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To what extent have you played the 'pregnancy card'?

(61 Posts)
iamwhaticallpregnant Thu 15-Nov-12 16:12:09

I am now 27 weeks and I am finally clearly visibly pregnant! I haven't really used the 'I'm pregnant' card at all yet. I was given a free ticket on the bus but don't think he knew I was pregnant. I was also offered free passage to a 30p public toilet by a lovely lady - but again, I think she was just against paying for peeing as opposed to knowing I was preggars. My partner on the other hand marches about exclaiming to people "She's pregnant!! Can she have that seat?!" or "She's pregnant, do you have any cheese that isn't unpasteurised?!" or "You're pregnant, you even touch that Ikea table and it's over!"
So, I am thinking I should start to take advantage of 'being pregnant' as I may not be in this state again. As a bit of fun, where have you used your pregnant card to either get out of something or get something for free?!

disclaimer : This is a bit of tongue in cheek fun. Please no comments along the lines of "One should not manipulate situations and use this amazing gift you have been granted to take advantage of others!"

We all know being pregnant, for the most part, sucks ass. I intend on getting a few perks out of it. Bite me.

shinyblackgrape Thu 15-Nov-12 16:16:13

grin. I like to think I've been not too bad. DH may well disagree!

I'm 38 weeks at the moment and finished work at 35. I was pretty knackered from 31 weeks onwards so did used to ask for a seat on the commute to work.

iamwhaticallpregnant Thu 15-Nov-12 16:25:14

I have one of those massive, heavy , orange pot roast type casserole dishes that I used yesterday and really don't want to wash it up. It weighs more than me. Thinking can I get him to do it? "I can't wash up that bowl, I'm pregnant?" or is that a tad too far. mmm......

Haven't at all but then I have 2 other dcs (5 and 3) to run round after and really don't have the chance to. I expect if this was my first I may have played on it by now (35 wks). It doesn't really wash with small children that you cant be bothered can't do what they want because you're pregnant. And dh is at work most days so can't always help out as much as he'd like. But bless him he does try smile

noblegiraffe Thu 15-Nov-12 16:30:30

I got upgraded to first class on a train for free when there weren't any seats left in standard and I felt grim. Otherwise I'd have had to stand for an hour and there was a good chance it wouldn't end well!

Love your name btw iam I love what I call Miranda grin

StrawberriesTasteLikeLipsDo Thu 15-Nov-12 16:34:42

Urm first time around i didnt do the hoovering, clean out the small furry mammals, lift anything...
This time DP is so non plussed / wise to it ive been moving chests of drawers by myself!!

In public no one round here seems to give a shit!!! I asked a man for his seat in the maternity dept of the hospital and the rude bastard still did the "oh, really" type response... No pal you rest your weary legs must be hard carrying around that pie gut angry

MrsHoarder Thu 15-Nov-12 16:35:04

I occasionally got a seat on the train whilst feeling sick and when writing a letter to worst late western about their shocking service threw in that they had abandoned a pregnant woman at an unstaffed station. But generally I didn't "play" it, I won't want to feed into a societal idea that pregnant women are incapable.

iamwhaticallpregnant Thu 15-Nov-12 16:44:03

Noble - So jealous that you got upgraded to first class! Now that's what I am talking about.
Strawberries - what a rude man! Grrrrrr....
Mrshoarder - I wouldnt want to feed into that societal idea confused - please see disclaimer.

shinyblackgrape Thu 15-Nov-12 16:45:19

Oooooh - just remembered. I got a free coffee last week as was in costa. Put in my order and then they said the card machine wasn't working. I asked where the nearest bank was to get cash out but the sait it was fine and I could have both on the house as it was quite a walk away for me to walk waddle

That was actually really nice of them. I should have tweeted costa to say thanks

philbee Thu 15-Nov-12 16:46:10

Ooh, I like it! When I was pg with DD we left a wedding indecently early as someone we were with wasn't feeling well, but I felt it would add more weight so I added 'and I'm SEVEN MONTHS PREGNANT!'

Last time I had DH ask whether the salad at the holiday resort we were at was washed in tap or bottles water. Like anyone washes salad in bottled water.

This time I've been pretty good I think. No diva behaviour yet. Am only 19 weeks though. grin

philbee Thu 15-Nov-12 16:50:00

I just remembered another one - we waited and waited for the council to fix the drain outside our house and I finally emailed the councillor and said 'I am NINE MONTHS PREGNANT and for weeks I have had to walk through RAW SEWAGE whenever I leave my house!' They came that afternoon. grin

iamwhaticallpregnant Thu 15-Nov-12 16:53:51

philbee ha ha ha! I like it.

snoozed Thu 15-Nov-12 16:55:51

Got a free train ticket - machine was broken at my starting station and when I got to the destination the man said I could just go straight through as he could see my 'condition'.. Another time had a free upgrade to first class.

