7 weeks along and too tired to look after DS properly (or so it feels) any tips from more experienced mums out there?

[minouminou]

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On the anti-emetics already, and absolutely shattered in the mornings, to the extent that for 2 days this week, DS has been plonked in front of Cbeebies while i lie VERY still on sofa
the anti-emetics are helping, and he goes to nursery 2 full days a week, and also, DP is stepping into the gap quite a bit, but what can i do to play with him more?
i'm managing to keep him clean and fed, but have hardly had the energy to leave the building, and when i have, i've not stayed out long with him
feel really sorry for him, and he seems to realise something's up he's 22 mo, btw
any tips gratefully received
Bleeeuuurghrgrhgrhrghrhrghrghghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

[MummyAnnabella]

no tips but will be in your positon soon as baby 2 due in 6 weeks and i have a 13 month old!

i was planning on taking ds out of creche full time and down to 2 days a week as soon as baby born but now think reading your post has tipped me into keeping ds in creche full time for 1st month!!

[MummyAnnabella]

no tips but will be in your positon soon as baby 2 due in 6 weeks and i have a 13 month old!

i was planning on taking ds out of creche full time and down to 2 days a week as soon as baby born but now think reading your post has tipped me into keeping ds in creche full time for 1st month!!

[ajm200]

I do feel sorry for you. I felt like that too this time round. It passed at about 10 weeks though, had bags of energy for the middle trimester.

Batch cook meals that you can reheat easily so that you only have to cook a couple of times a week.

Can you go to the park with friends and their children so that you don't have to cope on your own?

Send the ironing out if you can afford to. I'm still trying to get this arranged as I've been ill for the last 5 weeks and have 8 weeks to go. Hubby is getting fed up with ironing his own shirts so I'm winning P that battle.

can DP take him out for a morning at weekends to give you a proper break?

[whiteorchid]

I sympathise - the only way I could get to the park was on a constant supply of salt-and-vinegar crisps and lemonade, and that was on a good day. Anti-emetics good in some ways, but the drowsiness is v debilitating. Some days you do just have to give in to cbeebies - I know how guilt-inducing it is, but you can make it up to him once you feel better. I remember trying to read stories to him while lying on the floor, but DS would just look at me as if I'd lost the plot...

A couple of suggestions:

• can you afford to put him into nursery for an extra day per week until you feel better? If you can rest for an extra day, you may feel more able to cope on the other days.
• batch-cooking/freezing is a good idea, as ajm says (although I found the cooking almost unbearable, it did make life easier). Slow cooker a godsend, just bung everything in and run out of the kitchen!

And, just keep reminding yourself: it will get better!

[LittleMyDancing]

I'm in this state as well, and have every sympathy! My tips:

• focus on essential things only. Ironing doesn't need doing (assuming your DP can iron his own shirts), bathroom doesn't need cleaning, house doesn't need tidying. It can all wait until you feel better
• cook easy food - DS will not suffer on a diet of fish fingers and pasta and fruit and yogurt for a few weeks
• CBeebies won't harm DS. It's educational, there's no ads, and it's only for a few weeks

tell your DS that there's nothing to worry about, but Mummy is feeling very tired at the moment, and she'll feel better soon. As long as you explain and reassure him, he won't be too upset by the odd days

do you have any relatives or friends that could help? even if they come round with their DCs and make you a cup of tea, the children will play together a bit and then it won't seem so dull for your DS.

it will get better, and even if DS doesn't have a bath for four weeks, if he's changed and fed and has his mummy, that's all that matters. everything else is details!

hope you feel better soon

[minouminou]

thanks guys
have offers of help from chums, but am saving them up, as it were - no rellies nearby, sadly
it's funny about the salt and vinegar crisps, innit?
can't stand crisps usually, but S&V just seems to do it for you, no?
i did some batch cooking - one of my famous chillis, but i've gone and gone right off it!
am eating a lot of noodles and soy sauce, which thankfully DS loves as well...poor old DP is having to fend for himself foodwise
we'll all get through it! it's just a relief to know i'm not the only one who has succumbed to cbeebies, really.

[littleducks]

oh yes i did this, lay on the sofda with cbeebies on feeling like the world was ending with nausea and tiredness

my dd didnt even go to nursery, so i think your ds is in a better position but fast forward a bit my 'bump' is 5 months old and cant remember what is was like in the late stages of pregnancy (my lap disapeared, couldnt carry her far etc) let alone the early days, which is great as at the time i was sure i was scaring her forever as she used to retch and pretend to throw up as imaginative play as thats what i did with hyperemesis. Now she just breastfeeds her dolls!