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Is 'pregnancy glow' a myth?

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Dogsmom Thu 23-Aug-12 18:02:28

This is my first pregnancy, I'm 11 weeks and feeling tired, sick, narky, spotty etc, I've read that the first trimester isn't pleasant and was hoping that I'd soon be feeling the 'pregnancy glow' I've heard about.

However after reading lots of posts on here and other forums it seems that women go on to have spd, sore abdomens, back pain in the 2nd tri and then in the 3rd tri feel huge, bloated, uncomfortable and are desperate for it all to be over.

Is there really a glow at any time during pregnancy? is there ever a time when women feel normal? or is it really an unpleasant 9 months?

frogalou Thu 23-Aug-12 18:07:22

I was very tired the first three months, but after that I felt good and my skin looked good (from the lack of alcohol I expect) and my hair is thicker. I am week 33 now and I am feeling rather tired again, but on the whole, it has not been unpleasant at all for me, I have loved being pregnant so far! I was lucky to not have morning sickness though.

MiggleMoo Thu 23-Aug-12 18:10:59

I'm only 6 or so weeks and look like I've not slept for a week! Pasty and sickly! But I take it as a good sign as this is how I looked when pregnant with dc1!

TheBigRazzoo Thu 23-Aug-12 18:48:38

I'm pregnant for the first time and couldn't wait for my second trimester so I could stop feeling so awful and start 'glowing' and then when it didn't happen I felt like I'd personally failed somehow and I found it quite depressing. I felt such a pressure to enjoy my second trimester that it made the fact I still felt bloody awful 10 times worse. The good news is that at about 18 weeks I did start to feel pretty good and although I don't think I glowed I did feel like my old self again. I'm now 27 weeks and still feeling pretty good, if easily tired. That said I've never felt as healthy and happy while pregnant as I did before I was pregnant! There's no bit of being pregnant I've experienced that is more pleasurable than not being pregnant, although I'm very very much looking forward to meeting my daughter at the end of it all. I think pregnancy is different for everyone so you may well glow - and look and feel amazing - but if you don't this is normal too and don't beat yourself up about it like I did.

Gonzalez2 Thu 23-Aug-12 18:58:19

In my first pregnancy I felt really well from about 17 weeks until around 30 weeks when everything just got incrementally harder. It def didn't happened right at the start of the 2nd tri.

This time round I think the good bit lasted about 3 days!

EmpireBiscuit Thu 23-Aug-12 18:59:23

Ehm....my newly developed acne is fairly making me shine smile

PollyIndia Thu 23-Aug-12 19:01:28

I have to say, my skin and hair have been really good (I used to get annoying hormonal spots on my chin - not anymore), plus weirdly I seem to have become quite hairless - I shave my legs about once every 6 weeks and they don't really need it then. But I don't know if it's pregnancy or just getting 8 hours sleep a night, eating well (though too much chocolate), not doing 10 tequilas and smoking 20 fags at the weekend. Hard to say!

I've carried on exercising throughout too which has definitely helped me feel good even if it doesn't contribute much to the way you look.

PollyIndia Thu 23-Aug-12 19:02:54

I am 35 weeks by the way and just started to feel tired but no other complaints. Defo not desperate for it to be over at all. In fact, kind of the opposite!

littlemisssunshine3 Thu 23-Aug-12 19:35:36

The only time I have glowed so far has been when I have been sick.......am still waiting for the elusive glow to appear :0

Jergens Thu 23-Aug-12 19:35:44

I felt terrible the first half of both pregnancies. For me, second half was great and never reached fed up stage. Still prefer non pregnant state as I like to sleep on my back and have a glass of wine!

cupcake78 Thu 23-Aug-12 19:37:39

Some of my friends look and feel amazing when they are pregnant. I one the other hand resembled death from start till ds was about 2.5 grin

I've had no morning sickness but have spd and I'm not sleeping that well - but I think I'm quite glowy! My skin's fabulous, and I think I'm benefiting from the sobriety!

I've felt human in the second trimester. Wouldn't exactly say glowing, but human.

noblegiraffe Thu 23-Aug-12 19:41:23

Isn't 'glowing' a polite way of saying 'sweaty'?

