed it by relaxing about it all since scan this morning! Aargh!

Thinking that as I've been throwing up most of the day I should defo be staying positive. Well, trying to...

WLmum Tue 11-Dec-12 20:26:09

Oh mrs how horrid for you. Fx it is the bleed they saw and were unconcerned about. Xx

yellowsnownoteatwillyou Tue 11-Dec-12 20:42:23

Oh Mrs that is horrid, hope its what they saw and nothing to worry about. and thanks for the good thoughts of your experience.

I have also been feeling crap all day, and have had 2 naps. I presume i will be up around 3 am again, becoming a ritual, not by choice. lol

GaryBuseysTeeth Tue 11-Dec-12 20:47:51

Mrsd, keeping my fingers tightly crossed that it's nothing.

foof, I'm going for a private scan on the 21st but I'm not going to speak to MW/GP until after Christmas, because if something happens over Christmas...that's 4 days they still think I'm pregnant.

MrsReiver Tue 11-Dec-12 21:50:03

MrsD - I've got everything crossed for you!

I've just sat and cried in the bath because DS is growing up. DH is out at work 6 days a week, so most of the time it's just me and DS, we're really close and joined at the happy. Don't get me wrong I am so, so excited and happy to be having this baby, but at the same time it's going to change everything. It will no longer just be the two of us, and I'm sad that's going to end.

Oh mrsR I remember that feeling, I even remember thinking dd arriving would ruin things, but now I see them play and hear them talk and there relationship is the best gift I've ever given ds, it is a HUGE change but so rewarding. Your allowed to feel this way. I do to in a different way, lifes pretty easy with two, we now occasionally get lie ins, they'll happily play on saturday mornings in the bedrooms while we dose, that's all over again next week...

Countmyblessings Wed 12-Dec-12 00:40:07

MrsD - I have never bled in any of my pregnancies the ones that gave me my dc or the ones that sadly didn't so can't imagine how your feeling! If it continues a becomes heavier I would def go back! But hopefully its old blood just being pushed out!!!!
Mrs R- my gaps between my kids are quite big so I'm glad of the time we spent and get excited to see how each child deals with having to yet again share parents! I guess they have had a few good months to get use to the fact that maybe another baby will be joining the family soon!
Edd - up and coming would of been 17th dec and 28th dec! April was not good months for me to conceive clearly!!!!

WLmum Wed 12-Dec-12 08:27:12

Totally understand that mrs, but I second what state says. It took dd1 and 2 a long time to be at a level where they could play together but now they do, dd1s life is definitely richer for her sister and hopefully for this next one too.

I have mixed feelings all the time about my babies growing up, particularly dd1 who is now at school and having experiences I don't know about or can't influence. On the one hand I'm excited for her and look forward to my relationship with her as she gets older but at the same time, all that scares me silly and I want her back as a tiny!

MrsReiver Wed 12-Dec-12 09:14:38

There will be nearly 9 years between this two, and I worry they won't play together but DS has been talking today about teaching the baby to play with Duplo so I'm sure everything will be okay!

I'm feeling better now, but mind you, tonight is his school disco and I'll probably get all emotional when I see him all dressed up stinking of lynx!

Ah mrsR it will be fine, I'm from a really close family, 6 soon to be 7 (argh) dcs all very close friends, they're 12,8 7,5,4 and 4. My dd is the youngest and she adores the eldest and they play together a lot he's wonderful with her!

Omg ONE week today!

WLmum Wed 12-Dec-12 12:10:14

state your family sounds lovely. mrs I really think it depends on the personalities and temperents of the dcs. There's 5 years betweeny eldest sibling and I, we were never friends or close and still aren't - we hit different life stages at different times. My other sibling is 2.5 yrs older than me and we were v close as kids, til late teens but now not paticularly and now my siblings are quite close in a way they have never been before. When I was at uni I had a friend who's brother was 10 years younger than her and they had a really lovely relationship. Perhaps hadn't played together in the way by sibling and I had but very close and supportive.

MrsReiver Wed 12-Dec-12 12:59:15

I'm the oldest of 8 ranging from 30 something right down to 6, and we all get on well in very different ways but I love them all so I don't really know what I'm worrying about grin

Feeling much better today, steam cleaned DS' carpet and cleaned the windows, I'm contemplating wrapping up and picking up all the litter that's blown into the garden.

yellowsnownoteatwillyou Wed 12-Dec-12 15:14:51

Just thought I would post scan went well, only 6 weeks so obviously ovulated later than I thought so its definatly a honeymoon baby, all where it's supposed and really strong heartbeat apparently. I am very happy, think I'm in shock have been feeling strange all day. Now have to get thru the next 6 weeks before another scan so I can relax a bit.

WLmum Wed 12-Dec-12 15:29:38

Great news yellow! A honeymoon baby, how lovely!

MrsReiver Wed 12-Dec-12 15:40:02

Oh wonderful news Yellow - hopefully with Christmas and New Year, the next 6 weeks will fly in for you x

FoofFighter Wed 12-Dec-12 16:14:17

that's put a smile on my face yellow smile and a honeymoon baby to boot, how romantic smile can we expect a Beckham-esque type name after where you honeymooned??

yellowsnownoteatwillyou Wed 12-Dec-12 16:53:52

ha ha DH wanted to do that the choice would be jordan or petra as we were in egypt and jordan, But I don't really like either, thou Petra would be ok as a middle name if it is a girl.

DH is worried because i was crying after the scan and haven't really said a lot today as its so real now, that i have to look after this little thing all by myself for 9 months.

Just don't think i will relax until 20 weeks.

But am so happy we are going to have a baby.

Fantastic news yellow smile

I was an only child until I was 17 and my sister arrived, my baby brother is ds' best friend, makes playdates and sleep overs nice and easy ha grin my own ds and dd can be close and good friends or ignore one another for weeks. I'm close to my siblings despite them being my own dcs age group, whereas dp is one of 5, 2 of his brothers he wants nothing to do with, one he speaks to if he happens to see him, but he/we have a good relationship with his sister who he's the biggest age gap between. Being siblings doesn't garuntee a lifelong friendship sadly, we can just hope, because for me I find it quite lonely as all my friends are close to their sisters who are the same age group and I don't have that, or the support from same age siblings, that was my driving force in having 3 children. Despite dp being convinced from his experience siblings are evil ha grin

yellowsnownoteatwillyou Wed 12-Dec-12 18:28:52

on the age gap chat, im the youngest of 3 with a 12 and 9 year age gap with my siblings. the older two that have a 3 year age gap can barely be in the same room as each other and have never liked each other, even as children. where as i have kind of flitted between both of them.

All my cousins are older than me as well and i am closer ages to their children. but get on with all of them. Thou it does mean if everything goes to plan with this baby, it will be in exactly the same situation as me regarding cousins, which is a little rubbish, But DH is an only so wants at least 2 kids and hasnt even thought of cousins since he doesnt have any,

MrsReiver Wed 12-Dec-12 18:48:30

My youngest sister and brother are DS' close friends as well.

I have a cousin nearby who I love dearly and her DD is 2 months old, so we're really excited at the thought of them growing up as close as we were when we were little smile

I know there are arguments in favour and against close age gaps, I was just feeling wibbly last night. Thank you for your understanding and kind words - they helped a lot xx

Countmyblessings Wed 12-Dec-12 18:49:12

Age gaps with my siblings is at a 3 year pace which I just thought was funny every 3 years till I was born! Although a few losses before my sis and me!!!
Dc ages are dd18,dd12,ds2 so this will be the smallest gap!
Am excited to see how they get on!!
Funny my oldest looks after her db likes she's the mum!!!!! She adores him!

Countmyblessings Wed 12-Dec-12 18:51:15

Great news with the scan Yellow! Hopefully 6 weeks will fly by! Can't believe I'm now 27 weeks it really did go quickly from my 20 week scan!!

My cousins are the 12 and 8yos I mentioned so I really am kind of out on my own, but me and my mum are close so its ok.

I'm fascinated to see how ds and dd will be with this baby, ds was 16mo when dd was born and he never really noticed her until she was about 4mo, she was enchanted by him would watch him all day smiling and squealing at whatever he did, he can't remember a time before Lola, I don't think I can most days! Ha, and she is the youngest in my family so she's no idea what's coming, I'm hoping though her 3hrs a day at nursery school will help, she has her time away and soemthing that's just for her and hoping with time dc3 will have a nap after lunch so dd gets some 1 on 1 still, no idea about poor ds as he's at full time school!

This time next week ill have my baby, might need to decide on a boys name!

Mrsd77 Wed 12-Dec-12 21:25:59

Hi. Thanks for your words of comfort. Everything seems to have settled down now and I've had no pain at all. Fx it was the old stuff just shifting. I hate this panicking lark!!

I went back to work today so that has taken my mind off things. Only just in and I've devoured a chip butty. Hoping being starving is a good sign!

There are 9.5 years between my bro and myself. Twas hard when he arrived as I was adored and spoilt!! We've rubbed along well at times and then at others it's been explosive!

Great news in the scan yellow x

Great news on the scan, yellow

I'm sitting here being absolutely battered by the baby. Reassuring, but also sore at times!!

Tomorrow would have been the due date of my miscarried baby. Feeling sad, but also optimistic about this baby, if you know what I mean?

I know what you mean backward its a year today since my erpc, its a weird feeling, I'm very grateful for this baby today that's all I can conclude.

Off for pre-op bloods tomorrow, things are getting very real.

WLmum Thu 13-Dec-12 08:34:08

Good luck for pre op today state, got mine tomorrow. I agree, all a bit real which is weird after waiting for so long. I might just get my bags packed this weekend!

I need to do my bag, will do it monday evening I think as I ordered the obligatory unattractive underwear and collect in store monday, also need to add the snowsuit etc to the 'car bag' empty the carboot of various rubbish and stick the buggy in, also strap carseat base into the car... And I've skived off to my Mums today, whoops.

WLmum Thu 13-Dec-12 15:59:42

Mil has dds this pm, I just had a nap!

I went to see my baby brothers nativity, dp had gone home though to fetch dd from nursery so I had no car, I am now very tired, its quite a walk to his school from my Mums, and back. <Colapses in heap>

I have my dds first nativity tomorrow, I will cry.

WLmum Thu 13-Dec-12 16:26:30

Phew, rest up now! I cried because I'm going to be in hospital for dd1s Carol concert - it's the first one she's given a toss about and has learnt her song and actions.

Oh no wl I'm just managing to catch dds and ds' thanks to the hospital being booked up the day I was originally going in, can someone video for you? Not the same but she could show you when you get home.

Can't believe this time next week we will have our babys!

WLmum Thu 13-Dec-12 21:37:13

Yeah hoping DH will get a bit of footage. Bless her heart she's being really understanding when I expected her to cry.

I know, it's totally mad that we're just a few days away from having our babes. Although I feel like I've been massively pg for so long, it seems only 5 mins since you started this thread. I've spent ages today trawling the name threads - we've agreed a boys name but not a girls - I'm happy with my choice but DH is not convinced yet but can't come up with anything better so then it will have to be my choice. I'm happy but want him to be too.

Bless her, ds' school only told us the date of his today its tuesday so cutting it fine, he'd already told me if I was in hospital I'd just have to come home! Ha!

Still no boys name here, girls is sorted (Lily) after my Grandma. I had a name I loved but dp has been so awkward I've slowly gone off it, I've a shortlist, Noah, Finn, Luca/Luke, Zach, Theo and Sam, maybe I need to meet this little one to decide.

I feel the same I want dp to love the name too, ds name was an instant yes that's him from 21wks and when we met him, and its always been perfect in our eyes, dd took some persuasion but he eventually agreed to my favourite and as soon as she was born he said it was perfect and again its always just been her, so I'm really anxious that no boys names are clicking for us!

WLmum Thu 13-Dec-12 22:56:23

Nice stories for ds and dds names, shame that you have been put off your fave this time. DH and I have struggled to agree with all thd babies, dd1 was more his choice, dd2 was more my choice and for both of them we really hadn't settled on boys names. This time we both agree on Dylan for a boy, and I want Tabitha for a girl -he's a bit stuck on it being a cats name but I have heard of dogs called the same as dd2 so I don't care.

Lily is lovely and was on my short list for dd1, but we knew a few already so felt a bit awkward. Noah and Luca are my faves from your boys list. It's just so tricky isn't it and makes me feel a bit uneasy that we haven't fully decided yet - I'm not sure I'd be one who 'knew' when I saw thd baby but I know that after immediately after dd1 was born, I really disliked our 2nd choice girls name!

elliejjtiny Fri 14-Dec-12 19:07:25

Had my scan today. 1 little baby with a beating heart measuring 42mm long. Been put back a day so now due 5th July. I also have a tiny luteal cyst on my right ovary which they will check again at my anomaly scan but hopefully it will be gone by then. Only slight concern was that little one wasn't moving very much, only when the sonographer poked him. DS2 was like that and he has genetic mobility problems, other 2 were much more active at scans. Sonographer said it was too early to tell really so we have to wait and see.

We didn't have too long to wait so back in plenty of time to watch DS1 get his certificate in assembly. We warned him that I might not make it so he had a huge grin on his face when he saw that I had and DH was there too.

Fantastic news ellie my first scan with dd she was very still and now she never stops so try not to worry to much, ds headbutted the side of my womb a few times but that was to get away from the sonographer and again he's fine, they commented on it both times too, try not to worry!

I've just finished packing the babys bag for hospital, made up the crib and pram and my carseat adapters for the pram arrived so I'm nearly ready! Good job since this time next week I could be home with him/her!!! Can't believe 5 days to go.

WLmum Fri 14-Dec-12 20:38:22

Wonderful news Ellie. This baby has been pretty still at scans but every evening gives me a right good kicking.

Had my pre-op assessment today - all quite surreal. Not entirely sure why I feel like that though. Baby should be here by tues lunch time!

I felt the same WL kind of like 'is this really happening?'

I doubt ill believe it until this babys in my arms, ill probably go into shock!

gemdrop84 Sat 15-Dec-12 09:05:35

That's great news ellie, can't believe you're nearly there state & WL not long now! I'm sure it does feel surreal, I'm still not quite believing it myself even with the constant weeing, aches in hips and back and being kicked very hard!! DD is getting very excited to meet her little brother. Had a bit of a wobbly, thinking ''what have we done, she won't get the time/attention she deserves, why are we ruining her life?!!'' But I think I'm just prone to worrying about anything and everything!! Just can't wait to have him here now, it seems ages away!

WLmum Sat 15-Dec-12 11:30:49

I had some of those thoughts gem before dd2 was born, but at last (after 2.5 years) they now play together and dd1 enjoys dd2 and gets something from that relationship that I couldn't offer.

Have just written a schedule for next week to make sure everyone gets looked after, gets to visit me and bubs in hospital, and gets to go to dd1s Carol concert! Phew!

I've had to totally change and re-arrange how we had planned next week as mil wouldn't --fuck off-- let sil come alone to watch the dcs for one day, and I don't want mil in the house when I'm not or visiting me in hospital when I'm bed bound and can't walk away. So now dcs are at my Mums wednesday, back to nursery and school thurs, dd going to a friends for lunch and dp will fetch her when ds finishes school, take them to my Mums/see me then drive back home when visiting ends, he'll then stay home the friday as ds finishes school early and come to me when ds finishes. We live 20 something miles away and the road from our town to the next is horrible and always lorrys/tractors, takes 30-40mins on a good day, from my Mums and the hospital so its going to be a fun week for dp! But he's used to the school run etc, I'm just dreading seeing what will happen to dds hair, its very very straight and took some practice to put up neatly <rocks in corner> I can't stand her looking a mess!

elliejjtiny Sat 15-Dec-12 16:42:59

I love your name choices state especially Luca. We had a boys name picked for this baby straight away. It's actually a name that was on the list for DS1 but I wasn't keen on it for him. Feels perfect for this baby though. Just got to convince DH that it's a good idea to have Matthew as a middle name. It was going to be the most recent miscarried baby's name so he probably won't be keen on "reusing" it. We already have a girls name picked as it's the one DS3 never used.

WLmum Sat 15-Dec-12 20:10:15

Hmmm, I feel another names conversation coming on!

Put up some Xmas decs today and started the wrapping. Good god I might even get everything done at this rate!

I've got to do the wrapping, I'd forgot all about that!

WLmum Sun 16-Dec-12 13:55:09

Dd1 and I were at the wrapping again at 6.30 this morning. Will do dhs Tom while he's at work, and the dds Tom eve, then I'll be just about there. 2 more sleeps!

I've got loads to do... I need to buy some more Christmas cards, too. Seem to have underestimated how many I need!

I'm going to start wrapping this evening.

The dcs have done christmas cards to friends, family will wait until I'm home from hospital as I want to write them from all of us, I'm writing them as much as I can and leaving space for dc3s name. Need to pack my bag tomorrow aswell.

I feel all weird, don't know about you wl I'm excited to meet the baby and not have to worry about being pregnant but ill also miss being pregnant and whilst it feels like its taken forever to get here it also feels too quick! Does that make sense? Can't believe this time next week we should both be back home with babys!

WLmum Sun 16-Dec-12 17:05:38

I know exactly what you mean state, I've been hoping to go into labour for weeks because I'm fed up with being so massive and incapacitated but when I sit down and give my belly a rub and feel those little legs wiggling about I think how special and lovely it is when they're on the inside and how I'll never that again. I am really looking forward to finding out what flavour this one is and holding it in my arms safe and sound.

DH and I not getting anywhere fast with names though!

Same here, we've a list we like so hopefully one will just fit when we meet dc3. I'm kinda sad to say goodbye to being pregnant, yes I'm huge and very awkward but I like being pregnant, I feel good about myself this time, I've a nice albeit massive bump, I'm just trying to be grateful my last pregnancy has been a lovely one, and not be gutted its all over almost. Cor its more of a rollercoaster than you can ever imagine isn't it!

I took the dcs for a wander round the garden centre today, looking at lights and decorations, they saw santa and then we came home and ordered pizza and stuck Elf on tv, its very weird thinking this is the last sunday we will be a family of four, the last sunday I will be pregnant!

Also they were so impressed by pizza delivery, never done it before its hilarious how impressed small children are by things we find normal!

WLmum Sun 16-Dec-12 17:42:02

Yeah, I feel really good about my body when I'm pregnant, it's kind of like it's fulfilling it's purpose, and I love how theres no pressure over weight/size/shape etc.

Re names, we don't even have a short list, just the ones I mentioned before - unless DH comes up with a corked fast there the ones we'll be going for and he'll just have to get used to them!

We're ordering pizza tom night as a treat, and then DH can eat the left overs on the go as he'll be flying around, and can bring some to me in hospital! Weirdly, I had dds almost 3 years exactly apart, and had exactly the same meals!

001001 Sun 16-Dec-12 20:43:26

Welcome to all new peoplee great to hear of hopeful stories and babies on the way. State and WL can't believe you will have babies so soon! A bit jealous actually, can't wait to méet this one. I am glad we didn't find out the sex but now drive myself mad trying to guess! Makes chosing names more fun though, I have a list of about 10 boys and girls names so just have to méet it now. DS asked me earlier what baby is called and I explained that we don't know yet so he has decided to call it fluffy hmm

Back from seeing my family for pre Christmas festivities as we are at in laws this year so all presents exchanged, have a massive family so although it costs a small fortune and requires enough wrapping paper to wrap a large whale, I now have a very tempting pile of gifts under the tree grin

Will be checking progress this week and can't wait to hear of healthy new arrivals, good luck all!

MrsReiver Sun 16-Dec-12 20:51:47

Hi folks, WL and State I hope you are well, and excited! I'm excited for you, DH was hearing all about you in Asda today, were your ears burning? grin

What a weekend! One of our cats took very, very ill on Friday so DH had to rush home from work (thank goodness for cat friendly boss!) and take him to the vet. He's on the road to recovering now and we're hoping he'll be home on Monday. I held it together all Friday but definitely paid for the stress with some serious Braxton Hicks in the evening.

Dragging the conversation back to names, DH and I disagree hugely on names and DS' was the only boy's name we could agree on back then. We've only managed to agree on two this time round - one boy's and one girl's, which is convenient. They're both... unusual around here, the girl's is a traditional Irish name (my dad's family are Irish) and the boy's is a very old fashioned English name from DH' family.

It will certainly be interesting to see how they are received!

WLmum Sun 16-Dec-12 21:01:19

001 I love fluffy! So cute. Dd1 thinks this one should be called snowbaby parpicles and dd2 thinks it should be called auntie Sarah!

001 my dd wanted to call this baby super rabbit for quite some time grin

Hope your cat makes a speedy recovery and is home very soon mrs I get awful braxton hicks when stressed, which makes me more stressed!

This names larks a minefield hey!

AlphaBeta2012 Mon 17-Dec-12 10:31:34

Hi All, just checking in to see how everyone is going. I have reached 17 weeks now, though recieved a horrendous kick to the tummy when swimming yesterday which worried me a bit, but bruising is more concentrated on my hip and EPU said not to worry.

WL and State so excited for you both!

DH and I are pretty set for names, there are only two we like one boy (Quinlan) and one girl (Elodie) so thats that I suppose! wink!

MrsReiver Mon 17-Dec-12 10:45:19

Alpha, I was just reading that thread and it never even dawned on me that it was you! (YWNBU btw)

Quinlan and Elodie are beautiful names grin

WLmum Mon 17-Dec-12 10:47:13

Hi alpha, great news that your coming on, and that you've settled on names - we're still not quite there yet!

Sorry to hear about the kick, I know that used to worry me when swimming, luckily I only ever got minor knocks. I did however fall over on the ice when pg with dd2 and all was fine. They are better protected in there than we think.

Omg WL tomorrows the day!! How quick has that come around!

I will pack my case tonight ready for wednesday.

I need to moan, my hospital have changed visiting hours for partners, they're now 11am-9pm, so the time of day dp could come without dcs is before 11.30 while dds in nursery, and now in the evenings ill be sat alone in the evening as my dcs go to bed 6pm! I can push it until 7pm but I'm stupidly upset about it!

WLmum Mon 17-Dec-12 12:27:19

I know it's crazy! What a shame about the visiting hours - I think your DH should just show up early and hope for a kindly midwife. Could u get sil or someone to sit with dcs while they're asleep so DH can come back in the eve? That's what I'm doing, but I am lucky that my mum and in laws all live really close by (don't always consider it lucky but in this case I do!)

We live 30+ minutes from the hospital, ils live 120miles away from us and my Mum lives near the hospital and has a 4 and 7yo of her own, we'd got It organised to perfection with dp collecting our dcs dropping them at my Mums, couple of play dates etc, to get a letter saying visiting has changed.

WLmum Mon 17-Dec-12 14:29:37

How frustrating!

WLmum Mon 17-Dec-12 14:30:05

How frustrating!

po1nsettia Mon 17-Dec-12 15:02:23

Hi everyone,

Got an early scan tomoz (8wks) after a mc in August, and am sooooo nervous I can't concentrate on anything at work...not sure I'll sleep tonight! sad Really hoping everything looks ok in there, but am aware that even seeing a hb tomorrow is no guarantee. Can't shake off this pessimism that has engulfed me, and I'm not sure what week I will feel 'pregnant and relaxed'!