But after I had the baby, I got bought cups of tea by strangers three times just because 'they remembered what it was like' and was allowed to sit in 1st class loads of times so I didn't have to fold down the buggy.

iamwhaticallpregnant Thu 15-Nov-12 17:02:37

wow snoozed!! You must live in a very nice area. People on the public transport system seem to be lovely.

maxmillie Thu 15-Nov-12 17:03:55

seats on train/tube

DP cooking meal every night

that's it

maxmillie Thu 15-Nov-12 17:04:39

oh, and getting AA to come (a bit) quicker

And also - using non-customer toilets in many shops

MyDaydream Thu 15-Nov-12 17:08:18

I got offered a seat at the weekend when waiting outside a shop for DP, but I wasn't going to move anyone so I could sit down. I think the lady probably just remembered being so pregnant and I looked so miserable she moved for me.
I've not really played it much at all, usually to get DP to get me a drink (never works). FIL made an awful dinner in the early days that I think he put a whole tub of salt into, I just played morning sickness and left it! I think I've said "I'm only pregnant" when people stop me doing something more than "but I'm pregnant".

Convert Thu 15-Nov-12 17:10:32

I mainly used the 'pregnancy craving' card with DH when I wanted something nice to eat and I couldn't be bothered to get off my fat pregnant arse. He held the view that has been drummed in to most men by tv and films that if a preganant woman wants something odd to eat at 2 am then you HAVE to go and get it. I'm sure the domino's delivery driver thought I was just getting fatter, not growing a baby. grin

MisselthwaiteManor Thu 15-Nov-12 17:10:37

I'm not visible yet so can only take advantage of DP at the moment. He cooks, cleans, washes up whenever I can't be bothered have a moment of pregnant exhaustion. It's become a bit of a joke. "Go fetch me some chocolate from the kitchen please DP? I'd do it myself but I'm pregnant."

lostconfusedwhatnext Thu 15-Nov-12 17:13:22

I am not pregnant and regret not playing whole decks of pregnancy cards all the bloody time. If I could go back in time I would advise the pregnant me, on each occasion, to get some big fuck-off cocktail rings with the aces, hearts, clubs and spades on, and do a big glittering riffly shuffle of a double pack of pregnancy cards, and play every single one in a fucking row, every day.

That is what you should do now.

OhTinky Thu 15-Nov-12 17:14:29

In London during the tube strike, I had to wait for ages for a bus to work when about 7 months pregnant as couldn't get on any let alone get a seat. Called into Pret near my office at about 11am (I was so late go work it was unreal) and I figured I deserved a hot chocolate! They gave it to me for free. Totally made my day smile

PinkSoccerMum Thu 15-Nov-12 17:15:08

I used to say "the baby wanted some tea" so that my male colleague would make me some tea for a change grin

PurplePidjin Thu 15-Nov-12 17:20:15

Cat litter tray

Dp making me cuppas (he does this off his own bat, though, it's not me asking!)

Heavy DIY jobs like carrying furniture downstairs to the car.

stargirl1701 Thu 15-Nov-12 17:22:24

I used the Parent & Child parking at Tesco when I got 36 weeks. I couldn't get my car door open wide enough to get out in a standard space grin

I asked for help carrying shopping to my car when I was in Homebase.

QueenofNightmares Thu 15-Nov-12 17:24:31

Oh I'm awful and I'm only 18 weeks blush To be fair though its mostly DH he won't let me do anything grin insists on me not doing any cleaning or walking too far. I'm not going to argue with him since the first time around I had no choice but to walk for miles all the time.

LittlemissChristmas Thu 15-Nov-12 17:34:04

I'm using it loads at the min at 9 weeks with DH but to be fair I can't even walk into the kitchen without getting floored by nausea

philbee Thu 15-Nov-12 18:12:16

I love all these free drinks and things - very impressive! The best bit (only in this sense) is when people ask when you're due and you can say 'Last week.' Oh yeah, you BETTER get up!

Mummyof3tobe Thu 15-Nov-12 19:32:29

Gawd, loads....

Got out of a parking ticket that had already been issued (and I thought they couldn't do that) by looking teary and sticking tummy out a bit more at about 25 weeks.

Sending DH down to the kitchen to make me toast and butter late at night (pah, least he can do and it's nice cos he feels useful.....)

Skipped to front of a long queue for train tix and if we hadn't we'd have missed the train.

As you can see I don't have a big problem feeding the societal idea....pregnancy sucks. It does. Especially by the third time and I'll take any break people are willing to give.

MJP1 Thu 15-Nov-12 19:45:51

I get out of walking the dog because I have PGP and according to my other half "I am too slow and it ruins the walk" (he means it in a nice way) BUT I hate it love taking her out and hate being so helpless.