It surely is a myth. The only positive things I have noticed are lovely, shiney hair, very strong nails and smooth clear skin. The rest of me is just awful.

AbbyRue Thu 23-Aug-12 21:09:19

Great skin - check
Great hair - check

SPD - check sad
Laziness & tiredness sad

So yeah, all going well wink

1st and 2nd pregnancys were just yuck! Felt and looked like shite!

This time yes I'm tired and achey but my hair and skin are great, everyone keeps saying how well I look, I'm enjoying it while it lasts, I know it won't!

Nodecentnickname Thu 23-Aug-12 22:10:30

Glow happened in second trimester!

Nodecentnickname Thu 23-Aug-12 22:11:07

The rest of the time I looked like hell.

Lexiindisguise Thu 23-Aug-12 22:39:34

12 weeks, awful acne (good skin before), lovely hair & nails, feeling much better than first 11 weeks physically - but I look bloody awful wink

Dogsmom Fri 24-Aug-12 08:45:31

Hmmm, doesn't look good!

I'm feeling so guilty for not enjoying being pregnant, it's taken us 3 years and I imagined it to be wonderful, I'm not a sickly person, pre pregnancy I hadn't been to the doctors in 8 years and that was for an eye infection, I don't take painkillers etc

This has knocked me off my feet though and it's really getting me down feeling so crap 24/7 and there seems no end to it, even once the baby is here I'll be sore underneath, have cracked nipples and even more tired than this.

I'm looking forward to the day my son/daughter starts school.....

Sazzel Fri 24-Aug-12 08:59:04

I'm 21 weeks, the constant need to eat to avoid being sick has passed, but I wouldn't say I'm glowing. I'm knackered, grumpy and fed up of people telling me what a nice stage this is and how it will get harder! I just smile politely but really I want to hit them. There are compensations though, starting to feel the occasional kick which is exciting and enjoying my new pregnancy shape.

On my 3rd pregnancy, and have felt like shit for all 3. I'm spotty, my eczema has flared up, I can hardly walk, and constantly knackered.

So a myth in my book grin

Polyethyl Fri 24-Aug-12 09:22:50

I'm 18 weeks and feel far more exhausted now than I did in the first 12 weeks. I've also started throwing up, which I didn't in the first trimester. I want to punch all the prats who told me the second trimester is easier than the first.

DD1 - Glowed like a goddess past the 12 week mark. It was amazing how fantastic I felt. I was very active too - swam 5km per week which I think played a big part in it.
DD2 - sick & felt wretched for most of the PG. No swimming (I had a 3yo to keep me too busy for that)

I'm feeling so guilty for not enjoying being pregnant
Seriously don't beat yourself up or feel guilty. It is what it is - do your best, enjoy what you can. Leave the guilt alone.

When DD2 was born my first thought was "Holy fuck I'm not PG anymore" (and I felt instantly better), followed by "Ah my beautiful wee baby girl" etc etc blush

Shortbutsosweet Fri 24-Aug-12 09:51:51

I loved the 2nd trimester, my hair grew to its longest length ever, it was also thicker. My skin was clear, I ate loads and had lots of energy.
Only thing I didn't like was random people wanting to touch my bump!

SilverSage Fri 24-Aug-12 09:53:06

I hated every minute of my pregnancy. I never started glowing, and my hair never got any thicker either. I just looked in permanent need of Touche Eclat. DD is now 11 weeks old, and now that we've emerged from the newborn fog it is so worth it.

DowntonOut Fri 24-Aug-12 09:57:22

15 weeks and still plagued by acne. And I had SPD from 9/10 weeks. I don't do glowing. sad

BalloonSlayer Fri 24-Aug-12 10:01:57

Felt quite rough, tired and sick for first trimester

Felt sort of normal for second trimester

Felt quite rough, tired and fat for third trimester.

So my "glow" was to feel vaguely normal. hmm

The only thing that happened re my hair was I had to shave my legs less often.

<looks in mirror, sees spots aplenty>

Yes it's a myth, I have never had a spot in my life, even with 2 previous pregnancies. Now my face is a mass of spots and sores. sad

CakeBump Fri 24-Aug-12 10:11:09

I have to say (and I do normally stay fairly quiet about this on these boards) I feel "glowy" and have done pretty much throughout!

