I just hit my first trimester (13 weeks). Had my 12 week scan last week. I'm over the moon and getting more excited by day. Told my parents and my mom nearly cried on the phone, she was so happy. Have started telling one or two close friends and everyone is really pleased.
Everyone, except for my other half!! Right off from the beginning he didn't seem to care. All he's mentioned is that now he'll have to cut back on all the luxuries he's now grown used to since he started a much better job. In addition, he feels we'll never be able to travel again or enjoy the freedom we once did, all of which are partly true but certainly not permanent (parents all over the world travel with children all the time!!). He has openly admitted he feels neither excited nor unhappy - just indifferent.
He really hit a nerve when I excitedly told him my little bump had started to show. Instead of getting excited with me and asking to look, all he muttered was 'you just look like you've had a big meal' before walking off to watch TV.
I understand that men go through different emotions and can sometimes take a long time to 'come around' to the idea of having a baby. However, all the other dads I know with new babies have been over the moon and it is really upsetting me that my other half just doesn't seem to give a toss.
Is this normal? Does anyone have any advice on how to handle it? I want to act in an appropriate way and get his act into gear without bursting into tears and storming off (he hates any display of irrationality, difficult during pregnancy).
Dimayed and Annoyed
London
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My other half doesn't seem enthused by my pregnancy. Is this normal?
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Lionstar7 · 08/09/2008 18:58
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