Anyhoo, just fancied posting to get some reassurance...it's hard to talk to other folk about it all.

Bisous xx

Welcome aboard!

Good luck tomorrow, don't feel disheartened if you can't get a strong hb tomorrow, my first scan this time put me back 2 weeks but all was well smile
I don't think you truly relax at any point, I'm 39wks and still worry a lot. But best of luck there's loads of support here smile xx

Tell me about it WL here's hoping I can get 3G signal so atleast ill have mumsnet for company!

WLmum Mon 17-Dec-12 18:13:43

Hadn't even thought about lack of signal - hope we both do, imagine not being able to share after all this time!

Hope all goes well with the scan, po1nsettia, let us know how it goes - and welcome to this lovely, supportive thread.

WLMum and State I can't believe it's happening this week! Can't wait to hear your news smile

I'm seeing my consultant tomorrow (28+4), so hopefully I'll have my own section date soon. I think I'll keep it a secret mostly though, only telling a select few (which obviously includes you guys wink )

WLmum Mon 17-Dec-12 18:45:03

Welcome and good luck po1. I think we all felt so so nervous about our scans, and pgs weren't really real for the longest time. Fingers crossed all goes well tom and helps you on your journey of happy and healthy pg.

Can't believe in less than 2wks you'll be 30wks possom that seems to have gone really quickly!

Well I packed my bag at last, babys bag done and spares bag for car done, guess what I forgot? Bloody maternity pads ffs!!

WLmum Mon 17-Dec-12 20:13:25

You can have some of mine state I seem to have got a bit carried away!

001001 Mon 17-Dec-12 21:53:11

Po1 good luck tomorrow, let us know how it goes, we will be thinking of you.

foof did you contact the EPU? Are you going to have an early scan?

Mrsd77 keeping my fingers crossed that everything worked out ok for you.

State wait til you meet your baby, if you need a boys name I like all the ones on your list! I have a Finn and this one may well be a Noah...

WL I expect that we will be the first to hear the good news wink good luck!

Had mw today, baby moving plenty, strong hb etc so all good. They could not work out the position but think it is back to back which is why I have felt so many more jabs over the last couple of days! Very reassuring to feel it moving so much, am finally starting to relax! 32 weeks on Weds grin

WLmum Mon 17-Dec-12 22:18:06

Great news 001, relax and enjoy.

Just taken the first of my pre-op meds! Eek!

<squeeee> good luck WL i am so excited for you, cant wait to hear all about it when you have time!

cant believe your already 32wks 001 I feel like ive lost a few weeks recently and now suddenly we are all nearly baked! I really like Finn as all along ive called it my little fish because of how the movements feel. I'm torn just cant decide fully, will wait and meet him, if its a him, my big ds is Jack which we just loved and stuck with, and still love it.

WLmum Tue 18-Dec-12 08:10:42

Well here I am sitting on labour ward (feel a bit of a fraud)! Hoping I won't have to wait too long.

Good luck with scan p01

GaryBuseysTeeth Tue 18-Dec-12 08:17:03

Good luck at the scan Po1nsetta.

WL, very excited for you! Good luck!

State, we didn't name DS until he was about 5 days old, we couldn't decide on a name & settled on one that we dismissed when I was about 3 months pg!
So this time around (fingers crossed) we're not discussing names until we have a baby (saves the arguments)!

Hurrah for relaxing 001!

gemdrop84 Tue 18-Dec-12 09:00:19

oooh best wishes to you wlmum, good luck with the scan p01 Not long now state I'm jealous!! Feeling very odd today and stressed out. Having an urge to clean everything in sight and getting stressed out that we don't quite have everything ready for ds. It's just nesting I'm guessing, never had it with dd! Hello to all other ladies hope you're keeping well, time seems to be flying by!!

bonzo77 Tue 18-Dec-12 09:56:29

Good luck WL. Enjoy meeting your hard- won bundle.

Thinking of you WL smile

Can't believe I only have one day left, I feel little bit sick with nerves!

MrsReiver Tue 18-Dec-12 10:52:29

Good luck WL, State - are you having a lovely lazy day?

I really wish I was, dp the total arse, ignored a sore toe for 3 months, so yesterday had to have an op for ingrown toenail, back to drs today for a dressing change oh and back again on christmas sodding eve!!!! His drs is an hour round trip from home.

I've just had to go asda for bits I'd forgotten for my bag, then back home for ds' school play, then back to the town where dps drs is to drop the dcs with my Mum.

I'm feeling very hormonal and teary today, its all a bit much and if Mum or dp tell me not to stress again ill scream.

welliesandpyjamas Tue 18-Dec-12 11:34:44

Hi state! Thought I'd drop in to see the state of play...who's had babies? Who's due? Who's next? Iirc there were some Christmasey babies due?
All well here. Dd is nearly 12 weeks! Can't believe how the time has flown! We're so excited about her first xmas smile

12wks already! How lovely. Glad to hear you are doing well!

WL is in having her baby TODAY!! And I go in tomorrow grin its a busy week here!

MrsReiver Tue 18-Dec-12 11:58:21

Oh dear, well at least it will go in quickly if you're keeping busy? I won't tell you not to stress because that's going to be nearly impossible. Just try and find some time to relax this evening if you can.

Hi Wellies - 12 weeks already? Good grief that's gone in quick!

That's what I'm hoping, we drop the dcs off for bedtime so should have a nice quiet evening and hopefully being busy will mean I sleep better, I can hope right!

It just doesn't seem real!

WLmum Tue 18-Dec-12 13:26:37

A hat trick! Tabitha Stephanie born this morning, a whopping 9lb 9oz! No wonder I was so massive and immobile! They also said loads of waters and a big placenta. My word I'm glad she's out!

AlphaBeta2012 Tue 18-Dec-12 13:30:01

Congratulations WLmum, wonderful, wonderful news and beautiful name!!

gemdrop84 Tue 18-Dec-12 13:43:58

congratulations wlmum what a beautiful name!! how fab grin hugs to you state can imagine things are stressful for you at the minute! hope you sleep well tonight or can at least relax a bit.

MrsReiver Tue 18-Dec-12 14:18:45

Oh congratulations WL and what a beautiful name!!

elliejjtiny Tue 18-Dec-12 14:35:41

Congratulations wlmum. Gorgeous name.

Congratulations WLmum, 9lb 9oz - wow what a great weight! grin Hope you're having a lovely time getting to know her! X

Had my consultant appointment. All well, he's happy to go for a section but date etc will be confirmed in 6 weeks' time. Got a scan which I wasn't expecting, so that was good! Baby is doing well, measuring perfectly for the dates. Pretty sure this one's a girl as there were three white lines as clear as day on the screen! He didn't say anything, so I'm only going on what I saw, so I wont be going out to buy any pink clothes any time soon! wink

WLmum Tue 18-Dec-12 15:25:18

Thanks ladies. She has a bit of a look of dd1 only 2lbs heavier!

Names were so tricky, DH couldn't find anything he/we liked better than Tabitha so he had to concede! He got dibs on the middle name as it after a friend of his that passed away a couple of years ago. We're also going to have his fave name (Hebe) as a 2nd middle name. I really liked Hebe but just not quite enough!

So glad all is well backward


What a lovely name, and great weight! I bet its a relief to not be so pregnant anymore! My dd was 7lb6 but had tons of water and a huge placenta and I felt so uncomfortable. 9lb9oz wow! You were obviously the perfect home for her smile

Thanks for letting us know so soon, now rest up and enjoy all those much longed for snuggles. Xx

Good to hear things are going well backward those 6 weeks will fly by, trust me smile

GaryBuseysTeeth Tue 18-Dec-12 16:21:59

Congrats WL!!! 9lbs 9 made my bits go all funny, fantastic weight!
Hope you both have a short hospital stay & are out asap.

brew for state, when you finally get to put your feet up.

Mrsd77 Tue 18-Dec-12 18:20:28

Many congratulations WL

Good luck for tomorrow state

Thanks for asking 001 (whispers) I've not had any bleeding at all for two days and I'm puking like a good 'un!! My fingers are firmly crossed!!

Glad to hear relaxing is the order of the day for you!

welliesandpyjamas Tue 18-Dec-12 18:29:22

Oh, exciting times! Congratulations, WL!!!
Good vibes for tomorrow, state , will be thinking of you.

Haven't we all journeyed far together. Sigh. smile

001001 Tue 18-Dec-12 19:16:53

WL congratulations, so happy for you! Now looking forward to good news from state tomorrow, what a busy week!
Backward glad all went well, we didn't find out the sec but are having great fun trying to guess :-)
Pleased to hear sickness and nausea still abounds, all good signs, baby moving well here so feeling really positive, esp after all these new babies ( and not so new anymore babies, I'm looking at you wellies!)

BottleRed76 Tue 18-Dec-12 20:03:04


Room for a new one?
I recognise a couple of names on here from prev mc threads

Anyhoo..... Got BFP on Sunday after 2 early mc (March and July).
Absolutely shitting it....expect to see red/brown everytime I go to the loo.
Started taking baby aspirin as soon as I got BFP and hoping that together with a bit of luck this little bugger stays put!

Great to hear we have babies on this thread! Hoping the luck rubs off!

WLmum Wed 19-Dec-12 04:17:38

Welcome bottle, always room for one more. Congrats on ur bfp, as you say, hope this is ones a sticker. Take heart from the likes of state, Swansea, bonzo and I who were all freaking out and now have lovely (if noisy and not asleep - hence my 4am post!) babies - or almost - best of luck state, look forward to hearing. Xx

Welcome bottle as WL said always room for one more smile we need new people to keep chatting once the grads get busy with babies!

So d-day is here! I'm so nervous! Will report back later! Thank you ALL for being there when I've needed to cry vent and rant over the past months!

bonzo77 Wed 19-Dec-12 07:32:11

State, have a safe delivery, enjoy!

001001 Wed 19-Dec-12 07:45:46

Good luck state, look forward to hearing of a safe delivery x

Well I'm all ready in maternity ward, just waiting to go! Every minute seems like hours!

GaryBuseysTeeth Wed 19-Dec-12 08:08:36

Welcome Bottle!

Good luck today State, hope they're coming to you soon (assume you're an AM booked CS)?

gemdrop84 Wed 19-Dec-12 08:11:41

Welcome to the thread bottle, best wishes for today state big hugs to you!!

MrsReiver Wed 19-Dec-12 08:40:17

Welcome to the thread Bottle - always room for one more and we're sending you lots of sticky vibes.

State - good luck! I'm at the hospital this morning so will be rushing home to check for your announcement xxxx

Just waiting for a quick chat with the surgeon then we'll head down!

AlphaBeta2012 Wed 19-Dec-12 08:55:39

Good luck state!!! :-) Sending you big hugs and looking forward to hearing your news later!
Welcome bottle - I took baby aspirin this time after 3 MCs and this one has stuck in so far, no idea if it was down to the baby aspirin or not but something certainly made the difference this time! Keep fingers crossed for a sticky one for you!

BottleRed76 Wed 19-Dec-12 09:31:29

Good Luck State How exciting!!!

Alpha Were you advised to use aspirin by a consultant? I've just taken it off my own back but Dr was very positive about trying it and said she felt that in 5 years it would be used more widely during pregnancy.... Lovely Dr but she's on maternity leave now!! I got dissolving aspirin by mistake and it's Yakkkky but I love hearing about people who've used it after MCs and are well in to their pregnancies - really perks me up!

I'm taking may last day of holiday today waiting in for a parcel and taking the opportunity to be all mental in the privacy of my own home.

Both my MCs were about 19 days following getting a ovu symbol on my CBFM, which means DDay for me will be this Saturday!!! Also at both MCs I had blood tests which showed HCG levels were really really low. So, pondering over this at 3am this morning I did another pg test (the one which gives conception time) thinking that if it showed 2-3 weeks I could relax a bit......but no, it still says 1-2 weeks! Which isn't necessarily anything to get any more worried about than I already am (they're not very accurate) but not quite what I was hoping for.

Just want to know it's going to be OK this time but no one can guarantee that.

Think a mince pie might make me feel a bit better... smile

Very pleased to announce the safe arrival of Lily Mary Hope at 10.03am today weighing 8lb3oz x

001001 Wed 19-Dec-12 12:14:42

Yaaaaaaaaay! Congratulations state xx

BottleRed76 Wed 19-Dec-12 12:25:36

Congratulations State!!
Well done!

AlphaBeta2012 Wed 19-Dec-12 12:29:01

Ohhh huge congratulations State!!! So loving this thread and all the good news recently!! Beautiful name and another lovely weight! grin

Bottle - I was advised by the EPU to take the aspirin, but it was as a 'well you could try this as it won't cause any harm and can help'.

I asked my Dr to run a HCG check on my blood at about 5-6 weeks as well to make sure levels were rising as had simialr experience to you. Sending you best of luck vibes!

GaryBuseysTeeth Wed 19-Dec-12 12:40:25

Hurrah! Congratulations State, welcome to the world Lily Super rabbit!!

Feeling very pregnant today as I've almost thrown up twice. Didn't have morning sickness with DS so this is fun.

Bottle, hope you get your 2-3 (and 3+) wks soon!
Fingers crossed you get past this Saturday without any cause for alarm.

welliesandpyjamas Wed 19-Dec-12 12:47:34

Whoop whoop! Massive congratulations, state! Ever so pleased for you and your lovely little family. A lovely little girl, eh smile How are you feeling (apart from very happy!)? X

bonzo77 Wed 19-Dec-12 12:57:35

State, wonderful news! Now for a new round of worrying. You know, even with DS2 in NICU it was less of a worry than being pregnant!

gemdrop84 Wed 19-Dec-12 13:03:56

oh state I'm welling up here thanks congratulations to you and your family- what a lovely name!! grin

Exhausted and sore, but she is perfect, looks a lot like dd. Is feeding brilliantly! I feel relaxed for the first time in months smile x

wifey6 Wed 19-Dec-12 13:30:11

Congratulations state...what a beautiful name for your baby daughter. Best wishes to you all x x

elliejjtiny Wed 19-Dec-12 13:43:07

Welcome bottle. I'm 11 weeks so remember the terrified feeling well. I managed to get a dating scan last week so I'm slightly calmer now.

Good luck state. Looking forward to hearing your news.

elliejjtiny Wed 19-Dec-12 13:46:18

oops, cross post, congratulations state. Lovely name, Lily is on my girls middle name list.

BottleRed76 Wed 19-Dec-12 14:20:29

Thanks Alpha, Gary and Ellie
I did post something a few hours ago which has vanished! How rude!!

Spoke to the Gyne ER where I went during my MCs and they are happy to do bloods if I want. Going to have a little think and go in Friday morning. They'll also do an early scan at 6 weeks if I want!

I also just found this www.youtube.com/watch?v=_2MFFzldkYQ which made me realise how amazing it is just to get where I am now. I should try and enjoy it rather than worrying about what could go wrong.

MrsReiver Wed 19-Dec-12 14:46:13

HUGE congratulations State Family, and welcome to the world Lily. I'm so, so happy for you!

Right who's next? grin

WLmum Wed 19-Dec-12 14:57:17

Congrats state wonderful news! Welcome lovely lily So glad to hear it's all going well.

bonzo is yr baby boy home with you now?

sundaesundae Wed 19-Dec-12 15:06:57

Congrats State!! How wonderful xx

gemdrop84 Wed 19-Dec-12 17:47:57

I wish it was me mrsr grin due 4 wks tomorrow, it's coming along quick!!

Mrsd77 Wed 19-Dec-12 19:03:55

Congratulations State!

Eek State congratulations, what a gorgeous name grin

001001 Wed 19-Dec-12 19:32:53

Forgot to say welcome bottle and good luck for Sat, one small hurdle at a time! Mrsd glad baby is still where it should be :-)

Gem are you next? Do we really have to wait 4 weeks? Seems like forever. Ellie good to hear you have had a reassuring dating scan, lovely to see it on the screen.

32 weeks today!

bonzo77 Wed 19-Dec-12 20:18:12

wl we got DS2 home last Friday and are starting to feel settled. I spent last Thursday night in a side room with him on SCBU, which was good practice. I'd forgotten how although the nights are exhausting, you do get used to it and manage. And last night DH fed him at about 0030, I did at about 0300 and then DS1 woke us all up at 0730!, so a decent stretch of sleep. DS1 loves him and always wants to stroke and hold him. He does get very upset when the baby cries as he thinks baby is very very sad because he's so loud! Empathy at such a young age: [proud mummy emoticon]. grin

gemdrop84 Wed 19-Dec-12 22:09:11

I think so 001, although I wish I didn't have to wait 4 wks, honestly can't wait to meet him! Dp thinks he'll be early, I think I'll go over- he will come when he's good and ready, could be anytime really!! aww bonzo glad to hear little one is home and settling ok.

WLmum Thu 20-Dec-12 02:44:56

That's lovely news bonzo. A rightly proud mummy you are. X

BottleRed76 Thu 20-Dec-12 06:45:07

Sorry to start the day on a downer but off to local hospital today for bloods. Had small amount of browny discharge yesterday evening which could be nothing but could also be beginning if early mc. Either way, I want to know. Im so hypersensitive to any twinge I can't tell what's real and what's imaginary.

AlphaBeta2012 Thu 20-Dec-12 08:40:51

Lovely news bonzo!

Sorry to hear that bottleRed, I hope you get positive results at the hospital. Will be thinking of you. x

WLmum Thu 20-Dec-12 09:11:00

Fx bottle

001001 Thu 20-Dec-12 09:12:54

Bottle fx for good news, whatever happens you know we all understand and are here if you need us.

Bonzo so glad you are both home!

BottleRed76 Thu 20-Dec-12 11:44:26

Bloody brilliant local hospital and lovely Gynae Nurse! They're always great.

Nurse did bloods for HCG, infection and blood count which I have to call back for this afternoon but she also took swabs and thinks It may be a slight infection. She said my cervix is closed (air punch!) and no sign of any blood coming through it TMI?

I was actually going to say I didn't want an internal as I was so sure there was no point. So glad I decided to have it. I've never had good news in that room before.

So, depending on HCG levels, I'll go back for bloods again Saturday and Monday to see if they are going up as they should. Fx
Had a quick chat about sticky blood as well. Was nice to actually speak to someone who knows about it rather than just reading about it on internet. From timing of last MCs I have a suspicion that it may have been a possible cause....

She did say that given my history it's normal I'd expect the worst but cervix being closed is a really good sign. And I've had a touch of cystitis which might have caused it....

Anyway..nervous wait for bloods..eeeek

Thanks for all good wishes. x

Bonzo Big congratulations!!

gemdrop84 Thu 20-Dec-12 12:30:50

hope the cystitis clears up for you soon bottle best wishes for blood results x

Mrsd77 Fri 21-Dec-12 17:53:22

Happy Friday everyone! Can I ask you wise women for some advice please?

I've just had another hcg result after the excitement of 10 days ago. It's in normal range for 7-8 weeks. Should be pleased but docs felt it was quite high initially and it isn't maintaining the same momentum as its increasing. Trying to tell myself to wind my neck in and that the symptoms are strong.

I know that hcg isn't an exact science but I was hoping for reassurance from it. Thanks blush

WLmum Fri 21-Dec-12 19:00:00

Sorry mrsd I dont know anything useful! You could try googling it or contacting the miscarriage association - assume they would know. Really hope it's nothing to worry about. X

Mrsd77 Fri 21-Dec-12 19:57:12

Ahhh thanks for replying WL. Particularly kind especially as you've had such a busy week!! Have had a google and it says the higher it is, the longer it takes to double. Logical I suppose.

The levels are v healthy anyway and went up significantly over ten days so I need to think positive! My sickness is still here and my boobs could kill a person. Think that after the mole etc I'm just desperate to not be disappointed again.

Thanks again for your kindness x

WLmum Fri 21-Dec-12 20:14:16

mrsd anytime. I'm lucky enough to have my baby here now but I totally remember and understand the early pg worries. I used to pee on cheap sticks randomly even though I knew it didn't mean a thing really, it just helped to see that line again.

Dr googles answer sounds logical so fx. X

001001 Sat 22-Dec-12 07:58:44

Mrsd sorry I have no idea about any of that stuff but as ling as it is rising and is on the high side it is a good sign?

I am 32+ weeks and still panicky at times! I think you will properly relax when baby arrives and in the meantime, post here and ask questions, moan or be neurotic, it really does help!

HJBeans Sat 22-Dec-12 12:56:42

Hi Mrsd77. I've been doing the same google search on slower rising HCG as, after a perfect scan with strong HB on Wed, I got my levels back yesterday and they were ~12,000. Doc said those were high, but since I was over 2000 on Dec 2nd (dodgily measured via 3+ on a CBD), I would have expected them to be higher.

I've found mixed information - some saying a doubling rate should stay steady till about 8 weeks and some saying increase decreases in speed after about 6,000 and can slow down after 6 weeks. The bit I find most reassuring is that every source says that US is much more reliable at judging viability than HCG from the time a HB can be seen.

If I've remembered correctly, you've had a good HB at a scan a 6 weeks, so by the logic of 'US is more reliable' that should trump whatever your HCG results are. That said, well understand your anxiety as I've got just the same! All the best and will be hoping for good things for you. Do you have a follow-up scan scheduled or are you in the wait to 12w?

Mrsd77 Sat 22-Dec-12 13:25:02

Thanks 1001. I'm not a big forum user (not even got Facebook) but I find this group o gals really lovely.

Beans you remember correctly. Levels went from 26,000 at six weeks to 146,000 10 days later. These fall within "normal" and as I recall we're similar with DS. I also found similar articles to you that said scans win at a certain time and that it can slow down as the numbers get higher. My DH made me laugh and said, well it has to slow down some time, it can't just keep doubling at this rate!!!!! Bless him!

I've just thrown up behind the car during the Christmas food shop. I'm keeping positive!!! Got to wait til 12 week scan on 23rd. Booking with midwife on 3rd Jan. I just want to have a calm Christmas. DS is three and a half and really into it for the first time.

Fx for all ladies on here for the same x

MrsReiver Sat 22-Dec-12 17:58:55

Mrsd - I have no idea about HCG levels at all, but the fact it's rising seems like good news. I have everything crossed for you.

I think this is the last Christmas we have with DS believing in the man in the red suit, he's 8 years old and already questioning it.

I can't fault his logic; he asked me the other day if Santa was real. I said "what do you think?" he said "well says it's just Mum and Dad who buy the presents, but you're saving for a house and the baby's coming in February so I don't think you'd spend that much money on me right now...."

Fair enough son. I'll let him believe that if he wants to grin

McBobby Sun 23-Dec-12 09:42:01

Is this the right group for me??

I had surgery on Thursday to remove a six week ectopic pregnancy and ruptured fallopian tube. I still have one tube and two ovaries.

Just looking for somewhere where people understand really.

I want to try again as soon as sensible. I already have a three year old boy and feel very lucky in lots of ways.

If this is not the right forum could you please direct me to the right one?

