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Overdue?! Lets rant and see who pops first

(232 Posts)
Biggem Mon 22-Oct-12 13:29:37

2 day over now and irregular period cramps and back ache are leading to NOWT!

And if one more persons tries to give me some 'helpful' advice I shall tell them
"Yes, I have been having sex whilst eating curried pineapple"
Fuck off!!!!

imustbepatient Mon 22-Oct-12 14:29:39

With you 100%. Am now one day over, having had strong Braxton hicks, period like pains and lower back ache on and off over the last four or so days. I know it is probably all helping to do something but as it is not yet resulting in a baby I am getting v frustrated!

DH travels a lot for work and can only stay UK based for so long before he will have to start travelling again. Hence every day DC is late will mean less time DH can stay at home with us when baby arrives. Come on baby!!

Orenishii Mon 22-Oct-12 14:37:09

Clocking in at 6 days overdue! Sweep booked tomorrow but succumbed to the Castor oil this morning as was also feeling very bunged up! Regular tightening sensations now...every five minutes or so. Maybe, just maybe they aren't braxton hicks?

Good luck to you both!

imustbepatient Mon 22-Oct-12 14:53:32

Good luck orenishii! Crossing fingers for you!

emzypoo Mon 22-Oct-12 15:17:44

Ooh goodluck orenishill! I'm 40 plus 11 being induced tomorrow woop!x

Biggem Mon 22-Oct-12 15:21:40

Naughty babies!! Castor oil you say..?
I feel for you about DH having to work abroad, he must be desperate for things to get going!

Orenishii Mon 22-Oct-12 15:48:03

I think things have stopped now, but I had a good time watching Strictly Ballroom (the film) so it's alright. And it wasn't like the toilet trips were intense - they were quite gentle, not like laxatives at all so I recommend the castor oil on it's gentle poo coaxing alone - hahahaha, omg, the things pregnancy leads you to say!

How's everyone? Good luck tomorrow emzy - let's hope neither of us end up having them grin

Naughty babies indeed, biggem! Imustbepatient great name, and completely get the DH traveling/time running out thing. DH was supposed to go to Ireland for a very well paid clinic this weekend - guess that's out the window! Come on baby!

Biggem Mon 22-Oct-12 16:00:05

Flipping love strictly the film!! Dd1 keeps me way too busy during the day tho...bless her wink
I've got consultant Thursday where I will be begging for a sweep...desperate much.

Purplecatti Mon 22-Oct-12 16:11:45

can I join in?
4 days over due date. Got a little bit of a stomach upset and was quite sicky this morning but this afternoon nothing except total fatigue. I did feel quite shaky earlier but since eating a pizza for lunch and a giant sleep I just feel heavily pregnant and fed up again.
I've cleaned the house but not in a mad frantic way.
when when when????????

Baby does feel lower, but I don't know whether that's just wishful thinking.

Orenishii Mon 22-Oct-12 16:17:01

Welcome purple! When is indeed the question! How does it feel like it is just never going to happen? We keep leaning down to the bump and saying "Alright now little one, time to pack your stuff up and move on out!"

Biggem Mon 22-Oct-12 16:20:53

Hello purple
Eviction notices served all round then! Baby is v low, has been 2/5 engaged for about 6 weeks now - pleasant!
Feel fit to pop and what makes it more annoying is people's predictions!

I found a 4 leaf clover this morning and was hoping it was a sign...

AnneH656 Mon 22-Oct-12 17:42:45

clocking 40 + 3 here!

good luck emzy smile

orenishii where did you get the caster oil from?? is it some wierd norwich thing that i cant find any shop with any??

Orenishii Mon 22-Oct-12 17:53:00

Anne I got mine in a little health shop in West Hampstead but I checked on the Holland and Barrett site and they have the same brand as the one I got:

www.hollandandbarrett.com/pages/product_detail.asp?pid=3724&searchterm=castor%20oil&rdcnt=1

Maybe worth calling up your local branch to see if they have any in?

AnneH656 Mon 22-Oct-12 17:56:41

orenishii you are a star smile for some reason i didnt think of H&B.

will pop there tomorrow - good to have a 'job' for the day. oo especially as its quite close to Patisserie Valerie...........

Orenishii Mon 22-Oct-12 18:00:27

Hahaha yes, have your cake first and then swig the oil.

I didn't actually think they'd stock it but hurrah!

A tip - everyone online says to mix it with something. I put 4 teaspoons in a glass of mango juice and stirred - and of course, it just stayed separated. We have one of those little cup Bullet blenders so I stuck it in there for a quick blitz and it went creamy and much easier to get down. I have a very strong gag reflex - ridiculous gagging at even taking large vitamins capsules hmm Maybe you don't have the same issue but blending definitely helped!

Wommer Mon 22-Oct-12 18:03:51

Hey ladies - you probably all have tried this but oil of evening primrose is worth a try... You can take it orally or, if you're really desperate and I was "topically" as well.

As mother of one who was 9 days over I feel your frustrations though!

... Also had a go on a trampoline 6 hours before first contraction but wouldn't think that's recommended by midwives!

Good luck all - am slightly very jealous of the excitement and joy you've all got in the very near future!

Orenishii Mon 22-Oct-12 18:09:09

Hey wommer that's such a nice post...thank you...helps us keep in mind what all this torture waiting is for.

I have tried the EVP...topically - I just burst them sad

In other news, I have painted my nails a nice coral pink in anticipation of little Oren. Come one, mummy has pretty nails now, it's time!! Hahaha, losing the plot!

Catlover0608 Mon 22-Oct-12 18:17:46

Hi!
I am 10 days overdue with my first baby and had my second sweep today, the first she couldn't even reach far enough up me to do anything and today she could only just get a finger in.

I am so fed up and achy, spending my time manically bouncing on a gym ball. Booked for yet another sweep on wednesday and if all else fails an induction on Friday.

I just want this baby OUT!!!

Stumbleine Mon 22-Oct-12 19:41:53

Hi can I join you? Am 40+1 with dc 3. Been having the usual Braxton hicks plus lots of lower bump and back pain when the baby is wriggling/burrowing in the evening but no other signs.

I attempted to give myself a sweep this morning which was umm...interesting! Anyway, my cervix is too posterior to reach so will have to wait until my clinic appointment on Wednesday.

Have had 5 enquiry texts today. Am actually considering doing the school run in disguise tomorrow grin .

Catlover0608 Mon 22-Oct-12 20:33:09

Stumbleine I feel the same as you - MIL calls us every day to see if she is a gran yet. I know she is looking forward to it, but we have repeatedly told her we will call when anything is happening. Also this is the most interest she has shown the entire time I have been pregnant, usually she calls and immediately asks to speak to my husband, and then asks him how I am!

I may be being a bit unreasonable in my annoyance with this, but my family have bought us loads of bits and bobs and are really excited, but his family have done NOTHING!!

Aaand breathe, rant over - sorry!

imustbepatient Mon 22-Oct-12 20:37:02

Ooh love Strictly Ballroom too! Will have to dig out films like that (ie that DH isn't overly fond of!) to watch during early labour!

Thanks for the evening primrose tip. I think a visit to holland and Barrett is on the cards for tomorrow.

Good luck everyone, hopefully at least one of us will get underway tonight!

Stumbleine Mon 22-Oct-12 20:44:37

Aww Catlover I'm quite 'lucky' in that sense, dh's family couldn't give a rat's arse mostly!

AnneH656 Mon 22-Oct-12 20:49:39

Ok mission tomorrow is oil and cake :-)

I am taking EPO orally. I tried shoving a couple in but feck knows how you make that work. Any tips? Or is that way way TMI??

I stopped responding to texts today. Everyone thinks I am in labour but I don't care. Nice to have a break.......

Biggem Mon 22-Oct-12 20:52:45

Painting toe nails, sweeping oneself?! Ladies how the hell are you reaching these extremities?! wink
I tried to trim the lady garden with scissors this morning - had to stop as I was terrified of snipping flesh!!
My fave current trick is getting 17 month old dd to try to bounce the baby, she thinks its hilarious no movement from the lodger tho!

AnneH656 Mon 22-Oct-12 21:01:01

Yes!! Bugger EPO. How the hell do you give yourself a sweep???????

Stumbleine Mon 22-Oct-12 21:01:55

Biggem I have very long arms grin.

I have however given up on the ladygarden trimming efforts after some fairly disastrous butchery the other week!

Stumbleine Mon 22-Oct-12 21:03:00

I didn't quite manage it, could feel the head but cervix is sat too far behind.
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Orenishii Mon 22-Oct-12 21:23:37

Oh no - hahahaha - not toe nails. Just nails grin I tried to give the lady garden a trim and ended up with a bald patch.

I am too beginning to think ignoring texts is the way - I had a rant on anther thread about it...it's just - what do they think every time they say, "any news?" In my unreasonable, irrational state, I'm beginning to get insulted by it all - do they all really think we won't let them know?? I think also it all taps into anxiety about going too much over - it's hard enough dealing with a po faced MW about it all.

AnneH656 Tue 23-Oct-12 09:15:55

Oh yes. And well meaning friends with no children asking about 'twinges'... They don't understand they are one of MANY asking. As for MIL......

