Pregnant & scared. (new on here)

[Misterthomas]

Hi all,
I've just had a positive (although it's faint as i'll only be 3 weeks) pregnancy test. Last year i had 3 pregnancies, all of which i miscarried. The 1st i lost at 7+3 after bleeding from week 6 and didn't miscarry myself. I tried tablets under hospital admission which didn't work so i was taken for a d&c. The 2nd pregnancy was going well until week 10 (or so i thought), when i woke to find blood clots in the bed i went for a scan which showed the baby had died at 8+3. I opted to go straight for a d&c as i couldn't face the weeks of emotional pain again. The 3rd pregnancy i never told anyone about, i lost it at 4 weeks just like a normal, but heavy period. My husband & i decided we both needed a break from trying & i needed time for my body to re-build it's strength. Our plan was to enjoy being newly married & re-try late next year. Just like my other pregnancies i am on the pill! I don't plan to tell my husband until either i need to or the danger period is over as he has just started a new job & doesn't need the worry (he is also an absolute angel & will do nothing but mother me & i feel i just need to carry on as normal in preparation in case we loose it again). Guess i'm on here looking for friends & a bit of support.
Hope to hear from some of you soon x

[mankymummymoo]

Congratulations on your positive test. I've had two MCs (last one a couple of months ago), so I can understand some of how you are feeling.

Try and remain positive and relaxed - new year, new start maybe?

Fingers crossed for you.

[MumNWLondon]

You say "just like my other pregnancies I am on the pill" - does that mean you have got pregnant 4 times in a year whilst taking the pill?

[Misterthomas]

No only 3 times this year on the pill, previous pregnancy was 2 yes ago but yes I was on the pill then too. I've informed the bmc so they can add me to their stats . Thank you Mankymummymoo, hugs for your recent loss x

[Snooch]

Misterthomas, could I ask what pill you're on? I too had a pill failure once and was just wondering.

Sending positive vibes your way that this is the one.... X

[scotlass]

bollocks just sat and typed a big long message and have lost it

misterthomas just wanted to say congrats and send sticky vibes.

If it helps I have had 3mcs in the last 2yrs at roughly the same times as you. I'm pleased to report there was a 4th time lucky and I now have a very precious 8mth old DS.

Have you got support in rl from a local EPU? I found mine invaluable.

[Misterthomas]

Hi all, thanks for the positive support. I called my midwife today - she's really happy for me (bless her) and wants to see me next monday so she can keep an eye on me from early on. Yes i actually work at the hospital where my closest epu is (convenient) and they scanned me early for my last 2 pregnancies so i'm hoping they will do the same again.

The pill i was on was microgynon. Although i will admit this most recent pregnancy was my own fault, especially as i should of known better being a nurse. I completely forgot to take extra precaution whilst on some antibiotics and so here we are!

I've been having some crampy sensations the past few days, not had them in previous pregnancies so i'm hoping they are what i need to make baby stick! They are fairly dull although i do get the occasional one which seems more pronounced (but still not sharp or anyting) just enough to make me stop & give my tum a gentle rub & it goes as quickly as it comes.

I indulged in a baby magazine today so i'm gonna treat myself to a warm bath later & read it, then early night as i've been on call all weekend & still have a full week of work to do!
Thanks again for posting folks, hope you & yours are all well xxx

[bearcrumble]

The best of luck with this pregnancy, Misterthomas - I really hope this one stays.

The crampy sensations are completely normal, I think most people have them.

You probably know this, having said 'warm' bath - but do make sure it is not too hot.