AlphaBeta2012 Sun 23-Dec-12 12:08:58

Hi mcbobby,
Welcome and I am really so sorry for what you've been through. You'll find lots of people on this thread who have been through a number of losses for lots of different reasons and really understand the anxieties and worries!
I think there is also an ectopic loss thread in pregnancy as well.
I use a number of different threads and it really has helped after 3 losses and now 18 weeks pregnant.

AlphaBeta2012 Sun 23-Dec-12 12:09:01

Hi mcbobby,
Welcome and I am really so sorry for what you've been through. You'll find lots of people on this thread who have been through a number of losses for lots of different reasons and really understand the anxieties and worries!
I think there is also an ectopic loss thread in pregnancy as well.
I use a number of different threads and it really has helped after 3 losses and now 18 weeks pregnant.

McBobby Sun 23-Dec-12 23:19:21

Thank you. I'll search out the ectopic loss thread.

And congratulations!

welliesandpyjamas Mon 24-Dec-12 10:07:55

Hi, just popping in to wish everyone a peaceful Christmas smile

State are you home for Christmas? X

BottleRed76 Mon 24-Dec-12 11:36:15

Hi all,
Just popped in quickly to wish everyone a very very Merry Christmas and a healthy, happy and LUCKY New Year

Been keeping my head down and my mentalness all to myself.
Just been for last of three HCG bloods this morning. So far we've had 198 on Thurs and 515 on Saturday. Was told the other day that a count of 1500 would be high enough to see a heartbeat on a scan but today told must be at least 6 weeks. So fingers crossed I can have that done next week.
Would be nice to just relax and start getting excited.

McBobby Sorry to hear what you've been through. Hope you find some comfort here. xxx

MrsReiver Mon 24-Dec-12 14:47:07

State has started an awesome campaign against Bounty and said on that thread she was home.

Can't reply to all the posts as am on the app and typing is awful. I just want to wish everyone a peaceful and stress free Christmas xxxxx

HJBeans Mon 24-Dec-12 22:29:11

Just a quick Merry Christmas, all. Hope you have a lovely day with friends and family. Xx

001001 Mon 24-Dec-12 22:45:25

Merry Christmas all and healthy babies in the new year!

gemdrop84 Mon 24-Dec-12 23:05:13

merry christmas everyone smile have a lovely day xx

Merry christmas everyone!

The thread dropped off tio so I lost it briefly.

We went home friday afternoon, lily is an absolute dream and I just can't get enough of her. She's feeding really well and slept 4hrs straight last night. I still can't believe she's here and mine, and a week old tomorrow!

HJBeans Wed 26-Dec-12 00:24:29

What a fantastic holiday message, state! I'm so glad to know you're enjoying your wee girl. Xx

WLmum Thu 27-Dec-12 19:30:28

I lost the thread too and have only just found a minute to search for it.

So glad it's all going well state, I also can't believe Tabitha is over a week already! Big girls are loving her which is great, we're having to work quite hard at the feeding, so I'm now considerinf myself as graduated from this thread, and am hanging out on bfing support instead!

Just wanted to say thanks so much for all the support this thread and it's lovely ladies have given me, it would have been so much harder without you all. state you're a total star!

All the very best to those of you still cooking, I'll keep my fingers crossed that everything works out for you all - I will pop back now and then for a sneaky check!

Merry Christmas all, hope 2013 is the best yet. Xxxx

MrsReiver Thu 27-Dec-12 20:03:40

I am officially panicking! All year I've been saying "we'll get organised after Christmas" and now it's after Christmas and it feels like we have so much to do - EEEK!!!

WL and State - huge congratulations on your gorgeous girls, and on "graduating" from the thread. I can't wait to bump into you on BFing support among other boards in a few weeks grin

Mrs it will all come together, honestly! I wasn't ready until the night before, literally last minute dash. How much longer is it now?

A lovely post WL I feel the same, there's a december post natal thread aswell, come say hi when you have time, I avoided the ante natal ones mostly but now its nice to speak to others at the same stage!

I honestly don't know what I'd have done without every member of this thread this year, my highs, lows and irrational fears have all been calmed by posting here, I'll still pop back from time to time but obviously can't be as active poster as before as the bump has gone (I miss the bump soooooo much) I really hope all of the pregnant ladies here continue this thread on and it sees many more healthy pregnancys and babies. Best of luck and lots of love to all of you! <Hormonal soppy sod>

As for me, Lilys still fantastic, feeding well, sleeping well --if she can be on me 24/7 she's the perfect baby wink-- slowly settling in with the older two, the chaos of christmas and school holidays has made things a bit um rockier than I'd hoped but we will get there.

001001 Fri 28-Dec-12 09:28:51

MrsReiver I feel the same! Have a chest of drawers being delivered today and have been given loads of baby clothes by friends (karma, I gave all my stuff away after ds as had nowhere to store it) and think will feel more ready when I have stuff washed and in drawers. I have bought newborn nappies, a friend is giving me her Moses basket and I already have a pram and a carseat so baby will have somewhere to sleep, a way to travel and clothes and nappies to wear, that's all I need. Now to get it all sorted in the right place!

DSs cotbed will go back into a cot for baby so also have a proper bed arriving for him today, how grown up he will seem next to baby!

Once the new year comes will only have 6 weeksleft to go, want time to fly now, especially as I am getting practical things ready and feel a bit like I am tempting fate... Can't wait til baby is here!

Hi all, I lost you there, hope you had a lovely Christmas! I'm 30 weeks today and now into single week figures! 9 weeks to go...! It's all getting a bit real.

001 and backward it only seems like yesterday I was at the same stage and I felt like it was lasting forever, now Lily is 9 days old!!

MrsReiver Fri 28-Dec-12 17:28:23

Shh state, 8 weeks is aaaaaaaaaaages. Really. Honest. It's forever.

I think we're actually much more organised that it feels like, brothers are bringing up a moses basket next week, I've ordered a large stash of nappies, I've got a whole pile of newborn clothes from a lovely friend who was clearing out her attic and lots of hand knits from when DS was tiny.

We just need to get a chest of drawers (PIL are sorting that), some sposie nappies for first couple of weeks and order the car seat and pram we've chosen. Oh and a mattress for the moses basket.

And I need to wash my slings, and the nappies when they arrive. And go into The Cupboard Under The Stairs to retrieve the baby blankets etc.

It'll be fine. DS is back to school on the 7th so I'll get cracking then. Loads of time. Ages. Yonks. It'll be fine.

You will be fine!

I've still not dug out the sheets/blankets etc for Lily, she was given a couple of blankets as a gift and I had to buy new sheets for the pram as its a different size to the last one I had, ill get round to it eventually... I got the carseat and base when I was about 34wks, adapters for the pram days before she arrived, it will come together!

I dug my sling out on christmas day, she loved it and slept for ages! Still after a close caboo one though.

001001 Fri 28-Dec-12 21:19:12

<covets close caboo that arrived today>


MrsReiver Fri 28-Dec-12 22:43:26

What sling do you have State? Does it have to be a close. caboo? there are usually plenty of Mobys on ebay.

I have a Moby and a R&R. Can't wait to use them! grin

I've got a freedom ring sling, mei tei and dp has a bushbaby structured one for when they're bigger.

What are mobys like? I hear a lot about them but never come across one

CatchingMockingbirds Fri 28-Dec-12 23:23:12

When does the worrying end? I'm 18+3 and getting my gender scan tomorrow, I have a bump and have been feeling the little one wriggling around and kicking for a couple of weeks now but am still terrified of seeing the look on the sonographer's face telling me it's bad news.

MrsReiver Sat 29-Dec-12 09:10:33

Very similar fabric to Close Caboo except you tie it on rather than tighten it with the rings on the caboo. The enormous length of fabric can be off putting, but once you get the hang of it it's really easy, and because it's stretchy it's "poppable" so you can pre tie it and pop the baby in.

R&Rs are absolutely gorgeous, what fabric is yours Possum?

MockingBirds, sadly (in my experience) it doesn't. I get stressed out before every scan, or if I don't feel the baby move for an hour or so. You get better at coping with it though. Good luck for today!

It's the one on the right in this picture, MrsR - very cute!

MockingBirds for me it was after the 20 week scan - but I'm lucky in that I've never experienced a late loss, so it's different for everyone I suppose.

CatchingMockingbirds Sat 29-Dec-12 17:10:26

Everything went well today, and I'm having a girl smile, now I just need to get the 20 week detailed scan out of the way and I'll hopefully relax!

gemdrop84 Sat 29-Dec-12 17:25:56

Mockingbird I can't say the worry ever goes but you do get better at coping with it. Wishing you all the best for your scan. I hope everyone's had a nice christmas and is doing well, so happy for you and your families state&wl Glad little ones are settling and everything's ok. I had midwife appt on thurs. My bp is raised slightly, midwife says she's not overly concerned but as it's high for me I'm going back on Mon to check it again. She told me to go in to hosp if I develop headaches/blurred vision or start getting heartburn, bit concerned as to why it's up but I suppose it's one of those things. Been nesting lately, strange as never had it with dd! Been sorting out Seth's room, made up his crib and been sorting his clothes out. Hospital bag is packed- just need to buy some nappies and I'm all ready for him!! grin

gemdrop84 Sat 29-Dec-12 17:27:21

congratulations mockingbird glad it went ok, oooh a little girl, how exciting!! smile

MrsReiver Sat 29-Dec-12 19:57:25

Mockingbird I'm so glad everything went well, another little pink bundle.

Gem, take it as easy as you can and try not to worry.

We've ordered a cot - it feels very, very real.

Congratulations mocking grin the worrying never stopped for me I'm afraid, even as she was being delivered I was freaking out!

Hope the bp drops soon gem mine was raised at the end with all 3, not high but high for me and all was ok, how much longer now?

Lilys doing great, although she's slept nearly all day and is wide awake now so I'm expecting a tough night <yawns>

001001 Sat 29-Dec-12 22:30:39

Yay mocking, getting very jealous now of everyone who knows what sex they are having, seems to make it very real.

Gem hope bp is back to normal Monday

What are people doing about visitors after the birth? Both sets of parents 200 miles away, last time they all came when I was in labour and were there when I got home from hospital 12 hours later, was lovely to show off ds but am convinced that it contributed to failing to bf, having to disappear to do so. This time as my dad is no longer with us, my mum is coming to stay to look after ds but I love my inlaws and don't want them to feel left out but at the same time they are in their 80s and so cannot just pop over for half an hour. Am starting to really worry, how do I not exclude them but also make sure I can be half naked bfing and not worry about bleeding etc with an audience? It is not just because they are inlaws, if my dad was around I would not be comfortable in front of him either!

Baby really wriggling now, have to keep reminding myself that the pain and discomfort is worth it!

AlphaBeta2012 Sun 30-Dec-12 07:05:14

Good morning all, hope everyone had a nice christmas!
Congrats on good news stories!
Mockingbird you and I must be due very close to one another. I'm 18wks and 1 day now. Baby moving loads! Scan on 14th, hopefully we'll find out what it is, though i am absolutely convinced it will be another boy to join ds1. I am desperately waiting for the 'blooming' stage to begin! I am still being sick every morning, chest is swollen to resemble the himalayers and can't be touched, and still constantly tired!! Not moaning though as just so grateful little one doing this well. I personally love having my doppler as everytime I get a silly worry I can just tune on in to the HB (though this isn't replacing movement monitoring etc!)

gemdrop84 Sun 30-Dec-12 10:45:29

Thanks ladies, dp has been amazing and I haven't done much other than play with dd with her new toys so hopefully it won't be too high towards the end! state I'm 37+3 so not long at all!! I keep having a push of Seth's pram everytime I go past it, can't wait to meet him!! 001 not sure what we are planning to do about visitors, we had a few friends/relatives turn up nearly everyday for a week after dd was born. It was nice to show her off. I'd prefer to be left alone just us 4 this time for a couple of days, but it depends how labour goes and how I feel after. Hope your scan goes well alpha smile

MrsReiver Sun 30-Dec-12 23:59:09

Just seen a trailer for One Born Every Minute, I'm so pleased I can watch it again without crying from envy and grief.

HOWEVER, one of the midwives makes a comment about Fifty Shades. Would I be unreasonable to put a note at the start of my birth plan stating "this is NOT a Fifty Shades of Shite baby" grin grin grin

Haha, MrsR I've had a few comments from friends about that!! hmm

MrsReiver Mon 31-Dec-12 00:15:10

Anyone who knows me, knows better than to mention that. My opinion on the books is pretty well known smile

Beckett3 Mon 31-Dec-12 10:48:30

Would it be ok to join? I need to get this out even though I'm not sure what it will/what i hope it will accomplish.

I'm 8w6d pregnant, this is my 8th pregnancy, I have 3 children. My last 2 pregnancies ended in mc, one being March this year.

I've been bleeding mostly brown blood since I was 7w3d, sometimes a streak of red, Christmas eve a bit more than a streak. I thought that was it.

Went for a scan 3 days ago and after a lot of prodding there was a heartbeat, I really couldn't believe it, still not sure I do. Doctor suggested plenty of rest, which I have been mostly managing to do. However this morning I woke up to quite a bit of bright red blood.

I just don't know what to think anymore, nothing like this has happened in any of my other pregnancies.

Has anything like this happened to anyone else?

001001 Mon 31-Dec-12 23:01:18

Beckett no advice I'm afraid, hopefully someone on this thread will be able to reassure you. Sorry to hear about your mcs, what did the doctor say to do if you started bleeding? Have you got a 12 week scan date yet? Will keep fx for you x

Here's to a happier new year with lots of good news for us all!

gemdrop84 Tue 01-Jan-13 13:33:25

Sorry to hear about the previous mc's beckett welcome to the thread, haven't had that experience myself re bleeding previously but sure one of the ladies may be able to offer some advice. Best wishes for a healthy happy pg to you. Midwife appt went well, bp's down, no more protein in urine, bloods ok but iron still bit low so increasing my tablets and Seth is now 4/5 engaged. Thought he had as been getting back pain and can't stop weeing. He's a wriggler so I'm sure he won't stay there!! grin Happy new year to you all, wish you all the best and hope 2013 brings good news for you xx

MrsReiver Tue 01-Jan-13 19:40:42

Beckett I'm so sorry to hear about your mcs, how are you doing today? I have everything crossed for you.

Gem - sounds like things are getting ready, so exciting. DH just said to me earlier "we're having a baby next month" and I needed a lie down. It's so close!

bonzo77 Tue 01-Jan-13 19:56:00

becket so sorry for your losses. Your current situation must be very worrying, as if pregnancy after mc wasn't hard enough. You know the doctor was wrong don't you? By all means rest. It won't hurt. But if you have a sticky one it will stick anyway. And if not...... Advice like you were given is damaging. If the worse happens it adds to the guilt "if only I had done X...." When I went in with bleeding I have always asked what I could do, I have always been told nothing. Carry on as normal as best you can.

There is one thing you can do, sort of. Studies show that after a previous mc, regular scans from an early stage in subsequent pregnancies give a better outcome. So push for those scans, or pay to go privately. I probably averaged one scan every 3 weeks during my last pregnancy, maybe more.

Beckett3 Thu 03-Jan-13 08:09:58

Thank you for all your replies.

The reason I've been been able to rest is because I've been ill too, yesterday was my first day in 5 days that I had energy enough to be up and about, in fact I probably over did it a bit and late afternoon I had a bit more red blood on wiping.

I have my first appointment with the midwife today so I'm hoping to discuss it all with them.

001001 Thu 03-Jan-13 19:13:08

How did the mw appt go Beckett?

Gem very exciting, and after you there seem to be a few in quick succession, looking positive!

grainmum Fri 04-Jan-13 12:02:22

Back again - been lurking for a while and taking great comfort in the new births! Beckett I hope your midwife appointment went well and you've been able to get some reassurance that all is OK.

18 weeks here - started to get some movements earlier in the week which was lovely - however it's only a source of more worry isn't it? Is baby moving as much today, does it feel the same etc etc etc. I can feel where baby is in my uterus at times and the position of that changes - and then I get this image of a floating sleeping baby sad. Anyway, I must try to be positive and hopefully the midwife will have good news with the doppler on Monday... silly part of my head is trying to come up with contingency plans of how I would sort out my afternoon's work if there's bad news.

I have some nice plans for the weekend so hopefully that will be a distraction - other suggestions welcome!

Beckett3 Sat 05-Jan-13 07:23:01

Midwife went ok, she couldn't tell me any reason for the bleeding but did ask a bit about my cervix?

I also am dehydrated and have protein in my urine, she's sent a sample off to the hospital.

I know the reason for the dehydration, I haven't been at all well and just when I was starting to get better my dad was taken into hospital, he's had a minor heart attack, on top of that he's the main carer for my disabled mum, so obviously I've taken over all of that.

So my newest question is, could being ill, or under lots of stress cause the protein, or should I be worried about that too?

Thanks again for listening to me.

leeloo1 Sat 05-Jan-13 19:04:50

I've spent the last 2 days reading through the thread (congratulations to those who have babies now and fingers crossed for everyone still waiting) and am hoping to join for a bit of hand holding and to ask how on earth you get through the days?!

I've been trying ttc for 2 years and this year I've had 1 v early mc (period a week late and no more + tests) and 1 mmc - found out by a scan after slight spotting at almost 8 wks (literally 3 spots, if I hadn't noticed them I'm sure I'd have gone on til my 12 wk scan without realising anything was wrong) - at the scan the baby measured 6wks and there was no heartbeat. Then I had the worst weeks of my life, living on tenterhooks to see what happened in the next 10 days before the follow up scan... I had all day-sickness, so 'felt' pregnant, but next scan showed the placenta had grown but not the baby, so I had medical management, with the actual miscarriage on my birthday! What a fab way to celebrate.

So, I found out on Thursday I'm pregnant again (only 4 wks) and am already driving myself insane worrying! Half of me is thrilled and ecstatic, the other half is miserable and paranoid and convinced it'll all go wrong again! I did a cheapy test and it took a couple of minutes to come up, so I did another one today (why am I doing this to myself?!?) to see if it came up quicker/darker and I don't think it was really. sad I'm still having cramps, although they're not as bad as they were and I'm having nausea on and off, but not too bad.

Realistically I know I just have to wait and see what happens and all this testing and symptom spotting won't mean/change anything, but any advice on how I can try and focus on something else or keep sane during this wait would really be appreciated!

Many thanks and sorry for the dull essay!

Welcome to the thread leeloo, we'll be here with you every step of the way! The early weeks are so so difficult as it is really just a case of wait and see how things go. Try and rest as much as possible and vent away here as we've all been through it xx

MrsReiver Sat 05-Jan-13 20:07:12

Hi leeloo and congratulations on your BFP. We've all been in your shoes, and those early weeks are just excruciating. We'll all be here holding your hand and hoping for good news with you. I have everything crossed for you.

I've just realised you'll be due your 12 weeks scan around the time I'm due to have the baby - and really, that's no time, as people keep reminding me grin

All the best xxxx

leeloo1 Sat 05-Jan-13 20:20:59

Thanks so much both of you. Finding a place to vent with people who know what I'm going through is worth its weight in gold! Last time I had a bfp I told all my close friends and family blush and whilst their support was great I'm hesitant to tell them all again just yet in case it doesn't go well.

Wow MrsReiver - thats a great thought! Its so exciting to think that the 12wk scan - and your due date - are right round the corner. There's 2 fab things to look forward to there. grin

001001 Sun 06-Jan-13 17:43:11

gem can't believe that you are so close, am bvery jealous but love seeing the graduates of this thread, each one makes things seem as if they will be ok

grain Movements are lovely but sporadic at first and I think can make you worry more! In a few weeks hopefully it will be kicking you regularly! Will you find out what you are having?

alpha can't wait to hear what you are having, didn't want to find out myself but love hearing from other people, can't decide whether I want to know or not so opted for not but maybe regretting it now... Anyway, will find out soon enough, just over 5 weeks left now!

beckett can't help with the protein thing, but I think you just have to trust that the mw will let you know if there is anything you need to worry about and let everything else slide. I know that it is a totally different thing to say it than to heed it, but it is true. I hope you can soon start to really enjoy being pregnant.

leeloo no advice about getting through the first few months, denial worked for me! I found that absolutely nothing put my mind at rest, not even the 20 week scan. Now I am almost 35 weeks and can feel baby most of the time I am more relaxed, but still panic if I have not felt movement for a few hours. I never felt like this with DS so am guessing it is because I am aware now of what can go wrong. But statistics are on our side so am trying to stay positive. I can't imagine how badly you must want this after 2 years of ttc so will be keeping fx for you.

Really have to get on with dinner so can't name check any more but am thinking of you all, one day at a time x

gemdrop84 Sun 06-Jan-13 20:54:09

I wouldn't feel too jealous there 001 every day feels like a week, been having strong braxton hicks for last couple of days and I think Seth has engaged a little bit more as now I'm having stabby pains down there blush whenever I walk....ouch! I'm also feeling very grouchy and an emotional wreck! Getting ridiculously excited but the worry is always there....it never seems to leave me sad welcome leeloo, from experience I've just had to take one day/hour at a time as it can be overwhelming- congratulations on your bfp and best wishes to you for a health happy pg.

001001 Sun 06-Jan-13 21:34:05

Gem I read somewhere that pregnancy is not 9 months but 8 months and 1 year! Starting to feel time dragging already, just want to méet baby and check it really is safe and well. Good luck :-)

MrsReiver Sun 06-Jan-13 22:04:18

001 That sounds about right!

Gem I'm starting to get days like that, I swear the baby is playing with my cervix as the electric shocks I'm getting are distinctly uncomfortable.

Back to work on Tuesday, just 4 weeks until maternity leave - can't wait!

Reebok Sun 06-Jan-13 23:22:15

Hi all, mind if I join? I'm currently 12+2...had a mmc in July...spent many horrible weeks carrying around my dead baby whilst still experiencing symptons. It was awful. I'm really scared at the moment. I wasn't offered an early scan as I had no pain/bleeding this time...have my first scan tomorrow and I'm convinced it's all gone wrong again. I'm suffering from HG however it's started calming down. HG doesn't guarantee baby will be ok...I had it last time too. I guess I just need someone to hold my hand...someone who understands what I'm going through.

001001 Mon 07-Jan-13 07:22:17

Hi Reebok. Sorry you had such a difficult time last pregnancy, many of us has a mmc with no pain or bleeding so know that this in itself is not reassuring, will be thinking of you today, let us know how you get on. What time is your scan?

grainmum Mon 07-Jan-13 08:14:48

Thanks 001.

Hi Reebok. I also had a MMC in July, discovered at 10 weeks at a private scan. It's a horrible wait until the 12 week scan in a subsequent pregnancy and not many people understand what it's like - we didn't tell anyone that we were pregnant, but even DH couldn't quite work out why I seemed to be so down and negative. Really hoping that all goes well for you today. I've got my 20 week scan next week and although the statistics all say that the risks are much much less now I still have times of being stupidly anxious!

Good luck for your scan tomorrow, Reebok, mine was a mmc too but I did get an early scan this time around - not that it really made much of a difference as I still worried about the weeks between the early scan and the 12 week scan, then between 12 and 20... Really, just so so hard.