I had no sickness at all, no spots, mega increased sex drive in the first trimester was pretty much my only symptom. I did have hormonal days and yes, then feeling glowy was the last thing on my mind....

I'm now 23 weeks and am still feeling fit and well, I have a lovely neat bump, have not put on too much weight, my nails are great (although I've missed out on shiny hair sad ) and my DH can't keep his hands off me!

So, yes I feel like I glow, and others tell me so too, but I know I'm one of the lucky few..... smile

lovetomoan Fri 24-Aug-12 10:33:48

I believe is a polite thing to say to pregnant women. In my case hair looks great, but that's all. In my friend's case, she looked beautiful, but then, she is beautiful, pregnancy or not.

exiledmancityfan Fri 24-Aug-12 10:49:45

The only glow I'm feeling at 35wks is the hot flushes that I am having sad

uselfullife Fri 24-Aug-12 11:12:12

i think it's just chance, everyone's difference
I would love to get my pregnancy hair and skin back
I loved being pregnant
but feel like a bag of shite now!

PeshwariNaan Fri 24-Aug-12 11:16:42

Dunno about the glow - my skin is crackling dry and so is hair. Yes, I feel better than when I was vomiting, but I think the "glow" thing is just something people say because they assume you are happy because you're pregnant.

Astr0naut Fri 24-Aug-12 11:37:11

I definitely had the glow. Not so much with dd, but I blame ds for that.

Apart from the bump and enormous thighs, I probably looked the best I've ever looked from about 16 weeks on.

milkyjo Fri 24-Aug-12 11:38:37

I think for every good thing in pregnancy there's always a bad thing to counter balance the two! I had great skin and hair with DS but back pain and braxton hicks from 26 weeks. It's nature's way of not building you up too much and being able to return to your previous self without feeling bitter!

PuffPants Fri 24-Aug-12 11:39:03

The only people I have seen looking good in pregnancy already looked good before!

MamaBear17 Fri 24-Aug-12 11:42:40

I was really lucky and felt well throughout my pregnancy. I felt a little sick and tired in the first 12 weeks, but no where near as awful as some women get. The last two weeks were hard because I was heavy and had a baby pushing down on my cervix, but I was in slow labour so that was to be expected! Having a neat bump was a blessing too.

bbface Fri 24-Aug-12 12:16:54

First pregnancy... Little bit rough for 12 weeks, then bloody awesome from 12 to 38. Felt like running the marathon, hair and skin best ever. Had a lovely glow about life.

Second oregnancy, I have had a very rough 10 weeks of sickness, but it abruptly stopped two weeks ago. Now thirteen weeks and bubbling with energy and hair and skin is awesome.

If you get a good one, pregnancy rocks!

I think you feel great in the second trimester, but only relative to how terrible you felt in the first!

Having said that DP told me yesterday that my hair looked nice (I'm 18 weeks). That's the first time he has commented on my hair in 13 years together, so there must be some truth in it smile

reastie Fri 24-Aug-12 12:44:09

Sorry to say I never ever got that pg glow - think it's just sweat from carrying around all the extra weight wink

minipie Fri 24-Aug-12 12:46:29

I think I have the "glow" (at least, people keep telling me I look very healthy!) My hair is thicker and my skin (normally bad, and particularly awful weeks 8 to 16) has cleared up a lot.

but a) this has only really kicked in since about week 17 and b) it may just be that I look good in comparison with how dreadful I looked up to week 16 or so...

I felt better from about week 13 but didn't look better till about week 17. Hang in there OP.

kalidasa Fri 24-Aug-12 13:02:40

I am now 26 weeks and to be honest I have loathed every waking moment. There has not been a single bit of this pregnancy I have enjoyed. I've had a rough one though - very severe hyperemesis and now SPD/serious back trouble plus ongoing nausea and tiredness. I have given up hoping for 'a good bit in the middle' (as my mother kept promising me) and am just holding out for it all to be over.

economymode Fri 24-Aug-12 13:56:25

Definitely wasn't blessed with the glow in the first pregnancy and it looks like this one is heading the same way.

