Hi, I'm new and 31+5 weeks !!! with SPD!!!ouch

[Effielou]

Hi All.

I'm new to mumsnet and was drawn to it by some interesting articles and wise advice from fellow users.
I'm 34, married, have 2 kids and expecting number 3 in June. I'm loving being pregnant again- apart from the severe SPD that I'm suffering with. I'm taking strong co-codamol, which I'm not keen on taken, but its the only way I can get some sort of decent sleep. I have crutches and support belts, and a fab hubby, whose taken up cooking ( his usual, is cooking is a pot noodle ). I want this baby SOOOOOO much- but the pain is putting a real dampner on it-and I'm becoming a bit depressed-IYKWIM- This is my last pregnancy- Drs orders. Luckily I'm being delivered at 36/37 weeks-- so not too long!!!
I would love to chat to you all- sorry for that- but feel better now- I'm not always this miserable!!!
lots of love xxxx

[Effielou]

oops-- I added a week on!! only 30+5!! baby brain x

[YouKnowNothingoftheCrunch]

Hello and welcome to mumsnet

I'm 40 weeks tomorrow with number 3 (so going slightly stir crazy) and had terrible SPD up until about 3 weeks ago (no idea why that is at all, but I'm off my crutches so very happy)

It is tough and very draining having SPD - I was putting off doing things for fear of not being able to make it home, or collapsing somewhere in agony.

There are lots of antenatal threads to join where you can chat with people due at the same time as you, or just start threads about anything that interests you (only put them in "am I being unreasonable" if you can cope with being told that you are )

It's great here, I hope you enjoy it

[spongebrainmaternitypants]

Effie, so sorry to hear you're suffering - SPD is crap .

I am pg with my 2nd, had SPD with my first from week 20, this time it kicked in at week 7 !

I really want more children but dh and I have said we will see how crippled I am by this pg before we decide.

A supportive dh is a must with SPD and young children (my DS is only 10 mths) so glad yours is mucking in .

Welcome to MN .

[Effielou]

Thanks for the reply and glad to hear that you have relief from the SPD and thanks for the tips. It looks like a good site. I have been on others, but this one seems to suit my need-IYkWIM!!!

I will only have a shower if hubby is at home, as the other day I couldn't climb back over the bath!! I use my crutches, but can't on school runs, as my son (3) needs to have his hand held!! But very handy first thing for the first loo run-or wobble!!!

Thanks again xxx
ps good luck with the upcoming birth!!

[Effielou]

Hi love the name spongebrainmaternitypants!!! I had it with number 2 and it wasn't as bad as this time! But everyone says it gets worse with each but don't let it put you off having another- if you can cope!!! 3s enoug for me- and its my 3rd section!! This time it kicked in about 16weeks, everytime the baby kicks-it cheers me up and reminds me the pain will be worth it. On the bright side- I get let off the housework!!!
lol xx

[YouKnowNothingoftheCrunch]

Thanks Effie

I know some people on here have had amazing results with osteopathy for SPD. Just a thought.

And I sympathise with the hand holding (also have a 3 year old) I ended up always using one crutch to get him to nursery.

[Effielou]

never thought of that!!! baby brain again hehehe my nearly 8 year old tells me off when I don't use them but I feel a bit daft- it would be ok if I had a whacking big plaster cast on it!!!

[YouKnowNothingoftheCrunch]

Even with the crutch I was overtaken by a very elderly lady with a walking stick one day Certainly has made me appreciate those who live with chronic pain all the time.

[Effielou]

I know what you mean- I have a couple of friends with cancer and feel very guilty for feeling sorry for myself!! I have arthritis in my hips-- but this is a million times worse!!!

I joined a gym and aking use of the pool and that is fantastic relief!

ps loving it here already!!

[Ineedmorechocolatenow]

I had it really bad with DS, it hit me like a brick wall at 32 weeks and I was bed-bound for the last 5 weeks of pregnancy (luckily DS arrived 3 weeks early!).

This pregnancy it came on at 10 weeks, but it's stayed at the same level pretty much all pregnancy. I have good days and bad days, tho' my bad days are like me 'good' days were last pregnancy, so not too bad. Still wear the belt for any longer walks and I avoid doing anything that'll aggravate it (shopping trollies - NO, standing on one leg - NO etc). I was also referred to the physio as soon as I had my bookig in appointment this time round and she's been great.

My friend also had chronic SPD with her first and didn't get it at all with her second, so there is hope that it doesn't have to get worse with each pregnancy.

[Patchybob]

Effilou Are you due in July......my pregnancy brain is struggling to work that out! If so come and join us on the July antenatal thread, there are lots of us on there and its full of chat!

[Hawkmoth]

Welcome Effielou

I had SPD from 24 weeks first time, very debilitating.

Came on around 8 weeks this time but with physio - manipulations and exercises, rest and adopting a "Lady Muck" approach to family life, now at 24 weeks I'm not that bad... unless I drive too far or do something stupid.

It's such a weird condition to deal with mentally. It's not like an illness, or an injury so it's hard to explain. There's also the fact that you CAN DO most things, but you suffer afterwards. "Yes, I can do the supermarket run... if you accept I'll be in bed for the afternoon." and "Sure, I'll do some ironing, will you help me turn over in bed six times tonight and get me in and out of the shower in the morning?". For me, it's hard not to feel like a bit of a fraud.

One of my best tips - don't go pushing a pram after giving birth. Put me back a long way. Oh, and after birth when you start feeling better, don't think, "flabby stomach, must do sit-ups". Bad move!!!

[froggy16]

Hi Effielou!
I too have SPD, and am preggers with no.3. I'm 33+5 weeks. Are you delivering early because of the SPD? I've got a physio app. for a couple of weeks time which I'm hoping will get me off my crutches!
It does make you feel a bit of a fraud, especially when people say 'oh no, what have you done?'!
Just hang in there, I hope you're partner is supportive and understanding, though it is hard for them as they can't see anything wrong.

[Effielou]

Thank you all soo much its actually nice to know i'm not the only one who feels like this!!! I'm exactly the same at night I wake DH loads to help me turn and hes even had to remove my lower garment to have a wee!!! It quite embarrassing!! But I doo have the lady muck approach and basically save energy for kids and school runs- I don't drive and live on top of a hill-- the good news is that school is at the bottom- so as long as I leave 10mins before, I get there on time!!!

Patchybob I'm due 28th June but my scar started to split during my 2nd labour ( I have to have c-sections due underlying hip problems, but managed to labour abit with both) So because of this, they want to section me at 36/37 weeks- to avoid labour starting!! Which in a way is a relief its almost over- but don't want to wish it away, as this is my last pregnancy-- Drs orders and have to be sterilised!! Boohoo!!!

My hubby and kids a fab DH has started to cook his speciality before was a pot noodle!! But last night made a fab chilli with a little help from me but firmly from the sofa!! He does all the housework and doesn't whine too much with the lack of " a bit of the other" as that would have me screaming from a different height-- other than pleasure!! lol

I have to laugh- otherwise I would be in tears!! which is not fun!!!

Thanks again for this i feel less lonely now- if that makes sense!!! And soo I'l have a new baby although I tend to give birth to baked beans ( both are redheads!!!)xxxxxxxxx