Anxiety over birth of no2

[Em32]

Can anyone pacify me please? I'm feeling totally overwhelmed at the moment. My DH (a Dr) has done four on calls this week plus his normal 8-5 (this includes him not being here today). I'm 35 weeks pregnant, moving house on Wednesday and finishing work the same day. Everyone keeps asking me if I'm getting excited about the birth yet. The answer is no, I don't feel ready at all. I have a human dynamo as ds1 (aged 17 months) and feel bad that I can't cope with one child at the moment let alone two. Sorry I know this sounds pathetic but please cheer me up if you can! Thanks

[Yorkiegirl]

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[Em32]

Thanks, no it doesn't need decorating (is a military 'quarter') - well as long as you're a fan of shiny magnolia paint though will need all new curtains as none of the windows in our current place are the same size as the new ones (aaargh) and we can't agree on what to buy.... We've had 3 weeks notice to move.......

[Fennel]

em32, my experience was that it was FAR easier having a 17 month old and a new baby than being very pregnant with a 17 month old. similarly with my 3rd child, looking after small children during the last weeks of pregnancy were far harder than coping with the baby and the other two. not everyone finds this but you might find you can cope better with the new baby than you can now.

[Em32]

Thanks Fennel, that is what I was hoping to hear. I've had enough of being pregnant this time, really enjoyed it last time. Really uncomfortable being dive bombed by ds, poor dd hope she comes out intact!

[Fennel]

more encouragement - my dds are now 5 and nearly 4 and they are very good friends and play endlessly together. it can be very nice having a small gap. and in a year or so when others are having their second with a more seemly gap you can be all knowing and expert about having two

[Em32]

If my dh has his way though, I'll have another one on the way before you can blink. He doesn't have to be pregnant though, does he?! I've told him 3 max and that is depending on how we cope this time....... !

[PeachyClair]

Get the curtains on e-bay and relax.

Mine are also 4 and 5, with a DS3 who is two wednesday. It's fine, and as they get older they are each others toys. DS1 really loved DS's 2 and 3 as babies too, it was a lovely time (and no 2 is usually easier- remember you are now a skilled mum!)

[Mirage]

I can sympathise.I moved house when dd1 was 21 months old & dd2 3wks old.I couldn't get excited about the birth of dd2 as I was too caught up in trying to organise the move & look after dd1.In the end we only got confirmation of our moving date 24 hours before we were due to move & I was a stressed out wreck.

Everyone is right,once you actually move into your house,a weight will lift from your shoulders & you will be able to concentrate on your new baby.Plus new babies are a great way of meeting new people ect,as all your new neighbours will want to see your dd.

Good luck with everything-you'll be fine.

[colinsmommy]

Hi Em. Right there with you. Due on 31st August and have a busy DS (23 mo). I'm all set to go as far as room being ready, bag packed, etc., but starting to stress out about the baby coming, especially since DH's company is sending him away about 3 weeks before the baby is due, and won't let him get out of it. Come visit us in the Antenatal clubs-due in August if you'd like.

[Redhelen]

I understand - I'm 33 weeks and don't like my dh not being around - my son is also currently exhusting me and I'm panicing - the fact your moving house (one of the most stressful things you can do!) will not be helping - I bet you feel ten times better once thats out of the way. You have too much stress on top of the hormones!

[Em32]

Colinsmommy Thanks (and to others) just thought I'd say I'm due the same day as you!