I work in a cafe and the lovely regulars (who are mums) bring me their dirty plates etc to help me out bless them.

3rdbump Thu 15-Nov-12 19:56:24

Am 34 weeks pregnant and people have been genuinely lovely, carrying luggage on and off the train, up the stairs (when they weren't going that way) opening doors, giving up seats, letting me go first, the ADSA george staff even offered to take my bags to the car the other day smile
It gets me out of doing things i don't want to do too ...............*i feel tired* card to get out of making tea/washing up etc to the OH!

Stepawayfromthesweeties Thu 15-Nov-12 21:17:27

I haven't used the preggers card, but my dh has. I'd had a really bad night last Friday ( nausea, horrendous IBS attack, generally feeling rubbish) but didn't make a fuss and just got with it. However dh used it as an excuse for us to be mega late to visit his family the next morning!! I then had to deal with them all faffing about making sure I was ok. On the way home he declared that me being preggers was great, and that we have got an excuse for not doing family things for the next 30 weeks. Bad mangrin

Mylittlepuds Thu 15-Nov-12 21:41:29

The pregnancy card holds little weight past DC1.

DH has taken responsibility for clearing up after the dogs in the garden, as pregnant ladies shouldn't go near dog mess. I'm not arguing...

Stepaway's post has just reminded me - I've declared myself unable to visit the ILs this xmas as I'll be far too big, and would be very sick on the journey. That's a tiny bit evil as I could easily manage it, I just don't want to.

lauraellajane Thu 15-Nov-12 22:04:41

I've been using it loads, so has my DH - been selling lots of things we don't use to make space/go towards the baby fund, and people normally over a bit below what we've asked for. Playing the 'but it's going into our baby fund!' card works a treat and mostly they've paid up!

TwitchyTail Thu 15-Nov-12 22:26:19

I did it when I called the RAC and they turned up in 2 minutes flat! (Well, part of that was because the RAC guy was in the Tesco round the corner, but still).

HermioneE Thu 15-Nov-12 22:39:28

Got a priority dr visit, not sure if that counts. Rang up to book a routine antenatal appointment but my favourite doc was booked solid for even more days than they usually take bookings for. Obediently said I would ring back the next morning and then hopelessly said 'it's for an antenatal checkup...' boom, one doctor appointment plus adjacent flu and whooping cough jabs on the day of my choice!

Have also been sort of claiming KFC 'cravings', but I'm not even fooling myself with that one. Almond croissant 'cravings' are going to be my next attempt.

mameulah Thu 15-Nov-12 23:34:20

I think that we would be doing the World of Womanhood a dis-service by not playing the 'I'm Pregnant!' card...

I have had heaps of great stuff, loads of people have let me go to the front of the que.
The customer services lady at a big supermarket went out of her way to refund goods for me to save me going upstairs because she could see I wasn't fit. She found me later on in the supermarket to check I was okay.

People at work carrying and picking things up for me.

Strangers chatting and asking how I am.

And my all time favourite......someone chased a big scary looking seagull off my car for me!!!

Make the most of it I say!

Secondsop Fri 16-Nov-12 02:20:43

Not really playing a card, as it's something that I shouldn't do when pregnant, but: not having to do the cat's litter tray is a joy.

humblebumble Fri 16-Nov-12 02:53:05

I used it with DH to tell him he wasn't allowed to tickle me because I was pregnant (and I also used it whilst breast feeding). In fact I got away with being "not tickled" for about 5 years! I am being paid back now ... smile

EggsMichelle Fri 16-Nov-12 08:37:13

I had called the police about my noisy neighbours in the past but all they did was log my complaint. I tell them on one occasion I was 6months pregnant, and the police were at my neighbours door in 20mins! Felt very guilty for using my 'condition' but we haven't had any problems from them since, and the rest of the street must be sleeping better!

BonaDea Fri 16-Nov-12 09:47:28

We had workmen at the house a few weeks ago sanding some floors for us. They did a great job, but for some reason on the last day the guy who had been doing the work (who was dropped off by a van on day 1 with all the equipment, but who didn't have a car himself) tidied everything up, stacked all the equipment neatly in the hall for collection....and then left the spare key we had given them behind and closed the door. Which meant they couldn't collect their stuff without one of us being there and then proceeded to turn up at 11am or 4pm when we were at work to attempt to collect it.

After arranging on three separate occasions to wait at home in the morning for them to collect and greeted with no shows, I eventually called the office and told them I was '6 months pregnant' (I'm 20 weeks now, and this was two weeks ago!) and that the equipment in my hallway was a trip hazard and that I could barely get in and out of the house.

