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Pregnant after a miscarriage, as the bumps get bigger we get braver, 1st,2nd or 3rd trimester, reasurance and hand holding aplenty!

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Before the first thread fills and locks a 2nd thread for us getting braver!

Hello, I've been waiting for the new thread to join in! wink I'm 11+2 today following a mmc at 9 weeks in May... Had an early scan at 9 weeks and all was looking ok. I have another scan on the 3rd (I'll be 13 weeks according to the dates from my last scan) so can't wait for that... but as the date gets closer, I get more nervous!

sundaesundae Wed 22-Aug-12 22:33:02

I am having a panicky evening, I am 11 and a half weeks and I almost feel crampy. Not painful, but not comfortable either. My hips have played me up all day and suddenly my boobs are incredibly sore.

i am sooo scared I am going to lose this pregnancy so every time I have a twinge I get very scared sad

Messed that up blush above is a link to the old thread.

Welcome along possom good luck for the 3rd, my mw told me after a mc the chance of a sucessful pregnancy is higher, and after seeing a heart beat even greater, I lived off that info for a long time, and today, my fourth scan, was the first I looked forward too! It does get easier! Xx

sundae I had aches and cramps at that stage, still do, its common in pregnancy, even more so after a mc. Take strength from the fact that many of us went on to sucessful pregnancys, and browse the old thread and see we all felt like you, had aches pains and panics. Take care and talk here, its saved my sanity! smile

WLmum Wed 22-Aug-12 22:45:28

Welcome backward and sundae. If you can bear it, have a read of some of our early posts, you'll see we were super scared too but thankfully all seems to be going ok for us now. Fingers crossed for you too.

Hi, am same as backward, actually - 11+2 today and feeling very anxious. Desperate to get to my next scan, to see how baby is and how much they have grown since I saw them as a tiny blob at 7 wks.

Had several miscarriages before, one at 13 weeks so don't think I'll really relax until I get past that point... Have bled a little on and off throughout pg so far, and every time I freak out and start crying... I know it's normal but I just don't think I could handle losing this one, not after all the treatments and horrid hormone therapy treatments I had to go through (I have severe endometriosis).

Keeping fingers crossed for a sticky baby. Really really glad I'm not the only one going through this smile We'll all be fine!

welliesandpyjamas Thu 23-Aug-12 10:28:51

Hello new thread!

Hello and welcome, new ladies smile The early days are so tough. Chatting with others in the same situation on this thread has helped me keep my sanity. It's worth browsing through the old one to see how anxious we've all been, and that still we're here!

Thanks for the reassurance at the end of the old thread stateof. Hopefully it is just baby's position or lots of water (even though she did say I was all baby hmmgrin). The scan date feels a long way off (doesn't it always, though!!). I've busied myself this morning making out a list of hospital phone numbers and addresses for DH, just in case grin paranoid, moi?!

If it helps to be organised what's the harm! I'm the same when something worries me I need to sort something!

Hope everyones doing ok today! Hi to the new posters smile

SwanseaMum Thu 23-Aug-12 12:57:52

Hello new thread smile

Hopeforever Thu 23-Aug-12 13:18:08

Hello, can I join?

Not sure I can even type it, I'm so nervous. Got a BFP on Monday after feeling sick all day driving round country lanes. I've 3 children already but over the last 2 years have had a mmc, a mc at 6 weeks and another at 5.

I'm also very old, so had almost talked myself out of ttc again

MrsReiver Thu 23-Aug-12 14:20:22

Ooh a shiny new thread!

Welcome to all the new faces, it feels really weird because not that long ago I was the new one, all nervously saying hello.

Am still on a high after the lovely wriggly show baby put on yesterday, spent a happy hour or so on the phone telling family. The best phonecall was to my cousin who is due in 5 weeks. We'd both been trying for so long together, and I was dying to tell her when I saw her the other week. And she's promised me first dibs on her newborn nappy stash! Yaaaaaay!!

mrs I always feel so good after a scan, our sonographer let us watch a while yesterday, wriggler was opening and closing its mouth, swallowing fluid, sucking fingers and very busy, it was amazing!

I feel horrendous today, dp let me lie in, I woke at 11, but just stayed in bed until 12, came down ate and crashed out again, just don't want to move at all! And we have loads to do as were off to stay with the ils as there's a family wedding on saturday and they're all a lot closer, plus I've avoided there since the mmc, so its been 10months since we went there blush

On the bright side were popping to kiddicare on our way up so I can fully indulge in my pregnant shopping urges!

Cadmum Thu 23-Aug-12 17:20:44

Hello. May I join your shiny new thread? 4 docs but too many late mmcs to own up to without feeling foolish... 7+5 and feeling dreadful which is better than after the first trimester when I feel healthy but worried silly.

gemdrop84 Thu 23-Aug-12 17:36:20

hello ladies and to all you just joining us: welcome to the thread! from experience I definitely know how you're feeling, I've felt nothing but anxious and worried sick over the slightest twinge since I found out I was 6 wks pg. I've had 3 mcs ranging from 6-9wks in last 2 yrs, I would say that I feel more sensitive to my body's aches and pains due to this and would always freak out at any twinges I've had. I can't give any advice other than to take each day as it comes and be kind to yourselves smile. This thread has really helped me through the shit days so we're here if you need to rant/vent/share your worries. Much love to you all and your sticky beans/babies x

Welcome cad

Don't feel foolish, all of us here have been there once, twice or many more times!


RozziRaspberry Thu 23-Aug-12 22:17:07

Hello can i join, I will be 7 weeks tomorrow, I had a miscarriage in June last year. Dh is working away and not supposed to be home until November but is going to sneak home early September for a private scan at 9 weeks as he cannot come home at the end of September when I am due my 12 week scan.

I already have 3dchildren, the youngest is 9 so when I had the miscarriage last year at 11+ weeks it was a total shock as my other 3 pregnancies went like clockwork and I didn't think it would happen to me. I was quite relaxed throughout the first stage, not this time though every twinge fills me with fear and I'm trying not to get too attached to this pregnancy until I know everything is okay.

bonzo77 Thu 23-Aug-12 23:01:37

just popping in to catch up and check out our new thread: thanks for starting it state. Welcome to all the newbies: we've all been there and fully get the anxiety, particularly early on, and the psychological importance of reaching the milestones of dates of previous losses. I'm now 20 +5 but still anxious on and off, though much less so than in my first trimester.

Welcome rozzi I totally understand how you feel, I have a 5yo ds and 3yo dd so things going wrong never entered my mind! I tried to stay very detached, and expect the worst, by my 2nd scan I was getting calmer, 4th scan was yesterday, I'm 22+5wks and finally relaxed mostly. The good thing with being in tune with our bodies (noticing every twinge) is most of us noticed movements earlier, I was 13/14wks!

Good luck, take care, relax (haha I know that's impossible) and post here, many of us find it very helpful. And also the old thread linked above may reassure you, seeing us worry at your exact stage xxx

Welcome over bonzo 20+5! Past half way! <Squeee>

Cadmum Fri 24-Aug-12 02:29:39

Thank you for the warm welcome. My post had typos. I have four dcs (not docs as auto correct suggested). Our first loss was at 19 weeks after our first two easy pregnancies. Way back when I barely knew that late miscarriage was a possibility, I was blissfully naive. I had another two losses between our second and third babies (13 weeks and then 17 weeks with twins) but still thought it was bad luck or extenuating circumstances. I have had a few early losses as well but felt mostly relieved that my body had known what to do on its own rather than waiting for confirmation at a scan. In 2010,I was sure that I was safe at 21 weeks but lo and behold there was no heartbeat at the anomaly scan AND I needed a c section to deliver as the placenta was covering the entire cervical opening. I am feeling ridiculous for being in this position again as the odds of a medical emergency are greater than the odds of a healthy baby especially at my age. I will feel blush telling anyone that we are expecting... even my own dcs will be more afraid than excited. Sorry for the moan.

No spelling or grammar police here cad

You poor thing you've had a rough time hey! We've had some interesting reactions to this pregnancy as ds and dd will be 5 and a half and 4, "why start all over again" etc ummm we wanted a baby, another child? I repeat in my head its not their business! Ignore any negative comments and focus on you, your dp and dcs xxx

I know what you mean Cadmum, every time we tell one more person I cringe inside, almost like I feel we're tempting fate... I hope I'm wrong, I hope we all are. Sticky babies for all smile

Hopeforever Fri 24-Aug-12 08:45:34

Cadmum, thank you for writing more. I get the bit about feeling strange about telling people.

We were on holiday with my sister when I did the test, after telling DH (which was hard as I had to get him away from the other 8 people in the house) I whispered the news to my sister. Her only response was " you are brave". sad

My youngest is ten, then I have a teenager and my eldest has already been through uni and left home, but I thinks will be back in the autumn to save on rent!

I had a mmc before my teenager then 2 very easy pregnancies but since ttc 2 years ago have had operations and stays in hospital due to MC, so I do wonder why I'm putting myself through this, and my DH and kids. I'm going to be 45 when this one is born. Boy that was hard to write, I wanted to say, if this one makes it.

Cadmum Sat 25-Aug-12 08:25:57

Thanks for your replies and for the understanding. It is good to know that I am not alone in my thinking/worrying. I am feeling terrible with all-day morning-sickness today after having barely slept last night. Getting dd2 to ballet this morning was more thani felt up to coping with. I hope everyone else is enjoying the start of the weekend.

welliesandpyjamas Sat 25-Aug-12 10:17:37

Hi, how's everyone this morning? This is my latest panic. I'm so drained by the worries that come along along all the way through a pregnancy after miscarriage. To have baby born and in my arms in a few weeks is going to mean sooooooooooo very much. Of course, then it's a lifetime of worry that they are safe and happy grin Can parents ever relax?!

Secondsop Sat 25-Aug-12 12:23:41

Hello everyone, can I join? I'm 24 weeks after a miscarriage at 9+5 weeks in October. Everything seems ok this time although my Downs risk is 1:130 after a missing nasal bone at the nuchal scan, but I am counting the weeks now till I finally hold my baby boy.

Hopeforever Sun 26-Aug-12 15:37:02

Hello secondsop. Congratulations getting to 24 weeks.

I'm recovering from 3 days of migraine, wondering why I'm putting myself and the kids through this. Trouble is i always feel blue for a few days after a migraine.

WLmum Sun 26-Aug-12 21:31:28

You're putting yourself (and others) through this because you're a lovely mummy who loves her kids so much she just can't enough! Try to be kind to yourself for a day or 2, some chillout time with some essential oils might just help, or a decadent coffee and cake, alone with the newspaper always helps me!

Hope Sorry about the migraine, must be horrid sad

<whispers> I'm 12 weeks today. 7 days until my scan...

Ooh milestone backward smile

sundaesundae Mon 27-Aug-12 12:50:54

12 weeks today also, scan is 8.30AM on wednesday, I am not even a tony bit excited, just disgustingly terrified.

Threw up this morning, second time this pregnancy, weird. Been very nauseous but only sick in the last week.

I cried my boobs were so sore last night.

Have had lots of stretchy feelings and now can feel my fundus I think, well now have a firm lump in the right place that wasn't there before..

I can't stop googling chances of MMC. My MC was a 5 weeker and that was hard but bearable, soo terrified of MMC. I have almost convinced myself that that is what will have happened.

bonzo77 Mon 27-Aug-12 16:53:20

sundae I know how you feel. I felt exactly the same about my 12 weeks scan. I spent the day before crying, couldn't sleep the day before and went into the room expecting the worst. Seeing that baby was the emotional thing since the mmc. Probably more emotional even than the birth of DS!blush. A mmc is doubly cruel. Not only have you failed to continue with the pregnancy but your stupid body doesn't even know or get rid properly.

I've only just started to calm down at 21 weeks. I ended up with an extra scan at 18 weeks because I'd stressed myself out so much. Feeling strong and constant movement is very reassuring. you will feel better.

WLmum Mon 27-Aug-12 18:38:11

Yay milestones and sympathy with the fear of upcoming scans. I had scans at 9 and 12 weeks, both times got v stressed that news would be bad, particularly before the 9 week when I cried before, during and after, and sonographer had to make me look at the screen. Like bonzo I'm really just calming down and believing in it now at nearly 24 weeks. Feeling the regular strong movements and getting to know a pattern really helps alot. I was worried that I didn't feel movements so early this time but 20 week scan showed huge placenta between baby and me which explained it. I guess they've shifted about now because I do get good movements now. I'm afraid it's just a case if one day at a time, try to distract yourself if at all possible and don't beat yourself up about worrying. It just shows how much you care. Best of luck. X

sundae I felt exactly the same before my scans, I had a mmc last time, nearly 14wks, when I found out, I googled the chances etc obsessively this time. Was such a mess at the scan the sonographer told me could I please breath twice.

I had a scan at 10, 13, 20+6 and one last week, only the one last week did I go into excited. Babys wriggling lots now and that helps. I won't lie and say its easy, I had a family wedding saturday and was so worked up and stressed (and had also removed my kick counter as I was dressed up) I didn't (think) I felt the baby move until 3pm, dp was providing ice water until the little bugger kicked I felt my world had stopped, I couldn't talk eat or breath properly, then the music started at the reception and boy did I know the little monkey was there!

I was brave this weekend, I spent time with our new nephew, he was due a few weeks after I should have been. First visit was hard, agonising even, especially seeing dp hold him. The distraction of being at the wedding reception made it easier and by sunday I couldn't put him down, scrumptious 6wk old baby boy! I kept saying to dp, he's so small, babies are so small!!! Dd is almost four and I'd forgotten how tiny they are, he was 9lb 13oz when he was born aswell so not tiny! But he seemed it.

Anyway I'm off, I need more ice grin

Cadmum Tue 28-Aug-12 03:47:46

Bonzo I could have written your post about scan fear and body failure. MMC are a terrible way to make you lose faith in your own body, aren't they? I will never look forward to a scan regardless of how far along I am.

I had a moment yesterday where I nearly fell apart in the grocery store. The smells were making me sick, dd2 kept asking for crisps, sweets and unhealthy options while dh (who was only trying to be kind) was trying to pressure me to choose something I could bear the thought of eating for tea. I burst into tears when it dawned on me that I will feel progressively worse for the next 4-5 weeks only to find out at a scan later down the road that we are expecting a medical emergency rather than a baby.

I started to wonder how I could ever have done this to my family --AGAIN. I must be insane. My dcs will have a sick and exhausted mum for the next month and then they will watch me worry myself inside-out until the inevitable outcome. Sorry for the self pity...

gemdrop84 Tue 28-Aug-12 10:47:39

Hi to all, best wishes for any upcoming scans! I completely understand the fear of them. When we went for our dating scan this time round I was just expecting the worst. I was so detatched from the pg as a whole and felt pretty shit on the run up to that day. As soon as the sonographer turned the screen round for us to see I burst into tears and I swear I felt my heart stop, our baby was wriggling around so much, wouldnt stay still at first then decided to be so awkward, I had to go walk round to see if that moved the baby so they could measure it properly. It truly was wonderful and I was secretly thanking our baby for being awkward so we could see him/her that bit longer grin I will be 20 wks on thurs and still can't quite believe. After so much heartache and feeling like my body has completely let me down, it's actually happening. I'm feel a lot calmer but I now have new worries like giving birth again grin and how dd will be with the baby. The only way I've been able to get through it is to take each day as it comes, cry when I need to and talk my worries through with dp.

gemdrop84 Tue 28-Aug-12 10:51:10

I seem to be getting a lot more strong kicks now although yesterday didn't seem to have as many, but I was out and about so may not have noticed them. When do we start monitoring the baby's movements and what are these kick counters I'm hearing about?

JessieEssex Tue 28-Aug-12 11:07:57

Hi all

First time poster here - I am current 8+6 (DC2) having discovered a mmc at 9+4 at the beginning of May. I am getting myself more and more worked up at the thought of it happening again. I really empathise with so many things that you are all talking about.

The foetus measured 9+2 so it was 'luck' that we discovered the mc at an early scan - indeed, I may have miscarried naturally within days, but had an ERPC.

I can only think about getting past Friday (9+2) and then I hope that I can relax and start to enjoy being pg. At the moment, I'm feeling very very sick, I think more so than last time - I'm trying to find a bit of comfort in that (when I'm not scarfing down ritz crackers!)

I might book a private early scan for next week but the thought of going into the scanning room and lying on the same table as last time terrifies me.

Thanks for reading!

gem they're just a rubber wrist band with a slider on it, numbers 1-10/12 and you move it for each movement. For me it works as I forget and panic. I'm 23+3 and still have quieter days then days I feel like my stomach will pop open. Iirc we need to follow the babys movements pattern from 24wks.

Welcome jessie as you've read we have all been there and nothing helps soothe the fear except time, and even then it never goes completely. I waited until 10wks for a scan as I wanted a definate answer as to viable or not. Best of luck and as you can see, many of us went on to sucessful pregnancys.

hzgreen Tue 28-Aug-12 17:08:09

Hello all, another newbie here. i had an mmc in 2010 and opted for the natural mc. i thik something went "wrong" because i was in agony for 3 days and ended up in hospital on morphine and gas and air. i think the A+E staff thought i just had a low pain threshold though because they weren't very sympathetic, if fact one nurse felt it prudent to remind me that i was disturbing other patients with my crying...

Anyway i had another MMC last year and of course went straight for the op this time. after much fighting i managed to get an appointment at the Miscarriage clinic and have been diagnosed with sticky blood. i'm on clexane and aspirin which seems to be working becasue i'm 31+4 weeks today!

The first weeks/months were hell, i was so ill and anxious. terrified that i was going to lose another baby. it certtainly hasn't been straight forward but i'm finally starting to feel like this baby might just happen (squeezes eyes shut and whispers that last bit).

Blimey i didn't mean to go on so much, i just wanted to say "Hi".

hzgreen Tue 28-Aug-12 17:12:13

PS Jess, i know what you mean - when i went for the first scan with this baby i cried as soon as i walked into the room because i was mostly used to bad news, it does get easier. but as State says it takes time, which is really hard and frustrating.

Welcome hz you're on the home straight now then! How exciting! So sorry for your losses, it really changes how you feel about pregnancy doesn't it! When I'm not worrying I enjoy every second and can't get enough of the movements, hospital appointments and touching my bump smile

Have you any other dc or is this your first? X

WLmum Tue 28-Aug-12 22:25:17

I'm always shocked by the attitudes if some so called healthcare professionals. It is enough to make you horribly jaded, but luckily there are some excellent ones out there too.

Hooray for 31+4, that's great news.

Hopeforever Tue 28-Aug-12 22:49:13

Thank you for kind words, welcome newbies.

Migraine has passed, the flat feeling I get afterwards is reducing. Interesting what you say about scan fear. I've been told to phone EPU as soon as I find I'm pregnant but keep putting it off. Tell myself it's because I'm only 5.5 but it's more that if I have not had a scan I can pretend its still all ok.