Just dropped DS off at school and it's bliss. 2 weeks of him not in routine is VERY stressful! Feet up with breakfast before I start blitzing the paperwork in my bedroom!

Reebok Mon 07-Jan-13 09:51:36

Thanks ladies. It helps to know that others know what I'm going through. Barely slept. 001, I didn't have pain/bleeding last time either but had to have an early scan as I had HG and being as sick as I was according to a+e was sympton of ectopic. This time, I asked for an early scan and was refused. You're right grain and backwards...this wait has been awful and doesn't help that I've been on bed rest since 6 weeks and signed off work because of HG.

001, my appointment is at 12.20...will let you all know how I get on either way.

Sorry, it's today! Well hoping to read your good news this afternoon! smile x

AlphaBeta2012 Mon 07-Jan-13 10:16:17

hi all,
Just checking in as haven't been on thread for a while. Welcome to the new ladies, sorry for your experiences and what you have been through. You will find a lot of support here.
Good luck Reebok, thinking of you. I miscarried in april, june and august, but am now happily and healthily 19w2 days (not that I'm counting! wink ). the 12 week scan is so nerve-wracking but also made so much more wonderful when you get that smile from the sonographer and you know all is ok.
20 week scan next week - I am still really anxious about this one and grainmum know exactly how you feel! I know stats are in my favour but very nervous! Also over the last 2 weeks I seem to have gone from looking 3mths pregnant to 7 mths pregnant! Midwife says little one is all at the front but i do look like I have rather large football smuggled under my top!

MrsReiver Mon 07-Jan-13 12:00:11

Oh Reebok good luck today - I'm looking forward to hearing good news from your scan later on smile

My bargainacious find of the weekend - these dresses from Asda.



They're not maternity but they are soooo stretchy and soooo comfortable. I'm usually a size 18 and got them in a 22 so they don't cling to every lump and bump. They look fab with leggings and boots and I can just see me living them over the next few weeks as my maternity jeans which I adore, are no longer very comfortable.

Reebok Mon 07-Jan-13 13:00:25

I'm sooo happy!! Baby is doing fine! Heard heartbeat and it was wriggling around! Never seen anything more amazing on my life!

AlphaBeta2012 Mon 07-Jan-13 13:04:13

wonderful news Reebok!! xx

MrsReiver Mon 07-Jan-13 13:29:31

That's great news, I'm really pleased for you! The high is wonderful isn't it?

001001 Mon 07-Jan-13 13:59:30

Great news Reebok, glad you had a happy scan!

Brilliant news Reebok!! grin

Reebok Mon 07-Jan-13 17:15:12

Thanks everyone. It was amazing and has made suffering from HG totally worth it! I couldn't believe my eyes when it started moving. I cried my eyes out like a baby.

So good to see so many of you doing well smile

leeloo1 Tue 08-Jan-13 19:13:44

Congratulations reebok! Fantastic that the scan went well - thats 1 big hurdle over - and you can look forward now to the 20wk one. I'm so pleased for you. grin

Thanks 001 I'll try the denial route and see how that goes. smile Its good to know I'm not the only person worrying about it all!

I'm now 4+5wks, so feel much more pregnant now I'm almost 5 weeks. hmm I'm trying to take it easy, sleep loads, eat well and just keep my fingers crossed, as realistically thats all I can do!

One thing is periodically bugging me though and I don't know if anyone has any experience of this? ... DH has had 2 lots of semen analysis done, the first one was deemed 'normal' by testers/GP, but 'borderline' by consultant - so she asked him to do a 2nd, some 4/5 months after the 1st. The 2nd came back with the comment 'suitable for ICSI' - & problems noted with low amount (about 1/2 of 1st), count (something like 7.8mil, 1st was 41.8mil) , viscosity and PH (8.5 both times).

But... the 2nd test was done the month before I got pregnant last time (which ended in mmc) - so its possible/probable/likely(? I'm speculating here) that there may have been a problem with the baby due to his sperm that made it non-viable?

I only got the test results (test was done in April) in December, as we cancelled the consultants appt in July as I was pregnant, then I buried my head in the sand for a while hoping to get pregnant again, then when I called in Dec to rebook the appt they couldn't book me in til the end of Feb, but gave me DH's test results.

... so having heard the results I didn't really expect to get pregnant and have been researching IVF/ICSI etc, but now I am...

...so, is there a chance that in the 8mths since the 2nd test DH's sperm are fighting fit again and that this baby has a chance of being ok? DH has been on a health kick for most of the year - taking vitamins, trying to eat well and has completely given up drinking. Or after a SA result like that am I kidding myself to even hope this baby will be ok?

Sorry, that's ended up being another essay. I hope it makes sense! And if anyone has any experience/advice I'd be grateful. I'm toying with the idea of trying to persuade DH to do another test (if gp will let him) to see if he's improved any... sad

gemdrop84 Tue 08-Jan-13 21:12:54

that's fab news reebok, don't have any advice ir experience about the tests etc leeloo but wish you well x

leeloo1 Tue 08-Jan-13 21:50:31

Lol, thats ok. As I was typing I did think it'd be unlikely anyone could help, but its cathartic to write it all out anyway. smile

Reebok Tue 08-Jan-13 22:11:40

Thanks gem. Sorry leeloo no advice here either but hopefully someone will be along soon with some help.

Reebok Tue 08-Jan-13 22:14:02

And thanks leeloo! Yes first hurdle has been passed so now I can look to the next one. smile

001001 Thu 10-Jan-13 20:28:35

Hi all,
Feeling really prepared now! Have got a car seat in the car (courtesy of a friend who has leant me a maxi cosi with a fixed base thing which looks excellent), nappies and clothes all put away in spare room which baby will sleep in eventually, moses basket coming in a couple of weeks from my sister, yay! Last time, went to get in the car to go home from hospital and had forgotten to check how to loosen and tighten car seat straps so spent about 15 mins fiddling with stuff so trying to solve any problems ahead of time.

Saw midwife on Monday, asked her if baby is on its way but no such luck, really mored of pregnancy now, want to meet the new addition. DS is convinced it is a boy, more specifically a baby named Joe after we visited a friend with her new baby called Joe hmm so have been chatting about how it could be a boy or a girl and that we willl choose a name when it arrives. My DH's family is full of boys so am assuming another but have no idea, some people say they have an inkling but I have no feelings at all, can't wait to find out though!

leeloo sorry, another one with no advice but thinking that way can't hurt. In my last pregnancy I was given a downs risk of 1 in 260 which although not counted as high risk was way higher than any of my other pregnancy figures so I have sort of convinced myself there was a chromasomal abnormality, even though the post mortem came back negative, as it makes me feel better like there was nothing I could have done about it. My dad had died a few weeks earlier and I had had a few drinks and cigarettes so was looking to pass the buck...

Hope all is well smile

001 the carseat bases are fab, never had one before but its made life so much easier this time, we have a britax one. My ds insisted Lily was a boy and he was calling him Noah, he was a bit disapointed when he wasn't!

Lilys doing great, put on 1lb in 9 days so I assume that means the bfing is going ok smile she's now 9lb exactly.

AlphaBeta2012 Fri 11-Jan-13 12:18:59

I love my carseat and base, was brilliant with DS1. As we had a bit of time at home last we've just started getting the baby bits out to look at what needs replacing and what doesn't though I am a bit worried we have 21wk scan on monday so I hope we've not cursed ourselves!
Also saw a great bargain on a co-sleeper crib which i was desperate for this time so brought that as well! Keeping everything crossed for all positive news on monday. Little ones kicks away frantically frequently so hopefully he/she is not is too bad a shape. I am convinced it is a second boy, DH is convinced it is a girl - at least one of us will be right!
Glad everything is going well state. grin

grainmum Fri 11-Jan-13 14:34:00

alpha hope your scan goes well on Monday. Mine is on Tuesday, looking forward to it and not too worried - yet! I'm getting bigger by the minute - I think I'll have to relent and get some more maternity wear.

AlphaBeta2012 Fri 11-Jan-13 14:38:25

Me too grainmum, I feel huge! and bump really sticks out - it almost looks like a point. when I tell poeple I am only 20 weeks i get all the typical comments of 'what, really' are you having twins', or 'but your huge!' got to love people's levels of tact!!

MrsReiver Fri 11-Jan-13 14:44:01

Oh Alpha it just sucks doesn't it? As soon as you're pregnant people seem to think they have a licence to comment on your size.

I was getting those comments at 20 weeks, but I've hardly grown any in that time so now I get "you're so neat" or "is the baby small?" Now I've had lots of growth scans because DS was prem, so fortunately I know damn well the baby is actually on the big side of the scale. But if I didn't know that, comments like "the baby must be awfully small" accompanied with a worried face, would freak me out!!!

Grr. Rant over. And now I have to do the school run and encounter the worst offenders.

AlphaBeta2012 Fri 11-Jan-13 14:59:19

It does get me down every now and then, I was conscious enough of my body and weight before this as I never lost all the weight from DS1 so was a size 14 before falling pregnant when I'm happy at size 12, but then I have to remind myself that we are blessed to have got this far after the losses so try to ignore everyone!
Good luck with the school run!!!

bonzo77 Fri 11-Jan-13 15:28:17

I hated the size comments. I was very small with both. When people commented I'd sometimes say something facetious ("I know, I'm starving myself so baby is smaller and easier to push out"), and sometimes the truth (" I am aren't I? I'm being monitored at the doctors are concerned").

The car seat bases are great. Make getting the seat in and out much easier. If you can get adaptors to put the car seat on the buggy that's les things even easier.

bonzo77 Fri 11-Jan-13 15:38:10

At? ^as*

Les? makes

MrsReiver Fri 11-Jan-13 16:35:57

The only comment I got was from someone telling me I was glowing, and looked really healthy. THAT kind of observation I like! grin

AlphaBeta2012 Fri 11-Jan-13 17:11:47

Ah that's nice mrs R.
Ds, almost 2, has just come up to me kissed my belly and called 'hello baby' into my belly button! Very cute!

AlphaBeta2012 Fri 11-Jan-13 17:11:49

Ah that's nice mrs R.
Ds, almost 2, has just come up to me kissed my belly and called 'hello baby' into my belly button! Very cute!

My goodness I have such a wriggly baby in there. DS was like this and he can't sit still for 2 mins. I'm in for another crazy kid, aren't I?

gemdrop84 Sun 13-Jan-13 11:19:01

Aww that's so cute alpha Have one here too backward, going to miss his not-so-little wriggles inside me! Had a bit of a false alarm on friday, woke up feeling really really energetic, took dd to nursery, had to clean, did washing and then took dd/dog out for a long walk in park. Started having bh and pain in my back. Thought this is it!! grin Got home, had a load of pain/pressure, pretty much doubled over in pain, I honestly thought my waters were going to to go. DD excitedly packed her overnight bag for grandmas and then it all stopped after an hour hmm Then felt really grumpy and exhausted for the rest of the day. Never mind!

See gem, cleaning is bad for you.

gemdrop84 Sun 13-Jan-13 18:03:04

ha ha yep definitely!! grin

jollytummywobbles Sun 13-Jan-13 18:08:40

Hello, can I join you? Pregnancy #15(!) for me! Am 4+3 with this one (4+5 with ovulation dates). Have lost the last 9 between. 4/5 weeks, but this one feels so different, scorning sickness, nausea, heartburn the lot. And a strong line on the test- has normally started to fade if not disappeared by now have 1 dc already who was my 5th pregnancy.

jollytummywobbles Sun 13-Jan-13 18:16:25

Apologies for spelling and punctuation on post, am on phone!

001001 Sun 13-Jan-13 20:42:57

Hi jolly and welcome! Sorry to hear how hard it has been for you to get your 2nd dc, fx this is your time and we will be here to support you all the way. With your history, do you get any extra tests? Have you been given a reason for the losses?

I have received my birthing ball in the post- what do I do with it??? Baby is back to back apparently so have been kneeling leaning over it but when I sit on it am I supposed to bounce? Rock? Any ideas? 35+4 today, come on baby!

Gem, here's hoping next time is the real thing! Good luck :-)

HJBeans Sun 13-Jan-13 20:49:02

Welcome jtw, congrats on your BFP and sorry you've occasion, so many times over, to be on this thread. It's hard for me at 'only' 2 m/c to really fathom all you've been through and how rotten this week must be for you after so many losses all at the same time. This is a great thread for support, though, and has been a good source of support for me through my pg 'black spot' (around 6 weeks). Hope it is for you as well and wishing you all the best with this pregnancy.

Mrsd77 Mon 14-Jan-13 12:40:50

Hi all. Been lurking for a few weeks. Now starting to panic. I have my 12 week scan next Wednesday and am totally petrified. I convinced myself I wouldn't get to this stage and just concentrated on not having a messy miscarriage over Christmas and new year so as not to spoil anything for my ds. I spent the festive period as sick as a dog and then had my booking in appointment the first week in Jan.

The midwife was lovely and supportive re my concerns even though I felt like an utter fraud going to see her. I wanted to be careful to not sound like an utter nut case!

Anyway, still dog tired and boobs sore but horrific nausea seems to be disappearing. I know that's "normal" but with my only successful pg I was sick til 26 weeks - that's my normal!

My dh tells me he's 95% excited and convinced all will be well, but I just can't see it. The idea of getting another pitiful look from a sonographer makes me want to hide in the corner. I don't want to spend £100 on a private scan.

I know there's nothing anyone can do, I just needed to rant.

Sorry to be "me me me!"

grainmum Mon 14-Jan-13 13:06:34

welcome Mrsd! There's no real way to get through this difficult time - just trying to distract yourself I found was best - make sure you've got something planned to do tomorrow. Remember that you're more likely to have a normal scan than a missed miscarriage and try to hold onto that thought. Keeping everything crossed for you!

Also there are lots of positive stories on this thread (and everyone has experienced similar feelings). For me I had a miscarriage in July and now have 20 week scan tomorrow - feeling lots of movements so I'm actually feeling quite positive now.

AlphaBeta2012 Mon 14-Jan-13 13:51:22

Hi All,
Had 20 week scan today, very healthy little boy who appears to be a little camera shy apart from in one area! Put it this way even if we hadn't wanted to know what the gender was we have worked it out! grin

MrsD it is a scary time and lots of people on here will understand. We had a perfect and easy time with DC1, miscarrying never crossed my mind, then when we decided to try for DC2 I was knocked for six by 3 consecutive miscarriages. With my current pregnancy i was convinced at every stage it would go wrong and like grainmum now 20 weeks and just had 20 week scan with lots of movement so finally confidence growing. With all my miscarriages through I knew before the scan each time, likelihood is you'll be fine for your scan, but do come and chat whenever you need, lots of hand-holding and people who understand in here!

001001 Mon 14-Jan-13 17:23:16

Alpha great news on your boy! I am looking forward to the surprise but very envious of all those who know what they are having, can't believe this baby is due in 4 weeks and I don't know who they are!

Mrsd there's nothing you can do but rant. Is it this coming Wednesday or the following one? Glad you have a supportive mw, it can make all the difference when someone understands why you are neurotic! Come on here and rant as much as you like, we may not have answers but I have found such reassurance on this thread that I cannot believe it has got me through the past few months, I have come to really rely on posting here!

Grain good luck for your scan tomorrow, are you going to find out what it is?

Mrsd77 Mon 14-Jan-13 19:42:23

Congratulations on your excellent scan alpha and good luck for tomorrow grain

Once again, thanks for the kindness ladies. 1001 The scan is a week on Wednesday, 23rd. I know it's natural to be nervous and really, nothing is happening to suggest anything is wrong; but after two missed miscarriages, that won't be convincing me!

Sometimes my mind starts to wander and I imagine what it will be like to tell people number 2 is on the way. All I can do is think positive and hope that by the end of next week I can be shouting from the roof tops!

yellowsnownoteatwillyou Mon 14-Jan-13 22:24:57

hey mrsdmess, my 12 week scan is the 23rd as well, Mmc 2 years ago, am absolutely terrified.

yellowsnownoteatwillyou Mon 14-Jan-13 22:26:01

just mrsd, stupid kindle

001001 Tue 15-Jan-13 22:06:19

Hope your scan went well grain.

State thanks for updating, lovely to hear lily is doing well, nothing like a success story ti give everyone hope!

MrsReiver Tue 15-Jan-13 22:11:05

Just checking in, how are you all doing? Did I let you know we were discharged from consultant care! Just the community midwife for me! The baby is showing no sign of going anywhere so they were pleased to stop the regular scans.

Feeling very organised, clothes are washed, Moses basket is here and a stash of nappies have landed.

How long to go MrsR? Great that you're no longer under consultant care smile

I'm 32+4 today. Looking forward to being on maternity leave, that's for sure!

MrsReiver Wed 16-Jan-13 09:16:03

I'm 34+2 shock so already past DS' date! I had a tiny scrappy newborn by this time with him.

Had some rather unpleasant cramps last night and a lot of pressure - feels like nerve pain around my cervix, but I'd spoken to a MW about that and she assured me it's normal. Everything from now on is new territory so I keep having to check "is this okay?" and I know if I'm ever worried I can pop to triage.

I've got 3 and a bit weeks to go then I'm on maternity leave - I can't wait!

gemdrop84 Wed 16-Jan-13 10:10:38

welcome everybody and great news alpha grin so happy for you!! Best of luck with scans, big hugs and hand holding. Had an appt with midwife yesterday, due tomorrow and had to go through what happens if I go overdue, haven't a clue as dd was born at 38+6. Did get a bit sad at the thought that I may have to be induced if Seth doesn't want to come out, on the other hand I must be making a very cosy home for him! Getting a home visit from midwife on the 25th, I'll then be booked in for a sweep. He is now 3/5 engaged and I seem to be getting twinges more regularly, so you never know, he may make an appearance...hope you're doing ok mrsr&backward

gemdrop84 Wed 16-Jan-13 10:13:05

Fab news mrsr, sorry to hear about the cramps/cervix pain though, had that myself and it's very unpleasant!!

grainmum Wed 16-Jan-13 20:37:38

Hi everyone. I am pleased to report a lovely 20 week scan yesterday, all normal with normal measurements. We didn't find out the sex - we weren't planning too, but completely forgot about the possibility we might see anything until it was all over. Now preparing the shopping list! Also realised just how nervous DH was about it all - now he's seen baby nudging me he knows it's real!

grainmum Wed 16-Jan-13 20:41:48

Ooh gem just realised it's your due date! How exciting bet you can't wait. Thinking of you lots over the next few days. x

AlphaBeta2012 Wed 16-Jan-13 21:31:28

Thanks gem, oh is it your due date!? Wow, looking forwards to your lovely news! grin
Congratulations grain, wonderful news! grin. Glad we did want to find out sex and this little one didn't really give us a choice and both DH and I said 'so its a boy' before the sonographer even opened her mouth!
Such lovely things happening on this thread!

gemdrop84 Thu 17-Jan-13 08:22:05

It is my due date today! Can't believe it! Very sore and our dog was restless yesterday, she followed me everywhere! Hoping that's a sign things may kick off soon! With dd, I laboured at home for 5 hours. She sat with me all that time! Bless her! big congratulations grain and it must be a boy thing alpha as ds showed himself off too, dd was bit more modest and crossed her legs so we weren't 100% she was a girl!

001001 Thu 17-Jan-13 14:00:53

Great scan news grain, so pleased all is well, have fun shopping!

MrsReiver. Great to be so far along now,everything from here is a bonus.

Gem happy due date, know how ypu feel, am glad this baby has stayed put so long but would be happy to have it out now!

Glad to hear so much good news, still thinking of those waiting for scans, stressful time but fx for more positive outcomes :-)

Happy due date Gem! Let's hope things start soon x

001001 Fri 18-Jan-13 16:08:23

Well after a panicky night of no movement, even with cold drinks etc, spent the morning at hospital having a trace, baby's hb was up to 190 and as soon as they put the belt on, baby started kicking like mad, made me feel a right idiot! Anyway, hb settled down and was sent home. The staff were really nice, told me I had done the right thing but was so cross with myself for overreacting! Loads of snow here so unnecessary journey not appreciated, luckily DH off work so home now and resting as was up most of the night. <yawn>

grainmum Sat 19-Jan-13 17:17:35

001 sorry to hear you had a worrying night but glad all is ok! I don't think you over-reacted at all, sounds like you did exactly the right thing. Just been to a massive pram shop and a bit overwhelmed! Think I need to go back on a week day and actually speak to someone - don't know where to start.

Any news from gem?

I think you did the right thing, too, 001. Always nice to be reassured x

gemdrop84 Sat 19-Jan-13 18:47:15

No sign of our Seth yet, funnily enough all the twinges I've been having have just about stopped since Thursday, his due date. Today woke up feeling very restless, tummy ache and backache. Thought this might be it but nothing. Dp has treated me to a curry for tea, see if that smokes him out ha ha. Spent the day in my pjs and pretty much done nothing. Getting fed up and starting to feel anxious again. Hope you're ok ladies x

gemdrop84 Sat 19-Jan-13 18:49:44

Glad everything is ok 001 x

Come on Seth, mummy's waiting! wink

001001 Tue 22-Jan-13 17:45:57

How's everyone doing? Mrsd and yellowsnow will be thinking of you both tomorrow for your scans, fx for good news all round.

Gem hope you are not too fed up if you are still waiting.

I am 37 weeks tomorrow and sooooo ready to méet baby now, hospital bags packed, crib up, just waiting for snow to go and then come on baby! The last few weeks always feels like another year! Lots of movements to reassure me now, baby doesn't want me to worry anymore :-)

Hope all is well with everyone

gemdrop84 Wed 23-Jan-13 07:37:17

Thanks 001 glad you're ok. Still waiting sad, getting frustrated now: just getting to the point of feeling really anxious again and worrying about him in there. I'm a hormonal mess, just bursting into tears at everything and biting dp's head off. Trying to keep active with all the long walks, bouncing about as people advise to do but last night it got too much. Switched my phone off and went to bed at 7pm! Woke up in the night and had a few twinges but all stopped again. Got a home visit with mw on friday, think she's planning on doing a sweep, so we will see. Best wishes to all with upcoming scans, fx for you xx

nerual Wed 23-Jan-13 09:15:33

Hi everyone. Has anyone else recently had BPF after m/c? I miscarried in Dec (anembrionic, found out on my 12 week scan), pg tests negative 10 days after ERPC and now getting BFP again. Waiting a few days to make sure that the line gets darker, and then will try and get an early scan somewhere. Great to read everyone else's stories on this thread!

AlphaBeta2012 Wed 23-Jan-13 10:17:49

Hi nerual, and welcome! Sorry for you mc, and congratulations on your BFP. yes I had 3 consecutive miscarriages, falling pregnant immediately one after another, each time I tested a couple of weeks after Mc and was negative, then positive a week or so after that. Each time the Dr's told me it was left over hormones and each time they were wrong, 4th time of this cycle stuck and I am now 22 weeks pregnant.

nerual Wed 23-Jan-13 10:30:30

Congrats on reaching 22 weeks AlphaBeta2012. With your previous pregnancies after m/c, did you go to doctor when you suspected you were pg again, or do you go to EPU at the hospital? I've heard that you can go straight to EPU, but not sure... Also did they give you an early scan? Wondering if I will have to get one privately, as I'm not waiting till 12 weeks again to find out....