So I asked DP to insert epo capsules far up last night. All has done is given me leaky feeling this morning walking in the city. Nice

Stumbleine Tue 23-Oct-12 10:38:30

Morning all! I had a lot more regular Braxton hicks last night but they've faded off today.

Poor dh is walking on egg shells at the moment. I asked him to go and get me a.creme egg last night and he was gone for nearly an hour! Turns out he had to go to 3 different shops to find one, I guess he dared not come home without it!

I need this baby to come today as this is the last day my birth partner isn't working for nearly a week.

Have spent the morning working on acupressure points. How is everyone else keeping busy?

Orenishii Tue 23-Oct-12 10:54:33

Hahaha Anne I just felt the same...leaky! Enjoy your cake and castor oil today!

Stumbleine that's so funny about the creme eggs, they must be pretty hard to track down this time of year as well! He did well to find one.

I have my sweep today and I'm not sure what to wear. I've mostly been living in various pairs of maternity yoga pants - I guess the MW will put a sheet over me and not expose my (temporary) thunder thighs??

AnneH656 Tue 23-Oct-12 11:00:50

I am officially shit at this. Bought capsules instead of straight caster oil.

Sigh.

Did manage to get black forest slice though :-)

I'd go with yoga pants orenishii. Keeping fingers crossed for you. I think we should all have our babies today. The bake off has finished so we may as well...

imustbepatient Tue 23-Oct-12 11:16:35

I'd say the Black Forest slice is more important anyway AnneH!

I'm currently sitting at home with a poorly DD1. Do you think that might increase the chances that DD2 will now arrive?!

I'm getting sick of repeating the same non-update to people too. It is kind that they are thinking of me but YY to it being a constant reminder that nothing is happening angry

javotte Tue 23-Oct-12 11:22:26

41+4. Had massive arguments with the staff at the hospital because I don't want to be induced. I've got until Thursday morning to have this baby naturally. sad I've been having contractions every night for about a week, but they stop after a couple of hours.

Catlover0608 Tue 23-Oct-12 11:27:42

Orenishii you can wear what you want, as you say the midwife will put a blanket over you. I would advise that you take or have in place a sanitary towel for afterwards though. The midwife appeared to use a whole handful of lube for my sweep, and it was not a pleasant feeling afterwards confused!

Orenishii Tue 23-Oct-12 11:28:04

Javotte my MW just assumed she would book me in for an induction at 41+4. Currently at 41 weeks, with a sweep booked for today. She is very po faced at me wanting to go to 42 weeks and then review the situation, and not even necessarily be induced then.

Try not to stress, you don't have to do anything you want to do. There are a lot of knowledgeable people on MN who have gone well "overdue" - I only say this because I hate that women "have until x date" - that's not going to exactly induce a calm, relaxed woman is it - to have a count down before something she doesn't want to have happen begins!

Orenishii Tue 23-Oct-12 11:29:18

Catlover thanks for the tip! I'll bring a maternity pad...might as well get used to wearing them grin

javotte Tue 23-Oct-12 11:37:21

Thanks orenishii. Yesterday the MW told me to accept the induction on Thursday "or give birth somewhere else". I don't understand why they have to induce me : the baby is thriving, I've got lots of amniotic fluid and I went overdue (though not as much) for my two eldest, very healthy DCs.

Orenishii Tue 23-Oct-12 11:39:15

Oh javotte that is awful! Seriously, she said that? Is that even true - can they do that? Talk about scare tactics sad

Biggem Tue 23-Oct-12 11:59:21

Why are they so desperate to induce...is it to stop giant babies?
Sick dd1 might slightly increase chances for you..fingers crossed!

I am in full spring clean mode after having a shag last night - will nothing make this child vacate?!
Received the hello fresh box I ordered in anticipation of baby actually being here so cooking was easy this week. Sigh. At least it's full of spicy food wink

Orenishii Tue 23-Oct-12 12:06:15

javotte I keep thinking about what your MW said - surely she can't be right? I would be asking her if she is sure that is the official line. It's made me so mad on your behalf - is there anyone who can be your advocate if you're feeling stressed out? I just cannot believe they would pedal that line.

javotte Tue 23-Oct-12 12:19:43

I live in France. They can't throw me out if I show up giving birth spontaneously, but apparently they can refuse to keep on monitoring me every 48 hours and to induce me at a later date if something went wrong.
I have spent the last 24 hours crying because I am so stressed. I am very tempted to call their bluff and give birth in the bath at home smile

Orenishii Tue 23-Oct-12 12:29:26

Oh poor love sad First things first, try to calm down, and relax. Do you have anyone with you - a DH, or family to give you a hug and some hair stroking for comfort? smile A lavender bath, a massage, a cuddle can all go a long way to relaxing you and your babe, perhaps encouraging things along. A stressed mother is no good for either of you.

Next I would arm yourself with information on post dates so you can at least figure out what you are comfortable with. If you feel on Thursday that an induction is best for you and your baby, great. If you still feel pressured/it's not the right thing, you at least have information to help you. I would also post in the childbirth section - I have read some amazing posts from very knowledgable ladies on here who have gone as far as 43 weeks - I can't remember any of the threads but you need a call to arms with support from people on here smile

Biggem Tue 23-Oct-12 12:33:46

javotte that is awful...is it the general French stance or is ur me just a bint?

javotte Tue 23-Oct-12 12:59:33

I have moved since my last pregnancy. I used to live in a big city where they were much more relaxed about due dates. My local hospital seems to be stuck in the 70s/80s, but there isn't anywhere else to go.

javotte Tue 23-Oct-12 13:01:44

And thank you all for the hand-holding, it helps a lot. thanks
I've asked DH to go for a nice walk this afternoon so that I have something else on my mind.

Biggem Tue 23-Oct-12 14:12:30

Anyone else had pains in the bum / back passage?! please be a sigh please be a sign

Orenishii Tue 23-Oct-12 14:21:27

Yup, me! I find the yoga ball very uncomfortable after a while. I tell myself it's the pressure of the baby engaging grin

Biggem Tue 23-Oct-12 15:03:53

Damn, so nothing more encouraging then? Damn.
Just woke up from a semi nap and have managed not to dribble everywhere. Wahoo grin

imustbepatient Tue 23-Oct-12 15:11:22

Well done on not dribbling! At this stage all victories have to be celebrated.

Just back from MW appointment, sweep now booked for fri. Fingers and toes ( but not legs obvs) crossed that baby will arrive before then...

Orenishii Tue 23-Oct-12 15:37:22

Feel like I could cry sad Just back from sweep - my cervix is so high up she couldn't even reach it to sweep. Have another one booked for Friday, which will make me 41+3.

Really struggled to get her to understand me - she just started booking me in for an induction at 42 weeks. We finally agreed I'd go in and speak to the MW manager a few days before 42 weeks to sort out a plan of care.

sad

javotte Tue 23-Oct-12 16:54:27

Sorry Orenishii. I don't understand why all those "professionals" seem to consider that an induction is something benign and harmless.

Biggem Tue 23-Oct-12 17:20:08

javotte I know exactly what you mean...my MWs in both pregnancies have been less than caring (bar one, who seemed to really love the job still and got that it was about each women's needs rather than following the book) that and the hca's where the only ones who were any good in hospital. Even HV that I've encountered have been pretty bad.
I understand they are stretched a lot of the time but it isn't our fault, we are just the patients at the end of the day. Starting to dread seeing my consultant now, he seemed really laid back last time I saw him saying it was up to me how far I went before they would try inducing, lets hope he's the same this time round.

javotte Tue 23-Oct-12 18:17:11

I know what you mean about dreading to see your consultant Biggem. I can't sleep at all the night before. I was so stressed last time that I threw up before going to the hospital.
We went for a long, nice walk this afternoon. Then I had a hot bath. Still nothing.

Orenishii Tue 23-Oct-12 18:26:50

Thanks ladies smile I cried, baked a cake, cried some more, fought with my cat and am now feeling calmer.

Please, please, please, please body...come and work and start this process smile

I can't help but think if my cervix is so high...body isn't ready to start yet...why can't they recognise that as something i might just want to talk to them about?

Catlover0608 Tue 23-Oct-12 20:50:38

Orenishii you still have plenty of time for everything to happen naturally, so dont worry about it too much (easier said than done I know) - the worrying could be stopping you from progressing in fact. Have a bath, eat some chocolate and watch your favorite films, it will happen! smile You could always ask for another sweep in a few days time?

I am booked for my third sweep tomorrow, have had a few more twinges since my last sweep (yesterday) so fingers crosed the midwife will give me good news, and I will be able to avoid induction on friday.

Biggem Tue 23-Oct-12 21:49:32

Good luck cat my sil took 3 attempts at a sweep before going into labour the day before the induction was booked wink
A friend recently went to be induced, has the pessary inserted went for a mad 25 minute walk/route march around the block and contractions started when she got back on the ward grin the mw's didn't actually believe she was in labour tho, she demanded they look and they were v shocked to find her 7cm!

Tonight my baba is mainly fidgeting around and shoving whichever limb is under my belly button all over the place - alien!

imustbepatient Tue 23-Oct-12 22:00:46

Good luck all, here's hoping everyone's various planned sweeps do the job so no inductions are needed. It will all be worth it when our babies arrive.