Bought a twin pack of superdrug tests today, partly to show myself it's ok, partly because I used a digital first response and the word pregnant disappears after a day or 2. Wouldn't usually buy such an expensive test but it was all the small after hours shop had smile

hzgreen Wed 29-Aug-12 08:28:21

Thanks state and WLmum, i do have a DS already, he is doubly precious because at 36 weeks i went for a routine scan and it showed he had stopped growing and i had to have a c-section that day!i think from that point on the pregnancy experience really changed for me, but no one had (or offered) an explanaition so when i got pregnant again there seemed no reason that things would go wrong, but as it turns out my DS's reduced growth and the MC's are linked to this sticky blood thing and if it wasn't for the report on his placenta i would have probably had to go through another MC to get it diagnosed.

a bit anxious this morning because the baby hasn't moved much but she doesn't when i have a long day at work (or rather i don't notice so much) so will try to keep a lid on my anxiety.

hz my ds stopped growing and was delivered by csection at 37 wks! He's 5 now! I also have a 3.9yo dd.

I'm exactly the same with movements, and I've found with this little monkey the more I worry and try and make it move the less likely it will co-operate! Stressful this pregnancy lark!

lurcherlover Wed 29-Aug-12 14:22:35

Hi girls, I'm going to be brave and join the thread (I recognise lots of people from the mosh pit!) after my early scan yesterday showed a heartbeat. I'm 6+3 and had a mmc in May (found out at the dating scan, but baby had died at 9 weeks) so I'm going to be terrified throughout the first trimester...I'm not entitled to any more NHS reassurance scans now so I'm currently looking into booking a private one for about 10 weeks, as I can't wait until my dating scan to see if all is well or not.

Hopeforever Wed 29-Aug-12 14:56:22

Congratulations lurcherlover, that's great news that they found a heart beat at 6 weeks. Understand you'd like another one soon though

shirley123 Wed 29-Aug-12 15:52:54

Hi, first post after a long time off here, been busy with my first 2 girls and just getting back to health after ME for the last 2 years, have been in recovery for the last 6-8 months which is fab and was hoping to wait at least another 6 months before thinking of any more babies, but obviously something higher up had different ideas as after dodgy contraception I find myself pregnant !! I had 2 mc's between baby 1 and 2 both at about 5-6 weeks and am not only embarrassed to tell anyone that I'm pregnant ( because I'll be 39 when no 3 would be born and also because of only just being well after ME) to top it off am dead nervous to even admit to myself that I want this baby because of previous mc's, any advice on how to stay detached? Or any other thoughts?

shirley123 Wed 29-Aug-12 15:54:21

Ps when is the earliest I could ask for a scan? Will NHS do it?

bonzo77 Wed 29-Aug-12 16:19:22

shirley congrats on your little surprise. Different hospitals offer different services. How far along are you? I would say that there's not much point getting a scan before 7 weeks. My EPU suggested 7 weeks because by about 6 weeks you can usually see a heart beat, but not always, and if your dates are out by a few days you can end up very upset and confused if you don't see one. The EPU I used will see you with a GP referral for a "reassurance" (early) scan, or as a walk in if you are having pain or bleeding. I would call yours and see what they say.

As to how to stay detached....it's very hard. I found with DS (my first pg) it all seemed very unreal until I felt movements anyway. Then my mc pregnancy I never really got attached, I think I subconsciously knew something was wrong. This time I have always just considered it a pregnancy, not a baby. All my concerns early on were regarding what I would have to go through with another mc. Now I know the sex, and we have discussed names, I feel a bit more like it's a baby, but it is still very much an "it" not a "him".

hz I have not been diagnosed with a clotting issue. But DS also stopped growing about 38 weeks, and was finally born just before 39 by EMCS. The placental was never tested. Then I had the mc, though as there was only one no testing was done. But when I saw the obstetrician about this pregnancy he put me on aspirin, saying DS being small and my mc could be linked. I luffs this obstetrician, he is very very nice and really listened. I really hope that I'll be seeing him again!

bonzo77 Wed 29-Aug-12 16:20:24

Oh and lurcher is there no way you can get another NHS scan? I had some cramping and weird discharge on 2 occasions and got extra scans at about 8 and 14 weeks.

hzgreen Wed 29-Aug-12 17:32:03

i was so lucky in my first trimester because i was given scans at 6, 8, 10 and 12 weeks. i was at Birmingham at the miscarriage clinic and apparently it's routine there. i was under Proff Quinby and she is amazing. if anyone else in in the area i'd recommend going to her (hopefully none of us will need to!!) if you have to in future.

it hasn't been as smooth sailing since i came back to Derby (my local hospital) and i really feel for you lurcher and shirley. although i have to say even with all of those scans i was only reassured while they were actually happening, the next day i was feeling just as anxious as before. those early months are just really hard.

Welcome aboard lurcher smile

shirley no matter how hard we try we can't fully detach ourselfs, god I wished I could, I'm 23wks now and still anxious to get too attached, good luck though, as you can see many of us go on to a sucessful pregnancy. I wouldn't request a scan before 7wks personally, I can't see why they'd refuse it.

Today I was brave I brought some vests and sleepsuits shock

Hopeforever Wed 29-Aug-12 19:05:45

Shirley, how encouraging to read your post. I too am just starting recovery after my second time of ME. Thankfully I find being pregnant helps!

If you are going to be embarrassed, I'll join you, I will be 45 when this one pops out, have had some rather public MMC (whole village seems to know) and people may well judge as I can no longer work due to the ME. How many weeks are you?

shirley123 Thu 30-Aug-12 05:37:09

I am about 5-6 weeks I think, and was just restarting my therapy and personal training business so the last 6 months were dieting, training and resting..... Had to take it soo slowly and carefully, thankfully I feel good for now, just early pgcy tiredness, fingers crossed I can keep on going, hubbie is great tho, so supportive, would have been even hard if not, although I know. He's nervous about having a third. hopeforever Is your ME quite severe? How long did you have it?

sundaesundae Thu 30-Aug-12 09:07:47

Hi just to return after my panic, there is a riggly waving dust bunny in there! Dates have been put back about 10 days, my cycles are a little irregular so that is fine. Got to go back for another look in two weeks as was too small for NT, bit gutted that I am not the magic 12 weeks yet so still nervous about MC and not sure whether to tell the world now!

Hopeforever Thu 30-Aug-12 09:14:23

Sundae, how wonderful to see your baby on the scan.
Not sure what the answer to when to tell is. It's so personal. Have you told anyone yet?
Shirley, you are the same number of weeks as me, I shoud be 6 weeks tomorrow. I had ME in my twenties before I had DS1 and DD2. I had it for over 6 years then. This time it's been 4 years. I had to give up work, officially I'm retired!

Great news sundae I was put back 2wks at my first scan, but couldn't hold on and told people. I weighed up the pro/cons risks etc, once a heartbeats been seen risk of mc drops considerably, I understand everyones had a different journey to get here but for me that was reasurance enough to spill the beans.

I ordered a new mattress for our pram last night! shock

sundaesundae Thu 30-Aug-12 13:01:12

We have decided that close friends and family can know, work colleagues not so much and it isn't going on facebook!

Glad I am not the only person to be put back, 20th of March is MIL's birthday so she is hoping for that!

I posted my scan pic on fb around 12wks I think, mainly because we don't live near any friends or family and I wnated to show people, then after posting I felt awful incase someone I knew was having/just had a mc/mmc, as scan pics killed me when I was raw about it all.

I think, thanks to this baby being such a wriggler, I'm feeling better, I'm actually being pregnant and believing I might have a baby! I brought a little snow suit today, I still hesitate a bit but on saturday this baby is viable should I go into prem labour, how scary is that!!

Hopeforever Thu 30-Aug-12 18:46:47

State, you have been busy buying, I hope you checked it all out on the MN recommend page grin

I've never looked at the MN recomends pages, I just lurk around the forums haha! I did ask in pushchairs where to buy my mattress though if that counts wink

Matalan have some gorgeous unisex bits if anyone else is looking, I've had a nightmare finding anything so far!

welliesandpyjamas Thu 30-Aug-12 22:51:19

Even more newbies! How lovely! Welcome smile

State well done on more nesting, good for you!

And talking of nesting, I've got all my bits ready at home, all the clothes and bedding washed and smelling sweet, and am going to put my hospital bag together tomorrow if I get a chance shock Who'd have thought in the early days of our thread that this time would ever come, that I'd ever be brave enough to do such a thing!

Had good news and a scan today. Good news is that I haven't caught and am immune to the virus I was exposed to earlier in the month. Big relief! Also, the scan showed that baby is measuring the correct 35 weeks, not two and a half weeks bigger as they thought last week. She IS a chunky girl but still within the range grin I have a nice scan pic of her face. I think I'm in love (again) smile

I see the consultant in about ten days and will get my c-sec date then. Not long now! Woo hoo!

Great news wellies really pleased all is well. It does all seem unreal doesn't it, seems like 5 minutes ago we were anxiously waiting first scans and expecting the worst. And now were getting ready for our babies!

My scan last week was all face and a hand spread out across it covering mouth and nose, looks so weird but I love it. I have one pic from each scan lined up on my mantle piece smile

Ummm I'd totally forgotten about my hospital bag <div> might need to write a list haha!

WLmum Fri 31-Aug-12 09:56:05

That's fab wellies. I agree, it is crazy that we all joined scared and early days, and now all have big bellies and I'm counting down to my mat leave (not for about 10 weeks but I know that will come round fast).

I have a new pg worry - indifference towards DH! I don't know what's going on. I think about him nicely during the day etc, but when he gets home I'm just not that pleased to see him, I feel no inclination towards physical affection and feel like I'm having to make an effort to be nice. Don't know if it's just because I'm knackered all the time, spend all time ( when not at work) with dds climbing on me, or because we don't spend much time together - he does shifts so often we are a tag team with childcare, and we're trying to achieve loads before this baby comes - major overhaul of garden to make it child friendly, and desperately trying to get some building work done so we can all fit in! It worries me that if I feel like this now, how will I feel after dc3 arrives and I'm more knackered and have another person touching me all the time! Hmmm, anyone relate?

WL I got that majorly when pg with dc2! I was polite but just felt being with him was a huge effort I didn't have time for. I never said anything though as I knew it was pregnancy hormones and being irrational and dds 4 this year and we are fine.

I've had brief moments of it this pregnancy, mainly this holiday when the big two have acted up and he's got angry, I think I don't want him around, I hate him etc, then by the end of the day its forgotten.

We have to remember we aren't just pregnant, we are still dealing with a loss and the fear of being pregnant after one. And that alones enough to play with our minds without the hormones that come with it.

I'm 24wks tomorrow, which seems terrifying, I watched a program on home and health about a 24wk prem baby they're classed as viable from 24wks.

WLmum Fri 31-Aug-12 11:53:29

Thanks state that helps a lot. I know it's just the hormones but it's making me feel quite upset. I'm on the look out for a mega cheap groupon night away for the 2 of us sometime before this one comes. We did that for our anniversary a few months back and it really helped.

Sounds like bliss WL for me and dp things will settle down once ds is back in school, he's been so difficult this holiday, and the non stop noise of our neighbours dc is exhausting. Thank goodness its our last summer in that house!

shirley123 Fri 31-Aug-12 15:45:08

Hi state, I feel like that when I've been having really hard time of it with the other 2 clamberers, both are very demanding attention wise and don't play on their own easily, need to be spoken to and chatted and played with, v weird as we haven't gotten them used to that at all, just in their personality I think, so yes think nicely of hubbie while he's at work then when he gets home sometimes I just don't want to be around, think that's just normal for a busy family life unless there is loads of help.

Have my first doc appoint today..... Had to do a second pregnancy test just now, just got it in my head that the pregnancy was gone ... Don't tknow why just hormones I suppose, well it still says pregnant....

Fingers crossed for me, gestational diabetes may have started already sad

Hopeforever, I'm feeling good so far, also had retired from corporate life and back to doing what I love and was doing since 20, so in a way it's better for me as much healthier lifestyle, luckily hubbie doesn't want or expect me to work since seeing me with ME and wants me to enjoy being a mum with as much energy saved for that.

shirley that's such a relief to read, my dc are the same, I feel like I don't even get to breath some days when they're on at me! Its so exhausting!

Fingers crossed for you, I have a GTT test next week for gestational diabetes, hate that damn test always makes me ill. A test still saying pregnant has to be good, hormones still strong smile

WLmum Fri 31-Aug-12 17:57:07

Thanks Shirley, good to know I'm not being a super bitch. My 2 are also quite demanding attention wise, whilst generally well behaved, like you I do feel that sometimes I just want not to be answering questions or doing voices for 5 mins. Dd2 is better at entertaining herself for a bit, for dd1 I guess it's a combination of being first and lavished with attention and personality.

I did loads of tests along the way with this pg and dd2 (both following mcs). I just needed to see it still say positive even though I knew it ultimately wouldn't make any difference, but if it makes it all more bearable for 5 mins then pee away I say.

hope I love the retired and pg status! Surely you are a sun headline in the waiting!

Evening! Just trying to catch up... State well done for being brave enough to buy some bits and pieces. I think I'll be braver after my scan on Monday, all being well. I have had to buy some mat clothes as I think my stomach muscles have decided not to put up a fight this time, and I feel massive!!

WLmum Fri 31-Aug-12 20:01:23

Hi backward, I had to buy some clothes too because my muscles gave up immediately. I felt awful and like I was jinxing it but I literally couldn't fit into anything. Luckily it seems it wasn't a jinx, neither were the magpies!

backward my bumps rather large this time too, I look atleast 7/8mnths not almost 6. I'm getting by with legins and long tops, and one pair of jeans I had from before. Its my birthday in just over two weeks so ill treat myself to some bits then.
It took four scans and frequent wriggling for me to brave the shops!

wl the magpies have drove me insane!! Recently I've not seen any which to be honest has been a relief!

WLmum Fri 31-Aug-12 21:27:53

The magpies have been mostly kind to me lately but were unbelievably mean in the early weeks.

My belly is also enormous and several people have made 'not long to go' type comments! I was big with dds too although they were both 7lb 12oz so not massive, actually I always loved having a big belly and think I would have felt cheated by anything else. I like to think my body is just good at giving my babies a nice comfy home.

Same here with the magpies, I wonder though if seeing one made me switch off iyswim as I was expecting the worst whereas now I usually see 2/3/4 at a time, and once 6!

I had a big bump with my big two aswell, dds was biggest and she was 7lb 6 1/2oz, but her placenta weighed more than her! Plus a ton of fluid.

gemdrop84 Sat 01-Sep-12 08:07:28

Thanks for the kick counter info state I have a big bump too compared to last time, dp told me by january I'll be massive, cheeky sod hmm but he did also say I must be making baby a lovely cosy home! I'm getting lots of kicks daily now smile I ended up buying a few vests a week ago, I'm also going to buy a little outfit after our scan on wednesday but no more! As much as I'd love to go on a shopping spree right now, I'm being sensible as we have no storage space in this flat and we will be moving into the house in middle of october. So then I can start! can't wait grin

SwanseaMum Sat 01-Sep-12 09:07:42

Hi girlies,
Have to be mega organized as my little man may very well come early (too early) am 29 weeks 6 days and already have an irritable uterus,
Bag is packed, bought cotbed and new steriliser, got all the baby clothes out and had big clean in the babies bedroom. Not that he will be in there for ages but it made me feel better.
Been in hospital the last couple days. The mw's are lovely but the consultants are awful. My consultant care has been shocking this time round. sad
Hope everything is going ok with everyone else. X

Hopeforever Sat 01-Sep-12 09:10:04

Swanseamum so sorry to hear you are in hospital and the consultant is less than friendly. How are you filling your time?

SwanseaMum Sat 01-Sep-12 09:17:25

Reading mostly. It has been nice having some quiet time. They still can't find out what is going on with my heart so they are shrugging it of my mw is not happy. Cest la vie.

hzgreen Sat 01-Sep-12 09:31:31

"SwanseaMum", so sorry to hear you're in hospital. how frustrating and upsetting to not know what's going on. consultants can be rubbish with their bedside manner but are they doing a good job of looking after you and bump?

gemdrop that's a lovely idea to buy an outfit to celebrate the scan, we go to Subway after a successful scan and have a veggie patty (which i love) but that's as exciting as it gets.

our cat is very ill with a broken leg and has been living in our bedroom for the peace and quiet but it means we can't get anything much ready for the baby. she off to the vets next week and i really hope she can leave our room then ohterwise we're in trouble - i'm 32 weeks and we've got nothing ready :/

i love having a big bump too WLmum it's the massive rest of me that i object to! i got really upset about my weight gain around 51/2 =ish months but i'm not so worried now, i think maybe i was looking for something to worry about other than the baby, something i could control if that makes sense...?

Sorry to hear your consultants being rubbish swansea I hope your getting enough rest and a solution or cause is found soon xxx

SwanseaMum Sat 01-Sep-12 13:39:33

Been sent home what a joke!!

swansea I hope someones available to look after you, your consultant needs a huge kick up the arse would it be worth contacting PALs? Hope you are ok xxx

MrsReiver Sat 01-Sep-12 15:29:02

Swansea just catching up on the thread, I'm so sorry you've been in hospital and your consultant care has been poor. I do hope you've got someone taking care of you at home.

I'm still here, 15 weeks on Monday, can't believe how quickly it's going in. Over night my boobs seem to have doubled in size - very interesting. DH isn't complaining grin

15wks, wahoo for mrs

I'm 24wks today, wriggler is now viable!!!

MrsReiver Sat 01-Sep-12 20:29:30

That's my next milestone State! My GP told me when she is pregnant she has 3 dates she aims for - 12 weeks - risk of miscarriage becomes tiny, 24 weeks - baby is viable, 37 weeks - full term.

We went to Asda for the weekly shop, I saw a trolley, grabbed the handles and started to push. Unfortunately the boot thing was on so trolley didn't go anywhere and all I achieved was walking straight into the handle and hurting my belly. DH now refuses to let me near anymore shopping trolleys, apparently I "can't be trusted." I have been taking it very easy this evening, Doctor Who and The X Factor with DS.

Hope your ok mrs when pregnant with dd I had some muppet push one of the huge food 'cages' in tesco into my trolley, left me with a huge bruise! Fortunatly dd was fine!

37wks is my next goal as ds didn't make it that far, dd was 39+5, I want this babys section at 39+6 if possible so fingers crossed!

Hopeforever Sun 02-Sep-12 23:21:33

Evening all

Spoke to EPU and they have booked me in or a scan in Friday when I should be 7 weeks. No need to go through the GP or pay private like last time smile

Also v v nervous sad

Good luck hope just remember at this early stage dates being out by a few days can make a big difference, ie. Not seeing a HB yet, but in a week you could see a wriggly baby and thrumming heart.

I wish I'd known this could have saved me some serious worrying xx

WLmum Mon 03-Sep-12 08:17:17

Good luck hope, will be thinking of you. Sounds like you have a nice epu.

SwanseaMum Mon 03-Sep-12 09:31:33

30 weeks today!!!! Yay smile

Good luck hope

I have my NT scan today. Bricking it... am sure it will be fine, but can't help the niggly worry!

gemdrop84 Mon 03-Sep-12 11:26:21

Good luck hope and backward x

SwanseaMum Mon 03-Sep-12 13:06:27

Off to hosp for a growth scan. My mw isn't happy with how big i am, will get to see my little man smile

Congrats on 30wks swansea, and enjoy your scan, try not to worry to much about big bumps I was with ds and dd turns out my babies have a growth spurt then slow off until 37wks then lay on fat. Does that make sense, anyway good luck xx

SwanseaMum Mon 03-Sep-12 19:26:06

He is measuring 2 weeks bigger than he should so they are now on about gtt which i am having a week tomorrow. Let hell week begin, having iv iron Wednesday, Friday and Monday then gtt on Tuesday.plus then another scan and consultant appt on the 18th its madness sad

WLmum Mon 03-Sep-12 22:24:05

Sorry to hear it's not going swimmingly Swansea but at least you're being checked and looked after. 30 weeks is great too.

