Am I mad even thinking about getting married 4 weeks after due date??

[MiaMamma]

We're thinking of getting married this summer, nothing big, just registering in town hall and family dinner after that. Just our parents would be there. My parents can only visit us when DS will be about 3-4 weeks old (just hoping he's on time!), next time I'll see them will be probably next year. But I really want them to be there!
So - what do you think? Is it crazy to think I can do this? Obviously in case something goes wrong (being overdue; very difficult labour; emergency c-section) then we will cancel everything but is it ok to even consider it?

[Lulumama]

i think you are bonkers, in the nicest possible way

you will be sore, leaking boobs, still bleeding, you will be exhausted and should be concentrating on baby mooning.

consider it by all means, but i would leave it, maybe for when your baby is one?

give you time to enjoy the day fully and not be worrying about the birth impinging on the wedding.

[FiveGoMadInDorset]

Yes

[mrsdisorganised]

Agree totally with Lulu, think carefully I would say! Good luck

[mrsgboring]

If it is not a big do and you have no ambition to turn it into one, you will most likely be fine, but you won't be looking your best on the photos, and you'll probably want to go straight home after the meal.

If it were me, I'd want to spread my treats out a bit, so I'd probably delay the wedding.

[alicecrail]

Agree with Lulumama. Wait until next year. We got married when DD was 11months old and it was lovely. Even if everything goes well (which i'm sure it will) It is likely that you won't be getting much sleep, you could be very emotional, having problems feeding etc I think the extra stress of the wedding is something you won't really need.

[norktasticninja]

Stark raving bonkers, sorry

The last thing you need when pregnant is to be planning a wedding, however low key. At 3-4 weeks postpartum I felt like a yukky big leaky blob - not exactly conducive to enjoying being the center of attention for a day.

Another year seems like such a long time to wait but it'll be over in a flash. Honest.

[MiaMamma]

Thanks for your honest replies!
The reason I'm slightly considering it is that with my DD (born 3y ago) I recovered really quickly - no sore boobs, bf was no problem at all, bleeding stopped very soon, so physically absolutely fine after 2 weeks. And I was really bored at home (that's why invited my parents to stay for few weeks..)! Of course this time around things might go differently.
And it's not the wedding I want - def not into white dress and all that - we're also thinking of relocating within next year and it's easier to do (paperwork-wise) if we're married.
But I guess you're right - waiting makes more sense. My pregnancy brain works bit funny these days, I keep thinking I'm the supermama who can do everything

[MrsMattie]

Yes, you're bonkers . Wait a while. How about a Christmas wedding?

[hackneybird]

Yes

[ShowOfHands]

My friend got married exactly 4 weeks after giving birth to number 4. She looked incredible in her size 8 dress with washboard stomach, was happy, in control of her hormones and had a lovely day.

She is the exception to the rule. She is the one woman this decade who will manage to have a wedding 4 weeks post partum and not be quivering in the corner. The slot has been taken. Don't do it.

See how you feel post-birth.

[needsomesleepplease]

Thats a hard one - sensible head would say no dont do it, too much else going on. But if it was me in that position I would want to go ahead with it.

I had a em section with dd and i was fine after it. I am having a planned section in two weeks and we already have 2 christenings and a first communion to go to in the three sundays after the birth - i know it is not quiet the same but i see no reason at the moment for not going.