Orenishii Wed 24-Oct-12 07:48:39

Thanks ladies smile

I'm struggling a bit with thinking my body isn't working properly...it feels very strange to get to 41 weeks and not even be slightly close, and to be honest - it's completely thrown me. I keep thinking it's all going to end so badly but most of all I'm annoyed with the MW's - they haven't tried to prepare me for an induction with giving me any information about the stages of induction, and it's scary.

Right now I'm on strict instructions to go for a two hour walk, to start really believing my body will work and bring on this birth by itself and just give it a bit more time. I don't know if it's relevant but today was my original due date, until they brought it forward by 8 days

javotte Wed 24-Oct-12 08:03:53

Hello ladies!
I couldn't sleep last night because I kept thinking about the induction. When I finally fell asleep, I dreamt about the induction. Woke up thinking I have only 24 hours left before the induction. sad
I don't know what to do to keep my mind busy!

Biggem Wed 24-Oct-12 08:08:22

Morning!
javotte do something you love doing - walking, reading a book anything that you know will get you absorbed and the fact that you might not be able to do it for a while wink

Biggem Wed 24-Oct-12 08:09:04

P.s. sending get out vibes to your baby!
grin

Orenishii Wed 24-Oct-12 08:11:35

Yes yes to that biggem - javotte that's what I plan on doing - ambling around and walking for a few hours, book shop shopping because that's always calming, thinking happy birthing thoughts smile

javotte Wed 24-Oct-12 08:17:03

Thanks ladies! DS has asked me to make pizza from scratch. Hopefully it will keep me busy for a while. grin
I keep telling the baby that she is ready now and that everybody wants to meet her at last, but she seems to be as stubborn as her parents!

Catlover0608 Wed 24-Oct-12 11:35:44

Thanks biggem, we should be exchanging contracts on our house today (stupidly moving at the end of next month!) and I am banking on the relief from finally knowing everything is going ahead, together with the sweep will kick start everything.

I think I may join you ladies in having a big walk today, with the addition of a stop off for cake! smile

Had a big braxton this morning and have felt quite crampy, so I hope the MW will give me good news!

javotte Wed 24-Oct-12 15:11:50

I've been using my breast pump for a couple of hours. It has given me a few contractions, but not powerful enough. sad
What is your DH/DP's attitude? Mine doesn't seem interested, or worried, and it is making me stress even more.

Catlover0608 Wed 24-Oct-12 17:26:26

Third sweep attempt ended in failure, she STILL couldn't reach it sad. Queue me crying in the waiting room while my notes were being written up (midwife was lovely to me though), walking home and sat in the kitchen, declaring to my mum that I am a failure.

Once I had stopped snotting everywhere (sorry) I did compose myself enough to walk into town and eat an enormous piece of cake and have a big pot of tea while reading a book which was lovely. Also mum is visiting tomorrow to tell me to pull myself together cheer me up!

Javotte my DH has tried the nipple thing, but I don't think he is doing it right and just ends up annoying me! He is interested, but I don't think he really gets how it makes me feel possibly having to be induced.

Orenishii Wed 24-Oct-12 19:00:07

Oh catlover love...big hugs. Big, big hugs. How far along are you? I know you said you hoped the house exchanging would be leave you with just this getting on with labour business smile But maybe it hasn't been quite enough time yet?

My DH came last night, having had a beer with his boss who's wife went to 43 weeks and still had a home birth. He explained to DH about kangaroo mamma's - how they hold on and hold on and hold on to their joey's until they find a suitable place to give birth.

So now ladies, we're all more or less in the same position - overdue, the threat of induction hanging over us, and feeling irrationally like our bodies aren't working. Now we focus on finding that suitable place for us to give birth - maybe we've all had stresses and things that have prevented us from finding "that right place" smile I dunno, maybe it's nonsense from this point forward I am telling myself my body is making itself ready, I'm ready for my baby - where maybe I was saying the opposite because I wanted to get X or Y done. NICE guidelines AND the NHS consider "normal" term to be between 37-42 weeks. Until 42 weeks rolls around, and as long as our babies are doing normal movements, we are going to trust our bodies, relax, get into birthing mode, and just let is happen. OK? OK smile

Oh also I DTD today, used the pump last night - but only for ten minutes as it's so bloody noisy! - and went for a two hour walk this morning, and have had BH's and period pains all day.

Orenishii Wed 24-Oct-12 19:07:43

Oh second also - have a sweep, scan AND meeting with the head of MW care booked in tomorrow. This is not inducing less stress, people grin

imustbepatient Wed 24-Oct-12 19:34:20

Evening all! Had an eventful night last night with pretty strong contraction waking me at 1.45am and then contractions coming till they were about 15 min apart. Loose bowels etc. thought wahey here we go! Called the parents in law to come round to be there for DD1 (who had been in our bed since 3.30am with a v high temperature - not how I pictured having contractions) but then everything dwindled and stopped by morning.

Was pretty disheartened and nothing but the odd twinge since then. Sigh. Feeling a bit sorry for myself having got my hopes up.

Hope you are all bearing up ok.

Biggem Wed 24-Oct-12 20:09:22

Have drank a litre of pineapple juice...hmm

Catlover0608 Wed 24-Oct-12 20:17:18

Thanks Orenishii I am 41+5 today. Good luck for tomorrow!

I really agree with what you are saying, I read a really interesting book that talked a lot about how we are very much like mammals, in that we will not go into labour until we have found a safe and cosy place to give birth - hence why a lot of women go into labour at night at home. Our bodies do not release the oxytocin needed to go into labour until it is really ready and feels safe enough to do so. I guess that is why it is also the same hormone that helped us get pregnant in the first place!

So today, as mentioned in an earlier post, I had a nice relaxing afternoon stuffing my face with cake, I have just had a chinese (I had a curry, every little helps!) and now DH and I are going to watch a dvd and have an early night.... wink!

Imustbepatient sounds like things are going in the right direction, fingers crossed it gets going again soon.

imustbepatient Wed 24-Oct-12 20:42:36

Thanks catlover! My fingers are crossed for you and everyone else too smile

javotte Thu 25-Oct-12 06:45:29

Hi everyone. Leaving for the hospital in an hour. I really hope I can talk them into waiting until the weekend. sad

Stumbleine Thu 25-Oct-12 07:37:28

Hi all, sorry not posted in a few days haven been far too busy feeling sorry for myself hmm.

My huge sympathies to those feeling low and having unsuccessful sweeps! javotte good luck for today and remember - it is your baby and your body and scare tactics or not, nobody can force you to consent to an intervention.

Well I had a sweep yesterday, cervix looking okay but haven't had so much as a cramp since. No show, nothing. The consultant was nice though and when he realised I was a midwife and informed was rather receptive to the idea that I might want to go to more than term + 12 before being induced!

My mood is getting steadily worse and even though I know this is counterproductive I just feel so angry. Dh is getting the brunt of it and I keep ripping his head off. sad

imustbepatient Thu 25-Oct-12 08:29:57

Good luck javotte and hang in there stumbleine. Your sweep may still lead to something. It must be so hard to have all the knowledge and experience that you do but still be unable to make things happen. I'm finding it hard enough to deal with the impotence of this whole waiting malarkey, must be 100 times worse for you!

Purplecatti Thu 25-Oct-12 08:47:47

I am reaching desperation levels. My neighbour forced me to hold and sniff her three week old baby yesterday to see if that would trigger anything grin. It didn't.
Then I had a paddy when OH came back from work
Now I'm on the EPO and off to buy clary sage later. I'm too chicken to go down the castor oil route.
I'm nearly 41 weeks, no sniff of BHs, no nesting, nothing. I had a wee bit of a dodgy tummy earlier this week but that's gone and I'm back to being huge and peed off.

Stumbleine Thu 25-Oct-12 09:06:45

Thanks imustbepatient. Have just returned from the school stomp run and I swear if anyone had dared talk to me I'd have either blubbed or snapped!

Was in an irrationally bad mood with dh because he'd offered to give me a clary sage massage but wasn't forthcoming so I huffed off to bed. Almost convinced myself.that even having the baby won't make me happy now and do I even want one!! God that sounds awful, just feel so down mad teary today sad.

Biggem Thu 25-Oct-12 09:13:49

Good luck javotte oh stumbline I really feel for you have some virtual hug from me...I have to say that DH is gettin the brunt of my angry as well, last night he decided to tell me how little faith he has in out chosen hospital - WRONG TIMING much?!
Ah well, consultant this afternoon...

Sastra Thu 25-Oct-12 12:18:17

May I join? As of tomorrow I'll be overdue. I've had morning sickness all the way through, so am already at breaking point.

I feel like I'm different to the majority though in that if they offered an induction now, i'd take it. But i suspect this is because I have done absolutely no research into it, as I figured I'd just be upset if I needed one. Now I'm thinking I should know the negatives to help me stop wishing for one. So, for you ladies who'd rather not have one, can you tell me why?

sarahpip Thu 25-Oct-12 12:55:35

I am 41 + 5 and looks like induction is inevitable now. My main reason for not wanting one is that in my area they won't let you do the pool birth if you have to be induced - which I wanted to try. I was given a leaflet that says that if they have to put you on a hormone drip this can bring on contractions v quickly and b v painful hence being recommended epidural. As a first timer I have no idea what to expect ... It's going to smart a bit whichever way it happens. Personally am trying not to focus too much on what I can't have and just try and relax and go with the flow ( I imagine that those who have been through this before will raise a wry smile to these hopeful words being used in association with childbirth!!!!). Anyway here's hoping no need for you to be induced! By the sounds of it, it can kick off even with not many signs!