I'm feeling a lot less grouchy having had a bit more rest.

Sorry to hear your having a rough time swansea I have a GTT on wednesday, I have to say I am not looking forward to it one bit. Take care and rest! X

Well my new pram mattress arrived so I couldn't resist pulling it in putting it together and having a play, ofc just to check the mattress fitted correctly, can't wait to meet this baby, but will also be a bit sad when this pregnancy is done when I'm not worrying, I love it, and every kick makes me so happy.

shirley123 Tue 04-Sep-12 12:15:05

Well, had a scan yestday and all good, not ectopic, heartbeat and in the right place, fingers crossed it develops well.... Have started looking at double buggies now, but will wait to buy anything until at least 6 months I think, did some tidying up this morning and am feeling shattered, up and down ladders and reorganising the girls' toys.... Had to sit with a bag of crisps and a soda......

Hopeforever Tue 04-Sep-12 12:56:29

Shirley, that's great, did they tell you how many weeks you might be?

MrsReiver Tue 04-Sep-12 13:29:23

Hey Swansea - been thinking of you, how are you getting on?

Great news shirley smile

My scan went very well yesterday, everything looked great!

Great news shirley what will the age gap be between this baby and your youngest? <Brain like a seive> I had a double for my big two couldn't have lived without it!

Hope your doing ok swansea x

Really getting a pattern to movements now, its some comforting!

MrsReiver Tue 04-Sep-12 14:28:15

Shirley - I'm so sorry I missed your message! That's fab news for you and Possum grin

State I can remember when DS settled into a pattern of such, it really is reassuring.

couldthisbeit Tue 04-Sep-12 14:51:45

Hi, I hope you don't mind me joining you all. Found out last night that we are expecting dc2 and feeling all sorts of emotions not least nerves! Ds1 is 14 months and prior to him we had 4 miscarriages in 3 years. First was mmc at 10 weeks, followed by three at between 6 and 7 weeks. Had begun investigations before falling with ds1 and early tests found no issues.
Ds1 was so worth the wait as i had really begun to wonder if we would ever be so lucky.
We are thrilled about this new little one but overnight all my fears and worries have returned and I am a frantic knicker checker already at just under 5 weeks! I know that you will help to keep me sane on the long road and i look forward to your stories of inspiration.

Hopeforever Tue 04-Sep-12 16:04:33

Welcome couldthisbeit, knicker checkers are us!

At the Paralympics I kept rushing to the loo to check!

SwanseaMum Tue 04-Sep-12 16:25:01

Congrats Shirley smile
Mrs i am ok sug not getting much rest (joy of having 2 dc smile ) i am contracting all the time i bloody move which looks like i am stuck with an iu until i go into labour, just hope labour won't start properly for at least a few weeks xxx

shirley123 Tue 04-Sep-12 19:03:08

Lol, me too frantic knicker checker :D ... They said I was 6 + 3days , Swansea, how many weeks are you??? I had contractions at 26 weeks with no 2 so they kept me in until they stopped and told me to stop everything, well I was in full flow ME so there was little to stop!:s but she eventually went full term.

Age gap between no 2 and 3 will be 2 yrs and 2 ish months, they will probably go at 38 weeks I should think as it would be 3rd c-sec and I expect gestational diabetes, had the first Gtt on Monday so will find out next week...hope it's not started already as I'll get insulin pretty much immediately, already I've not had sugar for months anyhow as I was on Dukan diet and no carbs, now just added some low GL carbs just to keep me going, still starving !!!

shirley123 Tue 04-Sep-12 19:04:23

Also congrats possum, how many weeks?

This is my 3rd csec, I'd not asked when they'd schedule it for just assumed like dds, a few days before duedate! Argh!

Er, 13+4 which I think is ahead by just over a week (I doubt I ovulated 2 days after my period started, lol, we certainly weren't dtd!) smile

Argh GTT tomorrow not been allowed to eat since 8.30pm and feel sick, so sick. I'm so not going to last until 12/1ish tomorrow!

SwanseaMum Wed 05-Sep-12 14:14:54

Well 1st venofer done, took forever. Took 3 trys to get the venflon in. My hands are a mess, got another one on Friday sad

Aww swansea you poor thing! I hope your being well looked after. Xx

Had my dreaded GTT and thanks to the hospital finally changing the solution I had to drink it was bareable. And I dug the baby gym out of my mums loft, and its still lovely which is nice as its the only thing other than cotbed all 3 dc will use.

gemdrop84 Wed 05-Sep-12 18:08:31

well, what a day! hope all is well with you guys. I've woken up full of cold, head throbbing and runny nose sad but was determined to remain in high spirits as we had our 20 wk scan at half 3. It all went fine, although baby was again wriggling like mad and wouldnt stay still for sonographer to do all checks. So yet again I was sent to wee and walk around, didn't make much difference but she managed to get everything she needed! They must have the patience of a saint to do that job! We're in for trouble when this one comes out, I can feel it! grin....anyway, we have found out it's definitely a boy grin can't quite believe it. I keep repeating to dp 'we're having a boy!' it's a bit surreal! DP's happy he will no longer be outnumbered by us girlies!

Congrats on your boy gemdrop! My experience of wriggly boy bumps is that they are just as wriggly on the outside, too. DS who is now 3 never stops. Even when he's sleeping...

MrsReiver Wed 05-Sep-12 20:13:52

Gemdrop - congrats on your news!!!

I'm going to agree with Possom, I had a right wriggler and he's now 8 years old and constantly on the move - he's a sleepwalker too!

At my 12 week scan this beanie was dancing all over the place, so I'm bracing myself for another one that can't sit still grin

Haha MrsR, my scan on Monday, this bean was beating me up with its legs and wriggling about being awkward. I'm also bracing myself for another crazy!

welliesandpyjamas Wed 05-Sep-12 21:33:14

Backward and mrsreiver, you seem to have my 2 sons grin wriggly, even in sleep, always on the move, sleepwaking, same as yours! Congrats on the boy, gemdrop, boys are fab!

Glad the GTT went ok, state. I've never had one, it sounds icky.

Swansea hope things get better for you now. Stay strong.

I'm 36 weeks tomorrow shock Am almost paralysed with the back pain (no pain relief helps) but it's no shocker given the size of the bump. I thought I was big with ds2 but this is extreme.

Congratulations on you boy gemdrop wonderful news grin

Can't believe your 36wks wellies shock times flying! Sorry to hear your backs so bad, would a bump support band help at all?

I got ds and dds playmat/activity arch out today, I still love it as much as when I chose it for the pfb, made me a bit soppy. Going to hoover it and wash it tomorrow (as I left all our new carpet fluff on it when we packed it up many years ago)

gemdrop84 Thu 06-Sep-12 07:12:18

ha ha, wow a wriggly boy grin thanks mrsr and possum. He was really amazingly wriggly yesterday, when the sonographer was trying to check his heart, he kept trying to roll over etc, she was pushing probe over my belly quite firmly to get a good look and he was actually bashing the probe away with a fist blush She found that hilarious! Oh wellies 36 wks smile sorry to hear about your back. Glad your GTT went ok state and have fun with the playmat, can't wait to get all that stuff but I must restrain myself until we are moved grin I will be buying a little outfit soon though just for Seth.

Morning all, just a feeling sorry for myself, just dropped ds off at school, first day in year 1 and had to carry in him through the door, he broke his heart sobbing and begging me to take him home, took everything in me not to cry and just bring him back, his teach ended helping me and had to pull him off me, whens this going to get easier! Atleast he wasn't the only one, atleast 5 others were sobbing which is some comfort, but my poor boy sad

gemdrop84 Thu 06-Sep-12 09:44:15

Aww state big hugs to you xx

WLmum Thu 06-Sep-12 15:54:57

Ah state how hard for you both. Dd had her first day in year 1 yesterday and was nervous, but no tears thankfully, although there were plenty in the playground, including her bestie (who is a boy). Dd used to cry loads about pre school and it just killed me. Hopefully your ds will be happy again soon.

Aw state that's really hard. I bet she had a ball after you'd left? DS started nursery school a few weeks ago and was really upset when I left, but he loves it now smile

hzgreen Fri 07-Sep-12 05:51:45

State that sounds awful, i don't know how i would have coped in that situation. my mum used to do the same thing when she started school apparently and one day my nan hung around and looked through the window and a a couple of minutes later mum was right as rain and playing with the other kids! after she accepted that she was staying there she joined in and enjoyed herself, i hope it's the same for your DS.

Congrats on your boy gemdrop mine (now 3 years old) is a real delight, trouble during pregnancy than plain sailing ever since, he even hugged me and told me he loved me the other day without prompting!

i'm feeling pretty rubbish, my grandfather died last week and it's his funeral today, i've only had four hours sleep. i've had this week off work to try and relax a bit (my job is really stressful) but have only had one full night's sleep so far. i'm worried about the affect all this stress and sleeplessness is having on the baby and i've got to back to crappy work on Monday feeling almost as bad as when i left! oh well only a month to go before glorious maternity leave (and only 7 months to go before i frantically start looking for another job!!!)

gemdrop84 Fri 07-Sep-12 08:30:09

thanks hzgreen I'm so excited about having a boy! Your ds sounds adorable! sorry to hear about your grandad x

Macarooned Fri 07-Sep-12 14:03:31

Wow I am so relieved to find this thread, I have been driving myself completely loopy.

I am not great at posting/keeping up to date but am drawing comfort from women who actually understand how I feel.

I am 10wks now, have 2 DCs but before them i had a mmc picked up on a scan at 10+3 but didn't miscarry until more like 12+ wks. This time it just feels like torture and DP just doesn't get it.

And no chance of an early scan, have to wait til 12+6 which feels like an age away.

You lot have made me feel much more sane! Sending good wishes to all of you who need them....

gemdrop84 Fri 07-Sep-12 14:39:52

Best of wishes to you too Macarooned, it really kept me sane too and I didn't feel quite so alone. x

Macarooned Fri 07-Sep-12 15:50:53

Thank you gemdrops! I think I've found my new home.
thanks grin brew

Hopeforever Fri 07-Sep-12 17:32:36

Lovely Ladies, it as been great being part of this group, but I'm signing out now as it didn't go well at the scan today. They couldn't find sac and were worried it must be an ectopic, but blood results are so low I don't think it can be.

It was our last attempt at ttc. I'm going to be 45 next year and have wonderful children already. Time to celebrate and enjoy what we have.

Good Luck to you all, your bumps and your babies

SwanseaMum Fri 07-Sep-12 17:49:04

Oh hope i am so sorry hunny, take care of yourself xxx

gemdrop84 Fri 07-Sep-12 17:49:30

oh hope sorry to hear that, best wishes to you and your family xx

Sorry to read your news, hope. Take care thanks

Hi Macarooned, fingers crossed for you x

MrsReiver Fri 07-Sep-12 19:23:00

State, that sounds awful, I hope this morning went better.

Hope, I am so, so sorry to hear your news. All the best for whatever the future holds for you and your lovely family. Take care of yourself xx

RozziRaspberry Fri 07-Sep-12 19:57:42

Hope so sorry to hear your news, I may be signing out soon too. I started spotting a week past Wednesday so was taken in for a scan on Monday. I'm pretty sure of my dates and that I should have been 8+2 but was measuring 6-7 weeks, there was a heartbeat so they did not seem too concerned.

We have the private scan that we booked weeks ago tomorrow so we're keeping our fingers crossed that the baby has grown but also have been trying to come to terms with the fact that this could be the end.

Hope, take care of yourself, thoughts are with you at this sad time x

hope I am so sorry to hear your news, but best wishes for the future what a lovely positive outlook you have xxx

Well ds was nice and calm today, very quiet but no tears, I was heartbroken yesterday and was crying until 11am on and off blush I couldn't bear to even think about him. The annoying thing is its year 1 he's started, he's been there a year already but they mixed the reception classes up for year 1 and he's unsettled.

So sorry to hear about your Grandad hz xx

Wishing you luck macarooned I had to wait that long for my first scan this time, it was hard going but I kept the idea in my head that if anything was wrong there would be no if/buts/waiting at that stage than at an early scan. But as you can see we made it through and I'm 25wks tomorrow shock

To all the newbies on this thread you are statistically more likely to have a healthy baby after a mc. Hold onto that, I did.

Anyway 25wks tomorrow and getting more excited, my mum brought a beautiful rainbow striped fine knit blanket for me today, I adore it, matalan for anyone liking bright unisex colours smile and I spent this evening snuggling my 7wk old nephew, it doesn't hurt anymore, I'm getting there.

shirley123 Sat 08-Sep-12 07:48:04

Hi all, hope all of you are feeling well this morning, glad to say that at 7 ish weeks so far no mishaps and not too bad with morning sickness which is much different from my first 2 pregnancies I was vomiting all day everyday for pretty much whole of pregnancy, but I suppose this means I will be huge by the time I'm half way through, once I get past the 12 weeks scan I will get back to fitness training, I've been feeling very cautious until now to not cause aching untoward to happen. I got my anti natal appointment and a date for my 12 week scan, 4th oct smile wow soooo soon.....hope it's ok that I'm not as sick this time round and there is nothing wrong with baby.....

shirley123 Sat 08-Sep-12 07:49:06

Hopeforever, I'm sorry to hear your news, take care xx

shirley123 Sat 08-Sep-12 07:52:17

State, what a crappy thing to do to mix up the classes after they have made friends already!! Of course it will be difficult for the littleuns, they adjust quick tho' hope he goes ok. My oldest starts reception at the end of sept and I'm already fretting, not for her so much as she is so sociable but for me to fit in with the mums so she can get playmates etc

WLmum Sat 08-Sep-12 08:01:29

So sorry hope, u do sound like u have a lovely attitude but I know that it must be incredibly hard right now. I really hope there are some super lovely things awaiting you just around the corner. Xx

WLmum Sat 08-Sep-12 08:03:49

state I dont get the mixing up classes thing, and I would have been devastated if dds school had done that cage doesn't make friends that easily and thankfully has two good ones in her class. It's very unsettling for them. Glad he was feeling a bit better.

Good luck for the 4th shirley smile and your dd starting school.

I've got to move my midwife app on the 2nd as dp and his friend got thorpe park tickets from the sun so he will have the car <fumes>

WL ds doesn't make friends easily, he will happily play with anyone but doesn't make proper friends like kids his age seem too, but he has built in best friends in dd and my little brother who are 12 and 16mnths younger than him so he doesn't seem the point I feel. I've hated every second of school run at this school, its soooo cliquey and just not nice, I gave up and kept myself to myself after a while and count down in my head until we all move.

Weekends here, chaos has resumed, kids been feral and next doors have been screaming and crying outside my window since 8.

biscuit anyone?

RozziRaspberry Sat 08-Sep-12 15:18:50

Had scan today, sadly no heartbeat. I seem to be okay at the moment not sure if the news has properly sunk in yet.

Good luck to all you lovely ladies with your pregnancies and thank you for letting me be part of this group.

Hopeforever Sat 08-Sep-12 15:33:57

Thank you for your kind messages. Hope you have support Rozzi over the coming days and weeks

WLmum Sat 08-Sep-12 20:22:02

Oh rozzi that really is crappy news. So sorry. I do hope all goes as well as it can over the coming weeks/months/years - hope to see you back here real soon

Thinking of you Rozzi xxx

Sorry to hear your news Rozzi, take care x

shirley123 Mon 10-Sep-12 09:40:17

Thinking of you too Rozzi, take care and hope you have support xxxx

shirley123 Mon 10-Sep-12 09:41:13

Ps is it quite normal for if there was a heartbeat and all the bits before that it can go once 12 weeks is up? I'm getting rather worried .....

welliesandpyjamas Mon 10-Sep-12 09:45:27

hope and rozzi, I'm so very gutted for you. Take care of yourselves and stay strong.

Hope everyone else is ok? State, how is ds getting on now? I feel your pain too. My eldest has just started in a new school in year 5 after our move and I'm trying my best not to fret about him. He's overwhelmed at the moment and a bit scared as the work is more than he's used to at his last school (a good thing at his age IMO but I don't like leaving him looking so worried). He has a lot of catching up to do but when I try and help him practice at home he gets quite upset and convinced he can't do it, forgetting stuff he definitely already knew sad And it doesn't help that between my pregnancy sieve brain and his worry we've managed to forget reading books today, got there very late last week, and lost a jumper and a watch too...just hope it gets better for him soon. DS2 on the other hand, with his endless confidence, has taken to his new preschool with no problems at all grin

Midwife check today. Consultant tomorrow and hopefully a c-sec date!

WLmum Mon 10-Sep-12 10:05:05

Unfortunately Shirley it is possible to see a heartbeat at an earlier scan and then lose it by 12 weeks. I think it's if something doesn't develop properly between the scans that means baby wouldn't be able to make it. BUT once you have seen a heartbeat at 9 weeks there is only a 1./. Chance of mc. It's torturous I know. Just keep trying to believe everything is fine until you have some reason to think otherwise.

I'm extremely tired and so emotional today and had a bit if a cry after leaving dd1 at school. She was a bit sad about going now that the post summer holidays novelty has worn off and she's such a sensitive little bunny. And of course today is the day I work late so will only just home to see her before bed. Really wish I could be there to pick her up.

gemdrop84 Mon 10-Sep-12 10:08:24

big hugs rozzi I'm sorry to hear your news, take care of yourself. I'm full of cold wellies sad managed to get some sleep last night and feel miles better for it. My face has been aching a bit over last couple of days, presume my sinuses are playing up. Head is really bunged up still so olbas oil is my best friend atm grin Managed to get my appetite back and been eating like a horse, seem to had gone off my food over last wk or so but I'm putting it down to getting this horrible cold. Good luck with mw check and how exciting for getting c-sec date!!

shirley123 Mon 10-Sep-12 10:18:23

Thanks wlmum, I will stay positive as much as I can, morning sickness hit really bad today and feeling really tired sad also v little support aprt from hubbie as family has some serious issues going on for last 2 years so they lean on me and have loads on their minds, also feel too crappy to see friends at the mo, bed it is...

gemdrop84 Mon 10-Sep-12 10:29:36

aww shirley have a nice rest and take it easy and hugs to you wlmum x x

WLmum Mon 10-Sep-12 10:30:29

Morning sickness, vile though it is, is a good sign. Bed is an excellent place to be. X

welliesandpyjamas Mon 10-Sep-12 11:15:46

shirley morning sickness is a good sign, the tiredness too. Thinking of you.

gem poor you with a cold sad I caught a cold When I was about 4 or 5 months and couldn't shift it for 6 weeks, so I totally sympathise (and hope I don't catch another one now the seasons are changing!).

WL seems we are all suffering with the emotions of leaving our dc at school. It's tough, isn't it.

