Really Disapointed :(

[WorzselMummage]

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I just got back from mine and all i've done is cry for the last 2 hours
The sonographer had a go at me for buying 3 tokens for the photos and said that it'd be 3 copies of the same picture as they didn't have the time to take more than one, i know thats complete rubbish as the last 2 scans i had i've had 3 pictures and all the people in the wating room were waving around 3 or 4, the one she gave me in the end is rubbish anyway so i may aswell not have bothered
She did the bulk of the scan with the screen facing away from me, all the measurements and everything, i only got to see the last 2 or 3 minutes where she helpfully pointed out sich things as the feet and the head as if i'm some fecking imbecile who cant see feet, or heads for myself.. i didnt get to see the heart or anything, mt last 20 week scan was wonderful, they went though everything with me and showed me all the chambers int he heart and bits of the brain and the internal organs.

Then i said i'd like to know what it is if you can see, i think its a Boy.. she said.. ' yeah it is' turned the machine off and sent me packing with my shít picture, i wish i'd not asked, she completly ruined it for me.

I feel so down about it all, i had to go on my own as DF was stuck at work so i had no support atall.

I know my hormones are playing a big part in how i am feeling at the moment but i also know some sonographers can be amazing i got to seem more detail on my 12 week scan then the one i had today, i've had loads of scans and never been treated like this



I dont know if i am being unreasonable or if i should write a letter and complain.

Anyone else had a bad experience. I am really pleased no problems were found but i feel like i cant trust it as i have not seen it for myself, i went to mothercare on the way back and looked at the blue but couldnt bring myself to buy anything because I dont think i want to trust my Boy diagnosis as the sonographer couldnt be bothered to show me.

sob.

[cmotdibbler]

I hate to say this to a pg woman, but get a grip. This scan was to check that your baby is healthy and growing well, and it obviously is.

If you want nice pictures and a guided tour, then pay for the private scan where that is all they do

[WorzselMummage]

I have had NHS scans with all my previous pregnancies and the sonographers have all shown me something.

the one today was a bitch.

[ShowOfHands]

She was insensitive and abrupt but try and tell yourself that you're having a healthy little boy and that's what she was checking for.

[onepieceoflollipop]

Some sonographers are more "business like" ime. Looking back I had a scan experience a bit like yours, and at the time I felt that she was very uncaring. However on balance it meant she really concentrated on "reading" the scan rather than chatting, and she pre warned us (quite brusquely) that she wanted to concentrate and not hear us chatting.

Some sonographers make a point of not specifically looking for the sex of the baby, as that isn't the real point of the scan of course.

I personally would NOT write a letter of complaint. Have a cup of tea and a big cake

[cali]

I take it your previous scan experiences were in the same place?

The sonagraphers do these scans day in, day out and I think that they forget that seeing your baby on a screen is exciting and important for parents.

I would complain and do it soon, if I were you. I would also ask to have another scan, if you feel you really can not trust the sonagrapher.

Sounds like she was having a really bad day, but when I've had scans in the past, they've always taken time to get the best picture printed off.

Our local hospital doesn't do detailed scans, so we paid for a private scan and I was so happy that we did that.

[bobblehat]

Tbh, all my nhs scans have been like the one you describe. Maybe you've just been lucky before.

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[Widdershins]

Could be she'd not long had a bad experience with one of her scans .

Could be she's been taking lessons off my Drs receptionists .

[DarrellRivers]

I would love to just be having a 20 week scan TBH
The sonographer sounded a grumpy jobsworth, but concentrate on the fact you have a healthy growing normal baby

[WorzselMummage]

I am eating a pasty and having a cup of tea.. i have a cake ready to go.. my thighs my thighs !

Some of my scans were in the same place and some weren't, my 12 week scan was though and the sonographer couldnt have been any more fantastic or reassuring if she'd tried, maybe because she was so great my expectations are to high.

I guess i just cant see the harm in her doing the measurements while i can see the screen, especially as there was a bit screen there for this purpose which was turned off.

[electra]

I think you're overreacting tbh. I will have my scan in a few weeks and I think if this happened to me I wouldn't be all that bothered, honestly However, hormones do have an effect and I'm usually very stoic but have been crying over silly things.