My hair got brittle and dry, I started getting spots and I generally felt knackered the whole 9 months.

BUT but but, I did get a gorgeous baby boy out of it so it was a very worthwhile sacrifice!

quesadilla Fri 24-Aug-12 14:14:02

I feel like women are so different in their reactions to pregnancy its impossible to generalize about these things. Some people seem to love pregnancy while others feel unremittingly sick and debilitated. I didn't "glow" by any stretch of the imagination but I felt a bit better in the second part of the pregnancy but the first trimester seemed to go on for months. I only got a few weeks of feeling OK before I started to feel heavy and incapable of walking properly. But I'm prepared to bet the number of women who actually feel "glowing" as opposed to just about able to get through the day is pretty slim.

noblegiraffe Fri 24-Aug-12 14:23:24

I really really really don't understand how there can be people out there who enjoy being pregnant.

Even if you're not sick or exhausted, none of your clothes fit and you look like a blimp.

I had what many people said was a 'small bump' (even had scans to check) and I still felt like an elephant and kept banging into tables.

DrSeuss Fri 24-Aug-12 14:36:25

Sorry to be a downer but felt like shit for nine months both times.

frazzledbutcalm Fri 24-Aug-12 14:49:43

MYTH !!!

With each 4 pregnancies I've been spotty, dull lank hair, bloated, swollen, tired beyond belief from day 1, ridiculous sickly, just looked and felt atrocious!

I think some do bloom and glow ..... just not me shock

Astr0naut Fri 24-Aug-12 15:00:19

I don't think the 'glow' is necessarily linked to feeling good. I had spd second time round, and felt constantly shit, thanks to ds and an exausting bottom set yr 11.

Looked nice though!

minimuffin Fri 24-Aug-12 15:03:19

In first pregnancy I was working long hours for boss from hell, felt tired and sick in first trimester, then fine for rest of it and actually quite glowy towards end (once I had stopped work). For second pregnancy I felt fabulous from 14 weeks - way, way better than I normally felt - great skin and hair, bags of energy, I LOVED being pregnant with DS2 right up to the end. I wasn't working and DS1 was an easy toddler and I'd just started to really enjoy motherhood. Wanted to do it all over again. Third time round I just felt old, fat and tired from 4 weeks to 40...

Thumbwitch Fri 24-Aug-12 15:11:14

not for me, there isn't. People keep telling me I look well but they're just being kind - I look in the mirror and see crepey dry skin, tired eyes, podge under my chin where normally there wouldn't be.

I was nauseous for the first trimester, lost a few kg in weight, which have of course all gone back on now and then some (but that's what you'd expect)
Had a few weeks of nothing much to complain about, just tiredness and some acid reflux; and then the hip/pelvis pain started. And the reflux got worse.

Now at ~33w, I feel like a Lump. Baby is transverse/oblique lie and making my bump very tight and protruberant, unlike DS (didn't "glow" with him, either) and lots of alien-like movements of my belly, especially late in the evening. Sleep deprivation is starting to kick in because I get hip pain from lying down, and reflux if I lay flat (so now sleeping on a beanbag, which isn't good for my back but at least stops the acid flooding my oesophagus) - argh!
Have to have a nap most days or I get headache...

Can't wait for the baby to be out. Oh and did I mention the daily jabs of Clexane? <<shudder>>

diddl Fri 24-Aug-12 16:30:25

I wasn´t ill/tired/spotty at all.

Although I don´t remember "glowing" either.

(Unless feeling smug at being pregnant countsblushgrin

I didn't have a glow.

Felt awful, panda eyes, terrible skin, shit nails. My sister did say I had lovely hair but it was falling out all the bloody time.

Lambzig Fri 24-Aug-12 18:06:41

I had fantastic skin and fantastic hair (that fell out afterwards) with DD and felt great.

I am 28 weeks now and have great skin and hair again, but am absolutely knackered the whole time.

I am hoping this is to do with having a toddler to look after this time rather than my being ancient.