Another morning sobbing from ds, he started asking to stay home last night and persisted until 10pm and as soon as he woke today, I could still hear him sobbing when I was the otherside of the school. Heads all over the place right now as dd is suffering thanks to NO nursery/preschool places and ds is suffering thanks to a class mix up. sad

WLmum Mon 10-Sep-12 18:42:52

Oh state that's so hard. Dd1 used to be like that about pre-school. Are the school supportive or just the usual flannel?

His teacher takes him and sits holding him for us she's lovely, the school as a whole I'm disgusted with, headteacher and 5 members of staff left in July and its a mess now, I cannot wait to move and withdraw him.

WLmum Mon 10-Sep-12 20:55:02

Glad his teacher is so nice, that's what's most important when they're so young.

He's her youngest aswell, he was 5 in the last week of reception, whereas several children in his class turn 6 in the next week or so.

He's told me he had fun at break with a friend (who was also upset at drop off) so we spoke and I said maybe if they sit together they can help each other be brave, which he thought was a good idea, I've also bribed him with moshi cards on fridays for being brave, and explained me and daddy are sad leaving him too but we know when he's feeling braver he'll have such fun like last year. I've also promised to re-arrange his room tomorrow and put some new posters up for him.

He could ask me for a fecking car right now and I'd try and make it happen.

Anyway, how's everyones bumps? Mines getting HUGE and I'm slowly collecting bits we need, got a lovely wooden changing station today and one of those inflatable baby nests for when they learn to sit up, dd loved hers but I foolishly sold it, can't complain though, only paid £3 for this one off facebook lovely bright gund one and it has the toy arches over the top, if that makes sense.

And also I'm 25+1!!! Argh grin and still only had heartburn once, got the nausea under control and sitting correctly is keeping the ole hips comfy, its like my bodys saying sorry for last time, enjoy this one smile

WLmum Tue 11-Sep-12 09:14:32

My belly is pretty big too, I've got a support belt to help halt my separating muscles but it's straining at the Velcro so will have to get bigger size soon. My body is def more knackered out this time, things like getting up off the floor are hard already whereas only an issue nearer the end before. I have a list if minor grumbles but on the whole consider myself v lucky not to have any major probs and to have a healthy baby in my belly.

I can't sit on the floor anymore I get an awful pain across my stomach when I stand up scared me a bit but after making the same mistake too many times I sussed the issue. Didn't realise how often I sit on the floor so having a change around in the house and putting down ds bunks to a single so I can perch on his bed etc.

gemdrop84 Tue 11-Sep-12 16:59:04

My bump is pretty big, I have to wonder how big this boy will be when he comes out! Walked into town this afternoon and did some shopping, was only out for a couple of hours but I had to get a taxi back as I felt exhausted and my lower back has been aching quite a bit today. Dread to think what I'm going to be like in a couple of months, I'm only 22 wks pg! I honestly felt so lazy getting the taxi and felt like I should be able to get on with it and walk home but I was so tired sad

WLmum Tue 11-Sep-12 18:40:31

I get really tired too gem, I'm trying to be a bit kinder to myself and allow some sitting down and rests but its so hard with other 2 dcs and always so much to do! Am desperately trying to get builders to start ASAP so they might be finished before baby comes and I might even have a couple of weeks of quiet mat leave.

welliesandpyjamas Wed 12-Sep-12 09:44:04

I have a c-sec date! grin 28th September! Feeling excited and a bit scared but definitely very happy smile

I have to go for yet another scan on Tues because baby is lying transverse and I have placenta previa. If she hasn't moved around by then then they'll move the date forward, eeeeek!

This is really happening now!!!

Oh wow wellies good luck.

WLmum Wed 12-Sep-12 16:19:05

How exciting wellies a newbie before the end of the month! Why will they bring it forward if she hasn't moved?

Oh bloody hell! Dd hadn't got a space in nursery and after a tricky few days dp decided it was ridiculous when next doors dd who's 2 is being visited to start, turns out her DOB was wrong by a year, she starts tuesday! She's my baby <wibble>

It will be far better for her all settled and having her space before dc3 arrives ofc, but what am I meant to do with myself!

WLmum Wed 12-Sep-12 21:48:20


This is the first time I will have my house with no children in since july 2007, it will be weird. But yes rest, my choice of tv, sounds amazing. I'm slightly less freaked out now dds excited.

bonzo77 Thu 13-Sep-12 01:58:48

Sorry on phone so can't really name check, but eeeek wellies... Baby 16 days away, or less! And stateenvy @ your peaceful plans.

Now I'm going to be me me me again! Just back from maternity triage as baby not really moving. MW found hb ok, but scan showed possible low fluid levels. So they want to bring forward my 24 week growth / Doppler scan from next thurs to tomorrow. But tomorrow is DS's first day at new nursery. Well, 9.15-12.15, but I do need to be available to stay with him. The Dr was understanding though, and said she would call by 9 am tomorrow. I asked her if the scan tomorrow was just to reassure me or if she thought there was a clinical need, and she said the latter, because at 23+5 the baby is just on the cusp of being viable and if there is any suggestion of early delivery then steroids will make an important difference. FFS. Really worried now. I'm back home in bed and baby is moving again but I'm a bit scared. My bump measured ok, and my cervix was closed with no fluid leakage, but well you know. Add to this that I have a weekend with the out laws, I mean in laws, to look forward to. And work is a bit stressful at the moment. Seriously, if I'm told that giving up stressful things like work and in laws would help, I would gladly! Bit annoyed with DH who didn't respond to my update texts while I was waiting in the hospital ( he couldn't come as he had to stay home with DS), and then barely woke up and didn't respond when I told him what I'm telling you. No point waking him to tell him off, but I will definitely give him a piece of my mind in the morning!angry

Really should get some sleep as being tired will not help at all.

Oh bonzo you poor thing! Hope your ds does ok at nursery and the scan goes ok, I've found when I'm stressed at all the baby doesn't move, the dcs were menaces on tuesday and the baby hardly moved at all, I was terrified but once I got them into bed and put my feet up it was off wriggling away, and it backs this up on the NHS website. Will be thinking of you xxx

bonzo77 Thu 13-Sep-12 10:14:13

Thanks state. I'm sure you're right, if nothing else one can be too busy to notice the movements. Anyway, I've had 2 calls already from the hospital letting me know that I've not been forgotten and that I'll get a call before lunch time for an appointment this afternoon. I really can't fault the care I've had from them so far. They were good with my mmc, and have been very caring and understanding over all my wobbles over this pregnancy.

How's it going bonzo? xx

WLmum Thu 13-Sep-12 22:10:05

Oh bonzo poor you, that sounds v stressful indeed. I would have been in tears all day I'm sure. Very poor form on dhs part, not sure I wouldn't have woken him - when I'm cross and DH is asleep I can't sleep and just lay there seething. I do hope the scan went well. Xx

SwanseaMum Fri 14-Sep-12 06:48:55

Well girls I have had hell of a week set to stay shit !! been moved to 3 different hospitals because scbu has been closed had several false starts and labour stopped twice while i had steroids bring on my babys lungs. They have finally decided that if it starts again I am gonna be left too it so may see him sooner than I thought.
hope everyone is ok been with out internet for 5 days. So haven't had a chance to catch up yet.
congrats on your date wellies

gemdrop84 Fri 14-Sep-12 07:45:40

congrats on the c sec date wellies and big hugs to bonzo and swansea, thinking of you both xx

bonzo77 Fri 14-Sep-12 12:51:45

Swansea that all sounds dire. Hugs, and wishing you luck, patience and strength.

All turned out ok in the end. A false alarm brought on by my anxiety and the drs over cautiousness. Thanks for all your well wishes. I just wish I could relax a bit!

Great news bonzo smile xx

How many weeks are you swansea? My eldest was early and had iugr also spent time in nicu and you'd never believe it now! Sorry to hear things are all so chaotic, I think of you often xxx

Got some more bits for wriggler today, if anyones interested asda baby event are dropping all the prices of things to clear the stock x

WLmum Fri 14-Sep-12 22:02:26

Oh Swansea I do hope things go ok. Sending best wishes to you and your baby. X

Thinking of you swansea how's everyone else doing?

I'm now 26wks! Heading towards 3rd trimester at breakneck speed!

Spent hours last night sorting all the bits and bobs I've picked up for the baby recently, and an ambys nest has come up for sale locally so I'm rather pleased!

shirley123 Sat 15-Sep-12 19:39:01

Hi state, hope you're enjoying the rest ;) not long until little one comes along, in the meanwhile I'm adding symptoms, have been having nightmare vertigo for the last week...can't lay down, can't stand up and morning sickness alongside!!! Awful!! Anyone on here had it? Any advice on treating it?

WLmum Sat 15-Sep-12 20:56:42

How awful Shirley. No advice I'm afraid, try dr google!

shirley you poor thing, I've no advice but my friends mum had it and she was literally flat on her back for weeks. I'd get to a gp if you can, I can't imagine its much fun with ms aswell xxx

SwanseaMum Mon 17-Sep-12 15:09:06

Well 32 weeks and managed thus far to keep him in even though it has virtually killed me.
hope every one else is ok x

Cadmum Mon 17-Sep-12 15:26:50

Hello everyone. Great news Swanseamum! Every day makes a massive difference at this stage.

I am full of cough and cold which only makes the morning sickness feel worse but I am 11+2 so nearing the end of nausea and exhaustion. I may need handholding after that since my mmc have ll been in the second trimester: One as late as 22 weeks...

32wks is a good gestation, when ds was in nicu he was in between a 26wker and 30wker and both were home before there duedates! Amazing babies.

cad were all available for hand holding whenever needed smile

Well I'm 26wks getting more confident and slowly collecting everything we need for wriggler. The debate on what brand/how many/what size nappies continues...

MrsReiver Mon 17-Sep-12 21:26:01

Hey ladies, I've been a bit MIA as it's been a chaotic couple of weeks. Shirley, Bonzo and Swansea, I'm so sorry you've been having a difficult time of it, I hope things are starting to look up.

Recently I've been starting to feel The Fear again, lots of little niggley "what if..." thoughts were creeping in. I'm 17 weeks today and had my latest mw appointment, I told her I was getting a bit worried so she whipped the doppler out (which they don't normally do at this stage) and found the baby's heartbeat straightaway. It was incredible. I hadn't realised how worried I was until I heard those little galloping beats and I broke down. DH was really moved, and DS who had been distinctly bored up until then was even a little impressed!

Good to hear your doing well Mrs the fear never truly leaves but it gets easier, sayes the 26wker who freaks out every day and necks cold drinks to make the baby wriggle grin

Cadmum Tue 18-Sep-12 04:47:16

MrsR: I am glad you midwife was able to find the heartbeat. I know what you mean about the fear. It can creep up anytime, can't it? The relief of hearing that heartbeat galloping along is so rewarding. Too bad the fear can set back in moments later... In a few short weeks you will feel regular movement but until then keep asking the midwife for reassurance when necessary.

I am spotting today. I feel fairly sure that it is related to endless coughing but it could also be the beginning of the end. I still feel nauseated and tired so that is promising. I have a scan on Saturday but will go early if necessary...

woody17 Tue 18-Sep-12 08:33:32

Hi everyone

I was hoping for some advice.

I had a mc in July - that was the first time I was pg. Af finally arrived in August. I thought af was due again last Thursday but nothing happened. Before my first af after mc in August, I had about a week of brown discharge that gradually got heavier and heavier.

This month I've only been having brown discharge (although I did have a tiny amount of dark blood in the middle of the night last night when I wiped.) This has only been happening since Saturday and there has hardly been any and it's mainly when I've been to the toilet. My boobs have also been feeling really sore and it's felt like they've got worse. Anyway, I decided to do a test last night as I have a lot of the internet cheapies and I've become a bit obsessed with poas. There was hardly any urine and it was almost clear as I'd been drinking so much but I thought there was something there. I've test again this morning and I've got a faint +ve on the internet cheapie. It's definitely there. It may be that I ov a lot later then I thought I did. I tested with FR on Friday and Saturday last week but got BFN.

To be honest, I just feel really frightened. I'm already having this brown discharge and as I said there was a tiny amount of blood through the night. I'm frightened that things are going wrong already. I don't even know if I'd want early scans this time as last time, everything seemed ok and then it all went wrong.

Has anyone experienced this before? Do you think that the brown discharge (and tiny tiny amount of blood) suggests that this is already going wrong?

shirley123 Tue 18-Sep-12 08:33:57

Hello everyone, hope you're all doing ok, mrsR , I am so tempted Togo to midwife too, feel like hell and fear creeps in when I feel so bad., glad they could hear the heartbeat, what a relief.

Still feeling dreadful tho' hope it calms down after 12 weeks, roll on 4th oct.... Have been having bad stomach pains, pains in my side and generally feel like I have a nasty virus for last 2 weeks, my cranial osteopath has eased the vertigo a little though so not feeling as bad as last couple of days, omg !!!

Honestly feeling very low, and getting resentment feelings and just feel depressed generally sad

Cadmum Tue 18-Sep-12 09:58:46

Woody, I did no want to read and run but I have not had a similar experience. I sympathize with your wish not to have an early scan but the only other option is wait and see (and post here for support). I try to avoid PoAS until there is no other plausible outcome than a BFP so I not much help there either.

Shirley123 I am truly sorry that you are felling so poorly. It is not a fun place to be. Sickness is a good sign that things are as they should be but maybe it is worth going to the GP if you feel like you have a virus as well?

My spotting is only when I use the loo and I still feel pregnant so I will wait it out.

woody17 Tue 18-Sep-12 10:26:11

Thanks cadmum

Maybe I should have waited a bit before poas. I am definitely more than 4 weeks pg though.

Hopefully it'll all be ok.

woody your in the wtf cycle, I had my mmc in dec and my dates were still out when I got my bfp in april, by two weeks. Get yourself in touch with a MW and they can get you in the system for viability and dating scans xx

Well my littlest state started nursery today, I feel bereft! She was amazing though said I'm fine mummy my friends here and I left, cannot wait until 12pm!!

Cadmum Tue 18-Sep-12 11:58:33

Oh State, My heart goes out to you... It is ever so much nicer when they are happy to go but it is still a sad moment. My dd1 stopped me at the door and gently reminded me that 'nursery is for children'. This was a dramatic difference from her older brother who was still unhappy about being left at reception. It would be an oversimplification to suggest that girls are readier but some really are. I hope your morning goes by quickly but I suspect it won't...

Woody, are you still spotting/streaking? I am sorry for making you feel that you should not have POAS. My post madero sound inconsiderate when what I was trying to illustrate us that we all handle the stress and the uncertainty differently. After my first miscarriage, I thought that I would feel better with early, frequent scans. By my third, I could no longer bear the experience since one day everything appeared fine and the next my world would be upside down at the discovery of fetal demise.

I felt as though my body was failing me and that I was a fool for not even knowing it was happening or 'properly miscarrying' like 'normal woman'. I acknowledge that my feelings are only my own and that I should be more cautious about being considerate to those who feel otherwise.

The one thing that this whole process OUGHT to have taught me is that women should be there to support each other through each and every felling without judgement. It is a rough enough process without being questioned or feeling judged. Sorry...

Cadmum Tue 18-Sep-12 12:02:03

auto correct! Silly phone madero could be replaced with may(I think)...
I need to learn to proofread.

woody17 Tue 18-Sep-12 12:15:59

Ah no cadmum you didn't make me feel like that at all! I really appreciated you replying to me and I definitely don't feel judged!

No it has pretty much stopped now and there's hardly been any at all if that makes sense. I just get some when I wipe when I go to the toilet but after 1/2 wipes, there is nothing there.

I feel very similar to what you've just written - I desperately don't want something to go wrong again this time. Last time, it was when there was quite a bit of blood and terrible cramping that I felt that EPU weren't very hopeful - they weren't too concerned about brown discharge.

cadmum she had a brilliant morning and seeing her through the window when I went to collect her looking so happy with other children made my quiet morning worth it.

Cadmum Tue 18-Sep-12 14:11:32

Great news State! May the trend continue. Only one of our four always liked it and went in happily and came out happy and tired. The others were a slog...

Woody I am glad that the spotting has slowed/stopped and that I did not sound too judgey.

Well ds is still getting upset most days, as he did in preschool, reception and now year 1, its exhausting so a huge relief dd is more relaxed and happy!

I was very brave today and brought a crib, swinging between excitement and oh shit why am I tempting fate. 26+3 now!

Lynzw75 Tue 18-Sep-12 21:00:02

Hi Everyone. I'm 7 weeks pregnant after experiencing a miscarriage at 13 weeks in April this year. A scan back then showed the fetus had stopped developing at 6 weeks. At 7 weeks that's all I can think about. I have gruesome nightmares about sitting in a blood bath and all sorts. I have told a few friends at work and my manager to ease the workload but I can't tell my family or anyone else as I don't feel I can really celebrate this until I know it's viable. I experienced morning sickness when pregnant with my son but with the last pregnancy I experienced very little nausea. Now with this pregnancy I am also experiencing very little nausea which only increases my worry. Will I be able to request an early scan? I feel I need it to put my mind at rest.

Welcome lynzw75

In my experience nausea isn't a honest signal of a sucessful/unsucessful pregnancy. I have two dc, had awful nausea and sickness with them, awful nausea with two mcs and mmc, this pregnancy nothing, had a mild bit for a few days but otherwise been totally fine, and I'm 26+4 now.

You can request an early scan I believe via your epu if it runs on self referal, or you may need to see a mw/gp to be refered, just explain your anxietys and there shouldn't be an issue.

I took a long time to get excited about this pregnancy, obviously it was always there underneath the fear but only now does it top the fear some days. I did tell my Mum and dps as we hadn't with the mmc and I couldn't cope with them not knowing, I was 14wks when we discovered the babys heart had stopped and it felt too much to just ignore and I needed the support. I've found people to be really supportive as they know I'm anxious.

So anyway tentative congratulations. And good luck xx

Cadmum Wed 19-Sep-12 10:18:03

Ack! Still spotting when I wipe. Brown yesterday. Pink today... This whole pregnancy following miscarriages lark is exhausting. I still feel sick and hungry so I am not eager to rush out for a scan since it would only offer a nano-second of reassurance (or confirm the worst)...

I hope everyone else is having a better day. Will keep Saturday's scan appointment but rush to emergency if the bleeding escalates as 11 1/2 weeks is too far along to miscarry on my own with 4 dcs in our small temporary apartment. :-(

WLmum Wed 19-Sep-12 12:48:33

Oh cadmum I really hope it turns out for you. Fingers crossed.

I was brave today and bought bunk beds so dds 1 and 2 can share and free up a bedroom for the newbie. Am 27 weeks today!

thinking of you cad not all spotting is bad spotting, I know several people who have had big bleeds and healthy babys xx

Well done WL I've also brought a naice changing bag and steriliser this week --and a newborn reindeer outfit blush-- Getting there slowly!

WLmum Wed 19-Sep-12 17:00:53

Ooooh reindeer outfit, love it! Will def get lo in some Xmas get up!

I am one of those parents who dresses the dcs up every year blush --and uses the photos as christmas cards-- ds has asked to get an elf outfit so he can be father christmas, dd mrs christmas and the baby there elf! The reindeer outfit is lovely its that supersoft material and has little antlers on the hood! Only payed £2 brand new with tags from facebook selling page.