Be happy that your pregnancy is going well and try to forget about it...

[WorzselMummage]

I probably am overreacting

Still shit though.

cake.

[SoupDragon]

If it would make you feel better, I would write a letter, not complaining as such but pointing out that the sonographer could do with some "bedside manner" training.

[WorzselMummage]

I might just have a private one, i cant think about it being ok in my head untill i've seen its ok for myself... i want to see a willy too, if there is one !

[tinkisexcitedabouthavingababy]

i dont blame you for being upset she did sound abit uncaring they do forget it is really exciting for the mum to be
congrats on your baby boy
you can go and buy blue things now

[WorzselMummage]

Thanks, a Boy.. weird !

What do you do with boys anyway ?

[cali]

A letter would be a good way to go as SG suggested.

This type of attitude/behaviour never gives a good impression of NHS staff.

People do not like to receive criticism but if this was her manner all the time, I feel sorry for families who are being scanned by her, when the news isn't good.

[WorzselMummage]

Cali that had crossed my mind too, I had a scan earlier this year that wasnt good news and was treated wonderfully by the sonographer that did it and the sonographer who came in to give me the 2nd opinion, i know how sonographers should be, I've been pregnant 5 times, had 3 miscarriages and loads of scans with my daughter.. the women today was not how sonograpghers should be.

[roseability]

Some of you are being a bit harsh. I am in a job which requires tact and sensitivity with the general public. This is part of a sonographer's job description. I have gone onto a night shift feeling rubbish, tired and pregnant and would never treat someone like this. I am not boasting, it is my job. A sonographer should appreciate that every baby is special to the parents and should not make judgement either. This makes me angry as an NHS staff memner.

I am delighted your baby is healthy and wish you luck. I am 10 weeks pregnant and feel crap at the moment . I had a couple of early scans due to bleeding and the sonographers were lovely. One pointed out the baby, yolk sac and heartbeat etc. This is the standard that should be aspired to!

Rant over, I would love to join you with the cake but even that makes me feel sick at the moment. A sip of ice cold water instead!

[laweaselmys]

It seems a bit strange that you didn't see the heart. My sonographer wouldn't let me leave without measuring all of the chambers, and it seemed like she had to do loads of different measurements that meant I got a good look around.

Mind you, she was with a student, so maybe she was being extra thorough. Sorry yours was so crap though...

[WorzselMummage]

Thanks Roseability

congratulations on your pregnancy too i found icepops helped loads when i was in the yuck stage

[roseability]

I'm off to buy some icepops later, thanks!

[jamescagney]

I was in hospital for a routine appt(am 28 weeks pg) when I heard a little girl screaming as they gave her an injection. Next thing, she was wheeled past knocked out on her way to theatre.
I cried for about 20 mins, floods of tears, snot, gulping - the lot. I knew I was overreacting but couldn't help it.

Congrats on your pg,btw!

[countingto10]

I had a scan like this for my last (4th) pregnancy. She was a miserable cow, obviously wanted to get me over and done with. I wanted to know the sex as I already had 3 DSs and didn't want to be disappointed at the birth. She was very curt, told me she couldn't really see but thought it was another boy. I was a little upset (I know I shouldn't have been but I was). She then proceeded to say she couldn't see the baby's heart properly and I needed another scan in 2 weeks time!

I remember coming out of the scan room and saying to my DH that I was just glad it wasn't my 1st pregnancy as she really made me feel very bad. DH told me never mind at least the baby's healthy to which I said "How do you know she couldn't see the heart properly!".

You are not being unreasonable to feel the way you did but probably not worth making an issue of it.

BTW second scan was lovely - great lady doing it, making jokes about being 4th boy (not getting pregnant at 14 etc).

Hope your pregnancy continues well.

[lulabellarama]

I had my 20 week scan on monday and the sonographer was so bloody sullen that I wanted to wee on her (I had a full bladder).
Doesn't cost anything to be polite. And she was whizzing through it and at one point said 'There's a good view of the face' but by the time she'd finished saying it she'd moved onto something else, so we both missed it.

But saying that I don't think you should complain. Just mark it down as a bad experience and do something nice to cheer yourself up.