Sastra Thu 25-Oct-12 13:06:09

Thanks Sarah, that's helpful to know. Where I am, you're booked in to be induced at 41+3 (with your consent, of course), apparently so the baby will be born by 42 weeks. That sounds like it might be a little sooner than in other areas.

I had a sweep yesterday. Stupid cervix closed and she couldn't get a finger in. I did have D&V in the morning, and period-like pains, which I thought might be an indication of something, but no.

I think I'd cope better if I wasn't so, so bored. I feel like I've got nothing to take my mind off it all (I could do some work from home, but I don't really want to). I should probably be doing these great long walks, but I live on a 20% hill, and the thought of going up it makes me want to weep as I'm so tired sad.

javotte Thu 25-Oct-12 14:12:30

I'm back! grin. I managed to negotiate one more day. If the baby doesn't show up today I'll be induced in the morning.
Apparently my cervix is "very favourable" (3.5). I am sure part of the problem is psychological : my contractions stop when I go to the hospital and resume when I leave.

Biggem Thu 25-Oct-12 16:53:19

Not happy. Saw a different consultant to last time, and he said he won't induce he will book me in for an ELCS, I asked for a sweep which I got and he said I was 1.5cm dilated
hmm
I can't believe he won't even consider induction and has gone the ceserean route, I don't know if I'm more angry or upset

Stumbleine Thu 25-Oct-12 16:59:53

Welcome to the mad house sastra!

javotte that's good news smile fingers crossed!

Biggem why do they want to book you for a section?

javotte Thu 25-Oct-12 17:31:54

Biggem won't he even try a pessary? It worked really well for my first.
Sastra I live in a very hilly area and those daily long walks have made no difference.

Pramdreams Thu 25-Oct-12 17:40:06

Can I join as well?

I'm 41 weeks tomorrow and there are no signs whatsoever. I was due a sweep last Friday but the midwife (not my usual) wouldn't do it as babies head isn't engaged. I'm back again tomorrow and I can feel baby moving it's head near my right hip, I'm no midwife but even I know it's not supposed to be there!

This is my first, so this is all very much a learning curve, but its looking like induction is the only way this baby is going to make an exit.

Sastra Thu 25-Oct-12 17:43:43

Why won't they offer you an induction Biggem?

imustbepatient Thu 25-Oct-12 18:29:47

Hi sastra and pramdreams nice to have you on board!

Yay to the reprieve javotte! Hope baby behaves and is building up to a nice straight forward arrival as I type. Really sorry to hear the consultant is being so intransigent biggem is there anyone else you can speak to to have the decision reviewed?

I've tried the evening primrose oil this afternoon, here's hoping it makes things more favourable for my sweep tomorrow. A pretty weird sensation though! The things we do...

javotte Thu 25-Oct-12 18:43:11

I don't think baby will show up tonight sad so an induction it will be.
The obstetrician told me that my cervix is so dilated that a very small dose of ocytocin should be enough.

Sastra Thu 25-Oct-12 18:47:36

My stupid cervix is rock hard and closed. What's all this about evening primrose oil??

Biggem Thu 25-Oct-12 18:59:56

My first was a section after failed ECV as she was breech, well and truly (attempted to engage with her bump)
I'm livid that the consultants can be so different in their opinions. He pretty much said the last one I saw was obviously inexperienced!!
I'm cramping quite a lot at the minute so fingers crossed it starts soon, I'm bleeding which they said to expect...is that a sign that things are moving in the right direction anyone whose had a sweep start things know?!
I
Am NOT voluntarily having a section tho that's for sure
angryangry

Stumbleine Thu 25-Oct-12 19:19:11

Biggem - Induction does carry a greater risk of uterine rupture with a previous section scar, but this is obviously information that you should be provided with so that you can make an informed decision not the consultant!

Orenishii Thu 25-Oct-12 19:35:01

Hi all, I'm in the hospital delivery suite, waiting to see if I can have the gel or go straight to the drip - exactly where I didn't want to be sad

Basically I had a scan this morning because I was declining an induction until 42 weeks, and they discovered my waters had gone, I'm completely empty! Since no one knows when they went and I've not had any real kind of contraction, here we are.

Feel very frightened because we've had to really adjust our thinking from the planned home birth, and quite scared of going on the drip. I feel like...I've read so much on here of escalating situations that as we got to each stage, I thought...ok readjustment of expectations, it's ok...and then it would get to the next stage sad

Am fearful of episiostomies and forceps but will just try to take each stage as it comes. This so far removed from what I had hoped for but I've had a cry and now it's time to focus on what's important. I feel l am a kid again homesick at a sleepover, it's weird. I think I just want to be at home or in the mlu but never mind.
Sorry if this is just about me. Good luck to everyone and here's to your bodies kicking labour off!

Sastra Thu 25-Oct-12 19:39:53

I'm sorry you're in a situation that you didn't want to be in. You're absolutely right though, just take each next stage as it comes and focus on that, rather than what isn't to be.

Fingers crossed for you.xx

Biggem Thu 25-Oct-12 19:39:57

orenshii how did that happen?! Is no one venturing an opinion?
Really feel for you but with any luck your naughty baby will be here sooner than soon
X

Orenishii Thu 25-Oct-12 19:49:11

Thanks ladies...they say they don't know and we've asked so many questions and talked through so many scenarios, I think we've just kind of accepted it now. The scan was at 9 am and we've resisted a fair few scare tactics but even if they went last night somehow, we are coming up to the recommend 24 hours right?

Perversely I am hoping my cervix has remained tight lipped because then they will use the gel to soften it, which might get contractions going. Otherwise they will go straight to the drip. Have accepted we are in it for the long haul now and we can still use all the hypnobirthing, breathing, tens machine, etc ...must just remain calm smile Like someone said up thread...I'm sorry, forgot who!...it's letting go of the pool that is hard. So now, get through the birth safely with baby and hot foot it home!

Stumbleine Thu 25-Oct-12 20:43:46

Good luck Orenishii! X

javotte Thu 25-Oct-12 21:06:23

Thinking of you Orenishii

Orenishii Thu 25-Oct-12 21:14:34

Thanks both smile Still waiting around...I think they do this to you so you'll agree to anything in the end!

imustbepatient Thu 25-Oct-12 21:57:31

Good luck orenishii! Hope everything goes really well for you. You will be holding your little one before too much longer, just hold onto that thought. My first labour was really different to what I'd hoped for. I had wanted the water birth natal hypnotherapy etc but ended up having the drip to speed up labour which was slowing, an epidural to cope with the pain and tiredness from how long it took, and then ventouse as DD1 didn't want to come out! But actually I never felt panicked or out of control. The midwives and doctors were great, talked me through options at each stage, and it all just felt like each step was the right thing that we needed in the circs. Our darling daughter arrived safe and sound and I recovered from the birth pretty quickly.

I am crossing my fingers that the same thing happens for you, and you have a 'good' labour, whatever particular path it takes. A happy mum and baby is all that matters in the end.

imustbepatient Fri 26-Oct-12 14:17:11

Hi all. I'm hoping the radio silence is from lots of you being in labour!

Just back from my sweep and feeling positive as midwife said I am 2cm dilated and all looking very favourable. Here's hoping something starts happening soon! Good luck to the rest of you. smile

Stumbleine Fri 26-Oct-12 14:40:21

Ha no such luck! No signs of movement over here unfortunately. I lost a little not of my show last night but that's obviously down to the sweep.

Great news re your cervix looking favourable!

Stumbleine Fri 26-Oct-12 14:41:02

bit of my show!

Sastra Fri 26-Oct-12 15:10:27

That's great about things looking favourable. Well, I'm officially late now, so let the two weeks of additional hell commence...sad

SlightlySuperiorPeasant Fri 26-Oct-12 16:09:21

Can I join in? I'll be 41 weeks tomorrow and this baby is going nowhere. My MW attempted a sweep on Tuesday but my cervix was high and closed. I've been having small leaks since Wedbesday so saw another MW today who agreed with my thoughts that I have a small tear somewhere high up in the sac and the leaks happen when the baby's head bounces a bit. Booked in for another sweep on Sunday.

I went for a lovely long walk yesterday and just ended up with blisters hmm DS has been helping me eat the pineapple production of a small country. DH has been very enthusiastic about his duties grin I don't want to do curry - the thought of a poorly tum during labour is a bit much! What's this about evening primrose oil?

Sastra I'm another one who really, really doesn't want an induction. I was induced at 37 weeks with DS due to pre-eclampsia and it was a long, difficult, painful birth. I felt completely out of control with the pain and the whole experience was terrifying and degrading. I know not all inductions are like that and at 37 weeks it was going to be a tough job to get him out as he just wasn't ready but the thought of starting off down the same track again makes me feel sick. I've had to fight very hard this time for the chance of a normal labour - using the midwife led unit, having access to the birthing pool, not being continuously monitored - and I'm starting to panic that it will all have been for nothing.