They are going to hate me when they're older aren't they grin

Dd is loving nursery, there topic is babys so right up her street, she's taken to kissing my bump, she is adorable!

MrsReiver Thu 20-Sep-12 11:05:52

State I think that sounds lovely!! When I had DS I insisted I wouldn't ever dress him up, but when my Mum bought him a pumpkin outfit for hallowe'en and then a Santa outfit for Christmas I caved!

Cadmum - how you getting on today?

Cadmum Thu 20-Sep-12 13:32:53

Sorry! I was sure that I updated earlier this afternoon but my post is not here... No spotting today and still feeling sick, hungry, tired and basically pregnant. This whole lark will do my head in. Now I am really dreading Saturday's scan...

Thinking of you cad and keeping everything crossed xx

I was the same mrs thought it was cruel was very opinionated before pfbs arrival, and the he came and was also a pumpkin and then santa grin

Had a wibble today, we've got one of the nature nest cribs, and I'm not wondering if it was a ridiculous idea as we have two 'helpful' older dcs.

Cadmum Thu 20-Sep-12 14:53:01

State: You will love the nest. There will be times where the baby needs some down time. (Assuming that you older dcs are as interested in mauling loving as mine were... ) Don't wibble. The resale is great as well!

Sounds exactly like my older two!

Me and dp built it as soon as it arrived and dd was rather um vigorous swinging it, I explained she couldn't touch when the baby is in it, she will be four, I just had a panic. I have got the pram I can use downstairs but if wriggler prefers the nest I'd rather lift that down during the day.

They do get rave reviews and after a non sleeper I couldn't resist it, and they look so snuggly!

Cadmum Fri 21-Sep-12 02:41:14

My dd1 was nearly 3 when ds2 was born. She loved him to pieces and only gave him back to me when he needed to be fed... Eventually, we made a rule about his bassinet being a child free zone because otherwise he would have had no peace. (Ds1 was 5 and far more accepting of this rule...) I was surprised to have to have similar regulations with dd2. At 9,7, and 4, I thought they would respect her need for some down time but they just loved her too much too much!

Not that I can actually imagine a baby at the end of this journey but it would be interesting to see their reactions as teens. (They would be 16,13,11 and 7.)

Cadmum Fri 21-Sep-12 02:45:11

I forgot to add that I am 11+5 today and NO more spotting... The mystery continues. (scan on Saturday <<dread>>)

Ellisboy Fri 21-Sep-12 07:01:11

Morning ladies I had a miscarriage this week and will be trying again how quickly did u all fall again and did u have a actually period after or just the miscarriage my bleeding only last 3 days but still have lots of cramps

Cadmum Fri 21-Sep-12 07:42:45

Oh Ellisboy, I am so sorry... If you are still cramping and only had bleeding for 3 days, it might be best to have a scan to see if your miscarriage was complete.

Take care of yourself. I always waited for one full menstrual cycle before trying to conceive again. This is not necessary but makes it easier to date a pregnancy and allows your uterine lining to build up more thoroughly.

cad mine will be 5.5 and 4.1 when this baby arrives and imagine they will be just like that, I think the rule with the basinett is a very good idea and will implement that! Ds was 16mnths when dd was born and showed no interest until she used to laugh at him. This will be a learning curve for me, but dd is in nursery 9-12 and ds school 9-3 so I do get baby only time which will be nice.

ellis I am so sorry to hear that. I didn't bleed at all with my mmc as I had the erpc so I can't advise wrt that. But I'd always get checked to be sure. My mmc was complete around 19th Dec, this baby is due 22nd Dec, so for me I fell quite quickly, I didn't actively ttc as such we just went with the flow and it happened, best of luck xxx

welliesandpyjamas Fri 21-Sep-12 14:31:20

Ellis and cad - how are you now?

swansea - what news from you??

state - another vote for the Amby here. We had one for ds2 after ds1 was an awful settler as a baby. Ds2 is a faaaaaar better sleeper and whilst I can't say for sure whether it was just his nature or that the amby helped, I am most definitely using the amby again for this little one! I just need to turf DH's desk out of the bedroom to put it together in time!

One week left! This time next week I should be, fingers crossed, touch wood, etc etc etc, sending out my birth announcements! grin

Hope everyone else is well smile

Omg wellies a week!!! <Squeals>

Glad the amby was a good choice, we saw one in kiddicare a few weeks back and both just wanted it, glad we did now, I'm hoping that and swaddle wraps will create a more content baby, dd was such a screamer! I love the fact that they pack away so easily for if we go away, the big two always hated sleeping in something different when we visited the ils!

SwanseaMum Fri 21-Sep-12 18:29:41

Yay wellies 1 week that awesome smile

Looks like I only have 4 weeks left myself as the cardiologist wants me to have a c-sec cause of my heart. I have also been started on a beta blocker to slow my heart rate
37 weeks roll on smile

Hope everyone else is ok xx

welliesandpyjamas Fri 21-Sep-12 20:50:42

Hey, that's great, swansea! I'm pleased someone is taking you seriously and putting yours and baby's health first x Tell baby to stay put now until the big day grin

Great news swansea! Big countdown now!

I'm 16 weeks today. Feels like another milestone for some reason. smile

WLmum Fri 21-Sep-12 21:14:11

wellies!! looking forward to news from you!

state - saw you in the news round up! Woo hoo!

Ellis so sorry to hear that. I think it really depends on how you feel, I was told that I didn't need to wait for a period but I felt that I wanted to. It took me a long time to conceive again, but then it did with dd1 and 2 so not to do with mcs, just us. Good luck.

Glad your finally being taken care of wellies and huge good luck, my ds arrived at 37wks smile

16wks seems a big number when you reach it I felt the same backward

Haha yes WL not the best quote for a madwomen expecting dc3! grin

Well as for me tomorrow I reach the third trimester aaarrrgh!! 27wks!! Baby gave me a boot today and I saw it without properly looking smile off to an NCT sale on sunday I've only been to one before when ds was 4mo and got some excellent bargains. I'm on the hunt for swaddle wraps. Dp says nct sales terrify him in his words "hundreds of hormonal pregnant women and new mums, all fighting for a bargain, its terrifying and no elbowing allowed" the look of horror on his face that goes with this is hilarious, he is SO coming sunday, he's 6"5 and spots things over the crowd haha!

WLmum Sat 22-Sep-12 07:15:54

He is right though state! happy bargain hunting.

Cadmum Sat 22-Sep-12 09:44:46

Scan appointment was a complete fail. After waiting 2 hours in the waiting room, the receptionist informed us that the doctor was going to eat her lunch... We had to reschedule for Wednesday. Caddad was not amused as I suspect that I am not fun to be with on scan day... Roll on Wednesday...

GoldPedanticPanda Sat 22-Sep-12 10:52:02

Hi everyone, could I join?

I had a mc last year but didn't know I was pg until I'd mc. After that happened DP and I talked about trying for a baby, and after 5 months we finally conceived. But sadly we mc at 8 weeks, a day after our scan. We were told we could try again straight away but thought it would take months again, but I fell pg 2 weeks after mc and I'm now 5 wks and terrified of mc again. Falling pg has brought up a lot of feelings from the mc all over again too, is this common?

That's awful cad I'd be fuming! Hope your ok though, and caddad, I'm guilty of forgetting about dp on this rocky road xxx

Welcome panda congratulations and also so sorry for your losses. I found after feeling ok ish getting a bfp dragged everything back up alongside the fear of a repeat I had the grief, until 12wks I was a mess and even now have moments of fear, its totally normal, good luck xxx

As for me, officially third trimester today! shockgrin

WLmum Sun 23-Sep-12 12:33:24

cad that's awful. I would have def cried at the receptionist - don't they realise how emotionally charged these apts are?

Hi panda sorry to hear about mc but glad you can join us here. Totally normal to bring it all back. There was a year between my last mc (mmc) and this pg and it still brought it all back, I worried like mad about another mc and over analysed every twinge, symptom or lack of, and shed quite a few tears about the ones that didn't make it. At 27.5 weeks I am finally a bit more relaxed and enjoying this pg as I get lots of lovely movement and can even see it from outside now, and for thd first time yesterday had palpable bony bits sticking out!

MiggleMoo Sun 23-Sep-12 14:57:19

Hi all,
Can I come and play (calm myself more like) in here with you lovely ladies. In 2009 I easily fell pregnant and had my beautiful, perfect ds. In feb we decided to ttc again, cue mc in early may, mid june and august! I'm pregnant (5 wks) again and really anxious. Had lots of blood tests all looks well and I feel different this time, plus hormone levels better than any of the past 3 times. I am crossing everything for a sticky bean this time!
Does the anxiety get easier?

MiggleMoo Sun 23-Sep-12 14:57:21

Hi all,
Can I come and play (calm myself more like) in here with you lovely ladies. In 2009 I easily fell pregnant and had my beautiful, perfect ds. In feb we decided to ttc again, cue mc in early may, mid june and august! I'm pregnant (5 wks) again and really anxious. Had lots of blood tests all looks well and I feel different this time, plus hormone levels better than any of the past 3 times. I am crossing everything for a sticky bean this time!
Does the anxiety get easier?

Welcome miggle sorry for your losses but congratulations on your new bean, good hormone levels are a great indicator so fingers crossed. The anxiety does slowly get better but some days it rears its ugly head and is as bad as the early days. But on the whole now at 27 wks I'm feeling calmer.

Until this morning I had a nightmare, dreamt I'd had no movement and bleeding went to a+e and there was No HB. Thankfully that's where I woke up and baby was wriggling but crikey its shaken me up!

MiggleMoo Sun 23-Sep-12 15:24:18

Anxiety dreams are horrid!
I do have a quick question if anyone knows! Hospital recommended I take aspirin daily? Why would this be and are there any risks?

Baby asprin that's 75mg a day? I'm no expert but I know many women who take it and its given them a sucessful pregnancy and healthy baby, its to do with clotting I believe. If you go into conception topic there's a group called the mosh pit, ladies at all stages from mc/ttc/pregnant and actually had the baby since mcs, they know A LOT about asprin and vitamins, I'm over there frequently so do pop in and they can give you the real facts x

bonzo77 Sun 23-Sep-12 18:50:20

miggle I'm on aspirin 75mg. My obstetrician said that one of the common causes of iugr (intra uterine growth restriction, a blanket term for small full term baby) is clots in the placenta. DS was a bit small at 5lb11, had stopped moving and I had low amniotic fluid levels, all of which are suggestive of clots, although the placenta was not sent for pathology as DS was above the 5lb5 threshold. angry

As a separate but I suppose related issue, an excessive tendency to clot can cause mc. If you have had several mc and/ or have been shown to clot excessively, aspirin might be recommended.

At this small dose it is safe. I have been recommended to stop taking it at 36 weeks due to risk of pph or a bleed during cs. I do think it might be causing me some small nose bleeds, but I'm not worried about that.

I guess there are other indications for aspirin. Being pg increases your risk of all clots ( dvt, stroke, pulmonary embolism). Perhaps if you are already at increased risk of these (eg high bmi, history of any of these conditions) they might recommend it.

hzgreen Sun 23-Sep-12 20:54:57

Hi Miggle, I'm on baby aspirin too for a clotting problem but am using it alongside blood thinning injections after a diagnosis from the mc clinic, my ds was 4lb 6 so the placenta was tested and found that part of it had died due to blood flow problems, there were some other indicators too. However before the diagnosis I was advised to start taking it as a precautionary measure. Like bonzo I think it has given me some nosebleeds, although that could be the injections too, and I will stop taking it at 36weeks.

It is a very small dose and I havent been advised of any risks...

hzgreen Sun 23-Sep-12 20:56:10

Hi Miggle, I'm on baby aspirin too for a clotting problem but am using it alongside blood thinning injections after a diagnosis from the mc clinic, my ds was 4lb 6 so the placenta was tested and found that part of it had died due to blood flow problems, there were some other indicators too. However before the diagnosis I was advised to start taking it as a precautionary measure. Like bonzo I think it has given me some nosebleeds, although that could be the injections too, and I will stop taking it at 36weeks.

It is a very small dose and I havent been advised of any risks...

hzgreen Sun 23-Sep-12 20:56:57

Doh, sorry for multiple post. Damn back button!

Morning, just marking place as I've been away and need to catch up! Hope you're all well x

Weetabix anyone?

Hiya possum hope your doing ok x

MrsReiver Tue 25-Sep-12 14:06:05

Hey Possum, I know it's past lunchtime but I could go some weetabix - passes the sultanas round YUM!

MiggleMoo Tue 25-Sep-12 14:15:57

Thanks for the advice all, I was called back in the Dr's this morn for a blood test to check my clotting, so that must be what they are worried about, I do wish they would be a bit clearer with me though! However at least they are doing something!

My gut feeling is this baby will be ok - don't know if that is just hopeful hormones or what but we will see!

Weetabix please possum. It is lovely to see you doing well, I remeber you from when I was last in these forums a month or two back with mc no.3, so pleased it is all working out - it gives me hope!! smile

I do believe gut feeling can be trusted sometimes with my mmc I had no reason for it but I felt something was going to be wrong, and said to dp the night before we found out I was anxious and mentioned mmc, and I didn't feel shocked when I was told.

This time I've had full blown freakouts and fear but never the same impending doom feeling.

27+3wks now!

pebspop Wed 26-Sep-12 09:54:27

hi everyone

thought i would join in here. i 'know' some of you from the mettaling thread.

i am on my fourth pg and have no children yet. i have a nt scan booked for tomorrow and i am panicking about the risk of something being wrong with the baby.

i am 32 so not a massive risk for downs but i am really worried that something like this will show up.

i have had two nt scans in the past and they were ok but still mc'd later. this time i am taking asprin, blood thining injections and high dose folic acid.

Cadmum Wed 26-Sep-12 12:01:22

Hello wceryone. I am in shock! Scan went beautifully. One tiny baby measuring right for dates and everything. Thanks for the hand holding!

Now comes the scary part for me. My miscarriages are second trimester mmc for no apparent reason and detected at routine scans. Only with my first loss did I even have an inkling that something was wrong.... Expect me to be an irrational stress case from now on...

The consultant was lovely today; he was thorough; compassionate and patient. My uterus is so tipped back that I needed an internal scan. (At 12 +4!!!) No previa either so even if I do have a mmc, I can avoid the c section with high risk of hysterectomy.

Sorry for me me me ramble. I am posting on my phone.

Great news cad I too have a tipped uterus and had to have dildo cam at 12wks, got a fantastic picture though so that made it worth it! We'll be here hand holding when your worrying about swollen ankles at 30 odd weeks, try not to worry this thread has a high sucess rate smile

Welcome over pebs smile

gemdrop84 Wed 26-Sep-12 21:04:10

Hi ladies, congrats on your scan cad! Hope you and bumps are all well x
Just checking in to see how everyone's getting on. We're actually moving this wkend shock which is why I haven't been on for here a bit.
Was supposed to move last wk of oct but got the keys last wk. I've been packing like a crazy woman when dd has been at nursery and dp's been dropping boxes off every night. It's exciting but will be glad when it's all over! I CANNOT believe it.... I'm 24 wks tomorrow....grin
And I'm celebrating by buying a lovely travel system this wkend, feeling bit nervous about that but I get giddy just looking at prams etc grin Must be feeling braver as I made a list yesterday of stuff to buy. Seth is a really wriggly little thing which is great and he seems to respond the most to dd's voice, awww

WLmum Wed 26-Sep-12 23:09:51

Hi pebs fingers crossed for your scan tomorrow and for the longevity of this pg - sounds as though it really is your turn! How many weeks are you now?

miggle listen to your gut, I am a strong believer in gut feelings.

As for me, got 28 wk mw check tom, looking forward to seeing what bump measures as everyone is saying I'm massive and express great shock when I say I've still got 12 weeks to go! I'm hoping it's just that I'm all out front and not that I'm growing a sumo baby!

WLmum Wed 26-Sep-12 23:13:51

Great news cad bring on the irrational crazy, we're v good at it here! I had to have internal scan at 12 weeks with dd1, like state got great pics which make all the others look rubbish!

Good luck with the move gem 24wks is a huge milestone, officially viable, glad Seths a wriggler its so reassuring isn't it! What pram are you looking at getting? <Total pram tart> I can confess now I'm so far along I actually swapped dds pram before I was pregnant for a bugaboo that I've been slowly doing up (new wheels etc) for this dc blush

WL I'm the same I'm 28wks on saturday and feel HUGE, the bump is taking over and I also get the shock when I say 12wks left!

I've been asked to make a birthday cake for tomorrow so the money I make on that I'm buying wriggler a nice bouncy chair <pretends to forget the m&ps swing upstairs> grin

Anyone else get the emmas diary packs from argos? I got the 27wks+ one today and there's a mumsnet and bio oil advice guide, its quite amusing!

gemdrop84 Thu 27-Sep-12 11:37:12

I'm really not too sure State! I'm getting myself all worked up as there seems to be so many options! I want a 3 in 1 with a carrycot which I can put Seth in downstairs as we bought a crib for our bedroom on ebay and didn't go for a moses basket. We also need one with big solid wheels, not tatty plastic ones as we like to go down to the beach and walk the dog in fields etc. I've seen one called a babymerc s6 on ebay, a 3 in 1 travel system £184.99! shock looks too good to be true, everyone was telling me a good quality travel system costs over £300 so nearly had a funny turn when I saw that. Or could buy a good second hand pram/pushchair 2 in 1 and just buy a new car seat and then a 2nd hand moses basket for downstairs. But I've also seen on mothercare website the xtreme pushchair travel system for £200 with carseat. sigh Decisions decisions!

Ooh I've not heard of that one! I was lusting after a babystyle oyester but when someone offered to swap me, I only need to spend about £60 on the bugaboo to get it looking perfect, I had a mothercare xtreme for ds, had a solid carrycot that clipped on like the carseat, don't think mothercare do the cots anymore but ebay probably have them about. It was a lovely pram to push and ds was very comfy, only sold as dd arrived and I needed a double.

gemdrop84 Thu 27-Sep-12 11:53:19

oooh I'll have a look on ebay then to see if I can find a carrycot for the xtreme one, it looks really sturdy and just what we need, also in our price range, thanks! smile

They are sturdy without weighing stupid amounts, we used to walk all over with ours, the foot rest is also perfect for tired older siblings to catch a ride, I always had my sister sat on mine, she's 2 1/2 yrs older than ds.

WLmum Thu 27-Sep-12 13:15:55

Well my belly is officially huge! Mw measured me today as 31cm instead of 28cm. She said no cause for concern yet, particularly as I have another scan booked at 32 weeks. Too much chocolate perhaps? I think if the sonographer looks carefully she will see baby floating in chocolate button infested waters! Will try hard to be good from now on.

