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Would this be weird?

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hobbgoblin · 06/05/2009 10:15

As some of you know, my DP has become my ExDP due to this pregnancy (now 31 plus weeks). He came to the first scan and then has had nothing to do with the rest.

We are working on how we interract with one another since we are both going to have to be parents together and who knows what will eventually happen wrt 'us' but I doubt we'll get back together, more now because I'm not sure I want such a feckless twunt in my life, but that's un autre story...

Anyway, he is likely to come to a final scan next week which is to confirm that my Placenta has moved safely away from the OS and then we can plan for the birth, whether it be C section or vaginal delivery, home or hospital.

EXDP has missed all the best scans, including my 4D one, this will be his last opportunity to be involved with all that side of things. He wants to come.

The question is, as some or all of the scan is likely to be trans vaginal would it be weird for him to be there? I don't really mean because of his Ex Dp status but more just because nurses tend to usher everyone out if there is a hint of nakedness or procedure.

I remember having family turfed out just to have blood taken when I've been in hospital for other stuff and I've always said "no, they can stay". When in hospital with MC my partner was asked to leave several times when, my fanjo was on display (quite frequently in that scenario, as you can imagine) and I was kind of 'ffs, he made this baby I don't need to hide my bits from him right at this moment!'

What do you think anyway?

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SheWillBeLoved · 06/05/2009 10:57

I think if you're comfortable with him being there, and he wants to be there, then let whoever is doing the scan know that he's to stay in the room and not be asked to leave.

I'd find it quite strange if they asked my DP to leave without consulting with me first. I think that's something that is up to you to decide, especially in these circumstances. Through my miscarriage and early scans with this pregnancy which were transvaginal - no one even batted an eyelid at the fact that DP was in the room when asking me to hoist down my knickers

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hobbgoblin · 07/05/2009 10:25

Thanks SWBL, I guess I just need to be assertive if necessary.

I just don't want him to feel like he shouldn't be there after getting this far.