Sastra Fri 26-Oct-12 16:33:13

Thanks for sharing, slightly. It's really helpful to hear people's previous experiences!

Ooh, sweep on a Sunday? I didn't think you could get non-emergency stuff at the weekend!

SlightlySuperiorPeasant Fri 26-Oct-12 16:41:50

Not the kind of experience you want to hear though! In my case it would have been fine if the hospital had followed NICE guidelines and offered an epidural when they broke my waters and put me on a drip. Up until then it was manageable and once I'd had an epidural I slept through most of it but the six hour gap in between isn't something I'd wish on anyone.

SlightlySuperiorPeasant Fri 26-Oct-12 16:42:31

My local hospital has a drop-in antenatal clinic on a Sunday, which is rather good!

imustbepatient Fri 26-Oct-12 21:52:11

Hi SSP, your local Sunday clinic sounds really helpful.

Re your cervix being high and hard at your last sweep, at mine on Wednesday my cervix was also high and MW couldn't get a finger in, but at my sweep today it was low soft forward and 2cm dilated so a lot can change in a short time!

To the people who asked about morning primrose oil, a couple of posters earlier in the thread said that putting oil from a capsule as close as you can get to your cervix can potentially help soften your cervix and make it more favourable for a sweep / labour.

I'm very far from an expert on it but gave it a whirl (desperate times etc!). I just cut a snip in the top of a capsule, inserted and squeezed it to get the oil out, removed the shell then lay on the bed with my hips raised for 15 minutes or so to let gravity get the oil to my cervix. That was on Thursday, with the difference in my two sweeps before and after being as I describe above. Could be a complete coincidence though! grin

AbbyRue Fri 26-Oct-12 22:24:05

40 + 1 sad can I reluctantly join in? I know I'm in for the long haul sad

imustbepatient Fri 26-Oct-12 22:29:13

Hi abbeyrue, please do join in!

Re my last post, no idea what morning primrose oil is, I meant evening primrose oil. Whoops. blush

Sastra Fri 26-Oct-12 23:00:59

Hello Abby! I'm the same as you so we can be long hauling it together!

Hmm, I feel a bit like I have period pain, but I'm probably making it up!

AbbyRue Fri 26-Oct-12 23:07:35

Hey ladies. If I hadn't been having twinges I think I would be sort of ok but it's been 3 weeks of strong BHs, period pain like cramps and all sorts and so I swore I was going to have him early! But oh no, he's following in the footsteps of his brother and sister who were both at least a week overdue grin

I'm thinking tomorrow I will play it low, not think about it, not read on labour, log off MN and go get my eyebrows threaded or something. Perhaps if we ignore it will happen? Wishful thinking blush

Purplecatti Sat 27-Oct-12 09:08:04

I'm still here sad
Got swept two days ago (ouch by the way). Was 2cm, 2/5 baby's head palpable which I thought were all good signs. Felt VERY sore afterwards and got lots of tightenings but absolutely zilch has happened.

I am terrified of being induced now even though I have a week to go until they book that it and people keep telling me all sorts can happen in a week.

Stumbleine Sat 27-Oct-12 10:54:48

Purplecatti that all sounds very promising.

Well, I finally folded and did the dreaded deed with dh this morning! I feel much better as I at least feel I'm doing something proactive iyswim?

Pramdreams Sat 27-Oct-12 14:43:51

I had a midwife appointment yesterday and it didn't go particularly well. She struggled to find a heartbeat, my bump measured at 38cm instead of 41 cm and she wasn't sure of the position again ( third time).

She attempted a sweep, couldn't even get close as its so far back, the sheet fell off leaving me completely exposed ( I know childbirth isn't dignified but was still a tad embarrassing), and finally she decided to send me for a scan.

We had a long wait at Hospital and after finally seeing a midwife she thought it was breech, I got upset at this, poor hubby didn't know what to do. A Doctor had a feel and she thought it was the head but it felt too wide, a scan confirmed it isn't in breech position but the head is free and she mentioned that in first time mothers the head is usually engaged by now.

Anyway, the Doctor did a sweep, it hurt like hell and there was a little blood but she has also booked me in to be induced on Monday morning. Have been told to bounce on the ball all weekend.

What has me concerned is that quite a few people have questioned the positioning of the head thinking its the shoulders or hips, they all think it is too wide for a head. I have a petite frame, my DH is small for a man, so how has the baby got a (supposedly) big head and how the hell am I going to push it out?

Sorry for the long rambling post, I think nerves are getting to me.

RunningKatie Sat 27-Oct-12 19:35:00

Can I join in too please? I'm 40+2 now, had acupuncture the other day in an attempt to get things moving but nothing yet. I've been having cramps and pains most evenings now but they never develop into anything.

Saw the MW yesterday who said baby is back-to-back, DD did this to me at the end but thankfully turned in labour. She was 2 weeks late and I had an induction which I'm trying so hard to avoid.

Pram - not surprising the nerves are getting to you. My DD was born on the 25th percentile for weight but has a 99th percentile head, very common in DH's family! Keep bouncing on that ball.

Biggem Sat 27-Oct-12 20:28:51

I've had my baby!! 41 weeks and she arrived by vbac at 1.49am following 2 sweeps! Wahoo
Good luck to everyone still hanging in there

SlightlySuperiorPeasant Sat 27-Oct-12 20:33:04

Congratulations! Enjoy the newborn snuggles smile

Sastra Sat 27-Oct-12 20:56:28

Congratulations!!!!grin

Stumbleine Sat 27-Oct-12 21:00:42

Congratulations!! smile

AbbyRue Sun 28-Oct-12 00:44:37

Congratulations smile

debbie1412 Sun 28-Oct-12 06:51:28

Full moon Monday night ladies !!!!

javotte Sun 28-Oct-12 15:35:51

Well, I was booked for an induction on Thursday at 7:00. Had my first contraction at 6:00 and DD was born at 8:30. I barely had the time to crawl onto the delivery table (the MW couldn't even put her gloves on!). I'm so happy she was born spontaneously! Good luck to you all.

javotte Sun 28-Oct-12 17:48:09

Whoops, I meant Friday of course (at exactly 42 weeks!)

Stumbleine Sun 28-Oct-12 18:04:35

Great news congratulations!

SlightlySuperiorPeasant Sun 28-Oct-12 18:11:28

Well done! Congratulations!

imustbepatient Sun 28-Oct-12 19:59:25

Congratulations biggem and javotte!

I'm very happy to say that our little DD was born yesterday evening. Good luck to the rest of you!

Sastra Sun 28-Oct-12 23:30:35

Me waters have just gone!

Stumbleine Mon 29-Oct-12 05:59:05

Congratulations Imustbepatient!

Ooh exciting sastra, hope you're off having your baby now. I've been up since 3 contracting every 20 mins. Thought I might as well get out of bed as couldn't sleep. They seem to need dying off now though sad.
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SlightlySuperiorPeasant Mon 29-Oct-12 06:59:33

Congratulations again!

Sastra I hope you're done now smile

Sastra Mon 29-Oct-12 13:16:21

She came at break neck speed in the end! She's rather lovely.xx

SlightlySuperiorPeasant Mon 29-Oct-12 13:52:48

Great! Congratulations, hope you're alright!

RunningKatie Mon 29-Oct-12 19:41:09

Wow, congratulations sastra, biggem & imustbepatient

Still pregnant here, DH nearly was stabbed last night when he started talking about an induction being inevitable. I'm only 4 flipping days over, an induction is another 8 days away. Worst still he was talking to the MIL who is the world's worst worrier but will also have discussed this with his whole extended family now. Arrghhhhh.

Stumbleine Tue 30-Oct-12 07:29:14

My baby girl was born last night at 11.23 and we can't quite believe it!

Good luck to those still waiting.

SlightlySuperiorPeasant Tue 30-Oct-12 10:02:16

Hooray! Congratulations smile

41+3 here and still no sign of baby. I had my third sweep this morning and everything is favourable and ready to go, it just needs to... go. My midwife is waiting for a call back from the consultant but I'll probably be booked in for an induction on Friday sad Lots of walking, swimming, stairs, pineapple, clary sage and being extra nice to DH until then!

Doodlekitty Tue 30-Oct-12 13:50:42

I'm now 40+4 and I'm round the twist. So bored at home on my own, struggling to keep busy as everything is hard work. I was convinced he would be early so this has really thrown me. Consultant wants to induce me at +10 but I need to look into the pros and cons of this (any advice on that) before I decide whether it's happening.

Any tips on filling time on very little cash?

SlightlySuperiorPeasant Tue 30-Oct-12 15:05:40

Lots of walking, scrubbing floors and sleeping?

The pros and cons depend on why you're under consultant-led care. If it's just because you're overdue then the main reason for induction is that there's evidence to show that the placenta starts to deteriorate around the 42 week mark, meaning that the baby isn't being supported as well as it should be. In some cases this can lead to stillbirth or other negative outcomes. However, this is a very individual thing and the alternative is to monitor the baby every day and perform scans to check the blood flow through the placenta and umbilical cord and to measure the levels of amniotic fluid around the baby. As long as they are normal then it could buy your body a few days to go into labour by itself but any abnormalities should indicate immediate induction.