WLmum Thu 27-Sep-12 13:17:23

gem we got a second hand mothercare my3 travel system from eBay for dd2 which I loved and fully plan to use for this baby with a buggy board for dd2.

gemdrop84 Thu 27-Sep-12 13:29:20

hee hee wlmum I've been having quite a bad choc craving, particularly dairy milk,so dread to think how big I'll be! had a look at the my3 and that sort of thing is exactly what we're looking for. I'll keep an eye out and hopefully get a good deal somewhere! smile Thanks ladies, I've been going cross eyed looking at them all, dp just says get whichever I'm happy with but I need some suggestions from people who know what they're talking about smile

My mum had the my3 for my brother the pram on it is huge and lasted really well, he was 11lb2oz and slept in it on holiday at 10mo. Loved pinching it when I could. Told you I was a pram tart! blush

My baby is floating in orange juice, I swear the amount I drink. Possibly surrounded by rowntrees randoms!

welliesandpyjamas Thu 27-Sep-12 14:01:40

Ahhhh, listen to you talking about prams and cots and cravings smile So nice that so many of us have reached the point of being to discuss it without dreading the worst. Hasn't this thread been great for our sanity!

Well, a quick post before the Big Day tomorrow. Very exciting and I am officially READY now! MIL is here and has taken over beautifully, letting me rest and get ready. I'm trying to resist the urge to address those silly unecessary nesting tasks, like sorting out the understairs cupboard and putting up a new washing line hmm and have just plans for a nice bath next (and try and shave my legs for the surgeons hmmgrin), followed by a quiet evening with DH and the boys. Early start in the moring, taking antibiotics at 6, and arrive at hospital for 7. Wish me luck! I'll report back once I'm home again x

gemdrop84 Thu 27-Sep-12 14:36:22

Yeah it's nice to be able to talk about this stuff without 'the fear' hitting too hard! Good luck wellies and all the best to you! smile x

Its quite unbelievable isn't it!

wellies <squeals> I'm so excited for you, our first arrival! Good luck shaving your legs, I've fond memories of doing mine before having my big two. Enjoy your bath and make sure you rest! Can't wait to hear of your arrival.

SwanseaMum Thu 27-Sep-12 17:36:00

Eek wellies so excited for u!!!! Let us know asap take care xxxx

WLmum Thu 27-Sep-12 17:43:02

wellies!!!! tomorrow! So excited for you! Can't wait to hear all the vitals.
Tmi warning - when u had dd2 I was told I had to shave my unmentionables but obviously there were was no way I could do it myself so DH obliged - never been so nervous in my life! See him puff his chest with pride when the surgeon commented on what a neat job!

MrsReiver Thu 27-Sep-12 17:43:38

Wellies this is so exciting! Good luck for tomorrow and good luck shaving your leggies smile

Gem I LOOOOOOVE Pram talk, my friend has a My3 as well and adores it. Her DD is 3 and she still gets a lot of use from it. We're currently settled on the Graco Symbio, I want a pramette as I don't have anywhere to store a carrycot afterwards. I did like the OBaby Zezu but they're changing it and I don't like the new one at all. However just because we're settled for now doesn't mean I'm going to stop shopping.

Does anyone else have a pinterest board of baby stuff? I started pinning when we started TTC, I took a looooooong break around the MC but I've been feeling confident since I started feeling flutters so started pinning pretty changing bags and slings again. It makes me very happy! grin

My DH has declared me "ofishuly broken" in a text this evening after I messaged him moaning about all my aches and pains. I got in a right tizz this morning, I'd been dusting which set off my asthma, after coughing for ages my belly was aching and I was getting tightenings on and off. Rang the maternity triage who said that it was normal and nothing to worry about unless it becomes worse and rhythmic like contactions. Of course whenever I've coughed from now I've obviously been trying to spare my poor belly and now my shoulders are aching. And my tummy is STILL sore, and I'm still coughing.

However, the midwife told me to rest, not to do anymore dusting so I took her advice and spent the afternoon on the sofa with the delicious men of Downton Abbey for company, while browsing prams on tinterwebs. It was bliss.

I did have a board but after breaking the laptop lead I've not been able to carry on, my blackberry would implode if I attempted pinterest <sulks>

I've checked out the symbio, that was on my list with the oyester. Also lusted after a concord but they are £££. We had a mutsy before main reason I swapped was to use for dc3 I'd have to buy a huge solid carrycot, the bugaboo still has a good cot suitable for overnight but folds flat when I'm done with it, or have the carseat on. <Loves prams>

Rest <stern face, takes away cleaning products> smile

What changing bags are you looking at, I got mine last week with birthday money.

bonzo77 Thu 27-Sep-12 19:32:02

wellies have a wonderful delivery tomorrow, can't wait to hear about your baby once you meet in person.

MrsReiver Thu 27-Sep-12 19:45:01

My friend has a Concord - oh my word, it is incredible, her wee boy wasn't so wee when I had a shot and it pushes amazingly! Unfortinately, like you said they are soooo expensive. If money was no object I'd have a bugaboo, but I want to get a Melkaj sling so can't have both. Boo.

I've got my eye on the babymoov bags, I've got some birthday money aside as well, otherwise I wouldn't spend £40 on a bag!!

bonzo77 Thu 27-Sep-12 20:45:30

I hadn't really thought about changing bags. For DS I used to just use a large handbag, so planning to do the same this time. As for buggies, hopefully DS will be out of his by the time this one comes and new baby can go in the old bugaboo bee, perhaps with a buggy board for DS. A friend has lent me her phil and teds with the double kit, so if we do need a double i'll use that. It's a shame that it won't work as a double with new baby rear facing, but I think it won't get much use anyway. If anyone is thinking of getting a new buggy, I really would recommend the Bugaboo bee. It's been great since birth (even with tiny 5lb 11 DS), light weight, one piece fold, all the fabric comes off to go in the washing machine and DS is still just about OK in it at 2.6

Actually, I'm not planning on getting anything new for this baby. Last time I didn't really know what I needed till DS arrived. I suppose I should get a new mattress for the crib, but the old one only got used for 6 weeks, and had a plastic cover. Ditto the cot, though it has a washable cover and DS was never a sicky / leaky baby <tight fisted emoticon>.

We have just had some fitted wardrobes built in DS's new room, and bought him a new bed, and will get him bed linen etc, but he would have got those eventually anyway.

Slings never suited me last time, so probably won't bother this time.

I had a growth and doppler scan a couple of weeks ago, which was all fine, and saw the consultant on Tuesday who was very happy with everything. She was very busy, running late and a bit brisk, though not unpleasant. I'm still undecided on the CS, so will probably play it by ear for now. I suspect that there is a high chance that I will end up with one whether it's planned or not. I'd like another one for the actual known quantity aspect, and lack of pain, but not so keen on the longish recovery (athough it wasn't that bad last time, and a traumatic VB will take longer to get over).

Ramble on (wasn't that Led Zep?)

MrsReiver Thu 27-Sep-12 21:26:37

We're getting very little new as well. My parents are foster carers but have stopped fostering little babies so I'm getting their old moses basket and crib - just need to get new mattresses - and even my mum's washable nappy stash!

All we need to get new this time are some clothes and the pram. The Melkaj and Babymoov bag are wee treats for me! I've still got DS' sling stash although it's out on loan - so I don't really need the Melkaj, it's just so pretty. I said to DH the other day that I was thinking of spending any Christmas money we get on some newborn cloth nappies. You should have seen the look on his face - he thinks I'm insane!

I'm after a close caboo carier, I had a ring sling with dd I still have but the close caboo looks soo comfy!

I've got a bugaboo frog/cameleon I say both as I've swapped so many parts its half and half, love it, dream to push with dd in last time I used it she was 3 1/2.

I've got a pink lining change bag, got it for £20 bnwt from someone who was brought two as gifts (who gets two £79 bags?) I love it already want to pack it lol!

WLmum Thu 27-Sep-12 22:27:37

Yay another reusable nappy fan! This baby will be getting 3rd hand nappies! We should only need to buy anything new if it's a boy, otherwise all dds stuff will do, most of which was not new to start with.

V interested to hear about your sling stash - I tried a couple with dds but didn't get on with them really but have been looking again for this baby as I'm concerned that I won't get enough cuddle time or generally have enough hands. What do you recommend?

PedanticPanda Thu 27-Sep-12 22:34:16

Are you all doing your pelvic floor exercises? I've read and read and read everywhere about keeping on top of these exercises but I'm terrified of doing them. I'd done some the night I miscarried and while the rational part of me thinks of-course this had nothing to do with the mc but on the other hand I'm so scared of causing another mc by doing exercises.

MrsReiver Fri 28-Sep-12 08:42:34

Hi Panda - I can totally understand your anxiety, and no matter how many times we tell you pelvic floor exercises didn't cause your mc, that isn't going to stop worrying.

If I was you, I wouldn't worry about doing them now. Wait until you are feeling more confident - whether that's when you've had your scan or are feeling movements is up to you. I only do mine when I remember, so that's normally after I've sneezed and regretted not doing them more often. grin

WL - "stash" is probably pushing it, I've got a pouch, a stretchy wrap, a Storch, a patapum and a calin bleu gauze.

The perfect kind to start with is a stretchy one like State's close caboo, the immense length of material can be a bit intimidating but they all come with clear instructions. Once you get to grips with it though you could move on to a woven one like a storch or didy. Ring slings are also great. If you don't get on with wrapping, mei tais are fab and there's so many different ones and there are lots of different ways of tying them so you can get the support just right for you.

pebspop Fri 28-Sep-12 10:36:53

quick one before i go back and catch up - you lot can talk lol!

everything was fine at the scan. i am 13 weeks today and the baby was measuring the right size which is good news as in the past the baby has always been a bit smaller than it should be due to it not growing properly and mc'ing.

the next few weeks will be scary for me as i had mmc at 20 week scan before. i am having two weekly scans at the epu and my midwife is hopefully going to visit on the weeks in between to support me.

i am taking heparin and aspirin this time though so hopefully that will work and i will get a baby finally. it's two years since i first got pg and i still haven't got one.

will read back now to catch up on all the news.

Great news on the scan, pebs x

17 weeks today. Feel huge. Much bigger this time than with DS. Have midwife on Tuesday and then have to wait until 31st of October for my '20 week' scan! Seems like ages...

Fantastic news pebs really hope the 2 weekly scans help reassure you!

I feel the same possum my next scans 1st November, my last one was almost 8wks ago! I know most people don't get anymore after the 20/21wk one but I can't help but feel the need for my next scan iyswim.

Ooh mrs you do know your slings! <Pushes close caboo from wants to NEEDs list>

I got wrigglers christmas present today, gorgeous bouncer/rocker chair --and some baby uggs blush--

WLmum Fri 28-Sep-12 22:07:43

Super pebs look forward to hearing more positive updates from you.

MrsReiver Fri 28-Sep-12 22:47:52

Compared to some of the slingaholics out there - I am a complete beginner grin

Pebs that's great news about your scan, I totally get the agony of waiting in between them. I've got one on the 10th of October. I know I'm really fortunate to be getting another one at 34 weeks but 14 weeks is SUCH a long time to wait!

MrsReiver Sat 29-Sep-12 10:53:59

Oh State, you've done it now. I've just been drooling over Pink Lining bags - they're so gorgeous but twice the price of the Babymoov I had my eye on. I hope Santa is good to me this year....

I have one with cherrys all over it as our prams red, dp took one look at it as said, "I am not using that" I told him he knew where we keep carrier bags. grin I'd have never brought one at full price I got a bargain so couldn't resist.

All I need now is the carseat and bottles just in case, I'm sure my want list keeps taking over though! blush

MrsReiver Sat 29-Sep-12 16:37:22

I like the Rosebud ones... I think there will be a trip to Mothercare to see them in the flesh.

What won me over was the lining, not just that its bright pink, but inside is super organised and all wipe clean and waterproof so no leaks will ruin the pretty outer fabrics --or the car boot <bitter experience>-- or get stained and wrecked by stray suncream or yogurt raisins.

So 28wks today and starting to really feel pregnant, I've always been a night owl but am creeping off to bed earlier and earlier these days, mainly because its comfortable smile

SwanseaMum Sun 30-Sep-12 19:18:22

Any one heard from wellies?

I am 34weeks tomorrow thank goodness time is dragging big style at the mo grrr

Hope everyone is ok smile xxxx

WLmum Sun 30-Sep-12 20:39:13

Been wondering about her, hope all went smoothly. I've got major belly ache - muscles seriously separating and the minute I take off my major support belt (with extra strap for pubic symphysis - oh joy) it feels like a little foot is about to pop right out! Apparently I also have an umbilical hernia!

WLmum Sun 30-Sep-12 20:40:10

Swansea did you say you're having a c section soon?

SwanseaMum Sun 30-Sep-12 21:22:39

Wl yep delivering me at 37 weeks so I only have 3 weeks left thank goodness don't know how much more I can take smile
I had sp with my last 1 I was crippled towards the end, rest as much as possible take regular baths and painkillers if u can. I feel for u hunny X

WLmum Sun 30-Sep-12 21:27:33

Ah bless you, thankfully it's pretty mild - just as well as rest is pretty much a fiction just now! Unfortunately the effort of getting out of thd bath is starting to eclipse any benefits of the bath!

Hope you're resting up and that you feel well enough to enjoy newbies birthday.

Evening all.

Also been thinking of wellies hope all is well.

I can no longer do bending, sitting on the floor isn't something I'd recomend either. Get the feeling my niggly hips are going to complain more soon. God I feel awful saying this but is anyone else wishing time would speed up a bit? I love being pregnant but I get so anxious I just wish the time away and want the baby safe here in my arms.

WLmum Sun 30-Sep-12 22:42:48

Noooo, I def don't want time to speed up, I am so not ready for thus bub to arrive! Builders start tomorrow! And I totally feel I haven't had enough loving the bump time - you know how with your first you sit and gaze at it every evening and time is so scarce now with no 3! I figure by the time my mat leave starts I'll be so massive that I'll have no option but to sit and gaze at it so that's totally my plan. And I have to say, that whatever my niggles are, I count myself as super lucky as all 3 of my babies have been hard to come by and the alternative is way worse. Hope that doesn't sound horribly smug!

WLmum Sun 30-Sep-12 22:44:18

Totally understand about the anxiety though, and wanting it to be safely here. X

MrsReiver Sun 30-Sep-12 22:56:35

Oh bless you both, I hope you feel more comfortable soon.

I'm torn between wishing the time away and wanting to enjoy every minute. With DS I found out I was pg at 15 weeks and he was born at 34, and those 19 weeks flew past in a blur of appointments and getting organised. I don't really remember much of it so I want to savour every moment. However I'd quite like the baby out and in my arms where I can see it so I can stop freaking out quite so much. smile

Totally understand what you mean wl I also feel a little bereft once the baby actually arrives, really miss the bump and feeling movements, I do love being pregnant, but I send myself into a panic to regulaly atm to totally enjoy it.

That's how I feel mrs I have to say if I wasn't such a worrier this has been my easiest pregnancy.

Dp said to me yesterday, you look very pregnant, not sure how to take that so replied with well I'd hope so at almost 30wks! In his defence I do have a more prominent bump this time instead of the fat all over I got with my big two.

SwanseaMum Mon 01-Oct-12 08:57:28

I want this baby out right now, I don't do pregnancy well and have spent most of it ill. Don't get me wrong when he does finally arrive I won't know what to do without my bump as it is great for resting my mug on in the morning but I am so ready and have been since the first time I was admitted. Mrs I think 19 weeks sounds like heaven lol :D
Hope everyone is ok xxxx

welliesandpyjamas Mon 01-Oct-12 09:23:22

Hi everyone smile Back from hospital.

I did it! Baby was born at 10.01 Friday morning, beautiful and dainty, weighing 7lb 14oz. We are all smitten, big brothers as well.

I'll add a pic to my profile for you in a while.

Hope everyone is well.

WLmum Mon 01-Oct-12 09:27:50

Huge congrats wellies that's fab news! Did it all go ok? Will be checking out your profile. Xx

WLmum Mon 01-Oct-12 09:30:05

So beautiful and peaceful! You made a good un! X

SwanseaMum Mon 01-Oct-12 09:49:53

Congrats wellies, your pic is lush smile take care hunny xxx

WLmum Mon 01-Oct-12 09:53:13

You've had such a rough time Swansea it's no wonder you want it all over. Try hard to rest and focus on the positives to come soon! X

Congrats wellies! grin

Cadmum Mon 01-Oct-12 10:08:52

Congratulations Wellies! She is BEAUTIFUL!

Congratulations wellies she is beautiful! <Squeals> our first graduate! smile

<Inhales new baby smell>

welliesandpyjamas Mon 01-Oct-12 13:46:41

Ah, thanks everyone x

She is a dream and worth all the waiting. We're currently enjoying lovely cuddles in bed, the joys of the newborn days smile

C-section was fine and recovery as painful (or more!) as I remember but I don't mind! She's a good little feeder too and has got her little lifestyle sorted: eat, sleep, stare cutely at adoring parents, and then repeat!

gemdrop84 Mon 01-Oct-12 13:48:44

congratulations wellies and well done! she is so beautiful! Amazing! I feel like I want to get this pg over with but as dp said last night im going to miss being pg so enjoy it while it lasts! Wont initially but when it starts to sink in that this is my last pg I will feel quite sad. In the new house now, its great and feels like a palace compared to the flat! My back has started aching right on my bum bone and getting pains round the bottom of my bump when im walking around so this boy is certainly going to be a bruiser!

MrsReiver Mon 01-Oct-12 15:51:34

Oh Wellies she is just gorgeous, huge congratulations!!!

MrsReiver Wed 03-Oct-12 11:05:01

Just popping in to see how everyone is doing smile

I have a bug and feel awful sad not been sick at all today though so hoping ill be ok for my MW apt this evening. <Feels sorry for self>

How's everyone else doing?

MrsReiver Wed 03-Oct-12 14:49:56

I was choked with the cold yesterday, had to cancel my flu jag and spent the day in bed watching Downton Abbey. Feeling much better today.

Hope you get to your MW and feel better soon.

Feeling a bit better this afternoon.

I don't know about everyone else but being a little bit poorly when pregnant hits me harder than usual, guessing its because the baby sucks all my reserves, its been kicking so much today I could see them, not that pleasant when you feel sick!

WLmum Wed 03-Oct-12 20:30:11

Glad you're feeling a bit better state, yup immune system is shut when you're pg so bound to feel worse. Touch wood I've escaped the colds my two have had...so far!

Had my 28wk check today, all ok, bit disapointed they didn't check the HB, they don't anymore apparently sad backs killing me this evening, wretching and laying on the sofa too much I'm guessing.

Not sure if anyone else watches hollyoaks but it made me all teary, Nancy had her mc at the same time as me, then her new pregnancy story line started around the same time as my 10wk scan, she's just delivered early at 26wks, I know its not real but it really pulled at the heartstrings!

MrsReiver Thu 04-Oct-12 10:34:56

State, I don't watch Hollyoaks but I can imagine how you would have felt, things like that seem to get to me as well, the slightest thing sets me off these days! And yep - bugs seem to completely wipe me out right now when everyone else shakes them off after a day or two.

Another panic last night, had horrible sharp pains every 5 minutes for about 45 minutes, was really working myself into a tizz. Two paracetemol and a bath helped so I went to bed early. They seem to have stopped but I'm really sore, I feel like I've done a load of sit ups.

I had really awful braxton hicks with DS, so I'm hoping this isn't the start of it - in the end they got so bad I went into labour at 30 and 32 weeks before he was eventually born at 34 weeks. I know it's not really premature but he was so poorly. I would hate to go through all that again, DS is still dealing with health issues as a result of his early-ness.

I've had pain all around the line of my ribs today, not pleasant.

