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ilovesprouts · 10/12/2009 21:31

please can someone give me some advice my dd is going for her 20wk scan next wk her ex bf when she told him she was pg told her to get rid ! anyhow to cut a long story short she does not want him at the scan as they are no longer together ,but her ex bf sd says she can not stop him ,shes been under lots of grief whith his fam anyadvice also hes told her he wants a dna test on the afterbirth wtf

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thisisyesterday · 10/12/2009 21:34

he sounds like an idiot tbh, and of course she can stop him.
i would actually ring the hospital and ask if i could change the appt.
why did she tell him when/where it was??

anyway, even if they can't change it then just get there early, warn them that he might turn up and make sure he doesn't get allowed in.

it will be fine

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decafgirl · 10/12/2009 21:48

It's her body and therefore her medical privacy. There's no way they'll let him in if she doesn't want him there xx

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ilovesprouts · 10/12/2009 22:10

no she cant rearange it ,he found out of one of dds pals

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thisisyesterday · 10/12/2009 22:16

why can't she re-arrange it?

she'll just have to tell the hospital not to let him in. i assume someone is going along with her?

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ilovesprouts · 10/12/2009 22:17

she cant arrange it as it will be after xams im going whith her !!

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thisisyesterday · 10/12/2009 22:21

someone from king's told my friend that they preferred doing them at around 22-23 weeks as they see more than at the 20 week mark, so it certainly wouldn't be too late from that point of view if she waited until after christmas.

it depends on how much of a threat him turning up is.
i think i[d def try and re-arrange if he's likely to cause a big scene/get violent or anything.
that's not fair on you or your dd, and not fair on the hospital staff.

if you really, really don't want to re-book then do warn them in advance and see what they suggest. I suspect that if she tells him in no uncertain terms that she does not want him there, that she has informed the hospital and he won't be allowed in that he may back down

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ilovesprouts · 11/12/2009 04:52

she does not want to re book it so shes going to ring the hosp today and warn them !!!!!!!!