Orenishii Tue 30-Oct-12 15:07:45

Hi all....relieved to say i had my son on saturday night (27th) and has been named Quincy Isaac. Not a great birth and still recovering but he's here and amazing so that's all that matters.

Congrats javotte,stumbleine and biggem!

SlightlySuperiorPeasant Tue 30-Oct-12 15:25:44

Congratulations! I was wondering how you were getting on smile Excellent name.

javotte Tue 30-Oct-12 17:15:10

Congratulations! I hope you can get plenty of rest.

Doodlekitty Tue 30-Oct-12 17:26:56

Congratulations! Hope you have a speedy recovery and lots of lovely cuddles with your son

SlightlySuperiorPeasant Wed 31-Oct-12 14:50:58

Why am I still pregnant? sad I am going slowly mad; every time I hear the phone ring I get a little bubble of excitement thinking it's someone calling to let me know that I'm in labour confused I've spent an absolute fortune on pineapple, curry, clary sage, EPO and chocolate, walked for miles, swum for miles more, rotated and NOT dilated, bounced, frog-walked the stairs and been more than nice to DH and nothing is happening. DH has announced that he is on paternity leave from tomorrow, so no pressure to have the induction on Friday or anything hmmangry People I haven't spoken to in months are calling 'just to see how you're getting on'. Leave me the heck alone!

Purplecatti Wed 31-Oct-12 15:21:12

Slightly Superior - you have my every sympathy. I am 41+3 and if there is no sign of baby by friday I'm getting booked in and really panicking about it. Last week I was told I'm 1-2cms down, 3/5ths engaged and partially effaced. But like you, NOTHING HAS HAPPENED.
Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
On the EPO, raspberry leaf capsules, pineapple, birth ball, walking, stomping up and down stairs, trying curry tonight (oh that will be fun with my acid reflux)
I am also furious at all the 'any news yet?' phone calls.

SlightlySuperiorPeasant Wed 31-Oct-12 15:26:05

I don't mind the phone calls from actual friends but the casual acquaintances are starting to drive me bonkers. It has even extended to DH, whose first sleepy words on waking up yesterday morning were 'are you still pregnant? Yes? Oh.' You think he might have known if I wasn't!

MoonHare Wed 31-Oct-12 16:18:10

Hi can I join you???

I'm going slowly mad here at 41+4, I would NEVER have believed I'd be this overdue. It's baby no. 3 the other 2 were also late - 9 days and 5 days but this??? 11 days??? Good grief.

Was planning a home birth and the chances are slipping away fast. Have an appt at hospital on Fri for assessment and baby monitoring.

Had a sweep yesterday was 2-3cm dilated cervix very soft apparently. Been having twinges, stretching, tightening, aches etc for more than 2 weeks on and off and loads last night but that all completely stopped.

I feel under so much pressure to deliver this baby, it can't be helping.

Grrrrrrrr................so fed up and frustrated!!!!!

Off to walk up and down stairs sideways, again.

SlightlySuperiorPeasant Wed 31-Oct-12 16:32:04

You may join the campaign to make this the grumpiest thread on MN grin

I'm 41+4 too. I feel fine but I am terrified of being induced again. Trying not to panic and relax but sad

MoonHare Wed 31-Oct-12 17:28:06

It's just so hard to relax though isn't it? With the threat of induction hanging there. Are there medical reasons why they would want to induce you? I'm hoping to get away with expectant management but I certainly think if there's no baby by the time of my appt on Fri then I can kiss home birth goodbye, even if I manage to avoid induction......

What are these babies thinking of????!

RunningKatie Wed 31-Oct-12 19:46:18

I have overdue and fed-up pregnant woman rage today. I went to get a haircut and was helped out of my coat by a 19 year old who has no children. She proceeded to tell me that my bump was still really high for someone who was 40+6, then told me all about her DSis (accidental) home birth and how horrific she'd (not the sister) found it. How I got out of there without not bursting a blood vessel I don't know.

Tomorrow I have a sweep, oh the joy. I haven't really discussed inductions with the MW, but I guess they'll induce me on Tuesday when I'm +12 if I've not managed to go into labour naturally. That's my wedding anniversary so not the way I'd planned on spending it. Like you MoonHare I am hoping for a home birth this time around. I think these babies are so nice and cosy they don't want to come out when it's raining.

SlightlySuperiorPeasant Wed 31-Oct-12 21:54:06

Ooo, nice anniversary present though! Let's hope you don't get that far.

No medical reason other than that I'll be 13 days overdue. I would like to give it until Monday but logistically Friday would be better. I'm just dreading having to be on the day unit and then delivery suite: no privacy, no space, noisy and bright. Exactly what I didn't want sad

Doodlekitty Thu 01-Nov-12 08:19:22

Is it wrong to walk to pils house and give them a slap? I put a post on fb last night about going to Nandos to eat extra hot chicken (yeuch and it didn't work!) and they have replied with how long I've been pregnant, how excited they are, and how they need to meet their grandchild NOW. Like I'm bloody doing it on purpose! I feel like replying with "actually, I've been in labour for a week, I'm just fecking clenching!"
But of course I won't. I'll sit here and seeth until 11.00 when I get my "are you in labour yet" daily call which comes in between DHs 2 "how's doodle kitty" calls which happen at 8am and pm.
Gah

Sastra Thu 01-Nov-12 11:15:09

Not a mumsnet jury in the land would convict you, Doodlekitty.

"I'm just clenching" grin

Purplecatti Thu 01-Nov-12 11:23:26

I think I should stand trial for crimes against in laws too doodlekitty.
I too am cruelly withholding my in laws grand child from them. Obviously I am doing it on purpose. If I get one more breathless 'hurry up we can't wait we're just SO excited' phone call I will not be held responsible for my actions.

AbbyRue Thu 01-Nov-12 12:15:47

Hi ladies

I'm still pregnant too, 41 weeks exactly today and waiting on MW who was supposed to be here 45mins ago to do a sweep sad

I'm fed up. I hate doing the school run as everyone is going on about "you still pregnant then?"

Was late with both DCs anyway but this pregnancy has been so different from the other I was convinced I would bev early.

I'm actually crying now. I'm fed up sadsad

SlightlySuperiorPeasant Thu 01-Nov-12 17:57:25

There is hope! Baby decided to arrive all by herself this morning at 41+5. I'd resigned myself to an induction tomorrow so she arrived just in the nick of time. She is rather cuddly and snuffly smile I can recommend M&S chicken tikka masala if you fancy trying yet another useless cure for going overdue.

Doodlekitty Thu 01-Nov-12 18:00:45

Huge congrats peasant! Pleased you managed to avoid induction, enjoy your bundle

Sastra Thu 01-Nov-12 18:30:07

Congrats superior!

Is it just me or are all these naughty babies girls??

AbbyRue Thu 01-Nov-12 18:40:06

Congrats smile

MW finally turned up at 4.35pm instead of the scheduled 11.30amhmmconfused

Did the sweep and period pain cramps came straight after!! I'm 3cm dilated, 50% effaced so maybe labour imminent?

Booked induction for 10/11 "just in case" but she reckons I'll be holding DS in less than 24 hours

I've never wished for pain like this!!

RunningKatie Thu 01-Nov-12 20:25:48

Oh Doodlekitty that did make me laugh. Of course clenching is the way forward to upset PILs.
My FIL is everso everso keen that this DC is a boy. I couldn't give a flying fig either way but am beginning to feel rather pressured.

Huge congrats peasant - hope you are having lots of lovely cuddles.

I feel your pain with the MW AbbyRue, but massively impressed you even get an appt. time, mine is either morning or afternoon. Sweep sounds like it may well have done the trick too. Fingers crossed.

MW came round this pm to do a sweep, she couldn't because my pesky cervix wouldn't actually stay still for her to do it. hmm She thinks I'm probably strutting about 2cm dilated anyway, and although I'm now booked in for an induction next Thurs, she's confident that I'll pop before then. There is also the option of another sweep attempt next Mon if my slippery cervix (her words not mine) will behave.

SlightlySuperiorPeasant Thu 01-Nov-12 21:04:46

Thanks all. She is currently snoozing away in her fish tank, long may that last! I didn't manage the water birth I'd hoped for but I'm happy with the way everything went and I didn't get I induced!

Good luck AbbyRue, hope things progress quickly and manageably for you.

SlightlySuperiorPeasant Thu 01-Nov-12 21:05:32

Lol at the slippery cervix.

seabuckthorn Thu 01-Nov-12 21:38:37

Can I clock in? I'm fed up now & actually fit to burst!
Can someone assure me that having raging PMT type symptoms is obviously a labour sign?
I'm very irrational and grumpy today. Can you actually believe that my MIL has plans for the weekend, I could give birth any day now & she has plans! I have plans to give birth & need her to look after the DC. The cheek! wink
I'm ready to burn the birthing ball and that clary sage!