My ds was 36wk but scbu adamant my edd was wrong and he was more 34, luckily at 5yo we seem to have left the health issues behind but for a while we were forever in and out of hospital so I understand your fears with that!

Having awful back pain/aches aswell but a hot water bottle is fantàstic, baby is very active and making me even more uncomfortable.

But I am not complaining! Haha!

MrsReiver Thu 04-Oct-12 12:43:10

Oh it was awful for the first few years - and could they put all the appointments in the one hospital? So we were all over the place at lots of different bloody hospitals for different specialties. Fortunately he's 8.5 now and all we see is the nurse who takes care of his misbehaving bowels. He gets down about it occasionally as it's not the nicest condition to have, but for the most part he's quite cheerful. He's one of the smartest kids I know, so he has a lot of insight into his situation - he realises it will probably be long term and worries how to deal with it as an adult - and this means for awkward conversations every so often.

I sometimes worry how I'm going to cope with his needs (having to remind him to go to the toilet, keeping an eye on his bowel habits and adjusting his medication accordingly) and those of a little baby but I'll just have to get on with it.

Oh bless him, he sounds a wonderful young boy though, I'm sure you will all do just fine! Ds is 5 now, and very fortunate that the only lasting thing is he's a bit small, and is slow to gain weight, not underweight just low end of the graph as such. He had a lot of breathing difficulties as a baby, in hospital every few weeks until 10mnths, often floppy and blue, utterly terrifying! He was also mute until 4yo. They're all the more amazing though aren't they!

When I was worried about keeping on top of ds meds etc alongside caring for dd (16mnth age gap) I had a small white board stuck inside a kitchen cupboard so it was private but I saw it when I made breakfast/lunch and dinner and kept it updated.

Well my back and ribs have finally eased off but this baby is SO busy today!

Also just got a message from school its school pictures tomorrow and as dds in nursery they'll do a pic of them together! Really hope they both co-operate, I'd love one of them together.

MrsReiver Thu 04-Oct-12 14:47:04

Oh that sounds so familiar, I remember rushing to A&E on a few occasions with a blue lipped baby. Terrifying what they put you through isn't it? DS was so tiny, but now he's in the 99th percentile for his height, but he is very slim, and could eat for Scotland without putting a pound on. And if he gets ill he fades away to nothing.

This baby just gave the most allmighty wriggle while I was looking at shoes online, the first movement that has been unmistakabely baby and not wind [Grin] I almost can't believe it - I'm 20 weeks next week! How the heck did that happen? Oh when I look back to the heartbreak we were going through this time last year, if only I knew it would get better.

I hope your DCs are on their best behaviour and you get a gorgeous photo of them! It's photo day here next week, I've been battling with DS' excema on his face and I think I've won - everything crossed it stays at bay until after next Tuesday!!

princesschick Thu 04-Oct-12 14:50:20

Hello all, newbie here, I got my BFP on Tuesday (still surreal) I'm 4wk4/40 at the moment. I've had 2 early MCs both at 6wks2 and have been trying on and off for 3 and a half years (24 cycles in all). My last MC was in May '11, which seems so long ago now. I am very scared today - its kinda taken over. Trying to keep busy but could do with a hand hold. thanks

Waves to you all anyway, it's nice to go from a TTC thread to a pregnancy thread, at least that's a small achievement in itself smile

SwanseaMum Thu 04-Oct-12 20:11:49

Welcome princess smile Congrats on the bfp!!

Had the whooping cough vaccine today my arm hurts like hell now but its definitely the safest thing for the baby!!

Still feel like shit the tightenings are still torturing me sad but at least I only have 2 weeks (well just over) till he arrives can not wait to meet my little man now smile
Hope everyone is ok xxx

mrs ds is 56th percentile, can't remember what he was when he was born but by 18mo he'd earnt the nickname buddah and was on the 96th for weight lovely chunky boy but then learnt to move and slimmed out again. Horray for huge baby wriggles, and whilst looking at shoes wink my baby did similar once which meant I had to buy the tiny newborn sized uggs, or so I tell dp haha! Hope his excema stays away, I had it terribly on my face as a child and it all vanished when I was 16/17.

Welcome aboard princess and congratulations. smile

2 weeks swansea I may be a bit jealous grin I've got to book my flu and whooping cough jabs, dd coughed today and I had a small breakdown, it was because she was sucking her hair blooming kid! Hope the tightenings settle or sod off all together xxx

I've worked out this is my most active baby because it has an very loud older sister, who has quite a pitch to her voice lol.

MrsReiver Fri 05-Oct-12 09:09:44

Welcome Princess and good luck - you'll find plenty of support and hand holding here smile

I hate needles and was all booked for my flu jag on Tuesday but my asthma was awful so had to cancel it, not looking forward to it next Saturday but needs much. Will definitely be getting the whooping cough one as well, I had "mild" whooping cough as a baby and my DM tells me I was very, very ill. It's a horrible illness.

Two weeks Swansea!! Wow - it's come round quickly, I hope the tightenings ease for you so you can enjoy this last fortnight as much as possible.

WLmum Fri 05-Oct-12 09:33:35

Waving to princess, early days are so much if a worry but hopefully you can take heart from the fact that recall worried ourselves silly and now we're talking about just weeks til big days!

Sorry about your asthma state, my allergies are terrible at the mo - were much worse than normal with dds too, but builders dust and mess is killing my nose. Am absolutely exhausted today as had v little sleep over last few days worrying about build and how to pay for it but I know it's a luxury problem to have. Touch wood it'll all be done by mat leave time. Cold ridden dd2 and I are snuggled up watching peppa pig. Poor little soul is not enjoying the disruption, unlike dd1 who wants to watch the builders all day long!

I will def have flu jab and whooping cough jab but have to wait for surgery to contact me!

SwanseaMum Sun 07-Oct-12 08:26:02

Hi girls how's everyone doing?
Got a terrible headache that will not go away, this is day 2 sad
My sister-in-law is coming down from Scotland today which I am not looking forward to one bit!!! My mil is bad enough without dh sister. I really have no patience for my inlaws when am pregnant especially when I feel this shit.
Let the week of hell begin maybe I can play the "oh I am not well" card and hide for most of the week.
O well moan over.
Hope everyone else is ok xxx

Hiya swansea sorry to hear you still feel rubbish. And you have unwanted visitors on the way, is there anything worse?

Afm, I'm now 29+1wks slowly getting more confident about everything, in between the odd panic. Struggling with a very stroppy 5yo son who does nothing but give me lip and make me feel like a total failure, dd occasionally copying. Back to school and nursery tomorrow and it eases things a lot, I'm just hormonal and easily upset I guess.

Cadmum Sun 07-Oct-12 16:29:52

Sorry Swansea, I hope the visit from SIL is not as bad as you are imagining and that your headache passes quickly. I cannot believe that you have only 2 weeks left (and have to spend one with dsil)!

State: challenging 5 year olds and pregnancy are not a great mix. Maybe nap tomorrow during school/nursery hours? That always worked wonders for me when expecting db3...

Welcome princess, I am happy to fret along with you. This thread has been a wonderful source of support. Share your worries here.

I broke a filling on Thursday and discovered on Friday that the tooth needed to be extracted. Very stressful as I don't enjoy dentists as the best of times. Now I am trying not to fret about the antibiotics being the wrong ones and hoping that I am eating enough with this 'soft food diet'.

To top it off, I am 14 weeks today and my uterus is till so tipped back that it is not out of my pelvis and I am finding it difficult to wee. Has this happened to anyone else with a tipped uterus. (NOT my first time but I do wonder is it might be a factor in my late losses.)

Sorry for the me me me rant.

cad I'd never put the two together but my uterus tips back and sometimes I've been desperate for a wee and struggled to go, even now at 29wks it can take a while to pee when I've felt I'm close to bursting.

Think ill try the nap thing, had another miserable day with ds. Just counting down until bedtime.

WLmum Sun 07-Oct-12 18:08:33

Sorry to hear about your head Swansea, that's rotten - def hide from sil if you feel you can't face it - I would!

cad horrid not being able to pee - watch put for infections! What does your dr/mw/sonographer etc say?

state nap for sure - tiredness makes everything so difficult to deal with.


bonzo77 Mon 08-Oct-12 07:41:41

Absolute shite weekend. Emergency admission to hospital with bleeding. Brown and mostly stopped now but spent Saturday night in getting no sleep. Dr there says he thinks my terrible night time cough is asthma so need to see own gp about that. Honestly, my stress levels are through the roof. Have builders starting this week, I'm meant to be taking it easy but DH has no comprehension that that means he needs to pull his weight even though he's working f/t. When I see the gp I'm going to have to mention my mental state. I think I'm really excessively anxious. I've also decided that I want this baby out ASAP and need the known quantity and plannedness of an ELCS.

bonzo I'm sorry you've had such a shitty and stressful weekend sad Hope this week gets better for you. x

I saw your other thread bonzo do they know what caused the bleed, hope you and Lo are ok. How many weeks are you again?

I'm pencilled in as ELCS, and seeing consultant on 1st Nov and want to ask for it around 38wks if baby is a good enough size, just cutting two weeks off my anxious filled wait would be fantastic. Let us know how you get on.

Had bloods today, late again, I was too ill to do them last week, can't believe in just a few days I'm 30wks!!!

gemdrop84 Mon 08-Oct-12 13:33:22

Aw bonzo I hope you're doing ok. I've had some brown spotting this morning. Very small amount though, literally a couple of streaks on tissue after had a wee and nothing since. Put it down to me and dp getting jiggy on Sat night. It's freaked me out and left me feeling crap! Know I should count myself lucky I'm 26 wks on Thurs but I'm really not enjoying this pg. The worrying and anxiety had eased off in the last wk or so. Then the backache, heartburn and feeling wiped out by 5pm started! Honestly can't wait til I have our little boy safe and sound in my arms and I can have my body back. Hows everyone else doing?

gemdrop84 Mon 08-Oct-12 13:52:21

and also to add to my list of pg pet peeves- leaky boobs and the constant need to wee! DD has just put a massive smile on my face though. She has just come in from the garden, written a letter to me (well it's scribbles with her name and a kiss at the end!) that apparently says I'm the most beautiful mummy in the world (yep, you heard it here first- it's official!) and she's going to kiss me lots. She's fab!

bonzo77 Mon 08-Oct-12 13:58:31

thanks all. Still having some brown spotting but hoping it's just left overs. It's really wound me up though. Very tearful this morning, so called midwives who have referred me to their psychology unit. Appointment not till a week tomorrow, but at least I have something in place. I'm 27 +3 and am now absolutely hell bent on getting an ELCS. Am going to collate all my info and put my foot down at each appointment till I get one booked. While DH is not absolutely useless, he can be very disengaged, and based on my experience of the attempted induction with DS, how he responded to me during / after the mmc and at other emotional times, I don't think he'll be any use as a birthing partner. So I would have to have my mum, or a doula or rely on the midwives. And as my last induction failed, and as they won't let me go past 41 weeks, and as they won't induce / augment labour having had a CS, and with my negative state of mind, it will end up with a CS anyway, they might as well just book it. My understanding is that if my consultant won't agree to one they have to refer me to another that will anyway.

The hospital dr also was concerned about my cough (at night time mostly, on and off for about a year) and thinks it might be asthma, so off to the GP about that. If I can improve my sleep I'd be most grateful... He also said no heavy lifting, so have taken that as an excuse to get DS a spare buggy... bit daft I know but I've found something that weighs nearly half of my old bugaboo bee and will also be less bulky to handle. Yes, throw money at the problem!

gemdrop, Oh how I echo your sentiments.... I too am fed up with the tiredness, the heartburn, want my baby out and my body back.

swansea honestly you are a saint having anyone to stay, but people who you find hard to tolerate are the worse. I am so pleased that we basically no longer have anywhere for anyone to stay over, unless they want to sleep on a floor or a lumpy, slippery sofa covered in cat hairs.

Oh dear, another long long me me me post from bonkers bonzo........

Your alright bonzo that's what we are here for smile I'm obviously no expert but I think you have a very good case for elcs. I had a failed induction with ds and ended up have a section and with dd and this baby at 12wks my consultant said csection or vbac, I'd reccomend a csec ok miss state? And that was that. If you go armed with the facts and a rational arguement they will listen and hopefully book you in, but at my hospital no set date is given until around 2wks before but you'll be told something like between 38-39+5 or similar, hope that all makes sense. Good luck! Xx

gem your dd is adorable! I'm fed up of the tiredness too, went to stay at the pils this weekend and had enough sleep but couldn't wake up this morning and had a 2 1/2 hour nap this afternoon and still feel wiped out!

MrsReiver Mon 08-Oct-12 17:20:33

Bonzo, so sorry you're having a rough time, good luck with your campiagn to get an ELCS. If it was up to me - I'd let you have it in a heartbeat smile

Gem - your DD is just the cutest thing! How lovely.

Swanswa - you are a saint! Polish that halo!

State - a bath and an early night for you tonight.

20 weeks today!!! does lap of honour I can't believe I'm half way there! Scan on Wednesday, I can't wait, I'm so excited. Feeling some really convincing wriggles these days which is really reassuring but then I have moments of blind panic when I think I'm kidding myself and imagining it. Will it ever pass? I doubt it!

Horray for half way mrs grin I still convince myself I'm imagining movements, I annoy myself haha!

SwanseaMum Mon 08-Oct-12 19:06:13

Hi ladies hope everyone is ok.
I feel proper depressed today might have something to do with the 3 day headache, nausea and heartburn.
That and I just found out my sis is having a baby girl, I am genuinely happy for her but I can't help feeling slightly down about it cause I desperately wanted 1 this time and I can't help thinking about the baby I lost and what if that was my baby girl the 1 I have always wanted. I feel awful feeling the way I do but I can't help it!!!
I am exhausted and a bit fragile emotionally at the mo. The anti-depressants obviously aren't doing their job cause I feel like shit :'(
Am I a terrible person for feeling like this?

gemdrop84 Mon 08-Oct-12 19:19:15

not at all swansea, hugs to you. Bonzo I know nothing on the subject of c sections but I cant see how they can refuse. State its so tiring. Have about 4 days a wk I hardly sleep due to weeing, back ache, baby having a party in my womb or insomnia! The remaining 3 days normally have a great nights sleep and feel like a new person! Its pretty hard going at the minute but not too long to go now. And congrats MrsR, fab to reach that stage and very reassuring getting all those wriggles! x

WLmum Mon 08-Oct-12 19:21:13

bonzo you poor thing - that sounds awful. Is everything ok now? Bi know it's so hard but rest rest rest. Do anything you can to make life easier - take aways, telly etc. We've got builders at the moment and it's pretty horrid - be out as much as you can - the noise won't help your anxiety and the dust won't help your cough.

Swansea of course you are not a terrible person, you can't help the way you feel and it takes courage to say it. Being down and depressed puts a horrible film over everything - hope you feel better once babe is born. X

shirley123 Tue 09-Oct-12 09:39:57

Welles, congrats smile so lovelysmile haven't been on for a while cos I feel so crappy, constant pains ( think its gas ...) midwife just said oh that's normal... But hurts so much feel faint constantly and morning sickness really bad too...12 week scan on thurs so fingers crossed...

Good luck for thursday shirley I had a lot of discomfort in the first trimester, so try not to worry.

I'm totally exhausted atm and feeling very fed up, time seems to be dragging.

MrsReiver Tue 09-Oct-12 16:23:06

I was very aching during my 1st trimester - I still am now, try not to worry about it too much and good luck for Thursday.

After a week long battle with excema and a dash to the hairdresser last night, DS didn't get his picture taken. Another boy with the same first name had his taken twice.

I've kicked up a right stink and a TA is taking him to another school in town on Friday to get it taken there. Do NOT mess with a pissed off pregnant woman.

WLmum Tue 09-Oct-12 17:37:13

Shirley I had some awful trapped wind early on too, generally speaking I am now at my most comfortable I think! For today anyway!

mrs that's terrible - I would have complained too. We got a data check form home yesterday for a different child - it seems that loads of people went home with other childrens details - data protection anyone?

Oh mrs what a bunch of muppets, glad you have it sorted though grin

I've had the first peaceful after school time with the dcs in what seems like months. I made pizza dough and sauce whilst they were both at school/nursery and had all the toppings chopped ready for the eldest getting home, they spent ages rolling out and shaping the dough and topping them, then sat quietly eating. Love the jamie oliver website grin

I still can't believe I will be 30 weeks in a few days!

shirley123 Wed 10-Oct-12 12:21:47

Yum yum state, sounds delicious, might have to do that for tomorrow eve....

Mrs, that's really bad!

Managed to do some housework today after crappy morning, hopefully will continue to be ok for later on, roll on tomorrow ......

I am exhausted today, keep waking up at night. Have booked my flu and whooping cough jabs today and that's as productive as I've got.

MrsReiver Wed 10-Oct-12 16:42:52

All is well! 20 week scan this morning was lovely - 2 arms, 2 legs, little heart beating away. Baby was totally uncooperative and kept wriggling and turning away from the sonographer to snuggle into the placenta. Am hugely reassured that I'm definitely feeling movements as I was able to watch baby move while I felt it! Baby has lovely long legs, which means I'm probably going to stay as the runt of the litter - I'm 5ft 3, DH is 6ft 2 and 8 year old DS is 4ft 6. So we're having another beanpole!

Due to the uncooperative little monkey we're going back for another scan in 2 weeks so the sonographer can try and check a couple more measurements she wasn't able to get today, but overall everything looks great.

welliesandpyjamas Wed 10-Oct-12 16:47:21

Hello everyone! Just dropping in to see how everyone is doing. Having a feet up moment after the busiest day so far since DD arrived - did my three school runs today for the first time, feeling quite knackered but also quite inspired that I am now getting back in to things. The first week was, as expected, a big blur, and I've gradually been feeling more 'me' since then (even though my body has tailed behind a bit!). Then I just had a couple of nights back in hospital with a suspected clot - luckily a false alarm based on a strange and sudden swelling of my right foot and leg. They don't know what caused it but there definitely isn't a clot there and it has now mostly gone down. My MIL is still here but leaving at the end of the week after doing a sterling job keeping my boys fed and happy and the house ticking over. I heart my MIL! And DD is, well, just gorgeous and a pleasure. I'm loving every moment grin

gemdrop84 Wed 10-Oct-12 16:51:26

lol MrsR, mine was also uncooperative and is a beanpole! Thankfully though he did cooperate in the end but it took a couple of gos on the day! I can't wait to meet him smile. Glad you're doing ok Wellies, again, congratulations! Hope everyone else is ok. xx

Great news mrs mines unco-operative too, its worth it for extra scans though grin

Great to hear from you wellies glad your doing ok, must have been a bit scary for a bit with the 'clot'. Do keep checking in when you can, I'm already thinking of our next thread name to include the graduates smile

WLmum Wed 10-Oct-12 20:49:38

Good luck for tom Shirley will be thinking of u. I got so stressed about my 12 weeker that I cried before, during and after and the sonographer had to make me look at the screen! I've got another scan coming up 2 weeks today - will be 32 weeks, followed by consultant apt to formally agree and book c section! My word that all makes b day sound so close!

WLmum Wed 10-Oct-12 20:52:39

Great news mrs, lovely to hear. You can really enjoy that next scan now.

