in less than 2 weeks time life as we know it will change forever......

[prada]

as ds2 makes his entrance, hopefully healthy and safe, this has been such an emotionally draining pregnancy after ttc for many months then to miscarry.....

i have been awake since 4am (needed to pee) and hard to get back to sleep as i worry:

• how will ds1 cope with no longer being our main priority?

• how will i cope not being able to give ds1 all my attenton?

• how will i cope with a newborn again, the sleepless nights, the tiredness, the worry?

• i guess importantly i worry the most about this baby is healthy and that i make it through this c-section with no complications... for some reason i feel the need to prep dh on where things are, paperwork etc in case i don't make it... morbib i know....

how did people feel the weeks before the birth of their 2nd child? how was it after? ds1 was a summer baby so we enjoyed going out lots together, just don't see that happening so much with ds2 in the winter....

is this really the calm before the storm?

[merryberry]

ds2 was born march. i was bored waiting. didn;t much get past the physical discomfort (very big, long baby). was very worried about ds1, who tbh has been fine with it all. think he just loves new stuff happening.

truly was much easier to cope with newborn, as my confidence was there. and i asked for help in better time as well.

[MrsMattie]

Hi prada. Are you me?

I am feeling exactly the same. I'm booked in for a c-section (2nd baby) on the 21st Nov. We already have a 3 yr old son. I am worrying about all the same things as you.

• although I've had a section before, I worry about it all going smoothly, about the pain/recovery (especially having a young child to lok after this time), and I also worry about getting PND again (had it after my son was born)

• worry loads about how we'll cope with the lack of sleep again

• definitely worrying about how we'll manage going from one to two. How will my DS cope?

I also keep thinking about my will and what I would want to happen if anything happen to me during the section

I have a killer nesting instinct at the moment, but am quite unwell/lethargic, so haven't actually managed to sort much out for the new arrival. feeling a bit panicky about it, although as DH keeps reminding me 'What do we really need? Somewhere for the baby to sleep, a few babygrows...and a rested, happy mum'. True, I guess

I'm going to have a housework day today, set up the moses basket, wash some baby clothes and try to enjoy this next 11 days (11 days? Argh!)

Good luck, and I'm about if you need to offload! xx

[MrsMattie]

excuse crap typing / grammar etc

[prada]

thanks merryberry!

melmamof3 & MrsMattie my section booked 21st november also(i'm in london!)it's also my 2nd section... gosh we sound so similar!!

so glad i am not alone, these feelings surely must be normal then? i have spd (got quite bad a few weeks ago just when i finished work - typical!) and along with being very tired have also been unable to do as much as i'd like too, but won't beat myself up about it... basics are ready and hospital bag packed! agree with what your hubby says MrsMattie

dh put our cot up this weekend and ds1 knows it's for baby, starting to feel a bit more real now!!!

good luck ladies!

[MrsMattie]

prada - I also have SPD. We are pregnancy twins ).

Good luck both of you. xxx

[prada]

MrsMattie !! how are you? thought i'd come back to this thread... how is your spd? mine is getting worse, but bearable - just! hard to move about and getting off the bed and sofa a tad hard - mine seems to now be concentrated in the pubic area - ouch!!

gardener was late this morning, so he's still working outside, but i am shattered, really looking forward to my nap when ds naps.... going to try make him stay up until gardener leaves then we can nap together in peace for an hour or so..... unfortunately we don't have a side entrance so have to wait for him to go through the house!! bummer

9 days to go!

melmamof3 how are you doing?