<disclaimer, I am normally quite happy honest>

seabuckthorn Thu 01-Nov-12 21:41:52

Good luck Abby!
I did lol at the slippery cervix! Hope it behaves if you need another. smile

AbbyRue Thu 01-Nov-12 23:04:09

Loads of period pain cramps and backache here...lets see how long it lasts grin

SlightlySuperiorPeasant Fri 02-Nov-12 08:43:38

Clary sage smells disgusting and cost me nearly £10 for a tiny bottle. PM me if anyone wants the rest of the bottle for free - it's one thing I won't miss!

Doodlekitty Fri 02-Nov-12 12:58:46

Back from midwife. Cervix is closed. Could cry. Booked for induction on wed.

SlightlySuperiorPeasant Fri 02-Nov-12 13:06:31

Nooo! Evening primrose oil?

RunningKatie Fri 02-Nov-12 19:39:49

Oh Doodlekitty, Wednesday is ages away. Don't panic just yet. How many days over will you be by then? Will they try another sweep before then? I had 3 with DD but all were unfavourable. The nice midwife I had yesterday said 92% of women deliver before induction. I just hope she's right.

How's it going Abby?

I had a good cry on DH this evening, I had so many flipping texts from my lovely friends asking how I'm doing that, it just tipped me over the edge. Poor DD wanted to play with Mummy today too and I just wasn't much use.

We've just had a chinese takeaway, I can't decide whether I've eaten too much or if I've got back ache and cramps. Poor DH gently asked whether I thought I was starting and I snarled at him to send me a text. blush

AbbyRue Fri 02-Nov-12 20:05:36

Hi Katie,

Still no baby sad despite the contractions, the cramping and the show. 8 days overdue sigh

I think I'm just going to try and be patient and wait it out. Induction booked for 10/11 but will go in on Tuesday for monitoring.

Good luck to all smile

MoonHare Fri 02-Nov-12 21:33:05

Hi all

Well my rant on Wed eve must have got things moving as baby girl Moon arrived safely at home as planned at 5.16 on Thurs 1st Nov after a quick 4 hour labour. She's gorgeous and doing well. Sooooooo relieved she's finally here and that all is well with no need to end up at hospital.

Very best wishes to everyone - hope those babies come soon !!!

SlightlySuperiorPeasant Sat 03-Nov-12 08:27:50

Congratulations! Our DDs are birthday buddies smile I'm glad all is well.

Doodlekitty Sat 03-Nov-12 09:22:20

Congrats moon hare! It must be great to finally hold her.

My induction will be at +12. I need to go in day before for pessary and be in overnight. Couldn't do a sweep as cervix is totally closed, midwife didn't mention trying it again. I declare my midwife hopeless (not just because of this, many crappy things). Still hoping something might get him moving naturally.

AbbyRue Sat 03-Nov-12 17:03:04

Baby Nathan arrived at 8.11am this morning after a quick 3hr start to finish labour! smile

He's big at 4.2kg!! But absolutely worth the 9 days overdue time

Best wishes to everyone

SlightlySuperiorPeasant Sat 03-Nov-12 19:32:58

Wow, that was fast! Congratulations! Love the name smile

Best of luck to everyone still waiting and fingers crossed that there won't be any inductions.

Doodlekitty Sat 03-Nov-12 21:50:57

It's all gone very quiet. Is everyone apart from me out having their babies?

seabuckthorn Sun 04-Nov-12 10:15:58

I'm still here! Had twinges on and off. Today's feel more like he is squashing my bladder rather than productive contractions.
I have tried everything!

Doodlekitty Sun 04-Nov-12 12:00:19

At least I'm not alone! I'm not even getting twinges any more, just movement. Surely it has to happen soon

seabuckthorn Sun 04-Nov-12 12:27:25

It does have to happen soon! It must! But wow I'm bored now! I keep getting backache...and getting excited but I think it might be the mattress?
Toying with getting a mattress topper thing but get let's face it probably not going to be sleeping much in the next few months!

How you feeling? I'm so tired just doing small things exhausts me. I'm freaking out somewhat that I'll never go into labour with my 2 pre schoolers at home sad
Sorry for the rant, please rant back!

Doodlekitty Sun 04-Nov-12 13:24:57

Rant away! This is the most frustrating thing ever. I'm trying to keep going but everything hurts. Today it is mainly my legs and left hip, feel like I've run a marathon. I was blaming my bed for bad back last week.

Induction on wed, was hoping it would happen naturally before then but I'm really starting to doubt it and feel quite negative.

seabuckthorn Sun 04-Nov-12 18:33:17

It really is insanely frustrating!
I'm seeing midwife on Tues to discuss my induction date.
I really hope it kicks off for us soon. If I have another clary sage bath I will sob!
I know what you mean about feeling negative sad I have spd which is pretty bad now, I can barely do anything and I feel a terrible mummy to my dc. My brain is up for doing everything but then I'm exhausted after just showering & getting ready...whilst glugging gaviscon!

Fingers crossed for you, it all kicks off soon. Wednesday is a few sleeps away. I'm off to bounce on that f*cking birth ball again! Round and round I go!

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RunningKatie Sun 04-Nov-12 19:57:05

I am still here too (sobs in frustration).

Going for another sweep attempt tomorrow, induction booked for Thursday if I can't manage to produce this little one before then.

I'm so fed up of sign spotting, DH is probably being driven mad by me, DD is being so good but really wants to be carried about and cuddled despite my massive belly.

Doodlekitty Mon 05-Nov-12 08:19:25

Still holding on without a dicky bird of a sign. How ya doing girlies?

seabuckthorn Mon 05-Nov-12 10:45:37

I'm still here! I'm now a woman on a mission! I'm sitting pretty much all day on the gym ball and tonight I'm having a gin and tonic! I'm not sure either will work but I'm sure the G&T will make me feel better!
I'm also having one last clary sage bath and walk this afternoon perhaps.
There is nothing stopping this baby coming now I've done everything! I was cleaning the bathroom at 9am this morning.
Waiting to give birth is as frustrating as wondering if you are pregnant I think.
DP has man flu and currently of no use to me the selfish man grin

How is everyone else doing?

seabuckthorn Mon 05-Nov-12 10:46:25

I'm squatting as well but this is only recommended if baby is in the right position.

RunningKatie Mon 05-Nov-12 11:25:08

Today I saw the seventh different midwife I have seen in this pregnancy. She barely spoke to me, she left the room at random points with no explanation, she actually spat into a bin. I wanted a home birth but if she was the community midwife on call I'd drive myself to the hospital even if I was in labour.

She attempted to do a sweep on me, but hurt me so much, and essentially told me that my cervix was central but unfavourable. I'm in bits now, I really hoped it was all coming together and I'd avoid the induction on Thursday.

After DD has her lunchtime sleep we're off to M&S to buy all the curries we can lay our hands on. I've not attempted a clary sage bath but I'm willing to try anything now.

seabuckthorn Mon 05-Nov-12 14:27:24

sad katie that's truly terrible! I thought my sweep with my first didn't work but it did! Fingers crossed for you!
I wrote a long old message and its disappeared!
Hope the curry mission works for you.
I've hoovered, cleaned and bounced...nothing yet!
DP really wants the baby to come this week, no pressure or anything!
Hope you are ok katie

seabuckthorn Tue 06-Nov-12 16:45:27

How we doing ladies?
Well I get a sweep next week if I'm favourable.
I'm 2/5th engaged. I feel really crap this afternoon, barely been able to move from the sofa. My poor youngest DS, he's been entertaining himself. I think it's just tiredness, spending all day on the ball yesterday must have been too much along with the cleaning!

RunningKatie Tue 06-Nov-12 20:30:01

Good luck for the Wednesday Doodlekitty - unless you managed to pop beforehand?!

I'm still here too Seabuck. We've had curry tonight and we're just about to start on the sticky toffee pudding as it's our wedding anniversary.

Poor DD is facing the brunt of my frustrations, I was sleepless last night with anger at yesterdays midwife and tonight I've packed my hospital bags so I'm ready for Thursday. I don't think anything's going to happen naturally now but I can hope. Tomorrow we're off to softplay, I'm hoping she won't go disappearing off into the big kid things as I can't get in there without getting wedged in and she's too little to get herself down those slides!

Purplecatti Wed 07-Nov-12 03:37:09

Well I popped my baby out on Friday. Good luck to everyone still waiting!

Doodlekitty Wed 07-Nov-12 06:19:41

Just woke up in hospital ready for today's induction. Managed to get some sleep but not much. Baby was not cooperating last night so monitoring took an age. Trying to force down some breakfast now ready for fun examinations around 8.30. Congrats to those who have their babies in their arms. Hope to join you today

seabuckthorn Wed 07-Nov-12 07:47:07

Good luck doodle hope it all goes well for you. Not long until baby cuddles.
Congratulations purple hope it all went for you and you are enjoying a snuggly newborn!
Hang in there katie I hate soft play too! Fingers crossed it starts for you today or tonight.
I'm still here, nothing to report. Feel quite odd yesterday afternoon but I think it was tiredness. Wow I'm bored!
I'm off to do the breakfast shift with my 2, with morning sickness oh joy!