Go wellies!!

Wow WLmum how exciting! :D I was a nervous wreck at my 12 week scan too, despite having had an early scan that went well, and cried with relief when all was ok.

Great news MrsR!

Lovely to hear from you wellies, so glad it's not a clot!

As for me, I'm 18+5 today (it's passing really quickly at the moment - remind me of this when I'm 34 weeks and moaning about it going slowly!). Work is very busy at the moment, I'm a teacher so what else is new, but we're on holiday as of Friday for 2 weeks so that's something to look forward to! I have loads of work to get done before maternity leave (I've had to write a list to keep myself right!) and it's stressing me out a little bit. Mostly getting coursework for my certificate classes finished before whoever does my maternity cover comes in. Means I have about 2 months less than I normally would to do it, but I'll just have to deal with it! Oh well...

My next scans 3 weeks tomorrow, ill be 32+5 also hopefully to set the section date wl grin it does make it feel soo close!

Sounds stressful possom make sure you get some rest when you can! 18+5 already, not long until that half way mark!

It feels like its gone really quick for me, then other days feels like time is dragging, can't win lol.

My dept. head did say to me today not to worry too much about getting it all finished before I go, but I feel like I'd be letting the kids down if I didn't. I'm too much of a perfectionist I think... wink

I'm the same would rather do it myself, so its done --the right way-- my way!

Absolutely! grin

Sugarcube25 Thu 11-Oct-12 10:08:50

Hi everyone, lovely to be here. I just got a positive result on my test, so exciting but the nerves are starting to take over. My last pregnancy ended at 7.5 weeks and I'm terrified of going through all of that pain again. Did any of you have early scans in your first pregnancies after mc? I'm seeing my doc on Monday and it would be handy to know if it's common practice to request a 7 or 8 week scan in these circumstances. Thank you all x

Congratulations sugar as you can see there's a high sucess rate for pregnancies following mc. Personally I didn't have an early scan as my cycle was still a bit out and I didn't want any uncertainty at the scan, I waiting until 12wks, but was actually 10wks, great scan though. If you want an early one ask, many women do smile

shirley123 Thu 11-Oct-12 11:40:10

You poor thing, I feel for you....

Well had scan and all's good, heart beat, brain, arms and legs and she even said she guessed a boy?! Can she tell this early? 12 weeks and 5 days and due on 20 April smile))) also nuchal thing from scan was low risk, waiting on bloods now.....

Soooooo relieved smile)))))) feels real now

shirley123 Thu 11-Oct-12 11:40:57

I meant to say state, you poor thing... iPad didn't update conversation...

gemdrop84 Thu 11-Oct-12 14:03:36

Hi sugar congratulations, I didn't want an early scan and was never told anything about it but I do know if you ask, due to the circumstances they would be able to give you an early scan. Congrats on the scan shirleyit is such a relief isn't it? I was adamant there would be nothing there and kept myself quite detached from pg on the day, looked away from the screen as sonographer was looking around as I couldn't bare it, then she remarked what an odd position baby was in and he was vry wriggly, I looked over to see him upside down looking so cosy and burst into tears. It was a very emotional day! x

Some can tell that early shirley but I'd hold off buying blue just in case smile glad it all went well.

I was the same at my first scan gem luckily my sonographer said in seconds, nice strong heart and showed us.

Well 30wks on saturday and I've realised as nice as a bath is dragging myself out afterwards is NOT. Bumps blooming HUGE!

gemdrop84 Thu 11-Oct-12 14:46:52

lol I'm the same state had a bath a couple of weeks ago, I'd spent a little while in there and it was bliss as I'd had back/bump ache all day but it was way too much effort to get out, dread to think what I'm going to be like in a month or 2! Everything seems to be too much effort to do at the minute and I'm still getting used to having stairs! grin

MrsReiver Thu 11-Oct-12 15:40:29

SugarCube - welcome and lots of hugs. Personally, I decided against an early scan (was offered one as I have PCOS.) Too early there's no guarantee of seeing a heartbeat even if little bean is viable, I just wanted to wait until 12 weeks so there was no chance of ambiguity. I'm not going to tell you the next few weeks will be easy, it won't be, I was physically sick the night before the scan and I'd convinced myself there was going to be nothing there. However keep this in mind - the odds are in your favour. Hold on to that, and come here whenever you are worried or anxious, we've all been there, we know how you're feeling. Take care, and hope the next 5 weeks fly past.

Possom - you sound like my cousin! She was frantically trying to get her biology classes ready for their exams before she went on maternity leave. Just pace youself and listen to your dept head!

Shirley - congrats on a great scan, fab news!

State - I'm starting to notice the water in the bath damming up behind my bump, I'm growing out at the sides as well as forward. (Who am I kidding? I was a size 18 before I got pregnant, I was never particularly graceful getting in and out of baths! smile)

Baby definitely punishing me for the scan yesterday, tried to grab an hour's sleep earlier and someone was having a good old jiggle behind my belly button.

WLmum Thu 11-Oct-12 15:53:01

Hi sugar sorry about mc but yay for BFP now. I had an early scan at 9 weeks as I just couldn't bear the thought of waiting til 12 weeks to be told bad news as per last time. I have to say though, having an early scan only helped a smidge with the anxiety as I'd had an early one at 7/8 weeks before that showed all ok, followed by sad 12 week scan. Google did tell me though that there was only a 1pc chance of mc after seeing a healthy heart beat at 9 weeks which gave me something to cling too. Honestly i would have another early scan, it helped me but clearly it's not so for everyone.

Totally understand the bath thing, the pleasure is now outweighed by the effort of getting out - boo!

I feel the same gem I hate my stairs, luckily dd and ds can be very helpful --when in the right mood-- and will fetch things for me, and we have two bathrooms so I avoid the stairs as much as I can, but even getting up out of bed off the sofas becoming an awkward task.

Same here mrs I spread slightly when sat down, I did enjoy my bath despite the performance getting out. Also shaving legs, just not happening, going to sweet talk dp. Lucky man.

I'm spending the day at dinasour adventure park tomorrow with dds nursery, wish me luck!

bonzo77 Thu 11-Oct-12 21:50:01

hi sugar. congrats on the BFP. I did get an early scan, I think it was 7 weeks. My mc had been a missed miscarriage that was only picked up at 12 weeks. I had probably been carrying about the unviable pregnancy for about 5 weeks, if not longer. I couldn't face that again. I picked 7 weeks because even if your dates are a bit out you can be pretty sure of seeing a heartbeat (if there is one) at this stage). I have to say, I have had loads and loads of scan this pregnancy (i'm 28 weeks tomorrow and I think I am having my 6th or 7th scan). They are vaguely reassuring, but I still worry like mad at every little thing in between. So far I've had unscheduled hospital visits for 1. not feeling sick (!) early on. 2. weird discharge. 3. reduced movement 4. spotting.

possom I'm also rushing to get work done before going on mat leave. I could get away with just dumping it all on someone else, but I feel bad for my clients doing that, and I'm self employed so the more I can get finished the more £££ for me.

shirley at my 12 week scan I asked the sonographer what he thought it was. He said he could make a good guess, but it can be a bit hard to be certain at that stage, so he wouldn't say. I happened to have the same guy at my 20 week scan and we asked again. He said it was a boy, which is what he suspected at 12 weeks (or so he says)!

wellies lovely to hear from you, glad that family life has resumed, and that your swelling was a false alarm.

state and mrs there's no way you'll catch me in a bath. Can't bear them anyway, and ours is so big and I'm so short that I can't really lie down without slipping everywhere and practically drowning. SLightly confused as baby and bump are both measuring perfect for dates, but people keep saying my bump is small, I think "people" don't know what they are talking about. I feel pretty big!

Anyone else got a sore bump? I get a sharp stabby pain in just one spot at the top of my bump to the right. I had exactly the same with DS. Once it's there the only relief I get is if I lie down for a while.

I get that bonzo along the bottom, usually if I get up quickly or from sitting on the floor, its not nice is it!

MrsReiver Fri 12-Oct-12 09:44:42

Bonzo Yeah my bump is really quite tender at the bottom, my MW says it's to do with the hormone relaxin which is produced during pregnancy to allow everything to stretch. It also has the rather unpleasant side effect of making it very easy to pull muscles and ligaments when you move too quickly. I've learned it's best to move slowly and deliberately so I look ridiculous, but it doesn't hurt!

Unfortunately I have no choice in the matter regarding baths, we don't have a shower and there's no way to fit one in our crappy bathroom. I just have to make sure DH is around in case I get stuck!

I didn't have a shower when pregnant with the big two, near the end I'd have my mum come help me every few days and stand and wash myself and hair over the bath from the sink, especially when pregnant with dd, I was terrified I'd get stuck when ds was in his cot, that bath was so so small though!

shirley123 Fri 12-Oct-12 13:39:13

Hiya, I am now feeling so much more relieved after the scan. First question I asked is "is there a heartbeat" then she went through showing us everything and it was all looking good, v well behaved baby too smile just a few hiccups smile. Will definitely hold off buying anything until dew date and even then I'll just get a few baby grows for the hospital and order the rest online when I get back, cos its our third we have all the necessary main things such as car seat, baby bed, baby bath etc so I can chill knowing I only need to get a few bits of clothing and some new born nappies.

I wouldn't dare try a bath as I'm also little and our bath is longer and wider than a normal one so I have to wedge myself so as not to float around, luckily we have a shower and I use a stool to get in and out , I'm not v far gone yet either but have started some SPD and sciatica sad

MrsReiver Fri 12-Oct-12 16:04:16

Shirley I was the same at our 12 week scan! I told her what had happened last time and said - "just tell me, is there a baby and is it alive?" When she said "Yup" it was one of the happiest moments of my life. DH and I just sobbed.

I'm so glad you're feeling more relaxed, it's lovely to be able to enjoy the pregnancy.

WLmum Fri 12-Oct-12 18:43:23

Ooh bonzo I have a pain every evening top left of bump! I guess it must just be the way I stand/sit/walk!

Last night baby was squishing my stomach so much I thought I was going to be sick! Am wondering if he's going to be a giant! Gaviscon is my staple diet at the mo!

I have a pain this evening in the form of a 30wk baby pushing its what I think is a foot into my hip bone, its really making me wince!

Hi I've just found this thread. Just found out in pg after 3 mc.
Thinking of taking aspirin and extra strength folic acid this time but got to see the gp this week.

MrsReiver Sat 13-Oct-12 12:54:15

LittleMiss - all the best. After 3 mc will you be getting an early scan? I have everything crossed for a h&h 9 months.

Had my flu jag this morning, feeling pretty rough, but it's got to be better than getting the flu!

Thank you. Fingers crossed for early scan. We weren't really ttc as have appt at rmc in nov! So not sure what's going to happen

Congrats little you can request an early scan if you want one in most areas. Xx

I had my jab this morning too mrs bit sore now but didn't feel it at the time!

I'm 30 weeks today! I can't quite believe it!

Should all pregnant ladies get a flu jab? Is it just in a certain trimester?

My midwife said they're advising everyone to get the jabs, whooping cough is between 28-38wks, flu I'm pretty sure is anytime but not sure.

MrsReiver Sat 13-Oct-12 14:16:52

Every pregnant woman should be offered the jag in flu season (now), whooping cough is 28-30 weeks.

I definitely felt it at the time, and it's pretty achy at the mo. Feeling rather sorry for meself sad

Ooh leant on my arm, that bloody hurt!

MrsReiver Sat 13-Oct-12 18:56:26

Oh bless my lovely DS just rubbed my arm and asked how I was. I was fab until you rubbed me right on the spot the jag went in darling.

Aww bless him.

My mum/dc and dp all managed to give mine a prod at some point, very tender now <wimp>

Do they have a specific arm them like to jab in so to speak? I have whooping cough jab tuesday and want it the other side I think.

MrsReiver Sat 13-Oct-12 22:13:24

I just think any big muscle will do, my GP asked which was my dominant arm and jabbed me in the other one. DH had his flu vacc on Tuesday and is still a bit sore, so I think you'd be perfectly reasonable to ask for the vacc to go in another muscle on Tuesday.

Thanks for the info mrs

My dps considering paying to have the jab, he always gets knocked badly by a fluey type thing every winter and doesn't want to when we have a new baby, asda pharmacy has it for £7, anyone think its worth it? My dcs have beastly immune systems and rarely get ill so no worries there!

Baby was very quiet yesterday and had me in bits fortunatly a pizza and cold drinks got the little bugger moving!

melli Sun 14-Oct-12 10:38:27

Hello ladies,

Just adding myself too, got a faint positive a week ago. The day my AF was due According to my calculations I am around 5 weeks.

Had two previous losses, one mmc (at 11 weeks) and a partial molar discovered at 12 weeks . I will also be requesting an early scan due to what has gone before.
Pleased there is a place where all the ladies now pregnant after loss can support and encourage each other. xx

Welcome to the thread, melli and congrats on the BFP. xx

Welcome melli congratulations smile

melli Sun 14-Oct-12 11:09:38

Thankyou lovely ladies x

MrsReiver Sun 14-Oct-12 20:22:48

Welcome Melli, and congrats on your BFP!

State - I definitely think it's worth it for £7, and I think that's £1 cheaper than last year isn't it? How's your arm now? Mine is actually worse than last year, and I'm also experiencing some discomfort across the muscle in my left breast. Very unpleasant.

I was NOT in the mood for shopping for maternity jeans today, but it had to be done. No where had their maternity range in stock! All "online only" apparently. Hurrah for good old Debenhams, a little more than I wanted to pay, but the perfect length and a size smaller than I usually wear. (vanity sizing I know but it works!!) I'm just on the hunt for the perfect pair of maternity leggings - any recommendations?

I've given up on my jeans, wriggler literally goes mad at my waistband if I dare wear them and I end up uncomfortable, stuck in legins now and longline tops and dresses, I got the next size up from my normal one in yours legins and they pull right up to just below my bra and don't fall down at all which is the biggest bonus!

Dps going to get the jab. My arms still quite tender, worse if I lie down or move it at all. I have been itchy today randomly all over nothing serious just a bit annoying, not sure if its connected.

Babys also quieter than usual, but our 'routine' seems to be busy for a few days, then quiet, then busy again, frustrating! But I'm bound to be in panic mode this week as its a year since I got my bfp for the mmc.

gemdrop84 Sun 14-Oct-12 21:15:32

Congratulations and welcome to the thread Melli wish you well with your pg! This thread has been great for me, full of lovely ladies and you'll get a lot of support here. Hope everyone is doing ok, I have my 28 wk appointment with the midwife in a fortnight, can't believe it, soon will be in the third trimester woohoogrin Been feeling bit sick today, presume it must be how baby is lying as I've had really bad heartburn last couple of days. Also had a really horrible trapped nerve like pain in my hand, doesn't seem to be too bad today but still niggling. Backache has eased off but is starting up again as I type this, had to go through a few boxes this evening to find my little hot water bottle! Just realised what the time is and honestly, this is the latest I've been up all wk! I feel like a right boring old fart at the minute as all I seem to do is sleep smile I miss staying up lateish and I miss wine, roll on Jan! grin

gemdrop84 Sun 14-Oct-12 21:28:05

Ouch state&mrsr not looking forward to that jab but got to get one with it I suppose! I had to go maternity clothes shopping at 14wks blush. It's fair to say I popped out quite early! Shopped for quite a while at peacocks, they seem to be the only affordable clothes shop which are a decent fit on me! So bought a couple of pairs of mat leggings from there, bought my normal size and they're really roomy although £8 a pair. I also managed to get 2 pairs of jeans on ebay for £5, 1 from peacocks, 1 is papaya, both over the bump, slouchy style, very comfy and will do the job. Tops I've bought are a range of long sleeve&vest tops for 99p each from charity shops in next size up.

gem I've been getting pains in my hands/wrists, I'm considering the gp as the best mine goes down to is a dull ache or feeling a bit odd. I've read online its quite common and there are things to do to help if you see a gp. My backs ok atm <tempts fate> but has been rotten a few times before, I used a hot water bottle too, it was magic!

gemdrop84 Sun 14-Oct-12 21:47:32

Glad your back is ok, mine is fine now! little boy has moved and seems to be jumping about on my cervix now, making me wince confused. Will look online about my hand, thanks, it's weird how these things just come on so quickly!

MrsReiver Sun 14-Oct-12 22:34:36

Ooh Gem, I hadn't thought of Peacocks, I'll give our local one a ring tomorrow and see if they have their maternity range in stock, their online store has yet to launch! I hope your hot water bottle helps, I think I might take one to bed for my arm. I'm sorry if we're putting you off LOL, it's not painful as such, just kind of "there" IYSWIM.

gemdrop84 Mon 15-Oct-12 08:09:11

yeah peacocks are the only shop in my town that do mat clothes in store so might be worth a look where you are!

SwanseaMum Mon 15-Oct-12 08:10:58

Hi ladies, welcome to everyone new and hope everyone is ok smile
I have made it just to 36weeks will get a date tomorrow hopefully this little man will be born next week smile I can not wait.

Omg swansea that is so exciting! I won't lie I am rather envy your there already, hopefully only 8wks to go for me!

MrsReiver Mon 15-Oct-12 09:03:40

Oh wow Swansea, that is fantastic! I'm so excited for you. And State, it will fly in before you know it!

MumTumWanted Mon 15-Oct-12 17:02:04

Hey ladies
I'm usually on the mosh out thread but Di lurk on here ... For those I don't know I'm 13 weeks ,, 3 previous mc varying degrees and dates and can't stop metalling !
Self I had to pop on just to say the pains in the hands and wrists .... Check out carpal tunnel .... V common in pregnancy I had with my dd 13 years ago it's dud to swelling and pushes on the nerves hence the pain tingly pins and Needely sensations . It's harmless and generally goes after but you can. Get externally worn wrist splints from the gp. A good clue is that despite it affecting hand wrist and fingers your baby finger is fine .... It doesn't go through the nerve carpal tunnel so is generally unaffected by the swelling ... Hth xxxxx

MumTumWanted Mon 15-Oct-12 17:02:58

Damn I phone and auto correct I can spell I promise blush please excuse the previous errors !

gemdrop84 Mon 15-Oct-12 18:15:41

oooh swansea I bet you can't wait! thanks mumtum

Hiya mumtum

I've googled carpal tunnel but I don't have swelling that me or dp notice, my rings and fitted bracelets aren't tighter, yet I get it exactly as you explain, not my little finger and lots of pins and needles pains and then constant aches, will ring my gp tomorrow. Dp said its me spending too much time on mumsnet!

Whens your next scan mumtum? Mines 1st November, seems aaages away, but then I remember everything I have left to buy for dc3 and christmas oh and dds birthday and think the next 10 weeks are coming up too fast!

Hope everyones doing ok. swansea do we have a date yet?? smile

WLmum Mon 15-Oct-12 20:31:31

So I get home from work to find we now have no water supply in the kitchen for the next couple of weeks - any tips on washing up in the bath with a massive 7 month belly?!

bonzo77 Mon 15-Oct-12 21:06:47

WL only suggestion I have is for someone else to do it. Or use paper plates!

Are you anywhere near a macro or £land? Get disposable oven trays/plates etc and wash up the bare minimum. Tbh that kind of thing would push me over the edge!