Cannot believe I have 11 more weeks to go still (booked in c section)

missingmymarbles Fri 24-Aug-12 18:45:09

Unfortunately, I never glowed, but I know lots of people who did, and did their pregnancies beautifully smile

louisianablue2000 Fri 24-Aug-12 19:29:16

Even if you look good (and I suspect it's just people being nice) and have easy pregnancies you still feel shit. I'm on number 3, I've never had morning sickness, backache, SPD, high blood pressure, any swelling etc etc. Very boring healthy pregnancies, don't put on excess weight etc but I hate being pregnant, it is so exhausting, I want to sleep most of the time and yet I still need to work and look after children. DH gets home from work and I have to disappear to bed. I don't know if it's a factor of age though (aren't teenagers suppose to sail through pregnancy?) or if it was true when getting pregnant meant giving up work and lazing about at home with lots of help from the soon to be grandparents.

gemmapops Fri 24-Aug-12 19:50:24

Aww Dogsmom I really feel for you. This is my 1st pregnancy too and I am now 18 weeks. From week 7 - week 13 I felt like hell, I was constantly nauseous, couldn't eat anything, I was tired all the time, couldn't even be bothered to shower and get dressed and I felt so down and a bit resentful which made me feel guilty because I want this baby so much.

But by 14/15 weeks I started to feel like myself again and people keep telling me how good I look now. My hair and nails are growing at a speed of knots and my skin is clearer than it has ever been. However I have developed dandruff and dry skin all over my body but i suppose slapping on the moisturiser all the time might help keep any stretch marks at bay.

Everyone's pregnancy is different so you might be lucky to hit the 12 week mark and then feel like a goddess. I was told all sorts of horror stories when I was feeling my worst so I stopped telling people how bad I was feeling so that I wouldn't be bombarded.

I wish you all the best and hope it eases for you soon :0)

crazypaving Fri 24-Aug-12 20:16:18

Good question! My hair gets much thicker (looks like a bush to me - untamable) and my skin looks good for once. But I must say I never feel good, at any point - I'm always knackered, uncomfortable and a bit miserable. Currently 33 wks with DC2 and swearing never again....

OnlyNiceSwearing Fri 24-Aug-12 20:25:04

I get thick hair too, then it all falls out. Dh is still currently moaning about it being in the plug hole after every shower. I would quite like it back!!

Downandoutnumbered Fri 24-Aug-12 20:45:39

I think for most of us it's a myth. I didn't feel that bad early on, but as the pregnancy went on I had horrible dry hair and spots, felt knackered (though that may have been to do with being frantically busy at work), got SPD pretty early. I also never really had a bump: I just looked fat and shapeless. It was horrible, the whole thing.

LexieSinclair Fri 24-Aug-12 20:48:38

I looked and felt like dogshit for both my pregnancies.

bigbuttons Fri 24-Aug-12 21:03:55

I was 'glowing' so much that by the end of pg's 5 and 6 my face was bright red. I looked like a lush. Swollen and bright red face, not a good look!

Hopefullyrecovering Fri 24-Aug-12 21:33:51

It's the luck of the draw, and it varies between pregnancies, IME

First pregnancy was brilliant. No sickness, lots of excitement and jolliness, worked up until two weeks after due date, incredible amounts of energy. Was fab

Second pregnancy was also really good but perhaps not quite so energetic and enthusiastic as the first. More tiredness, a lot of sicky feelings but no actual vomiting. Still worked up to two weeks before due date. Slightly swollen ankles. Slightly less energy. But still, y'know, pretty good. No problems or issues.

totallynaive Fri 24-Aug-12 22:22:37

I had HG (i.e. was very very sick) for the first half of my pregnancy, but once that went I started to get lovely thick glossy hair, strong nails and beautiful youthful skin. I thought I looked amazing.

Sadly after 7.5 months I got hippo ankles from water retention and a face to match.

caryltho Fri 24-Aug-12 22:53:11

Dont want to jinx things but Im feeling pretty good at 30 weeks pregnant, have a few complaints but nothing major, people tell me that I am glowing or blooming. Enjoy being pregnant and this is my first.

ShesADreamer Fri 24-Aug-12 23:07:47

Previous pregnancies: no sickness, hair/skin/nails great, lots of energy, worked up until my due date and fairly neat bumps so 'didn't look preg from behind'.

