Hi there, wasn't sure whether to post this in pregnancy or mental health, but hope somebody here reads it and can offer some reassurance/advice.
I'm 24 weeks pg with no.2 and having a rough time, although outwardly to everyone else I seem fine. I have the most dreadful back problems which affects me all day and all night. I'm much more tired this time round even if I do get a decent night's sleep (DS is a great sleeper - he's not the problem). DH does shift work and on the days when he's not working he likes to stay up late watching TV and inevitable falls asleep on the sofa, comes to bed at about 3/4 when he wakes up or when I get up to go to the bathroom and wake him up. Often then he tosses and turns for ages, then when he finally does get to sleep in bed he snores for Britain. I'm a really light sleeper and he's a really heavy sleeper and I find it impossible to get to sleep unless I have complete quiet and no wriggling, which generally means I have to go into the spare room as soon as DH comes to bed so that I can actually get back to sleep again. This morning that didn't even work so I have been awake since 4 when DH finally came to bed.
So, if you're still with me I've got the really bad back and absolutely knackered. That wouldn't be so bad if it weren't for the fact that I am getting really worried about the new arrival. We will be putting DS into the spare room but first we need to have an immense clearout and redecorate. We've got plenty of time still to do that but I'm worrying about everything- will DS settle in a new room (we're moving him to a bed at the same time so that the new baby can have the cotbed he currently sleeps in), how will I sleep when I can't go to the spare room if DH disturbs me, what will I do when DH is working a night shift if DS1 is poorly whilst the baby is small and I'm back at work (already imagining being up all night on my own with one or the other and then having to do a full day's work before it all starts again). I'm also worrying about work as I was treated really badly last time I went on mat leave and I don't want the same thing to happen again (I work for a charity with no HR department or any proper procedures, and have a job with a lot of responsibility).
Basically, I'm not sleeping properly, in constant pain, getting stressed and tearful about all sorts of things and frequently have thoughts about just crawling under a rock for the next year and letting someone else deal with it. I have to do all the household admin as well (which isn't a complaint in itself - if I do it I know it gets done properly and on time), plus I am a school governor and the chair of the local afterschool club, so I have a lot on my plate. I have already decided to resign from the afterschool club at the AGM in November and my governor term runs out in April.
My rational side says that it is just pregnancy hormones combined with my general nature to always expect the worst which is making me feel like this, but then I wonder if there's anything I can do or take to feel less tearful, stressed and generally negative about everything. I did have mild PND after DS was born, but it was never diagnosed and I only really realised a lot further down the line that I was suffering.
If anybody has made it that far and actually can get to the bottom of these ramblings, I'd really appreciate some advice/reassurance.
Thanks anyone
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Pre-natal depression or just normal feelings? Please help
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sleepychunky · 15/08/2009 20:06
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