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so scared and anxious!!

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PandaEis · 26/06/2010 16:29

hi,

i am 7+6 with number 2 and this is my 8th preg i keep swinging between being excited about it all to being terrified something is wrong

it has been wrong so many times it almost feels for things to be going right IYSWIM! i have an early scan appointment on the way as i was so convinced things would go wrong i didnt go and see the GP til last week.

i have stopped testing constantly as i never got a strong BFP with DD and up til now i havent had a strong BFP. i have had a few light to medium +ves and a few BFNs aswell i am trying to minimise the anxiety but i am now worrying about the scan what if the scan me and things are not right?? what if they are ok and then they go wrong??

im having a bit of a bad day today and i found out my friend in work is preg and is due the end of feb, i am due the beginning of feb so if things go wrong for me i will now have a reminder of what i could have won IYSWIM

its driving me mad

i dont know why i was posting except to blow off a bit of axious steam...

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oldmum42 · 26/06/2010 16:51

I know excactly how you feel, been there, done that.

I've had several mc + several chemical preg in the past 2 1/2 years. I'm now 22 weeks, and I've done the testing every day thing () stopped when I was about 8 weeks! And KWYM about the constant worry of WHEN is it going to go wrong this time.

I even had Sil due the same week as one of my M/C which was hard.

All you can do is relax and try to think positive (hard I know), and take each day, each scan or appointment that you get through as being good news - the longer you remain pregnant the better your chances are.

Blowing off steam is a very good reason to post! Writing things down helps you deal with them, I think so anyway

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Jacksmybaby · 26/06/2010 17:26

So sorry you've been through all of this.

I've only had one mc so not really qualified to comment I know, but my way of coping this time was basically to try not to think about it (i.e. pretty much stay in denial) until after the no. of weeks had passed when I'd had the mc previously, IYSWIM.

Good news that you have an early scan coming up.

Really hope things go ok for you this time.

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PandaEis · 26/06/2010 17:45

thanks for the replies

jacks my MCs have been at various stages between 5 and 14 weeks so im screwed for relaxing in the first trimester i have also got Lupus Anticoagulant which is the cause for my MCs and need monitoring for this aswell i take high dose folic acid and baby asprin aswell.

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rainbowdays · 26/06/2010 20:57

Sorry to hear you are having a bit of a wobble today. Have you started on the heprin yet? Try to remember that you do have reason to understand your previous sad losses. It is good for you to let off steam here, I hope you are feeling better for it.

I too am having big swings from wondering if this could be the one, to dreading my first scan. I wish they would hurry up with your scan, at least that would help with this temporary limbo-land stress.

Thinking of you.

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Julezboo · 26/06/2010 21:09

Sorry you are feeling this way, just wanted to add my bit, You are not alone, this is number 3 but my 10th pregnancy, I have factor v leiden so on folic acid, heparin, aspirin and progesterone. Its shitty isnt it, sometimes I wish I could go back to my naive days where you didnt have to worry about mc.

When is you scan booked for?

I have one on wed I will be 6+ 4 then hopefully.

Thinking of you...

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Wanderingsheep · 26/06/2010 21:09

I'm so sorry that you're feeling this way and so sorry for your previous losses.

I've only had one MC and that was bad enough.

The only way I can say to get through it is like another poster said: I try to forget that I'm pregnant and try to keep busy. Quite difficult as it feels like everyone around me is pg ATM!

I'm due at the end of Feb so only found out last week. This week has draaaagged!

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Julezboo · 26/06/2010 21:10

Oh and also wanted to add my brothers baby is due 2 weeks before mine so I know the same feeling about "what would have been"

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PandaEis · 26/06/2010 22:01

thanks again for the replies

im feeling ok at the mo so i can safely check mood swings off my preggy symptom list!!

i am waitin for the EPU/ MC clinic to call me and they only got the referral wednesday so no hurry like

i have been having the nagging thought that i will get the scan and there will be no baby in there... i keep saying to DH if im preg, if we have a baby etc i cant let myself enjoy it just in case you know?...

its shite it really is!!

so sorry for everyone who have had losses aswell

rainbow lovely to see you still hanging in there!!