AlphaBeta2012 Wed 23-Jan-13 11:07:46

First MC was just with Dr, then I was sent to EPU and contacted them directly for the following 2. Don't be afraid to go straight to EPU, they're specialists in this area whereas GP's are good, they have to be general in a lot of areas so not always the best option in my opinion!
And yes had early scan at just gone 6 weeks, then 9 weeks, then normal 12 weeks. EPU was brilliantly supportive.

nerual Wed 23-Jan-13 11:35:55

Thanks for the info AlphaBeta2012, really helpful. I will call the EPU in a couple of days to see what they say. One final question - what date did you use to work out how many weeks you are? Date of m/c or date pg tests went negative? thanks again for all your help and so sorry you have become an expert in all this by going through it 3 times, that can't have been fun sad

RoxyLady Wed 23-Jan-13 11:39:29

After 3 miscarriages I am now 15 weeks and I felt
My baby moving for the first time
Little Butterfly waves in my tummy. Im so happy I could cry smile

AlphaBeta2012 Wed 23-Jan-13 11:51:24

Hi Neural, I used date of miscarriage, which as the final one at 6 weeks, it actually worked out perfectly and due date is precisely what I guessed it would be. I also could really feel when I ovulated so this helped. 3mcs wasn't fun but we always counted ourselves lucky in that we found it so easy to fall pregnant (every month we tried) and really felt for those who suffered losses and struggled to concieve.
Congratulations Roxy - wonderful feeling isn't it!! grin

Mrsd77 Wed 23-Jan-13 16:28:03

Hi all. So kind that you remembered today was my big day. Pleased to say that all seems well. They've put me forward a few days which was also a nice surprise so now due on August 1st.

Been worrying about screening as am 35 with a BMI of 31, but hilariously, the youngun wouldn't stay still enough for the NT measurement! That'll teach me to be too controlling! They will try again next week apparently. Scan took ages as a result and we saw a nasal bone, brain, ribs, stomach, spine, limbs and a heart. I know it's early days and all but I feel quite reassured for now.

Hi to the new folks. Fx all turns out well for you all.

PurplePoppySeed Wed 23-Jan-13 18:14:44

Hi everyone, I had a MMC found at 8 weeks in November last year, at the same time I found mumsnet and though I lurked, I got a lot of comfort from reading the pregnancy loss threads.

I started having pregnancy symptoms again from the end of December and have been reading this thread to help give me hope - finally getting my BFP on 11th Jan. its been really comforting to see some joy after such sadness especially as none of my close friends have been through a MC so can't really understand the emotions or physical 'stuff' involved!

I'm 7 weeks tomorrow and have been lucky enough to get a scan booked for next wednesday which is also the first time I'll see a midwife (didn't manage to get that far last time). I know it's only 1 more week, but I'm so worried I've given myself a migraine and spent most of today on the sofa.

Has anyone got any advice on how to get through those first weeks of the unknown? What did you do to relax (if it was possible)?

Thanks in hope xx

nerual Wed 23-Jan-13 19:28:31

PurplePoppySeed, your dates sound quite similar to mine, I got my BFP a few days later than you. I also didn't really have anyone to talk to about it properly, quite a lonely experience (and I also lurked on mumsnet pages!!). I think about it constantly when I should be working, and keep taking pg tests to make sure my positive line doesn't look any fainter... am sure once we have the first scan, that it will all be a bit easier to deal with!

PurplePoppySeed Wed 23-Jan-13 20:20:09

Thanks nerual - I guess you didn't have AF between MC and BFP? I did, it came at exactly 28 days after ERPC and was fairly average, it annoyed me as I feel like ive lost another month from following docs advice! When would your originally EDD have been, mine was mid June.

I have resisted testing again as I don't want to worry myself more if it gets paler. Last time I got a BFP before AF was due, so its strength/timing doesnt seem to be an indicator of success - even so - I'm worrying! Have yours been fairly consistent? And when is your scan?

yellowsnownoteatwillyou Wed 23-Jan-13 23:52:09

hi thought I would update, scan today confirmed 12 w 3,due date 4/8 so happy all is well. though stubborn baby refused to be measured correctly for the neck fold test so have to go back on the 11th to check again.

was lying like it was in a hammock, feet crossed, arm behind head. also poor wee thing had the hiccups. I always get the hiccups as in everyday, haven't had them since I was about 6 week's though, baby taking one for the team.

still anxious but a lot less now it's a real thing, so trying to relax and hope everything goes well for me and all others in the same boat.

nerual Thu 24-Jan-13 09:34:37

Hi PurplePoppy, no didn't have AF. We asked the consultant when we could start trying again and he said just when we felt emotionally ready. I didn't want to wait, so we started trying again as soon as my PG/OV tests went negative (as I wasn't sure how soon after that I would ovulate). I don't actually have a scan booked yet; just tried to book directly with the EPU but they told me to go to the GP first, so I have an appt with the midwife at the GP tomorrow. Hopefully she will be able to book me in for an early scan somewhere, otherwise I am going to get a private one...

PurplePoppySeed Thu 24-Jan-13 12:56:20

Good news yellowsnow, sounds like a real character forming already grin

Nerual - I've got mine that way too, saw Doc on Friday 11th, had a call from EPU tues 15th. They were keen not to scan much before 8 weeks as that's where I got to last time!

I'm 7 weeks today and started feeling sick yesterday - hate it but know its probably good as I didn't get sick last time!

MrsReiver Thu 24-Jan-13 13:13:45

Hi ladies, welcome to all the newbies, I have everything crossed for you all.

How are you both doing Gem and 001?

At nearly 36 weeks I'm now more pregnant than I've ever been! Baby gave us a big fright last night and decided to just stop moving at 3pm, and that's really not usual, I'm used to much more movement than that. Fortunately a bottle of chilled lucozade and a bath helped, but we were all poised to head off to triage! So scary!

Making up for it this morning with lots of really strong movements. I'm not complaining grin

gemdrop84 Thu 24-Jan-13 14:21:22

Oh Mrsr mine seems to have done exactly the same sometimes, id get so worked up, be downing a fizzy drink in tears and then he was off, wriggling away as usual, little monkey! Very tired and sore at minute. Have home visit with midwife tomorrow and hoping she can do a sweep. Am 41wks today and feeling it. Have had quite a few twinges since last weekend. Gets quite promising but stops after a couple of hours. Very frustrating! But he'll be worth it in the end. Hope you're all well, great news on the scans and best wishes to everyone else.

Oh Gem, 41 weeks! Come on Seth you lazy boy! wink

34 weeks tomorrow... I have 8.5 working days to go...

gemdrop84 Fri 25-Jan-13 10:43:54

Well looks like we will have a baby by February, been booked in for induction on wed evening. Hoping the threat of eviction will get him shifting! grin

MrsReiver Fri 25-Jan-13 10:54:14

At least you know that one way or another, you will have a baby by this time next week grin

Just you watch, everything will get going tonight!

gemdrop84 Fri 25-Jan-13 11:16:54

Probably mrsr, due a load of snow today and tonight so midwife said don't be surprised if he decides to make an appearance! It's very exciting to know this time next week will be having lovely snuggles with my son!

nerual Fri 25-Jan-13 17:13:55

Gosh, what a day. So while getting ready for my dr appt this morning (to let them know i think i am pg and try and get an early scan), a doctor from the EPU calls me and tells me to come in as soon as I can as the results from my ERPC are back. So I head to the hospital (panicking, because they wouldn't discuss it with me over the phone and that can ONLY be bad, right?), and turns out I had a partial molar pregnancy!!

SO I tell them I think I pg, they say it could be because of the molar pg, but also say that because I had negative pg tests which are now positive, it does seem quite likely that I am pg.

SO...I get a scan, and they can see what looks like a sac, dated 4.5 weeks (only 8mm so they can't actually say anything much more useful about it other than it is likely to be a pregnancy). But good news because it is very likely that I am pg.

I have another appt for a scan on the 2nd, when hopefully they can see more, but now I'm worried because all the advice is you wait 6 months after a molar pg before ttc again...eek. They did call up the molar pg experts (based at charing x apparently) and they said I don't need to worry if I am pg, that it all should be fine. But why the advice to wait for 6 months then? There must be some risk....

phew i feel like i need a strong drink.

Fingers crossed nerual, it does sounds quite positive though! thanks

gem this time next week, love it grin

C'est le week-end! Tired... but have had a lovely week at work. I have rather a lot to do this weekend though. Loads of marking!

nerual Fri 25-Jan-13 17:34:30

thanks backwardpossum. it is generally good news but still feels like i've been through an emotional wringer today! I hadn't even looked at the stuff on molar pg before and obviously now i'm scouring the net for all info i can find.
enjoy your weekend & your marking... smile

trustissues75 Fri 25-Jan-13 18:04:22

Hi all

Can I join in? I had what I was told was a miscarriage over Christmas...only to find out 12 days later at an assessment scan that I was in fact still pregnant and had a large heamatoma. I'm 15+1 weeks now and this week I've finally had discharges return to normal. It's been a really rocky ride for various reasons - the scan showed I was more pregnant than I had thought so had actually gone 2 months without knowing I was pregnant (during which time I'd lived my usual lifestyle of enjoying my wine on a regular basis) and then over Christmas having been told by the hospital that I was miscarrying I indulged in the Christmas spirit. I had a scan last week and the sonographer said I'm worrying too much and that things like FAS were a risk in babies who had been exposed to regular amounts over the whole pregnancy etc etc and that everything looked completely fine, but I'm still bricking it for the 20 week scan.

DS1 (now 8) was such a perfect, uneventful pregnancy...with this one I feel like I'm in a dinghy on a stormy sea watching the waves come towards me waiting for the next one to capsize me.

Mrsd77 Fri 25-Jan-13 19:23:19

nerual I was diagnosed with a partial mole at 12 week scan last May. They normally get you to wait six months as for many ladies hcg can take a long time to drop which could suggest that the mole is still present.

My levels dropped quickly (within the magical 56 days that they set as a benchmark) and they were happy when I asked if I could ttc three months later. An now 13 weeks preg.

I know it's hard, but limit your googling. Much talk of cancer etc. it's scary. Lots of ladies on here seem to have been pg v early after their mole and all has gone well.

Fx for you.

nerual Sat 26-Jan-13 08:16:07

Mrsd77 I did have to stop googling pretty quicky...very hectic stories about molars online, was just a bit overwhelming. I can't believe that something that starts as a pg can end up needing a course of chemo to cure! Am feeling a bit better today, just was such a shock (on top of shock of mc last month), all was a bit much to take in.

trustissues75 - sounds like a real emotional rollercoaster you have been through! I also overindulged at christmas after my mc, I can't imagine what it would be like to find out I was still pg afterwards. Very hard not to worry even though the doctors say you don't have to....hugs to you!

trustissues75 Sat 26-Jan-13 08:20:57

Neural - I'm trying not to think about it, but it's not really working.

I don't know a whole lot about molar pregnancies but I do know someone who had a complete one and went on to have a lovely little girl not long after with no problems for mum from the molar.

001001 Sun 27-Jan-13 14:38:54

Mrsd and yellowsnow so glad scans went well, reassuring to see a heartbeat and wriggly baby on the screen!

Welcome to new people, sorry you have had the sadness of loss but we are feeling positive on this thread, I have no advice about molar pregnancies or conceiving after ERPC but lots of people on this thread do so keep asking and someone will be able to help!

38 weeks weds, bring it on!

Eek 001 so close! grin

PurplePoppySeed Sun 27-Jan-13 19:55:51

Wow, soo close, very exciting to hear of babies due any day now, nerual sounds like a crazy few days, fingers crossed for your next scan too. Trust sounds like you've had a challenging time, it's all very scary once something has gone wrong, still this definately seems to be a positive thread, I hope all the luck rubs off on us newbies too smile

I've had a very sicky and exhausted weekend, even went to bed from 4-6 yesterday! Hope it really does get better after 12 weeks - if I get that far. Scan on wednesday, hopefully after that I can start to relax.

001001 Mon 28-Jan-13 16:46:24

PoppySeed good luck for your scan on Weds, major milestone and hopefully it will give you some reassurance and you can start to get excited about the pregnancy.

Gem baby by the end of the week!

PurplePoppySeed Mon 28-Jan-13 19:19:06

001 thanks very much, 38 weeks wow, hopefully I'm 30 weeks away from there smile

Countmyblessings Tue 29-Jan-13 13:15:02

Hi to all newbies- it's heartbreaking to know we have had loss/es but as we are all here embracing new pregnancies!!!
I'm currently 34 weeks and to be perfectly honest with you it's been such a worry due to all I have dealt with to get thus far!!! Early scans, meetings with consultant appointment, with every pain came worry and this didn't go until I reached 28/29 weeks and I felt I could breath!
I was so scared I only bought small bits to go in hospital bag in the last 2 weeks!!!! The movement is constant sometimes quite painful but I prefer these pains rather then the heartache any day!
I'm sure most would say the same!
Pgp has steped up and so another painful journey to GP for them to confirm I need to stop work now as the pain is getting worse!
Don't quite know how to feel about it all was really hoping to at least get through till feb!!!!!

gemdrop84 Tue 29-Jan-13 15:20:08

Very proud to announce he is here! Seth James was born at 7.20am today weighing 7lbs 13oz, double of dd, feeding like a dream and being a good boy! Being kept in tonight as had a massive bleed and my blood pressure is up, feel have been through the wringer but it's so been worth it. A big thanks to all you lovely ladies who helped me through some really horrendous days, may all your pgs be well and best wishes to everyone. flowers will try to add some pics to profile once we're home.

Oh Gem that's wonderful news! Many many congratulations and welcome to Seth smile x thanks

Countmyblessings Tue 29-Jan-13 15:54:41

Huge congrats to Gem and welcome to the world Seth James!!!!!
I guess the threat of eviction did move things!!!!!

001001 Tue 29-Jan-13 16:32:52

Congratulations gem! Very jealous of you cuddling your new baby, enjoy him and best wishes for a speedy recovery x

trustissues75 Tue 29-Jan-13 16:40:07

Lovely news, Gem. Welcome to the world, Seth!!!

MrsReiver Tue 29-Jan-13 17:52:02

Huge congratulations Gem and family, welcome skinside Seth.

Right 001 - you're next grin

001001 Tue 29-Jan-13 21:35:47


PurplePoppySeed Tue 29-Jan-13 22:40:58

Wow. Congratulations Gem

AlphaBeta2012 Wed 30-Jan-13 09:30:07

Wonderful news Gem congratulations, welcome baby Seth!! xx

nerual Wed 30-Jan-13 12:03:31

Congrats & big welcome to baby seth!

Hi can i join? I am pregnant after almost 4 years of trying 1 m/c and a few chemical pregnancy i have worked out i am 4+4 so very early but i feel it will stick this time does not stop me from worrying constantly! I also was in getting my appendix out after ovulating so been exposed to scans and surgery lol but i got 3 strong lines yesterday so cant be bad too bad can it??

Countmyblessings Wed 30-Jan-13 12:37:18

Welcome and Congrats - Thefalcon- hope this thread helps you get through these early days/weeks/ months I could not of coped without MN and the support of some of this threads!!!!
I'm on a countdown of weeks now can't wait for it too all be over! And to have a baby after my losses!

Thanks Countmyblessings i am so nervous so i can imagine your relief nearing the end and getting your healthy baby in your arms. I am up all blooming night at the moment, nausea is coming and going as is boob pain i will be 5 weeks tomorrow that is normal though right? I have a ds but as it was 4 years ago i have forgot what is normal the pgs in between were all strange so oh i dont know just rambling hope everyone is ok smile

gemdrop84 Thu 31-Jan-13 13:21:03

Thankyou very much everyone, got home yesterday evening, I have added a pic on my profile, think I've done it right so you can have a look at the little munchkin!

AlphaBeta2012 Thu 31-Jan-13 13:34:07

Ahhh Gem thats gorgeous!! Makes me so look forward to arrival of our little man in May! Glad you're all well and lots of congratulations once again!!

Countmyblessings Thu 31-Jan-13 16:50:14

Gem welcome home with your beautiful Seth James he is lovely!
You keep looking, cuddling and loving every second of it!
I love the smell of new borns its so unique!!!!

Oh Gem he's beautiful! Is it possible to be broody at 35 weeks?!

001001 Fri 01-Feb-13 00:16:52

Gem so glad you are home and all is well.

Falcon congratulations on your bfp, hope this one sticks, my ds is 3.5 so I can relate to not remembering what is normal!

I am lying in bed having what I think are Braxton hicks, never got them last time but just odd tightenings with no pain just discomfort and no regularity, feels weird and a stark reminder of how close I am! 38+2 today, can't wait to be where gem is now! Night x

001001 Fri 01-Feb-13 09:52:39

Advice please ladies, I had a terrible night, up between midnight and 3.30am. TMI now but have been pooing all morning and have just been sick. I feel really weak and need to lie down. With ds my first sign of labour was contractions, could this be labour or is it general exhaustion at end of pregnancy? My son is at nursery all day so one less thing to worry about but don't want to call DH away from work unless necessary and hospital is 40 min drive...

Might go to bed and try to sleep for a bit but any words of reassurance would be great

MrsReiver Fri 01-Feb-13 12:05:09

It certainly sounds like things are getting moving, when I had DS I definitely had a good "clear out" before my water broke and contractions started.

I'd get as much rest as you can just now. Hopefully you won't be waiting too long smile

001001 Fri 01-Feb-13 22:49:26

Thanks MrsR, was feeling like things were happening last night and this morning but went back to bed for an hour and sickness had passed! Still feeling tight around the bump but don't think anything is imminent, just wishful thinking... Can't really believe I have reached this last stage, don't want anything to go wrong now!

Will use the excuse to rest although that is nigh on impossible, if I am not sleeping anyway I might as well have a newborn to show for it grin

welcome baby Seth grin huge congratulations

how's everyone doing?

I've finally got round to putting pics of Lily on my profile grin she's 6wk 3days now and a lovely baby bfing perfectly gaining weight well (now 11lb3oz) and smiling oh and she's a good sleeper important totally bestowed and every second of anxiety was worth it.

good luck all of you xxx

aww Lilly sounds gorgeous Stateofconfusion, i am ok worrying still but hoping for the best 5+2 today so very early days but i think its going good smile

gemdrop84 Sat 02-Feb-13 17:38:02

Thanks state, lily is gorgeous! Im so happy right now, on cloud 9! Take it easy 001 it will be your time before you know it. Hope everyone else is ok. Dp has been absolutely amazing and is pretty much running the house on his own so I can rest and hopefully I'll be back on my feet very soon. Already feeling little better, blood pressure is down and hoping iron rich diet that Dp has me on is rebuilding my iron stores. Will check in again soon ladies til then take care.

BlackholesAndRevelations Sat 02-Feb-13 20:22:39

Hi ladies and congrats to all the new mums! I'm afraid I've only read the first couple and last couple if pages but can I join please?! Mc at beginning of month and didn't wait to try and have just got s bfp! Eek I'm so worried that it might be too soon after mc but we're so happy so hope all goes well!

Welcome to the thread, Blackholes, and good luck! Feel free to rant and cry and share joy, we're all here for you smile

state fantastic pics! Lovely wee girl! grin

You sounds like you're doing great, Gem, hope Seth is letting you get some sleep! x

I've got a very active little monkey. Wriggling away constantly. 35+1 today, it's passing so quickly! Finish work next Tuesday. Seeing consultant this Tuesday and will have a date for my section. Exciting stuff!

Hi blackholes im newly pregnant too and trying my hardest not to worry welcome!

I am unsure whether of not to have an early scan what do you ladies think are they useful or not??

I had one at 9 weeks, Falcons, and it was great to see a wee heartbeat flickering away... but it was just a snapshot in time. I still worried at 10 weeks, 11 weeks, 12 weeks until I got my dating scan. So yes, it was lovely, but at the same time, it wont stop you worrying! x

I know, but i dont at the same time i think i may just go for it if its bad new it was going to be bad either way if its good i will feel so much better about it xx

Mrsd77 Sun 03-Feb-13 08:15:33

Hi. Congratulations to those with lovely new little ones and welcome to the new folk. The wise old women on here have made me feel so much better in the last few weeks.

I had a scan at six weeks with this pg as I had had some bleeding. You could have knocked me down with a feather when there was a heartbeat. I felt great for a couple of days, then back to worrying. backward is right about it being a snapshot for some people. Depends how much you worry I think. Fx for you.

Afm, I'm 14 weeks now and got a NT measurement on Friday of 1.5. I believe that's ok. Youngun looks right size and was wriggling away again. Why can't I relax?!?! My DH is over the moon and happily telling family and friends. I want to be like him and get excited and can for a little while, then these waves of dread wash over me and I start googling for potential bad news. I had some counselling after the molar and she said that I catastrophise (great word!) so I'm trying to be logical about my behaviour but I just feel like this can't turn out well.

I'm doing my own head in!

Sorry to be self absorbed! X

nerual Sun 03-Feb-13 08:34:51

mrsd, what kind of bleeding did you have at 6 weeks? last thurs I had sudden gush of red blood then nothing since, although now also have very mild lower abdo/ back cramps which feel like mild period pains. have a scan on Friday but very worried...not sure how I'm going to make it till then without going insane with worry...basically preparing myself for the worst.. sad

Mrsd77 Sun 03-Feb-13 09:42:40

neural I had pink spotting which gradually increased to something similar to first day of af. The scan said I had an area of bleeding near to the implantation site. I continued to billed lightly til 8 weeks ish. My twelve week scan showed the area to still be there.

I know of one lady on here that has had similar to you and hers was cause by an area of bleeding inside if I remember correctly. It's quite common.

Glad you're getting checked out. Can you rest up til Friday?

nerual Sun 03-Feb-13 10:07:23

Mrsd, I basically haven't left the house since Thursday, but I think I will have to go to work on Monday. I have a desk job, so the only bad thing is the commute (london trains, eugh). I know bleeding is pretty common in first trimester, but what is worrying me is the cramps. Although very very mild (and haven't increased since Friday), I don't think they are a good sign and certainly don't remember having any cramps like this in my first pg. Also I guess I am extra paranoid because I haven't actually experienced a mc (as I had a mmc with erpc, with practically no pain/bleeding after erpc), so I'm unsure what the start of it would be like for me...I will just have to wait until Friday to find out.

Countmyblessings Sun 03-Feb-13 16:16:44

Nerual- I'm so sorry for what your going through and the fact that you have to wait till Friday is just crazy have you not got a walk in EPU near you?
I in total have never experienced a mc either but I have had 2 ectopics and I MMC at 13 weeks!!! Those was bad enough I'm now 34 weeks and still have flashbacks and concerns that until I hold this baby alive and well I will not relax!!!!! The problem is we can't afford to be ignorant as we have experienced losses and so our rosé tinted glasses that all is right has been shattered and each day we stay pregnant is a blessing!
We are all here to hold hands and offer comfort but to stay everything is going to be ok is not something we can say but hope and pray for!!
I do hope and pray the bleeding and the pains are nothing and all will be well x

nerual Sun 03-Feb-13 19:26:05

Thanks CountMyBlessings, congrats on getting to 34 weeks, sounds like you've had a long and heartbreaking journey getting here. My EPU didn't seem to want to see me, they just told me to go to A&E if the bleeding got bad, and said that they will see me on Friday as scheduled for scan. I guess from their perspective, there is nothing that can really be done if a miscarriage starts, so other than confirm to me that it's happening (which should become evident anyway within a few days), it's kind of a waste of their time to scan me earlier than scheduled.
No further bleeding yet... just general achy feeling in pelvic region. Maybe everything fine, maybe not, we will just have to wait and see I guess...

