WWYD? Supposed to be taking part in a race this weekend and 6 wks with spotting?

[worrywarts]

Hi
I'm 6 wks preg, have had spotting for the last few days, already had a scan and got to go back in next week for another one (first one was too early to see much, just a sac, as I was just six weeks)

The thing is, that I seem to spot after any exertion, if I do too much, too much walking etc.

The doc had said its just a wait and see situation, and the only thing that might help is resting, but I'm supposed to be doing a Race For Life this weekend.

What would you do? And what do I say to all the people who sponsored me? I feel so awful letting all these people down. I don't want to say the real reason as I don't want people to know yet (I've had 2 mcs in the past, and 1 DD, and this pregnancy if it goes ahead will be considered high risk....)

Part of me thinks, especially if its really hot, doing all this walking is not going to do me any good, and part of me things common sense should prevail and I shouldn't do it.

Arggghhhhhhhh.

[Lotta123]

Don't do it, especially if the doctor has told you to rest. Tell everybody another reason. And ask whether they're happy to donate anyway as it's a good cause. Or if you know somebody else in the race ask if te sponsor money can be added to their money.

[AKMD]

Absolutely don't do it; your safety and that of your baby is priority here. "Catch" a 24-hour vomiting bug instead

[MmeLindt]

Don't do it.

It is likely that it would not make any difference, that you will be fine anyway. But things do not go well, then you will blame yourself for anything that might have caused the m/c.

It is not worth it.

Either you tell the people who have sponsored you the truth or invent a V&D bug if you don't want to announce your pregnancy yet and leave it up to them if they want to still give you the donation.

[lolabanola]

I think you would be crazy if you did do it and you would be putting your baby at risk, you need to rest.

Forget about letting people down, you and your baby are far more important, you will just have to come up with some illness, tell them you are sick and your doctor has told you not to do the race ( half truths there anyway). Have the people actually paid the money yet? or do they pay after you have completed the race? If they have paid then return the money, either way it's not a big deal. Don't worry about other people, think about yourself.

[japhrimel]

Don't do it - it's not worth a miscrriage. I would try and be as honest as possible with the people who have sponsored you - if you don't want to tell them about the pregnancy, why not say you've had an injury and been told to rest by the doctor? They may still donate the money (it is for charity after all!).

[worrywarts]

Thanks, that's very true.

I think I'll just say I've been ill and the docs have told me to rest - they've all already paid online, so hopefully they won't want it back

I went out for a tiny little stroll into town today and started spotting again, (I mean like 10 mins walking very very slowly!!) so I have been resting ever since.

I know what will be will be, it's just this time is so rubbish

Back to eating rice cakes

I can always do it next year!

[lolabanola]

You need to stop walking, even if it is a very slow stroll!! Sit on that sofa, watch crap day time TV and eat your rice cakes, but please, don't budge until you've had the all clear!!!

I doubt people will be as stingy as to want their money back, it is for charity after all, even the stingy ones should have enough shame not to say anything!

Good luck and let us know how you get on!

[DomesticG0ddess]

Don't do it, you would only worry. I was supposed to do a race on Sunday, was only going to walk it as am 24 weeks, but have been suffering from lower back pain so had to bow out. I didn't actually have many sponsors anyway, but no-one minded, not even the person I was doing it with.

[Whelk]

A million times don't do it. Pretend to be ill if you don't want to tell them you are pregnant.

[Lynli]

I have had several MCs and I would not dream of running during pregnancy it may be safe for some but not me.

During my pregnancy with DD1 I had spotting that got worse with walking and worse still with walking quickly. It turned out to be a cervical erosion and wasn't a problem.

I think the worse thing would be if you ran and had a MC you would not forgive yourself it may have happened anyway but if you hadn't run you would at least know it was nothing that you did.

[cardamomginger]

Don't do it! Feet up and take it easy for a bit. And don't feel guilty - you are not letting anyone down. And who's going to be naff enough to grumble ask for their money back?? Good luck X

[anonMum2]

So glad to hear you're not. When I read the subject I was like "OMG, nooo!"

Regardless of what happens, good or bad, you'll always blame yourself (I always do). Whereas if you don't you know you've done your best. My mum gave me the best advise after I told her that I thought I had MCs because I pushed myself too hard, "People say they are sorry about your loss when you have a MC, but deep down people don't actually care - they move on and forget instantly, but you don't. It's you who will suffer having lost your baby". That's now stuck in my mind and I don't mind offending people anymore if it means my baby's safety.

Good luck and hope all goes really well with your pregnancy.

[worrywarts]

Thanks, I'm definately not doing it now.

There's no point, you are right I would feel terrible.

Thanks, I hope all goes well too. Another scan next week so we will see if it progresses ok.

I think it's just the waiting around that makes it worse.

Although I have been craving and eating a lot of houmous, cheese, rice cakes.....so maybe that's not a bad sign?!