Now preg with twins and have had to get anti sickness meds from doc to keep any food or liquids down, am spotty, hairy, blotchy, swollen, greasy haired and fucking knackered!

Oh and sick to the back teeth of fibogel but still can't shit for love nor money!

lottiegarbanzo Fri 24-Aug-12 23:16:18

I felt great in the 2nd trimester, better than usual, energised, relaxed and I think looked good too. So yes, it's real.

Didn't feel bad in the 3rd trimester, just got bigger. It took until three months after birth for the effects of he hormones to fade so that my hair started dropping out again, of course lots at once by then.

I also had hip pain but that's a bit beside the point, as part injury related, though part hormonal too. It was exacerbated by weiht bearing exercise and when I stopped that and just swam and walked short distances it diminished. Pre-natal Pilates was good too.

lottiegarbanzo Fri 24-Aug-12 23:19:11

The feeling great started round 13 weeks or me. Felt very tired and a bit sick in the first trimester and everything smelt and tasted weird. All a little bit yuck.

Funnywonder Sat 25-Aug-12 02:28:29

No glow here at 37 weeks, nor has there been throughout. I am told I look great, but it's all smoke and mirrors, with me compensating for how utterly tragic I look wih an extra layer of slap. My hair is dry as a bone and, while I don't have spots for once in my life, I have lovely brown giraffe-like patches all over my face. There's no inner glow either, unless the constant hot lava bubbling up my oesophagus counts. I'm just bleeding miserable .... not that it shows or anything! My first pregnancy wasn't much better, apart from not being as shattered having to be a full time clown and general dogsbody to a 4 year old boy (who I love dearly or I most certainly would not be putting myself through this again).

OhDoAdmitMrsDeVere Sat 25-Aug-12 12:55:22

I look bloody brilliant after the first 8 weeks. My hair is thick, my skin is lovely, even the hair on my legs stops growing.

I turn into a total loon though. Absolutely nuts.

A doctor once told me that women who get bad pmt often bloom in pregnancy. I get horrible pmt and I fear for my poor family when I hit menopause.

fridascruffs Sat 25-Aug-12 13:09:22

2nd trimester = best orgasms of my life. Definitely something to do with hormones and I wish they could bottle it.

squidkid Sat 25-Aug-12 13:10:36

Lots of people have told me I looked fab throughout pregnancy... I think I look better than I feel! Well it's variable... very tired some days and others still energetic. Wouldn't say anything is BETTER than pre-pregnancy though... perhaps my hair. Also yeah! the hair on my legs has all but stopped growing (and I'm very pale with very black hair so normally it's a pain). That's a bonus.

I'm 36 weeks and felt best in early third trimester. I showed late so I think I just looked a bit podgy in second trimester, didn't really have a proper bump till 25-26 weeks. Once I had the definite bump I looked much better.

This is my first baby though and most people seem to feel/look better with first babies!

arthurfowlersallotment Sat 25-Aug-12 14:33:48

I looked fabulous (if I say so meself).
Glowing skin and shiny, bouncy hair, a big but tidy bump and no back fat. However I felt like shit, smelled a bit like cooked chicken, was massively constipated and extremely farty.

Now, four months post partum I have a saggy tum, back fat (comfort eating), my hair is falling out and I have a lovely grey pallor from lack of iron and sleep.

MammyToMany Sat 25-Aug-12 14:40:23

I'm 17 weeks and am starting to feel vaguely human again although am still greasy and spotty. And I look fat rather than pregnant. Still, better than the previous weeks!

fussychica Sat 25-Aug-12 19:03:45

I was lucky enough to have a fantastic pregnancy complete with glow. Everyone said I looked really well and didn't look pregnant from behind - unlike from the front - old wives tale says that it would therefore be a boy, well it's 50% chance and in this case the old wife (my mum) was right! Kept any morning sickness away by constantly dipping into a bag of nuts, raisins & carrot sticks (probably now regarded as totally wrong thing to do but worked for me). wink
Good luck to all expectant mums.