They collected the stuff at 7am the following morning. grin

stargirl - I've been thinking recently that I will start to use parent and child parking by the time I'm huge.

milkyjo Fri 16-Nov-12 10:52:08

After being told off by DH for standing on a chair at 19 weeks to put up Halloween decorations I said "ok". But, after Halloween, when I said "can you take them down then", they stayed up for another week until I got on a chair to take them down myself. So although DH is playing the card for me, he's not really doing me any favours. I'm not sure he's even realised I've taken the decs down! I was still lugging a rabbit run around the garden and cleaning them out at 37 weeks during my first pregnancy - he didn't seem to notice that!

NaomiKnees Fri 16-Nov-12 11:32:20

I like to think I haven't been to bad, DH would probably disagree.
The only thing that I am guilty of doing, and was the second I got a visible bump, is undoing my coat and displaying said bump in order to get a seat on the tube.

iamwhaticallpregnant Fri 16-Nov-12 14:33:07

LOVE ALL OF THESE!!! Thanks ladies. The way I see it - we have to go through a lot of pain, sickness and exhaustion finishing in the grand finale of childbirth (which I hear is Godly horrendous!) So I think taking advantage should be the law!
I intend on using it a lot more from now on. Can you IMAGINE what men would be like if the shoe was on the other foot?! Come on......

rogersmellyonthetelly Fri 16-Nov-12 17:21:50

I did yesterday, went to the chemist to get my prescription for antibiotics an stupidly left my bag in the car, 200 yards away. I asked if she needed to see my maternity exemption cert or was it obvious by now? She said obvious enough to her so saved me traipsing back to the car. I was very grateful.

Emsyboo Fri 16-Nov-12 18:16:24

Haven't got any freebies but been on at DH to discuss an issue with MIL for ages so used the I dont need the extra stress in pregnancy card which has worked and we are working things out!
Never thought about getting any perks but hey it's hard work being pregnant so why not lol however the majority if people are rude like iamwhaticallpregnant experienced.

angeltattoo Fri 16-Nov-12 20:32:17

I had a flat tyre today and called DH, who came to the rescue, I perhaps could have done it myself, but well, I'm pregnant wink

StrawberriesTasteLikeLipsDo Fri 16-Nov-12 20:44:57

Just sat and cried in The bath... Over everything an nothing... DP comes in looking like im mad... i said dont judge me im pregnant.. He made me tea grin

First time I didn't use the pg card

This time I will not be lifting heavy objects, painting at 38 weeks, food shopping at 40+10, or driving past 40 weeks. I also will be handing over all toddler nighttime co sleeping from 30ish weeks as she kicks. Hard.

shinyblackgrape Fri 16-Nov-12 21:01:58

strawberries - I've done that too! Managed to calm myself down and then started again as I was worried the baby would think it was because we didn't want him.

Baby probably thinking - WTF?! hmm

NAR4 Fri 16-Nov-12 21:10:05

I'm obviously just rubbish at it.

Went to rhyme time at the library today with my toddler and as I walked towards the last adult size chair, got barged out the way by another mum. I'm 6.5 months pregnant with my 5th, so CLEARLY look pregnant. No one offered me their chair, even when the lady running it asked if I was alright and I replied that I couldn't sit on the floor due to bad SPD making it too painful.

Stood for 15 minutes until deciding the pain wasn't worth it and dragging out a reluctant toddler, who didn't want to leave early.

I really thought that at least other mums would be sympathetic. Guess not!

wanderingalbatross Fri 16-Nov-12 21:21:11

I also tell DH he can't tickle me. Except that I tickle him first, and then claim that he can't do it back because I'm pregnant. He doesn't listen sad

iamwhaticallpregnant Sat 17-Nov-12 11:01:33

NAR4 thats terrible. Rude people get on mh wick!!! I dont know if I would have had your restraint. I too have SPD so very sympathetic.

NAR4 Sat 17-Nov-12 13:17:33

Thanks iam I just couldn't be bothered to say anything. In my mind if they are that ignorant, nothing I say will make a difference.

FlaminNoraImPregnantPanda Sat 17-Nov-12 13:43:47

I confess I did cry in the Thai restaurant because they had chilli sauce and curry sauce out with the buffet and I'd been dreaming about peanut sauce for days. The nice lady brought me a whole bowl for myself.

Chesterado Sat 17-Nov-12 19:37:28

Another one with the RAC but it was more to justify my own stupidity in running out of fuel!

EggsMichelle Sat 17-Nov-12 21:38:02

Those who mentioned the parent parking, twice today my friend/DH have had to move the car or help me with the door before I could get in and out of the car due to lack of space, I think if I'm on my own I will have to take advantage of the wider spaces!

Myliferocks Sat 17-Nov-12 21:40:54

I've just asked my OH whether I ever played the pregnancy card during any of my 5 pregnancies.
He said no!
He's either telling the truth or wants a shag tonight! grin

iamwhaticallpregnant Sun 18-Nov-12 22:30:13

Ha ha ha ha!

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