Mrsd77 Sun 03-Feb-13 20:06:13

Nural I have to admit I walked straight into a&e. My surgery was proving unhelpful and the epu only see you on referral. I saw a consultant within an hour and had a scan the next morning. The older I get the less messing about I'll take. I'm always incredibly polite, but if something needs checking I'll try my hardest to make it happen.

If you think you can wait until Friday, then great. But if you really want to be checked sooner, I'd go to a&e. I hate the thought of looking neurotic, but pregnancy brings that out in women!

Countmyblessings Mon 04-Feb-13 07:58:03

Nural- I would do what "mrs" said if your worried as that long wait may do more harm then good really!
Yes I understand your " whatever will be, and no one can't stop it" attitude but the longer it drags on as far as I'm concerned the more your anxious and concerns will be!
Hope the cramps and bleeding does stop and that everything will work out!
Mrs - good advice - why shouldn't you be looked at as soon as possible for peace of mind!!!!

nerual Mon 04-Feb-13 11:04:02

Hey MrsD & Count...thanks for your words of encouragment for taking on the NHS to demand a scan!! I honestly don't think I can face a&e unless I really have to though, and since I haven't bled now for 3 days, and only have really mild cramps, I think I might just try and go the private scan route, if I can get an appt. The problem with a&e for me is firstly, it is a bit of a drive from my house to get there, and also, would have to go alone because dh would have to stay at home with ds (not taking him to hospital unnecessarily, could pick up something nasty on top of the zillions of toddler bugs he already has had so far this winter!). But, have discovered a private scan place near my work so I might try and get in there...have actually ventured into work today and generally feel fine. Keep running to the loo though to check my knickers... :P

nerual Mon 04-Feb-13 15:17:15

So, went for a scan, have fetus with heartbeat (measuring 6+2, as expected). So that looks ok. There is also an 'area of bleeding' which might be absorbed, or might get worse, not really possible for them to say. So in a way reassuring, but also worrying! Sigh.

Countmyblessings Mon 04-Feb-13 16:13:38

Well done on getting the scan yeh for a baby and heartbeat!!!!!
Yes the bleeding is a concern but many have this with no harm done to the baby! I will still keep the Friday app as they may be able to explain the area of bleeding!!!!
( and breath) was praying for good news yeh!!!!
No need for the "Thanks" we are all here to support as and when we can!!!
I have had 3 losses 1-pain, with 1 discovered at routine scan the last total shock as was not in any pain, bleeding or cramps but had ectopic and right tube removed!!!!!!
Keep updating please!

nerual Mon 04-Feb-13 16:25:59

Thanks Count! Yes, will still go on Friday. My first pg was so textbook, I wasn't worried at all during the whole thing. I can't believe the constant feeling of dread that I have now...does it ever go away?? Mbe after 12 week scan??

Hi nerual congrats!! i have been a bit unsure whether to go for an early scan had no blood or that just worried sick! You must be so pleased we are about the same i am 5+3 or 5+4 today i think i just worry about every symptom coming and going but i am get proper bouts of nausea. Do you think you will be able to relax till your 12 week scan now do you recommend getting an early scan?

nerual Mon 04-Feb-13 19:30:54

Hi falcon...I don't know when I'll be able to relax, mbe 12 weeks, who knows. Would be nicer if I didn't have area of bleeding, but as I haven't actually bled for quite a few days now, I am hoping the danger is mostly over.
We really struggled to see anything much on my scan...could see heartbeat and tiiiiiiny smudge which is a fetus. I think the earliest you can get heartbeat is about 6 weeks, I definitely wouldn't go before then unless you are feeling really desperate to know what is going on... I would recommend it if you are really stressed or have bleeding, I has put my mind at rest a bit. I have another NHS one on Friday, hoping to stick to those in the future as the private scans could become an expensive habit!!

Mrsd77 Mon 04-Feb-13 19:50:17

Nerual so pleased for you!!!! Keep us posted x

001001 Tue 05-Feb-13 10:39:13

Finally doing this on the computer so I can catch up with everything that's been going on!

Welcome Falcon Blackholes and Neural great to hear of more BFPs and neural, your scan sounds positive! You will find great advice and support on this thread, some very knowledgable posters. That first bit to 12 weeks s a nightmare, as is the wait then til the 20 week scan, it is not until you actually feel regular movements you start to relax and even then it is only a snapshot. Hopefully soon we will have babies in our arms to cuddle and see for ourselves that they are ok grin

Mrsd I have still not told some people, can't quite get my head round the idea that everything might be ok and I am 39 weeks tomorrow! Don't think the dread will ever fully go away but lovely that your DH is so excited.

State Lily is gorgeous and Gem so is Seth, must be lovely to be at home with your new (and not so new!) bundles. Time flies when it is for other people!

I had a routine mw appt yesterday and baby's hb was a bit fast so she sent me for a trace, was there for hours and hb regularly reached 200 but apparently just an active baby, highly strung? They also did a scan to check presentation and the mean doctor said, 'Well, I know what you're having' and then when I asked wouldn't tell! He said if I had not wanted to know at 20 weeks there was no point finding out now when it is on it's way! Really really wanted to know but glad now he didn't tell me, I'm all over the place but can't wait to find out. Baby has dropped and dr said he doesn't expect me to go over which means that by this time next week I should have a new baby, eeeeeeek!

Saw my consultant this morning and he's booked me in for an elcs 3 weeks tomorrow! Eeeeeeeeek!

001001 Tue 05-Feb-13 12:02:53

Possum so nice to have a date to work towards! So close now :-)

PurplePoppySeed Tue 05-Feb-13 13:49:40

Hello everyone, I haven't been on for a while, but please to see that there is still lots of positive news.

Nerual - so sorry you have been going through the ringer so much, great to hear its still going well though.

I had my 8 week scan last week but it didn't quite give me the confidence I was expecting. There was a hb which is good news and did make me cry, but she thinks it's very small - possibly only 6 weeks. The trouble is, I've definately been having symptoms since the end of December, so it's got me worried that it's not growing fast enough. On the bright side I'm back again next Wednesday to check again and I'm still feeling sick, so I'm just trying to rest up and not worry.

Stay positive purplepoppyseed is baby in a good high position and beating away i would not worry US are not that accurate early they said the same about my DS at that point and he came on his due date 8lb 1 in weight smile

nerual Tue 05-Feb-13 16:25:32

Ah the scans, the scans, they never seem to quite give the confidence needed sad
I'm sure it will be fine poppy, I think the differences in these early weeks are matters of mm, and I'm pretty sure all the beans don't develop at exactly the same rate. And I sometimes wonder how accurate those machines are, the edges are really blurry and they can't always be sure to be taking completely 100% accurate measurements...

PurplePoppySeed Tue 05-Feb-13 18:58:15

Thanks guys, I'm sure you are both right. I'm shocked she could see it at all tbh as I've got a severely retroverted uterus and she insisted on doing it from the outside (possibly she thought it would make me feel more comfortable).

Every time I tried to look closely she lost it, so it was dh that was able to confirm to me he could see hb properly.

I've just looked at the pic she printed with measurements and it's barely more than a blur, so hopefully when it's a bit bigger it'll be easier to measure & perhaps by that point she'd already decided she was going to look again in two weeks time. ...just 1 more week to go.

I guess I secretly hoped it would stop me worrying, but I'm starting to realise I won't stop worrying all the way through blush

The good thing is I'm now at 8+5 and I only got to 7+5 before the spotting started last time and I certainly never saw a heart beat grin

Countmyblessings Tue 05-Feb-13 21:15:34

Scans - they are like a double edged sword really! You want one and you pray all will be well, but if you get any doubts placed in your head it gives you more reasons to be concerned and worry even more!!!!
I have had so many negative scans I really wish I could avoid them but until you feel baby moving its the only way to confirm all is goin well!!
I wouldn't worry about the size right now seeing a HB is def positive news!
Lets hold onto the positive and kick the negatives to the flippin kerb!!!!

PurplePoppySeed Wed 06-Feb-13 19:51:51

Thanks smile can't wait to get far enough to feel movement. To be honest I'm excited about starting to look pregnant too (sad I know!). At least then I'll be able to get a seat on the train in the mornings ;)

nerual Thu 07-Feb-13 09:02:28

ah I can't wait to be offered train seat either, hate standing in the mornings!!

Countmyblessings Thu 07-Feb-13 12:34:14

Purple/Nerual - funny you should say that I just couldn't wait to have a belly and not feel bloated all the time, my belly would expand and I just didn't notice until trying on clothes I wore the week before!
had to get some clothes that gave me some breathing space and actually went into mama&papas and was surprised at the fact that wasn't expensive and didn't look like maternity wear!
Also you guys should go on London transport website and they will send you 2 baby on board badges!!!! Not like you clearly couldn't see my huge bump by the time I ordered mine!!!! Feeling baby move is priceless and so reassuring.

PurplePoppySeed Thu 07-Feb-13 19:35:38

Funnily enough I got my badge from TFL in the post today grin I'm nervous of wearing it until after next weeks scan, stupid I know, but at the moment I've managed to find a train in the mornings with a bunch of Kids that jump off in the same place everyday - so far it's got me a seat every time!

Would you believe when I asked SWT about the badge they said they wouldn't give them out until you have the MATB1 form at 20 weeks because otherwise "anyone could wear one" - basically implying I was lying that I needed it, ridiculous!

nerual Thu 07-Feb-13 20:22:58

I was wondering if they asked for the matB form for that badge...I didn't get one for DS1 but I think I might do this time because I'm older and more knackered ;-)
BUT also don't want to get it too early, before the 12w scan. Too scared someone I know might see me....
Just another 5 weeks to go then! Blah.

Countmyblessings Thu 07-Feb-13 22:47:31

What foolishness is that they need your matB because you may be lying
Really!!!!!! That's the most utter bull I have heard in a while
I'm surprise they don't ask you for a urine sample So they can test it themselves!!!!!
Yeh I def understand you still being cautious about things!

001001 Fri 08-Feb-13 15:52:49

Not much point giving it out after you get your MATB1 form, many people are showing by 22 weeks anyway, it was designed for when people could not be sure you were pregnant! It is great to start looking pregnant, on the whole people are really nice to you. Seems like a long wait until scans, even when it is only one week away, but hang in there.

I am 39+2 now, got terrible backache today but think that is because I have done too much. Despite being told by doctor I probably won't go over dates I am resigned to being pregnant forever!

Countmyblessings Fri 08-Feb-13 17:07:51

001- for me and my last 3 DC backache was the start of my body going into labour I went into bath and it didn't get better but worse my dc3 was a week early but with backache then a show I knew it was time!
Fingers crossed its not long now!!!!

Ooh exciting 001. Fingers crossed baby doesn't keep you waiting long x

PurplePoppySeed Fri 08-Feb-13 19:19:08

Very exciting smile 001

I'm in the same boat re. the badge, it's sitting on the counter at home until I'm "official" wink. I figured I might as well get it in advance anyway. I emailed babyonboard@tfl.gov.uk on Monday and had it by weds night smile

ninjasquirrel Sat 09-Feb-13 14:02:52

Hello, can I join? Just got a BFP yesterday after a 12 week miscarriage before Christmas and feeling excited/nervous.

Inukshuk Sat 09-Feb-13 14:23:20

Hello - Just joining. Have just had BFP after 8 mths TTC post miscarriage at 8wks. Has not quite sunk in yet - have done 5 tests in the last couple of days, and keep going back to look at them. Will run out shortly so will stop then...

ninjasquirrel Sat 09-Feb-13 14:50:04

Hello Inukshuk, congratulations! Is it your first?

All the best ninja and inuk, congratulations and fingers crossed for an smooth pregnancy for you both smile

a hmm

Inukshuk Sat 09-Feb-13 17:28:00

Hi Ninja - Thanks, congrats to you too! Yes it's my first @ 33 yrs old, how about you?

Thanks Backward!

PurplePoppySeed Sat 09-Feb-13 18:06:03

hi both, congratulations & good luck to you both

Freyaee Sat 09-Feb-13 18:21:21

Hi everyone! Really good to find such a supportive thread smile Congratulations to you all!
I tested yesterday and confirmed that I am 5 weeks pregnant. I had a miscarriage after an unplanned pregnancy 2 years ago at 9 weeks. That was my first pregnancy and I was 24, the whole experience was a huge shock. Since then my partner and I have waited a while, got married last year and I came off the pill in January, so it's happened very quickly! I'm trying to remain hopeful that this time it will be a healthy pregnancy, but we're not telling anyone at all (except all of you lovely people) until we're passed the 12 weeks mark.
I'm going to get to grips with these forums as I don't have any friends with children, and I don't know anyone where I'm currently living (it's a bit of a stop-gap) so will look forward to the friendship and support.

001001 Sun 10-Feb-13 14:58:40

Congratulations ninja inuk and Freya on your BFPs. Brand new pregnancies, how exciting! This is the scariest part but it seems this thread will just keep going and going as there are always more people to join so there is loads of support. Hope things progress smoothly for you all. We have had loads of graduates, even in the short time since I joined (did not dare get my hopes up til past 24 weeks!) and I am now 39+4 so hopefully next!

One of the hardest things about mc is that often, people don't even know so you can feel like you are dealing with things alone. Then when you next get pregnant, people who are not aware of the trouble you have had in the past do not understand your anxieties so I have found this thread brilliant for practical support and advice.

Good luck!

elsabel Sun 10-Feb-13 16:12:37

Hi everyone im a newbie to this thread, ok if i join? Im 24 weeks pg but had a mmc last year and been looking for a nice friendly thread ever since i fell pg again this time round! Am very excited but still anxious at times!

Hope everyones having happy pregnancies xx

Countmyblessings Sun 10-Feb-13 20:17:08

Welcome newbies - ninja, inuk,Freya & elsa - hope you find this thread a good place to let of some steam, share and get support!!!
I'm on DC4 and 35 weeks- I'm at the nesting stage right now just a few bits to get including car seat! BH are getting stronger to the point I'm frozen! I'm ready and if I'm going to have sleepless night I may as well have baby here!

Freyaee Sun 10-Feb-13 20:39:53

Thanks 001001 and Countmyblessings for the welcome smile It must be so exciting to be nearing meeting your new babies! Its lovely to hear so many positive stories amidst the sad ones. I really hope I'm going to join you and the thread graduates come October!

elsabel, congrats, do you have any other children or will this be your first, too? I completely share your anxiety, as 001001 said, it's really hard to explain to other people why you're so worried when they either don't know or haven't experienced it. Let's just hold on to our excitement and hope that everything will go well this time for us all!

elsabel Sun 10-Feb-13 23:01:08

Thanks all for the welcome all! Countmyblessings youre almost at the finish line!! smile

frey , this is my first also and were having a girl (well thats what the scan showed but every now and then i worry that they got it wrong and all the stuff were buying in pink is a waste!) I am a worrier and will worry about anything possible! I know you must be nervous right now and i remember it like it was yesterday but the 12 weeks wont last forever just be kind to yourself and try not to worry too much (easier said than done i know). It cant be easy not having people to talk to so youve come to the right place here!

MrsReiver Mon 11-Feb-13 09:02:00

Just a flying visit to see how everyone is doing - and to welcome all the newbies, congratulations on your BFPs and good luck for a happy and healthy 9 months!

001 how are you keeping? Everyone keeps telling me the bump has dropped, and my braxton hicks are getting stronger and more regular. I've got the midwife this morning so we'll find out if everyone else is right, or just making conversation.

001001 Tue 12-Feb-13 04:04:52

Baby girl 001 was born at 12.40 this morning, healthy and beautiful. I can't thank you all enough for getting me here xx

Congrats grin hope I get to feel thay joy. Has anyone had loss of symptoms around 6 weeks and not m/c?

MrsReiver Tue 12-Feb-13 08:46:33

Congratulations 001, what lovely news to come on to xxx

GaryBuseysTeeth Tue 12-Feb-13 11:23:47

Congratulations 001!! Wonderful news! grin

Welcome ninja, inuk, freya and eslabel.

Falcons, I didn't have any symptoms with DS until about 9wks...so fingers crossed for you.

I posted on this thread for awhile, but dropped off whilst waiting for my 12wk scan...will go back and read what I've missed, but scan went well (had it last week) & I'm getting larger & feeling movement so feeling positive.
14+3 with DC2.

sharni20 Tue 12-Feb-13 14:21:36

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Massive congratulations, 001, she almost made it to my birthday tomorrow! smile

Falcons with my first pregnancy, the only symptom I had was sore boobs and that stopped about 6 weeks. I have a very healthy, crazy 3.5 year old to show for it!

I've just started maternity leave. Fantastic feeling smile

Have filled in your survey, sharni, good luck with the dissertation smile

PseudoBadger Tue 12-Feb-13 16:00:39

Hi everyone! I just got a bfp after my miscarriage in December. I'm feeling rather nervous!

Welcome psudobadger thats super quick it was 2 years almost exactly since my m/c!

Thanks backwardpossum thats very reassuring I still feel sick just less so which is good as it was severe sad

I bet your glad you are now on maternity leave smile

I have my booking in and dating scan on the 26th march feels like an age away but I am sure it will fly in smile

Countmyblessings Tue 12-Feb-13 17:58:24

Welcome here Psudo- congrats to you on your BFP!
Holding hands and sharing our journeys is really what helped me get thus far!!!!
36 weeks and I'm ready for baby to come had dream that I had my baby while sleeping!!!! Was very strange, I had a flat belly and a naked sleeping baby under the covers!

Countmyblessings Tue 12-Feb-13 18:00:13

Congrats to 001 - welcome to your baby girl,whoop enjoy loads of baby cuddles!!!

nerual Tue 12-Feb-13 19:29:51

Congrats 001 and welcome to all the new BFPs! I think there must be a few due at similar times, late sept / early oct?

nerual Tue 12-Feb-13 19:33:00

Falcon I also have almost completely asymptomatic pregnancies, practically no nausea at all, and have a healthy 1.5 year old to show for it!

Mrsd77 Tue 12-Feb-13 20:11:34

1001 many many congratulations!!!!!

Freyaee Tue 12-Feb-13 20:32:39

Congrats 001!! Fantastic news. Thanks GaryBuseysTeeth for the welcome too smile
Falcons, just so you know you're not alone, I've also noticed a drop in symptoms (I'm 5 weeks 3 days). I've read around and it seems that lots of people experience that, or indeed don't even have any symptoms until much later on, so keep positive!
PseudoBadger congrats on your BFP! smile

elsabel Tue 12-Feb-13 22:01:39

Massive congratulations to you 001!! Thats amazing you must be so happy, well done.

falcons i remember my symptoms fading around 8weeks for a few days then coming back again (the body can adjust to the hormones i have heard which affects the way they make you feel) and im now 24weeks. Please try not to worry, i know its hard though.

Hi garys glad you had a good scan, you must be relieved.

Congrats to all on bfp!!

Anyone else at around 24weeks?? X

gemdrop84 Wed 13-Feb-13 08:21:57

Thought I would pop back on to be nosey and see how you all are and well, hasn't someone been busy?! grin big congratulations 001 best wishes to you and baby001 thanks enjoy your newborn snuggles!

PurplePoppySeed Wed 13-Feb-13 19:44:33

001 brilliant news, congratulations thanks

Welcome and congratulations to everyone who has joined

I had a small but important milestone today-for the first time ever I've had the word "viable" printed on a scan report grin. It's even caught up too, so now they have put me at 9 weeks (which I think works with my dates and the late positive test I got). It's only the size of a jelly baby (looks like one too) but I feel like I might actually get to 12 weeks now! (little half hearted wahoo!)

ninjasquirrel Wed 13-Feb-13 20:31:00

Congratulations 001001 and a little cheer for PurplePoppySeed!

In the last couple of days I've started to feel a bit bigger-chested (DH also noticed this...), before that I felt like I might be just imagining that I was pregnant (only 4 1/2 weeks in). DS is 3 1/2 and for various reasons we left it until last autumn to try for no. 2, then I had a miscarriage in December. I'm crossing fingers for better luck this time.

GaryBuseysTeeth Thu 14-Feb-13 08:22:23

Purple, that's lovely news..hope the next 3 weeks fly by for you & your 12wk scan is all good news.

ninja, my MC was Oct/Nov & I had such strong symptoms with that one (worst nausea I've had in any pg), this time around I only tested because I wanted to rule out pg (hadn't had AF between mc & pg, didn't have sex at the 'right' time that month etc) waiting for AF but bigger boobs seem to happen the second I got my BFP, so crossing fingers for you.


nerual Thu 14-Feb-13 08:49:58

Great news Purple! My bean also measured small at last scan, so gives me some hope smile

PurplePoppySeed Thu 14-Feb-13 21:30:51

Definitely, in early scans I think it's almost impossibly to get a true measure anyway, when are you going back?

nerual Fri 15-Feb-13 06:37:56

I don't have another scan with them, they discharged me and I just have to register with my gp as preg as per normal pregnancy now. I might ask my midwife if I can get another early scan, mbe end next week or week after, just because I have the area of bleed and irregularly shaped gestation sac.... or might get another private scan if that is not possible.

PurplePoppySeed Fri 15-Feb-13 07:32:37

Good plan, it can't be long until 12 weeks for you either?

nerual Fri 15-Feb-13 08:54:13

well, they measured 6 weeks last Friday, but I reckon I should have been more like 7 weeks, so should be 8 weeks around now. its a bit tricky as no af after ercp to measure properly from....

PurplePoppySeed Fri 15-Feb-13 08:58:45

Fingers crossed you get the same news as me - I was in a similar boat, only had 1 AF after erpc but I must have ov'ed a week later than expected. Reading stories on here it's really clear that the measuments are based on averages and I bet they have little growth spurts at this stage. Good news is we have longer to prepare for baby, bad news is the dreaded 1st trimester continues longer than planned!

001001 Fri 15-Feb-13 18:27:56

Poppy and neural, sounding positive! Ninja, symptoms are such a difficult thing to rely on aren't they? Will keep fingers crossed for you.

Thanks for all the messages, baby girl is lovely and sleeps and feeds fairly well so very very happy.

Right, a flurry of babies coming up if I remember correctly so will be checking in regularly, good luck all!

Midori1999 Fri 15-Feb-13 19:22:37

I'm about to try and read through as much of the thread as I can.... but can I join in please?

I am 5+3 and utterly terrified. sad I have APS/Hughes syndrome, which is a blood clotting disorder, so puts me at higher risk of miscarriage and late loss. I had three DC, presumably before I got this as trouble free pregnancies, then had one early miscarriage, one loss of my twin girls after they were born very prematurely at 24 weeks (my waters went at 14 weeks) and then another early miscarriage before I was diagnosed with APS and then I went on to have my DD.