Doodlekitty Wed 07-Nov-12 11:32:15

On third pessary. Body not responding. Caesarians being discussed.

seabuckthorn Wed 07-Nov-12 14:43:44

Oh doodle hope you and baby are ok <hug, whilst no one is watching>

JLBrett Wed 07-Nov-12 17:14:49

Im new on hear :/ HI blush Im 4 days over due and NOTHING.
Very fed up off waiting.
Not even a twinge and ive tried everything bouncing on birthing ball, currys, sex , hot baths , long walks , speed bumps sad
Xx

SlightlySuperiorPeasant Wed 07-Nov-12 17:23:31

Congratulations purple!

Doodle I really hope you and baby are ok. Fingers crossed you don't need a CS.

RunningKatie Wed 07-Nov-12 19:26:20

Oh doodle, you poor thing, hope it has started for you now.

I thought things were kicking off today, cramps, backache etc. Then DD woke up from her nap and screamed for 30mins at me. And everything stopped! Clearly baby decided not to take the exit route as it was chaos here. DD has done some stinky nappies so we think she probably had an upset tummy poor love.

We have to ring tomorrow to check that there's a bed at 10am then go in for 11am. I guess the induction itself will start after lunch maybe?

Congrats purple
Welcome to the mad house JL - anger management is optional round here!

Doodlekitty Wed 07-Nov-12 21:00:25

Hey guys. Still nothing happening here. Having contractions but they are just not doing anything. If nothing happens overnight my options are very limited. I feel like shit, never dreamt this would happen. But we shall see tomorrow.

Good luck everyone else

SlightlySuperiorPeasant Wed 07-Nov-12 21:08:47

sad I hope things kick off for you overnight. If you need a CS though it isn't the end if the world and if it makes you feel better a week after my 'normal' birth I still:

- can't go out for long as I have no control over when I wee blush
- can't sit without wincing
- have to double over while I cough (and see first point)
- have a very wobbly tum

:/

TwistedFireStarter Thu 08-Nov-12 06:30:51

Oh Doodlekitty sad. Finger crossed that things work out in a way you're happy with.

How is everyone? We should form a little post-natal group!

seabuckthorn Thu 08-Nov-12 08:08:50

Good luck today katie
Hope all is ok doodle
How is everyone else doing?
I'm still here, 2/5th engaged and had some niggles last night...we were then joined by both dc!
Hmmph! I'll never labour at this rate. DP is seriously grumpy which is really not helping. Sorry my woeful rant over!

SlightlySuperiorPeasant Thu 08-Nov-12 08:32:45

Good luck katie and doodle!

seabuck why is your DP grumpy?!

seabuckthorn Thu 08-Nov-12 09:00:27

Both our DC aren't sleeping reliably at the moment and he has a cold.
I'm only sleep deprived and overdue a baby. The former is so so much worse you know?

seabuckthorn Thu 08-Nov-12 09:02:31

I think toddlers have some kind of sixth sense, both of mine have been quite clingy last few days and not sleeping well. Not like them. It must be a sign yes?

SlightlySuperiorPeasant Thu 08-Nov-12 10:18:58

Ahh, man flu. NDN has that at the moment and apparently isn't getting enough sympathy from his fiancée (with 2 young children) so DH bought him a box of chocolates to show solidarity grin

seabuckthorn Thu 08-Nov-12 15:17:07

grin that's brilliant!
I'm eating chocolate iced donuts to cheer myself up. So bored now!

SlightlySuperiorPeasant Thu 08-Nov-12 15:50:25

Mmm, I want ones with chocolate sprinkles now.

seabuckthorn Thu 08-Nov-12 20:00:49

I have 2 left, help yourself smile

seabuckthorn Fri 09-Nov-12 09:52:29

Anyone popped?
I haven't! I was being so good not getting annoyed or stressed. It was short lived!

SlightlySuperiorPeasant Sat 10-Nov-12 15:22:57

I got stressed and spent most of the day before DD was born crying about one thing or another. See it as a good sign!

seabuckthorn Sat 10-Nov-12 16:20:20

Well I burst into tears this morning (really unlike me, poor DP!) as this is another weekend I'm pregnant. I had another reflexology session last night in a vain attempt to relax me more than anything. I don't feel anymore relaxed or in labour.
I'm having an M&S meal deal tonight and today has been sponsored by Nutella on toast.
I can't be the only one left. I swear if my cervix isn't favourable next week I will have a full on pregnant tantrum!

seabuckthorn Sat 10-Nov-12 16:20:52

I'm hoping tears are a good sign

Doodlekitty Sat 10-Nov-12 16:23:58

Hey guys. Had my little boy in the early hours of Friday morning after having waters broken at lunch time thursday, despite not being at all dilated. Went on drip and after 7 hours was only 1.5 cm. more talk of cs. After another 4 hours they checked again and I was 10cm! He was born about 90 mins later.

Still feeling slightly she'll shocked and confused about what I'm supposed to do with this whole new human, but we'll get there. Certainly worth the wait and the effort

Oh I didn't know there was already an overdue thread.. I just started another one.

Im two days overdue.. not alot I know, but after three/four weeks of strong braxton hicks, a week of period pains, backache and irregular contractions, I would've thought the baby would have come by now!! angry

SlightlySuperiorPeasant Sat 10-Nov-12 16:57:06

Congratulations Doodle! So glad you got there in the end without a CS smile I'm on DC2 and still looking at her wondering what to do with her. Mostly she just requires snuggles and milk...

Mickey I tried to go back to sleep and didn't wake DH up for hours when I went into labour because I'd had so many false alarms I refused to believe it was the real thing.

seabuckthorn Sat 10-Nov-12 23:53:34

Oh help!
I feel sick, I have pains which go all the way round and down with pressure which makes me think I need the loo.
Hurts especially when he moves, pretty much just hurts when he moves.
Ow and in my back too.
In bed on my left side, can't sleep through these!
Labour or wishful thinking? I'm such a pessimist I think it must just die down sad

seabuckthorn Sat 10-Nov-12 23:58:15

Humph calming down already and DS1 is awake!

SlightlySuperiorPeasant Sun 11-Nov-12 04:32:41

Shhh sea's DS1!

seabuckthorn Sun 11-Nov-12 09:40:45

sad still here!
All died down in the end. I have just been left with horrible backache.
I'm so so annoyed!
Left the sleeping beauties in our bed went down and sat on my birth ball listened to classical music and it all died down.
I'm gutted. I just don't see how I will go into natural labour with the DC about. DP was frigging useless I am so cross.
Think it might well an induction, just what I wanted to avoid.
Sorry this is very woe is me but just how many false starts can one labour take?!

terilou87 Sun 11-Nov-12 09:52:40

can i join 40+4
been reading all the birth stories, im soo jelous...envy
seabuckthorn i know that feeling i was certain i was starting labor 2 days ago but it died off sad
also desparatly trying to avoid induction....
on the other hand i know there is less than two weeks till little man is definitely here grin

seabuckthorn i had that last night as well. angry second stretch and sweep today so lets see if that gets things going!!

terilou87 Sun 11-Nov-12 13:09:15

good luck MickeyTheShortOne hope it works this time round for you smile

seabuckthorn Sun 11-Nov-12 13:34:20

Hope the sweep goes well mickey
I feel your pain these stop starts are dreadful not to mention exhausting!

RunningKatie Tue 13-Nov-12 10:04:44

I am back, after a protracted induction experience, and I now have a little DS who is wailing in his moses basket because Mummy has put him down.

Went in on Thursday for induction, got put on induction ward, they examined me and said I was 1 to 2cm blah blah, but the labour ward was full so basically I had to wait. And wait. And wait. They did try a pessary to get me to dilate more so my waters might go themselves but that fell out! At 5am Friday they came to fetch me to go to labour ward so they could break my waters. And we waited, and waited. At 9am my waters were broken, at this point I was contracting roughly every 10 mins but nothing was happening. DS was back to back and there was meconium in the waters so my options were limited but I had a great time sat on the ball with my gas and air. Still not dilating!

At 11am they put me on a drip, the rest of my labour and he arrived at 1pm on Friday. We came home on Saturday and the reality of life with a toddler and a baby is starting to sink in!

terilou87 Tue 13-Nov-12 10:17:10

congratulations runningkatie grin
only just got my show this morning at 40+6 go for a sweep tomorrow really hope it works...

SlightlySuperiorPeasant Tue 13-Nov-12 10:21:00

Congratulations RunningKatie! Life for us with a toddler and a new born is... interesting hmm

terilou87 Wed 14-Nov-12 09:15:39

well still here, sweep booked in for today bout 45 mins time, please please please work!!!!! 41 week today sad

I'm still here too terilou. I've just had my third violation sweep, 41 weeks tomorrow. Really hoping this one works!

terilou87 Wed 14-Nov-12 16:22:09

i dont think i could of coped with 3, iv got a feeling it hasnt worked but who knows. booked in for induction on 19th so definitly not going to be too much longer (sighs) been a very long one. smile

afromum Wed 14-Nov-12 16:53:07

Hi ladies - check out this article might be a little comforting
http://voices.yahoo.com/the-lie-edd-why-due-date-isnt-you-1958162.html

Hope you all get to meet your little ones soon! smile

terilou87 Sun 18-Nov-12 19:13:36

well baby leon arrived at 3.25 this morning so i didnt have to be induced (yey) he weighed 8lb2 smile

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