LoobyLou33 Sat 25-Aug-12 19:16:27

I'm just pregnant again (got one DS) and really hating the nausea phase again. That was a real shock to me first time round, as I'd only heard the phrase "morning sickness" and assumed you felt OK the rest of the time. I've never felt worse in my life! It went at about 17 weeks last time, then I did feel pretty normal til week 37, when tiredness caught up a bit.

However my face went a bit puffy which I hated, so I always felt pregnant-me was like an ugly sister to normal-me! No one else seemed to notice but I felt like I had 3 chins! Everyone around me said I was glowing but I think people just say that cos they like the bump!!

Someone above (OP perhaps?) mentioned about being tired after the birth. Of course that's true...but somehow it's a different tiredness, and I actually felt a lot better than when I was pregnant. The hormones must kick in and give you extra battery power...I did get shattered after 3 months of sleep deprivation, but at the start it was amazing how you can cope!

SayCoolNowSayWhip Sat 25-Aug-12 19:17:11

Personally I think it's a myth. This is my second pregnancy and it's ten times worse than my first one, which was pretty awful. The only plus side is that this time I know it WILL be worth it at the end.

Hang in there. Don't beat yourself up about the social constructs of required feelings during pregnancy - you'll feel how you'll feel and no one will be able to change it. And yes, you will be tired and sore afterwards as well, BUT you'll have a beautiful baby to cuddle and adore.

The rare moments of absolute euphoria and incandescent happiness that occur randomly during your child's first year(s) completely outweigh all the crappy tiredness, hormonal mood swings, changed body shape, non-existent social life etc etc. I promise.

88am12 Sat 25-Aug-12 21:12:08

I loved my first pregnancy once i hit about 16weeks, I've got to that stage again now and fining i'm more tired but i do have a 2 and a half year old to run around after!
Just cherish the good moments and no doubt you'll look back on this time as one of the better ones of your life!

PavlovtheCat Sat 25-Aug-12 22:33:15

For me it was not anything like a glow! More like a green aura.

Tgger Sat 25-Aug-12 22:46:45

For me it was relief from PMT- maybe I get it worse than most but not going through that hormonal cycle each month equalled GLOW in my book!

Tgger Sat 25-Aug-12 22:47:27

And yes, it doesn't really come until after the sickly first bit, so around 14-22 weeks, so hold on!

Whatiswitnit Sat 25-Aug-12 23:27:01

First pgcy I was spotty, hairy and pasty for seven months and then also massively bloated with oedema due to pre-eclampsia. No glowing for me.

Second pgcy I looked great! Washed out during first trimester sickness and knackered towards the end, but generally my skin and hair were fab and aside from a huge bump I stayed in good shape.

clarabella1980 Sun 26-Aug-12 08:43:18

It took me until about 18 weeks, when the nausea finally disappeared. I was still very tired, which continued all the way through, but my hair, skin and nails were fab and everyone constantly told me how well I looked. So I guess that would count as glowing? At about 24 weeks I developed SPD, and it's all gone downhill from there really! 37+4 now and on the countdown!

Twins. Vomited until 13 weeks, with a few green moments right up to 16 weeks. IF I wasn't retching I was asleep. Absolutely pole-axed for months.
Felt INVINCIBLE around 16-20 weeks, got lost on a long walk and ended up on some very hilly downs for around 3.5 hours. Was a bit tired, but felt fine.
HIDEOUS SPD from around 25 weeks.
Premature labour at 30 weeks.

I am SHOCKING at pregnancy! grin. Fortunately I don't have to do it again...

What was even more shocking was the bits of my body I thought were holding together post-labour just looked horrendous. My feet were the size of an elephants' hooves for starters.

JennerOSity Tue 28-Aug-12 06:18:29

I am normally pasty and pale but thanks to pregnancy tendency to catch the sun have a golden glow instead. That with being so thirsty all the time means I am drinking gallons and being well hydrated makes me look fresh instead of haggard. So those things are making me look better than I feel smile

JennerOSity Tue 28-Aug-12 06:19:36

Pavlovthecat grin

Littlemissmagnet Tue 25-Sep-12 08:59:20

DS 1 wasn't too sick, dizzy but no glow
D? 2 a lot lot sicker, tireder and fatter and no glow yet 19 weeks so far. hmm

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