I was told before pregnant to expect a consultant appointment for an early scan and booking at 7-8 weeks, but now no one seems to think I'll be seen by a consultant until after my 12 week scan and the only appointment I'll have before then is booking with the midwife at 8 weeks.

I'm really panicking that I am going to miscarry and doing pregnancy tests like a maniac to try and get a 3 weeks plus result on a digital test because I never did with my miscarriages. I know I am being stupid and should stop. blush

I think I am going to book a private early scan as I think I'll feel better once I (hopefully) see a heartbeat. I know that's no guarantee, but it's a start.

I'm not usually crazy, honest...

Countmyblessings Fri 15-Feb-13 19:54:49

001 - it's good to hear that all is good with you and baby enjoy!
Ner- it's such a horrible time and the worries don't go away without you relaxing, but that's hard as all you want to do is fast forwards the days so your baby grows starts moving and belly and boobs grow!!!
Good thing about this thread for you and Purple is we are here for you to help you get through these long days!!!!
Welcome Mid - congrats on your BFP!!!! It's not silly or obsessive what your going through is what we all went through once we got the " 2 lines/ pregnant - trust me I found out I was pregnant after ectopic and had to have bloods done to see if the count went up, then to see if baby in right place, then heartbeat then the 1 st scan and so on!
I'm 36 weeks still not over the worries but at least the finish line is close and will finally meet baby (dc4) whoop!!!!!!

elsabel Fri 15-Feb-13 21:21:29

Hope the first trimester goes quickly for everyone it can feel like forever but youl get through it.

Welcome mid, youre not silly i was terrible during my first trimester, an absoulute nervous wreck (and still have my moments now). Were all here for support. Also, i went to doctors when i found out i was pg as i was really anxious and managed to get an early scan at 7 weeks which was very reassuring, might be worth a try you may get one on the nhs if not though its a small price to pay for piece of mind.

I got told by my MW that if you have been in the care of your epu before your just self refer to them and you will get a scan in a couple of days mid

Finger crossed for everyone i am feeling good atm as i feel very rubbish iykwim sick a lot! 7+1 today so things seem good. I am still very nervous but i feel very positive smile

Midori1999 Sat 16-Feb-13 08:36:23

Thanks everyone. Sadly I'm even more worried today, I think I may go to the GP on Monday, although not sure what he will do? Maybe refer me to EPU or do bloods? The lines on my Internet cheaply tests have been all over the place, lighter, darker, lighter, darker etc although that could obviously be because they are cheap and nasty. However, I also got 2-3 weeks on a digi last Friday and now 8 days later it still says 2-3. From what I understand your HCG needs to be 200 to get a 2-3 result and 2000 to get a 3+, so really it should have gone up by now, although I know I ovulated on CD 18.

Thanks so much for the reassurance that I am not the only one like this.

countmyblessings congratulations on getting to 36 weeks! All good from there hopefully! smile

elsabel I don't mind paying for a private scan at all and if I get that far then I think that's what I'm going to do.

thefalconmistress (please tell me you actually have falcons? How cool would that be?! grin ) I have spoken to the EPU and she told me they don't see you just if you're worried, even if you've had early losses before or are high risk, she also lectured me about my GP giving my clexane, saying the haematologist should have given me it, which is obviously all very well if I could get a flipping appointment with them! I was in a different area before, but my haematologist there was amazing and referred me to the EPU right away.

I would happily pay privately for bloods to be done too, but I have no idea where to get it done, there doesn't seem to be anywhere in this area. I think I've resigned myself to a miscarriage now anyway, although I just wish it would happen. [Sad] Anything other than that will be a bonus.

Midori1999 Sat 16-Feb-13 08:37:37

thefalconmistress sorry, just noticed that you are only 7+1 yourself. Hopefully the feeling sick is a good sign.

PurplePoppySeed Sat 16-Feb-13 09:14:54

001 - glad to hear she's doing well

Countmyblessings - are you next? It's all so exciting grin

I'm feeling a lot more positive now, not sure why, but I think I'll tell a couple a friends today - both helped me through my mc anyway so it feels safe to tell them now.

Looking forward to hearing lots more good news and positive scans over the coming weeks.

elsabel Sat 16-Feb-13 09:25:35

Thats great that youre feeling positive purple . Its very helpful to tell close friends for support, i told my 2 closest friends before 12weeks as i needed someone to obsess about it to! And they were great.

mid i am so sorry to hear youre having a hard time and worrying. I know its really hard but please try to stay positive, i found it helpful to tell myself 'im pregnant until proven otherwise'. Pg tests can be very unreliable in a way i took loads in the first few weeks and drove myself insane as some would show darker than others, in the end my DP confiscated them!! (I am by no means calling you insane its very normal!) But get it checked Monday just to put your mind at rest and try to keep busy til then.

Midori1999 Sat 16-Feb-13 09:35:34

Thanks. I feel insane, so don't worry about it. I'll try and forget about it. I have a Christening cake to make today and the Christening to attend tomorrow, so that'll keep me busy.

Purple, good that you're feeling positive and able to tell people.

mid if you are having any cramping or spotting then walk into epu or a+e they have to see you and its better than tearing strips off yourself. In week 5 i was the same but them symptoms got worse and everything settled you will most probably be fine but you deserve reassurance and i am sorry your epu are @%#@

Alas I have no Falcons I just like lame B movies from the 40's smile

PurplePoppySeed Sat 16-Feb-13 19:30:25

Mid, I pestered the GP to refer me to the EPU this time as I was really worried too, she did and once the GP has referred you I don't think the EPU can say no can they? You definately deserve the time from them, I can't believe they wouldn't see you before 12 weeks that's shocking! Or do as the falcon mistress says maybe?

PseudoBadger Sat 16-Feb-13 19:35:45

My tactic is going to be sticking my head in the sand until my nuchal scan I think, as I had my mc the day before my scan last time sad
I'm just checking for blood every time i wipe, that seems to be as much as I can handle right now.

PurplePoppySeed Sat 16-Feb-13 20:14:16

Oh badger, I feel that worry too, I'm being more positive, but have to admit I do still do that too blush

MrsReiver Sun 17-Feb-13 10:11:00

Hi folks,

Up last night having contractions every 5 minutes from 2-4, getting pretty intense and at one point I nearly woke DH up but they obviously died down as I fell asleep.

Now I've just got fairly persistant period type pains. I've never been this pregnant before but I understand this can go on for a while before I see any action. Still - at least it means things are progressing in the right direction!

elsabel Sun 17-Feb-13 18:27:29

I still do the toilet roll thing at 25weeks! And alot of other things that make me mad but i feel i need to do (i suffer with ocd which drives my DP insane!)

Eek mrsreiver sounds like something is happening!! What week are you on? Whens your due date? (Sorry youve probably said i just cant see it on recent posts) xx

Midori1999 Sun 17-Feb-13 18:34:32

Mrsreiver, that sounds promising! Fingers crossed for you!

Badger, it's awful isn't it, I do the checking for blood too.

I was so blissfully ignorant in my first three pregnancies, it just didn't occur to me that something might go wrong. How wonderful it would be to be like that now!

I got a 3+ on a Clearblue digi today. I'm 5+5 by dates, but only 5+1 by when I ovulated, so that's made me feel slightly better. I'm not going to test anymore, I think I've spent about £50 on digital tests alone. blush I've also booked a private scan for two weeks yesterday, so I'll be 7+4 by dates then, so hopefully we'll see a heartbeat and be reassurred. smile

MrsReiver Sun 17-Feb-13 18:53:25

I'm due. next Monday, DH is a little stressed as he has a really, really important meeting at work tomorrow so I've to do nothing tonight to encourage any developments grin

No.more action today, just occasional tightenings and a dull ache in my lower belly.

elsabel Sun 17-Feb-13 20:18:39

Hope the next 2 weeks go quickly for you mid i have fingers x for you.

mrs reiver you'd better keep youre legs crossed then! [Smile]

elsabel Sun 17-Feb-13 20:21:51

Sorry that was meant to be a smile

MrsReiver Mon 18-Feb-13 09:38:59

Blinding headache and swollen feet and hands this morning, fortunately the midwife is in on a Monday and she's got a free appointment. Hoping it's nothing serious confused

PseudoBadger Mon 18-Feb-13 13:41:37

Hope you've managed to see a MW MrsReiver and you're ok?

Midori1999 Mon 18-Feb-13 13:49:38

Thanks Elsabel.

MrsReiver, good luck at the midwife, that sounds awful. sad

MrsReiver Mon 18-Feb-13 13:57:29

BP raised, protein in my urine - to go in tomorrow for monitoring for pre eclampsia sad

Countmyblessings Mon 18-Feb-13 14:18:44

Mrs R- so sorry, so close to the finishing line! Hopefully labour will just progress and baby will be here very soon!

All the best to you and baby xx

elsabel Mon 18-Feb-13 20:34:07

Hope everything is ok mrsreiver xx

MrsReiver Mon 18-Feb-13 21:12:00

Bags packed just in case, in laws booked to pick up and watch DS.

We're all prepared if they decide to keep me in, although I would rather not have the high BP and headache, I am a little excited at the idea of meeting the baby soon!

PurplePoppySeed Tue 19-Feb-13 13:56:33

Oh mrsR I hope you get good news and baby follows shortly. DH must have had his meeting now, so nothing to stop the little one arriving now. God luck, I'm sure I speak for all of us to say we've all got out fingers crossed for you & can't wait to hear your good news.

001001 Tue 19-Feb-13 14:54:27

Good luck mrsreiver, hope to hear good news soon x

MrsReiver Tue 19-Feb-13 16:20:26

I was admitted last night as my headaches became unbearable, but this morning everything was back to normal. All urine, bloods etc clear, BP lower, headache gone. Consultant discharged me but I've to see my commmunity midwife every week until baby arrives. I have a date for an induction but they don't think I'll make it as the baby is just starting to engage smile thanks for all the good wishes, I'll keep you informed.

I'm off for a nap!!

Glad your ok msriver smile

I got told by the epu I could have a scan on friday when I should be around 8 weeks im nervous about the risk of having an early scan but I would be nice to know there is a healthy bean in there sad not sure at all thoughts anyone?

PurplePoppySeed Tue 19-Feb-13 18:07:48

MrsR glad to hear you are feeling better today, enjoy your last few sleeps

Falcon are you worried about the physical or emotional side of an early scan? Physically I don't really think there is much to worry about, emotionally only you know how you feel. Everyone tells you it won't change the outcome, personally I liked the reassurance, but it doesn't stop me worrying again now that's have another 3 weeks until my 12 week scan. Sorry I can't be more helpful!

GaryBuseysTeeth Tue 19-Feb-13 18:27:46

MrsR, glad everything is better today...were they as surprised as you at that?!
Hope you enjoyed your nap.

Falcon, I had a scan at 6wks this time, was fine during the scan but every second I've not 'felt' pregnant since I still think the worst is about to happen...so it was reassuring, looking at the stats which say after seeing a heartbeat your risk of mc is reduced, and very good for my DH (he was more upset than me over mc, so seeing heartbeat felt like moving on).
I've had my 12wk scan, next one is the end of March & everyday I don't 'feel' pg I'm straight on the doppler looking for a heartbeat.
Longwinded, but what I'm trying to say is once you've have a mc I don't think anything will reassure you until you're holding a newborn!

LandsN Tue 19-Feb-13 20:35:43

Hi all

Hope I can ask for some advice I have had 2 dc's and since had 3 mc's last one being 19/12/12 I am now nearly 5 weeks pg been to gp and midwife but feel a bit deflated last time they said once I fell pg again I could have all sorts of tests done to get to the bottom of the mc's but now they saying a consultant might not see me till 11 weeks but problem being I can't get past 8 weeks!!! Does anyone know what I should b pushing for and is it the gp or mw I need to see for it to happen? T.i.a.

elsabel Tue 19-Feb-13 22:12:43

Glad to hear all is good with you mrsr i hope everything goes smoothly and you manage to fit plenty of sleep in.

falcon are you scared of what the scan will show and how you will handle it emotionally? I was, but also it did reassure me and gives you something to hold on to through those moments of paranoia that something isnt right. I do agree with what garys says though, i think a mc affects how you deal with pregnancy afterwards.

Hi lands i really dont know what your best route would be but think if i was you id be pushing for extra care as after what youve been through you certainly deserve it even if just to help you deal emotionally. Am i right in thinking if youve had recurrent mc's theres medication a doctor can prescribe to help support the pregnancy along? Sorry i really dont know alot about it thats just what ive read, hope one of the MNs on here has the answer for you. Good luck x

LandsN Tue 19-Feb-13 22:41:49

Thanks for your reply I have had 3 mc's and am now 4+4 I am going to book myself in next week if I have not heard from the consultant x

I am petrified of both the emotional and physical aspects of the scan but i am going to have it i do agree though i dont think i will be relaxed until baby is in my arms xxx

LandsN Wed 20-Feb-13 14:58:33

I know exactly how u feel going for a scan now petrified at the prospect of not seeing that heart beat makes me feel sick x

PurplePoppySeed Thu 21-Feb-13 17:30:29

Falcon - based on everyone's comments on here, I think that's exactly right, though every week brings with it a little more confidence, especially getting past the stage you previously got to - that made a massive different for me.

Lands - have you managed to get referred to the EPU? Some advice I got from a friend that had 3 mc's and then had a healthy baby was to really slow down and relax in the first 12 weeks, don't do too much, dont stress about being late for things slow the exercise (if you do lots) and look after yourself, that's the main thing she changed. Seems so little, but I took the advice anyway, stopped running for the train in the mornings, just letting the next one come which made it more likely to find a seat, stopped walking so bloody fast everywhere etc etc (it's funny - now I notice how much of a rush everyone is always in) net result is maybe 10 mins later to work-no big deal, and way less stressed, I hope it's helping!

LandsN Thu 21-Feb-13 17:43:02

My midwife said almost the same and to relax for half hour everyday thinking nice thoughts in silence or chilling music deep breathing I have been trying but with a oh who works long hours and half term it's been quite hard roll on Monday when school starts again and my gp referred me Monday to the consultant but I am still waiting to hear anything he marked it urgent but I suppose our urgen is different to there's x

Midori1999 Thu 21-Feb-13 23:03:46

Good luck getting a consultant appointment LandsN, congratulations on your pregnancy.

MrsReiver, any news? I hope you are doing OK and the headaches etc have stayed away.

Thefalconmistress, is it your scan tomorrow? Good luck with it, I hope you're not too worried.

After all the ringing round I did last week, I got an appointment through to see the Haematologist that works with the obstericians today. It's for next Friday morning. I'm not sure if they are going to scan me, although I was led to believe they would do so prior to being pregnant. It's in the haematology department, so I'm not sure if the haematologist would have a scanner in her room maybe if she deals with pregnant women? confused I have a private scan booked for Saturday though, so if they don't scan me I will still go to that.

somanystripes Fri 22-Feb-13 12:50:06

Hi - can I tentatively poke my head round the door...? I might just lurk for a bit if you don't mind. I'm feeling a bit alone and was looking for some peeps that might understand.

Got a BFP last night and feeling a bit numb to be honest. We've had repeat miscarriages (four before my amazing one-year-old DD was born, and another one a few months ago). After the disappointment of the last pregnancy ending at eight weeks we decided to just see what happened, and I feel really lucky to have got pregnant again so soon. Neither of us can let ourselves get even slightly excited, and we won't even acknowledge the pregnancy again for a few more weeks (if it progresses that far) which is the only way we can deal with it.

I'm trying to be really calm and philosophical about it (which I'm sometimes managing, interspersed with "why don't I feel sick?!", "is that period pain?!" type panic), but I actually mostly feel sad and jaded by having been here so many times now, and guilty for not be able to be happy about something which should be lovely. Not sure if that makes sense.

Thanks for reading grin

Had my scan 8 + 5 very healthy bean grin

Countmyblessings Fri 22-Feb-13 19:52:18

Happy for you -falcon - yeh on healthy bean!!!!
Welcome - Somany- sorry about your losses!the wonderful thing about this thread is all the feelings you are experiencing WE have all been there, but don't feel guilty and I will tell myself everyday " today I'm pregnant"
And slowly things will progress the sickness will start with the sore boobs and constant weeing and the knicker checking will fade! So will the doubt but after you may get a scan- its a Hard long road one that I have been down with no problems and then some with pot holes!
Don't know if u read thread but I'm having my little one 4th march and can't wait till baby is safe in my arms ( although the constant kicks are reassurance)
Loads of hugs and hand holding till the end!

MrsReiver Fri 22-Feb-13 23:41:45

Baby boy born this afternoon, it was all a bit quick so we're all stunned!

001001 Sat 23-Feb-13 02:55:57

Congratulations mrsreiver! So pleased baby has arrived, are you all ok?

Mrsd77 Sat 23-Feb-13 07:31:18

Congratulations Mrs R!!

Stripes I'm a bit of a lurker and totally echo what Count says. This thread is full of ladies who have had a tough time and know exactly what you're feeling. They got me through some real wobbles during this pg (am currently 17 weeks pg after a molar last year).

Stay strong and do what you can to keep yourself sane! I've decided this time that if I'm worried in a way that a medical professional can help, that I am going to seek it persistently. Perhaps if you wanted to you could see your gp and get a 6 week scan?

Sorry you've had a tough time in the past. Lurk on here. The ladies are great and so many graduates come through, just like Mrs R!!

Good luck x

GaryBuseysTeeth Sat 23-Feb-13 08:32:50

Welcome Stripes, hope you get to hang around here for ages this time. Like Count says, I try to live in the 'today I'm pregnant' camp too. x

Congrats on the the great scan result Falcon

Oh, and I suppose a BIG massive congrats to MrsR is in hand! grin Hurrah for your little boy! Hope you & him are well & having lots of newborn squishy cuddles.

15wks here, started an Amazon wishlist of things we need for a baby, as we might be having one soon...

Hope everyone has a lovely weekend!

elsabel Sat 23-Feb-13 16:02:51

Congratulations mrsR !!! I hope you and little boy are well!

Welcome somany congrats on your bfp and sorry to hear about your losses. Cant really offer much more reassurance than what countmyblessings has said but hang around on here for hand holding. Hopefully in just a few weeks you'll be feeling better, i echo what count said though how about an early scan?

Great news on your healthy bean falcon you must be very relieved.

Well i went and got checked out at the hospital last night, thought i may have had a bit of a leak (although couldve been discharge or wee!!) But didnt know and got paranoid that my movements werent often enough. Anyway midwife checked heartbeat and all ok (she wasnt very sympathetic though and made me feel ridiculous). Had great movements since so feel much better today. Anyone had experience with this?

Countmyblessings Sat 23-Feb-13 21:14:31

Huge huge congrats to Mrs R and welcome to the world baby boy!
To everyone else hanging in there!!!!
Elsa - it's good when in doubt to check it out( no concerns is silly)
Gary- whoop on wish list and big cheer to 15 weeks!!!!
I can't wait for March to hurry up and be here!!!!!!!
Can't imagine by the time "Mothers day" comes I will have a new baby in my arms!!!!!!! Eeeekkkkkkkk

nerual Mon 25-Feb-13 10:13:53

Morning, had my booking appt today, and lovely midwife got me another early scan (as my 12w one is a month away), so am going in tomorrow to EPU for them to take a look. Really pleased as although I haven't bled or had cramps for a couple of weeks now, anxiety levels still really high. Really didn't want to pay another 100 for a private scan, but probably would have if I couldn't get another EPU one!
Hope everyone else is doing ok and congrats MrsR on the baby!

elsabel Mon 25-Feb-13 11:15:25

Hi nerual Thats great you managed to get an early scan, best of luck hope it goes well tomorrow, then you can relax a bit.

Hope everyone else is ok and had a good weekend x

gemdrop84 Mon 25-Feb-13 13:31:04

ooh I've been lurking for a bit hoping to hear from you Mrsr, congratulations and best wishes to you and your little boy!

PurplePoppySeed Mon 25-Feb-13 20:57:48

Yey! Congratulations MrsR!

MrsReiver Tue 26-Feb-13 11:41:52

We are great, home at last. Just trying to work each other out now.

nerual Tue 26-Feb-13 14:11:30

had scan, all looking fine. gestation sac is the right shape now, baby measures 9.4weeks, area of bleed completely gone. so starting to feel a bit more relaxed now... just 4 weeks to wait till next scan!

elsabel Tue 26-Feb-13 16:56:52

Thats great nurual glad all is looking good.

PurplePoppySeed Tue 26-Feb-13 20:12:03

Brilliant news nerual, role on 12 weeks grin

ninjasquirrel Wed 27-Feb-13 11:34:46

That's great nerual.

I just went to the doctor's to register as pregnant (6 1/2 weeks now). Feels weird to be doing it all again just a few months after last time. Doctor was sympathetic and said she'd had a couple of miscarriages herself but I'm feeling more anxious now than I was before for some reason - just need to forget about it and get on with stuff...

Found out the other day that someone I know is pregnant, and due in June (when I would have been due) and I had one of those real 'that's not fair, should have been me too' moments. Completely irrational - for all I know she could have had miscarriages, been trying for ages after her first child. Anyway, we can't be rational all the time!

nerual Wed 27-Feb-13 12:47:49

I would also have been due in June....it is hard not to be sad about it, I know what you mean. I don't think its irrational, but part of the grieving process.sad

Hi nerual great news with scan we are around the same im 9 + 3 today smile

nerual Wed 27-Feb-13 16:06:51

Oh that is exciting Falcom!! Our due dates must be very similar, mine is now 28 Sept...

elsabel Wed 27-Feb-13 17:31:16

I remember thinking similar thoughts ninja, my sister was 2 weeks ahead of me when i was pg last year and had a mmc, so the whole way through i could see right before my eyes where i wouldve been at had i not lost mine. And i felt awful for feeling jealous and all the other thoughts that come with it (although i have now got a gorgeous 3month ol nephew/godson and its lovely). But i agree with neural its part of the grieving process and not easy to understand if you havent been there. Im now 26 weeks though and am still a nervous wreck most of the time but it does get easier as the weeks go on smile

My date is the 29th sep nerual i got pushed forwards from my scan i had, i thought i was 8 weeks turns out i was 8 + 5!

nerual Fri 01-Mar-13 16:37:04

Hi everyone, found out something interesting today if you are concerned about Downs but don't want an invasive amnio test, and if you are between 10 and 11 weeks and can get to the Fetal Medicine Centre in Harley street, then you can get a Harmony test for £180. The test is usually between £600 and £800, so a big saving. It is supposed to be almost as accurate as a diagnostic test. They are offerering it cheaply because they are doing some kind of data gathering thing, so you have to be between 10 and 11 weeks otherwise it is full price. You also get a nuchal scan 2 weeks later when you get your result.

nerual how are your symptoms have they lessened mine have still tired but not so sick im a bit worried even though MW said that it would lessen at this point confused

nerual Fri 01-Mar-13 18:41:18

not too bad, but I don't get a lot of nausea anyway.... the worst is on my way home, I have to tak the docklands light rail, which really does make me feel ill. I have also been feeling really tired and a bit dizzy recently, which worried me a bit, but seems its normal. hopefully will feel much better on a couple of weeks...

nerual Fri 01-Mar-13 18:41:20

not too bad, but I don't get a lot of nausea anyway.... the worst is on my way home, I have to tak the docklands light rail, which really does make me feel ill. I have also been feeling really tired and a bit dizzy recently, which worried me a bit, but seems its normal. hopefully will feel much better on a couple of weeks...

honey86 Fri 01-Mar-13 22:11:15

hii may i join!? im 5 weeks tomorrow.

long story short, i had an early mc about a year and a half ago... i was about 5.5 weeks at the time, had only found out i was preg few days before, and me and my partner at the time went our seperate ways, havent seen him since. gave it a long time to brave pregnancy again.

this will be #4, i have ds1, 7, ds2, 5, and dd, wholl turn 4 soon- from a former relationship (he died of sudden adult death).
got my bfp last week but been anxuous cos of awful af-stylee cramps today but so far <touch wood> no bleeding...

