Hello I just wanted a little advice, as I have had real mixed reactions to my pregnancy - am 19 weeks today. Most of my friends have been absolutely thrilled, my partner is v v happy, and so am I. Initially my parents were disappointed ("you silly girl, what have you done" kind of thing) but they have now come round. The last couple of weeks have been horrendous. My 'best friend' got married on the 20th Dec and I was meant to be bridesmaid. I told her when I found out I was pregnant that I could 'resign' but she wasn't having any of it. I gave her my all, for the hen night, organising surprises etc. Throughout December she ignored all my texts, emails, calls, and then 3 days before the wedding her fiance called me to say I was 'sacked' as she felt unsupported!!! Needless to say I went into shock, and practically collapsed into a heap of tears in my office after the call ended. We didn't go to the wedding!!
THEN on boxing day, I was at my parents, and my Aunt was there - she hadn't met my fiance yet - and she ignored the both of us. Apparently she told my parents that she is exceptionally disappointed in me, I have brought shame on the family, she thought better of me, etc etc. Me being the one in the family who has worked my a*se off working full time since EVER, and studied part time for a BSc, MSc and now I'm half way through my PhD.
Why? Because I'm not married!!! And the hugely laughable thing is - I'm not a kid - I'm 36!!!
Because of these nasty reactions, I'm finding it really, really hard to enjoy my pregnancy, and it makes me so, so sad. Lovely partner person (DP? am new to this!) is SO supportive and tells me to ignore them, but I've now lost my best friend, and it just feels so rubbish
Has anyone else experienced such nastiness from friends and family? I've wanted a baby for years and years, and I just want everyone to be happy.... not to much to ask, is it?!
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sausagenmash · 31/12/2008 19:00
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