~sticky viibes~


elsabel Fri 01-Mar-13 22:28:32

Of corse honey sorry to hear youve had a sad past, and congratulations on your bfp!

Have you been to see your doctor? Not saying you need to its just i went when i got my bfp and reassured me alot x

honey86 Sat 02-Mar-13 07:28:11

ive got an appt with gp, but he wont see me til mid march.. cramps have eased abit this morning and replaced with abit of pelvic ache...

think mc even a very early one makes u paranoid extra cautious..
thanks hun xx

elsabel Sat 02-Mar-13 08:07:27

Definatly, i was such a nervous wreck when i saw my gp he sent me for an early scan at 7 weeks to put my mind at ease. Going through a mc changing the whole experience, sadly x

Midori1999 Sat 02-Mar-13 23:48:43

Congratulations on the birth of your baby boy MrsR! smile

Neural and thefalconmistress, congratulations on your early scans! smile

Honey, congratulations on your pregnancy. It's worrying, isn't it, I'd like to e able to say something will reassure you, but it doesn't really until you have a scan or move along safely. Hopefully the time will go fast for you.

I had my early scan yesterday. They finally sorted out all my appointments, so it was an NHS one. I was also seen other joint haematology/obstetric clinic at the hospital and was really pleased with how it went and how efficient, friendly and lovely all the staff there seem, which is reassuring. They seemed to recognise all the more pregnant ladies coming in, which surprised me as I live in a city.

The scan &#373;ent well anyway, thank goodness! It put me at 7+1, which seems right. By dates I would have been 7+3 yesterday, but I know I didn't ovulate until after day 14, I had thought day 17/18. Anyway, the main thing is the heartbeat was there and everything is how it should be. What a relief! Of course, I'm still worried, but I feel really nauseous now and although its awful, I see it as a good sign, so I'm sucking it up. grin

congratulations MrsR grin

so glad this threads still going. Lily is 10 weeks now a smiley happy chubby cheeked actual baby who i still can't believe i finally have, i know i wouldn't have made it through the pregnancy without the ladies i spoke to here.

best of luck to you all xxx

Hi all, not posted in ages! I'm just up with my beautiful baby girl who was born on Wednesday by elective section, weighing 7 lb 5 oz. We've called her Esther. She was in scbu for a few days as she had a terrible first few hours, had to be resuscitated twice in theatre, given oxygen etc. she didn't half give us a fright. Good news is that we're all fine, I'm recovering well, a bit sore/tender, but breastfeeding is well established and we're getting home tomorrow (well, later today I suppose). Big brother is delighted with his baby sister smile

PurplePoppySeed Sun 03-Mar-13 10:09:48

congratulations backward, sounds like a bumpy and scary ride, but so glad to hear the good news. bet you can't wait to get home tomorrow.

MrsReiver Mon 04-Mar-13 12:26:34

Oh Congratulations Possom!

State has that really been 10 weeks? That has flown in! BabyReiver is doing brillantly, piling the weight on which is no surprise as he's feeding like a star. All wonderfully, blissfully happy with him. He's just fitted into our family like he was always here.

ninjasquirrel Mon 04-Mar-13 17:34:04

Congratulations backwardpossum. Esther is a lovely name (files in mental list). Glad your scan went well Midori & sending sticky vibes back to you Honey.

I am sooo tired this afternoon and I had at least 9 1/2 hours sleep last night - it's ridiculous! Still, I'm lucky not to feel sick.

MissLolita Mon 04-Mar-13 21:38:32

Hi ladies, can I come and sit quietly here for a bit please? Got a bfp yesterday after a mmc at 13 weeks on New Year's Eve. I feel slightly hysterical about everything at the moment and just seem to veer between bursting with joy and feelings of total despondency as I have this terrible feeling something will go wrong again.

Does anyone have any experience about early scan referrals on the NHS? If everything continues okay I'm going to be a nervous wreck in a couple of weeks!

I'm tormented by the thought that I was going to have a private scan at 7 weeks last time and I didn't because I talked myself out of it (we can't afford it) but it could have saved me a load of heartache. As I was 12 weeks we told our families on Christmas Day and then had to break bad news very shortly after and of course I have this irrational anger that my body let me think I was pregnant for so long when I wasn't. The scan showed there was nothing there so the pregnancy had obviously failed a long time before.

Sorry if this is rambling and shouty. I can't seem to get a grip!


elsabel Mon 04-Mar-13 21:57:49

Welcome misslolita and congrats on your bfp. Well i too had a mmc last year and it sent me totally nuts with anxieties this time round, i managed to get an early scan on the nhs at 7 weeks which helped alot. I think i was lucky though, i went to see my GP as was so worried and needed reassurance, he could see this and referred me to hospital for an early scan noting i had had 'cramps'. It was a bit naughty of him to do, but i was so glad he did. As if he hadnt i think id have paid anyway. Maybe you could try the same? Hope you have some luck. X

nerual Tue 05-Mar-13 20:46:30

Hi misslolita, I also had a mmc, just before christmas, such an awful experience. I think that gp's are always happy to refer you if you say that you are worrying a lot about the pregnancy. I actually got an early scan after my booking appt, as I told the midwife that I was worrying a lot due to mmc etc.

I got an early scan at 8 weeks and it did help the anxiety a bit, even though it was just a snapshot in time, if you know what I mean. I still worried until about 20 weeks. She's now sleeping on my shoulder. Got everything crossed for you misslolita

PurplePoppySeed Thu 07-Mar-13 20:29:28

Agree with everyone above, having had an MMC my doctor referred me back to the EPU this time as a precaution and they were happy to scan me early. This s all before my first MW appointment. However, every area seems to be different, but no harm in trying with your doc first.

MinkyWinky Fri 08-Mar-13 14:37:45

Hello! Creeping in to sit quietly in the corner to try and stop fretting. I've had two early MC and it's taken over a year to get pregnant again.

My GP and the EPU were lovely and I got a viability scan based on my history alone. It was lovely to see a heart beat and a wriggling sprout (8day +5), but now I'm holding out for a 12 week scan to see if s/he's still there and wriggling. Hopefully only 1-2 weeks to go... It's so lovely to hear everyone's elses success stories grin. You give me hope!

MumTumgot Sat 09-Mar-13 08:37:33

State backwards and mrs r congrats ladies on your bundled of joy grin

Lost everyone for a while as wasn't brave enough to join a 'bus' but felt awkward in the mc thread... 34 weeks now and officially on mat leave can't believe it ! Should find out Tuesday date for c section ...,
Take care all xxxx

gemdrop84 Sat 09-Mar-13 14:50:28

Congratulations backward hope you and baby are well! X

Thank you! We're doing really well. I feel great after the section and Esther is an absolute angel! So chilled out. After having a crazy first child, I keep finding myself checking that she's ok as she's so quiet!

huge congratulations backward grin what a lovely name too.

Lily is 3 months on Wednesday shock still a total boob monster and is giggling now, waving at herself and has a huge personality, and apparently very spoilt; i don't care i waited sooo long for her im going to cherish every moment!

HumphreyCobbler Tue 12-Mar-13 10:19:30


I am 8 weeks pregnant. My history is
1 missed miscarriage
1 diagnosis of Patau's syndrome at the 20 week scan
2 healthy pregnancies smile a ds and a dd
1 miscarriage at 11 weeks.

Now I am pregnant again I cannot shake off the feeling that is all going to go horribly wrong. I just feel totally depressed about the whole thing, not helped by the fact I feel so bloody ill (I felt this ill last time so don't even see that as a positive sign).

It has been lovely reading all the positive stories on this thread though. I know you all know how I feel.

I am dreading the scan so much.

Countmyblessings Tue 12-Mar-13 14:04:16

Hi all just wanted to update -
Baby count born at 37 weeks on 25/2/13 ECS! Weight 6lbs 4oz with loads of dark curly hair!!!!!
This thread has given me such strength I do hope that us who have come through will be given those who are in the early stages hope that it can work out - take 1 day at a time! Have a early scan for peace of mind and keep telling yourself " today I am pregnant" try not to stress!!!!
Loads of hand holding, sticky bean vibes, great scan results and starts of baby kicks!!!!

Good luck, Humphrey x

Count Congratulations! grin

p.s. I've put a pic of Esther in my profile if you want a look smile

Shellywelly1973 Wed 13-Mar-13 16:19:01

Beautiful...Esther is absolutely gorgeous! I've read this entire thread!

I had a MMC at 12 Wks, two weeks ago. Dp & I have decided to try again asap. I had no idea anything was wrong, it was my 6th pregnancy so my confidence in myself & body has been knocked...

At least i know what im thinking & feeling about future pregnancies is totally normal.

Your posts have helped so much- Thankyou!

PurplePoppySeed Wed 13-Mar-13 22:11:16

Congratulations Count - Brilliant news smile All this news of new babies is really starting to make it feel like it's actually going to happen!

I finally had my 12 week scan! Amazing, I've actually got a baby in there! Now I'm finally feeling a little more confident! The best part is, even though they won't date me again, it's pretty obvious from the C-R length that I am only a few days behind where I should be instead of 2 weeks behind as they said at my first 8 week scan! grin

elsabel Fri 15-Mar-13 22:04:15

Congrats to all with new babas! backwardpossom Esther is beautiful!!

Also big congrats for those who have had good scans. Hope everyones had a good week, happy weekend to you all

ninjasquirrel Sun 17-Mar-13 14:03:34

Hello all
It's quiet in here...
How's everyone else who's tiptoeing through the first trimester? 9 weeks here and still stupidly tired which has to be a good sign, no?

PurplePoppySeed Sun 17-Mar-13 19:44:24

Hi ninja, I was exhausted about 8 weeks onwards. Only just getting better now, but still feel tired after a good 8 hour night! I'm sure it's good smile

HumphreyCobbler Sun 17-Mar-13 19:46:23


I am nine weeks too. Tired is a good thing - and I keep telling myself that constant vomiting is a good thing too...

Countmyblessings Sun 17-Mar-13 21:12:33

Backwards - I have always loved the name Esther! It's also a lovely biblical name with a strong meaning!
Congrats to all the newbies!
Will def keep popping my head in to check on you all!
This thread and hand holding really helped me through the longest pregnancy ever!!!!! Thankful for my beautiful girl!!! Who is nearly 3 weeks old now!!
Right I'm off to put on the washing!!!!

MinkyWinky Mon 18-Mar-13 09:35:09

11 weeks now and although I'm still feeling nauseous, tired and hungry, it's starting to get less noticeable!

nerual Mon 18-Mar-13 12:58:16

I am 12 weeks, also feeling a bit leas tired etc. 12w scan on thurs...

Mrsd77 Tue 19-Mar-13 19:19:40

Hi all

Twenty week scan today and all is well. Great measurements and all is where it should be. Got myself in a right old tizz beforehand and now so relieved I feel sick again!

Didn't find out flavour. August is soon enough! I even let myself make a couple of purchases this afternoon. Eek!

nerual Tue 19-Mar-13 19:27:41

congrats Mrsd! I can imagine the relief must be enormous.

elsabel Tue 19-Mar-13 22:22:23

Congratulations mrsd what a big relief! Good luck with yours on thursday nerual

ninjasquirrel Wed 20-Mar-13 22:17:58

Good luck for tomorrow nerual!

nerual Thu 21-Mar-13 14:09:46

thanks! scan at 5, v. nervous. will update you all later!

nerual Thu 21-Mar-13 17:21:12

scan went fine! breathing sigh of relief!!

elsabel Thu 21-Mar-13 19:55:53

Thats great nerual. You must be so relieved, its a great feeling knowing all is well.

ninjasquirrel Thu 21-Mar-13 21:04:23

Yay! good news.

Yay nerual! grin

Mrsd77 Sun 24-Mar-13 09:49:38

nerual that's fantastic!!!!

76Chalky Sun 24-Mar-13 09:52:46

Hi, can I join?

I'm just wondering if any of you ladies out there have gone through bleeding in the 1st trimester and come out the other side still pregnant... I'm 10+4 wcs, just booked in with my midwife on Thursday and then started with a light brown discharge/bleed Thursday evening. Talked to midwife on Friday and she said it sounded like old blood, get back to them if it got heavier but not to worry. Of course I then had nothing on Friday, calmed down (4 previous mc no children so was panicking) until the evening when I had a heavier red bleed with stringy bits. This has now been going on all weekend, not as heavy as when I mc but I'm so scared it's just the start and there is literally no-one to put me out of my misery one way or the other until Monday. If it's a mc i know there's no stopping it, i just want to know!! DH is great but also helpless, so just need to chat to anyone who might have had similar, whatever the outcome. Thanks.

nerual Sun 24-Mar-13 16:16:08

Hi Chalky. I had a massive bleed at 6 weeks (was a Thursday evening). I didn't bleed for very long (maybe one night) but was a lot of bright red blood (enough to initially soak through all my clothes), was absolutely terrifying. Also had cramps for the whole weekend. No clots of any description though. Went for a scan the monday after, and although you could see an 'area of bleed' on the scan (and could still see it a week later), there was a heartbeat as well. I had another scan at 9 weeks and it had gone, and all looked fine. I would never have believed that it was possible to bleed so much and for the pg to still be fine, but apparently it is not that uncommon. I think if you have really bad cramps, that is supposed to be a worse sign than light bleeding...

76Chalky Sun 24-Mar-13 19:08:18

Hi neural. That's reassuring and i'm glad to hear things were ok for you. You must have been so relieved. The bleeding has been stop start all weekend but no cramps and it hasn't turned clotted like it has in the past in mc, so who knows. Probably another sleepless night until I can talk to my GP tomorrow and get a scan sorted. Just keeping everything crossed.

PurplePoppySeed Sun 24-Mar-13 19:30:15

Hi chalky, fingers crossed for GP appointment, you might be able to get in or an early scan to check.

mrsd and nerual - congrats on good scans smile

elsabel Sat 30-Mar-13 21:41:07

Hi how is everyone? hope it worked out ok for you chalky

littlestlily1974 Fri 05-Apr-13 13:02:29

Hi,can I join? I hope I'm posting this in the right place, I'm new to mumsnet.
I'm sending myself mad with the dreaded google!!! I can't help myself and am now so stressed :/ , I had a scan on Wednesday, at 5.2 weeks, and the scan showed a gestational sac measuring mean diameter of 8.33 mm and the start of a yolk sac, the sonographer said she wasn't worried, but I can't trust what they say and have to compulsively worry and check things out for myself, now the majority of sites I've seen say that's fine, but the ones that say the sac should be 1cm at 4.6 weeks are sending me batty!
What are people's thoughts?
Thanks smile

nerual Fri 05-Apr-13 13:15:50

welcome lily....early scans can be reassuring and worrying in equal measures....I had one at 7 weeks a week after a heavy bleed and totally freaked out because it showed big area of bleed as well as irregular gestation sac and baby smaller than should be, though heartbeat was there. all is fine and normal now, recently had 12w scan. I think its very, very hard for them to get exact measurements so early. try not to worry too much...though I know from experience that it's impossible not to!! and google is evil, try and stay away from it wink

littlestlily1974 Fri 05-Apr-13 15:09:54

Thanks Neural, I know your right xx

PurplePoppySeed Sun 14-Apr-13 18:47:16

Hello, thought I'd check in as it's been a bit quiet on here recently. Everyone still doing ok? I've got to 18 weeks and starting to get excited about 20 week scan. Maybe then I might feel brave enough to actually consider buying maternity clothes or things for a baby!

elsabel Sun 14-Apr-13 21:46:57

How exciting purple are you going to find out the sex?

I was the same, went out and bought loads after my 20 week scan and it feels more exciting then too.

nerual Mon 15-Apr-13 12:34:14

I just had my 16w consultant appt this morning (if you have previous molar pg you have to see consultant)...and they had me reported as having had a miscarriage so had all my appointments cancelled and had archived my notes!! So had to get that sorted out, obviously because I conceived so soon after last mc some wires got crossed. But all seems fine with the baby, got to listen to heartbeat which was nice. Also feel like i will only really relax about the pg after 20wk scan...we haven't even told our families yet!!

Mrsd77 Mon 15-Apr-13 12:49:16

Hi there nerual I was exactly the same as you! DH got cross when I still didn't want to tell people post 16 weeks but we came clean even though I didn't relax at all til after 20 weeks. I'm 24+4 now and only have a panic when I haven't felt any movement for a couple of hours. I am consultant led post molar and post c section with DS and growth scans begin in a fortnight. It's going really fast now! Eek!

nerual Mon 15-Apr-13 18:20:16

Can't wait to feel some movement...haven't felt anything at all yet. Am sure I was feeling things by now with DS, but I think my tummy muscles were a lot tighter then, now I'm much more flabby!
How many growth scans do you get MrsD?

Mrsd77 Mon 15-Apr-13 22:02:29

I'm told I get one at 28 and another at 34 with a "decision"appointment at 36. I think I'm growing a bigun! My bump seems massive this time!

PurplePoppySeed Mon 15-Apr-13 22:42:01

Nerual I haven't had any movement yet either, in fact I just look a little podgy! It's so weird at this stage as I barely feel preggers at the moment!

Elsabel we still can't decide whether to find out the sex, hopefully we agree soon wink

Hey not been on in a while usually hodong out on the october thread I am 16+3 today and i am finding out the sex on Sat!! very excited smile little flutters now and again for me but as for the bump i am fat anyway so i just feel really fat now lol smile

hiding lol

cuckooplusone Tue 16-Apr-13 13:44:05


Can I play? I had a mc in 2004, dd born in 2006, ectopic 2007, got divorced, new partner, tried for 2 years and just now preg 10 wks.

I am freaking out a bit, even though I have seen a heartbeat in the right place at 7 weeks I am preparing myself for the worst all the time and on symptom watch.

Thing is, I know it won't stop, still worry about dd even though she's enormous now (and I am fairly sure my mum worries about me too).

So I am trying to do all the right things, hope for the best and stop googling!

PurplePoppySeed Tue 16-Apr-13 21:29:44

Hi Cuckoo, welcome, lots of lovely ladies & success stories on here. I think we've pretty much all felt the same, and I still have moments of paranoia! For me, It has felt safer to worry!

nerual Tue 14-May-13 12:03:57

Just had 20 week scan, all seems fine, and it's a girl! Still not felt much movement but guess that could be my flabby tummy left over from DS1...

PurplePoppySeed Tue 14-May-13 12:27:50

Great news smile I had my 20 week scan just before heading off on holiday (still in Portugal at the moment). We didn't find out the sex, but at least I now know why I can't feel anything - anterior high placenta. The only places I can feel anything are inside my pelvis still! It's annoying as the one thing I need to stop worrying is kicks! I'm sure I'll regret thinking this later though smile

This is our last baby free sun holiday (hopefully) it's well worth a Babymoon, even if I did make DH drive us all the way to the Algave as I was too silly to fly! ( I flew to Warsaw and back in week 6 last time which was around when baby stopped growing - I know I'm being paranoid, but figured better not to worry even if about silly things! )

nerual Tue 14-May-13 12:48:47

Oh very jealous of your holiday! I don't think we will get to go away before arrival of this baby. holidays are quite different once you have kids! But we did go to portugal last year with DS1, and he did really enjoy it, the weather and beaches there are perfect for toddlers. I'm sure you will be back smile
Can't believe you drove!!

PurplePoppySeed Tue 14-May-13 13:07:33

I know - i'm crazy but am relaxing instead of worrying! Its not as far as i thought and its lovely having our own car here, we've seen quite a few ither UK cars too! We left on a Friday night ferry, arrived Caen 6am, drove to the Spanish border and had 2 nights in San Jean De Luz, then shared the driving through Spain (11hrs with my 50million wee stops) arriving 6pm Monday night! Had just over a week here so far, heading off thursday to be home sat night!

It does seem very kiddy friendly, we've already been round the mini golf without kids grin think you are right!

Ps. Meant to ask is your placenta anterior too?

nerual Tue 14-May-13 13:33:03

I didn't ask, is it the kind of thing they would mention without me asking?

PurplePoppySeed Tue 14-May-13 14:53:51

Should be on your notes from the scan smile they'd only tell you if you ask or if its low. Could be high anterior like mine, hence less feelings?

nerual Tue 14-May-13 15:01:56

I only get my notes next week (they have taken ages to appear because they were archived as they mistakenly had me down for a miscarriage this pg!). So they've had to dig them out of archives, I get them next week when I go back for my consultant appt. Will have a look then... It could also just be because it's my second pg; although I am by no means overweight, my tummy is definitely not as tight as it used to be (*sob*) so I think that the kicking is not as noticeable...

PurplePoppySeed Tue 14-May-13 16:08:29

Ah ok, my scan write up said it, they handed me that in the room & I added it to my folder. I can't believe the mess they made with your notes re another MC - shocking!

elsabel Tue 14-May-13 16:49:22

Hi all, havent been on for a while and im glad to see everyone doing well! Congrats to all of you who have recently had good scans!! smile

I only have 19 days until my due date..eek!! Has gone so quickly i cant believe it!

elsabel Tue 14-May-13 16:50:37

Sorry was meant to be smile not smile haha

PurplePoppySeed Tue 14-May-13 16:55:16

Oh wow, brilliant news, could be any time now then ;) are you on maternity leave yet? I'm hoping to leave work as late as possible unless August becomes unbearably hot!

elsabel Tue 14-May-13 17:02:39

Friday is my last day, so only 3 to go! Cant come quickly enough just want to get sorted as dont feel very prepared! Midwife said shes a big baby, but apparently that doesnt mean she will be early so we will see smile

Whens your due date? Hopefully the summer isnt too uncomfortable for you

PurplePoppySeed Wed 12-Jun-13 16:29:06

It's gone very quite in here! elsabel how are you, any news?

Hope everyone is doing well?

Finally into the third trimester here, can't believe it! My last due date was this week so even though I'm pregnant again it's been a pretty emotional week, can't wait to get past it and feel more positive again smile

vix206 Wed 12-Jun-13 16:47:22

Hello! Can I de-lurk and join?

I miscarried at the end of March between 6-7 weeks pregnant. I'm now almost 8 weeks pregnant and hoping all is well this time. I also have a DS who is almost 3.