Midwives

[hatcam]

Long post, sorry...

Am 21 weeks pregnant, 2nd child - promise I'm not being precious, but really unhappy with the midwife team care in my area and don't know what to do!

Was given really high risk of genetic abnormality from the nuchal fold/blood tests at first scan. It was made worse by the fac that they are so busy in this area that I was already 14 weeks pregn by the time had first scan and it took them another 2 weeks to come back to me to tell me there was a problem.

Had amnio, horrible waiting time and then finally given all-clear.

Obviously feel very lucky but so nervous about my next scan - which is not until tomorrow when will be 22 weeks....and just been told that there are no midwife appointments until the end of June. Also been told that they won't discuss scan at the time, but it will be discussed at the appointment at end June - by which time I'll be about 26 or 27 weeks pregnant.

The genetics counsellor did warn me that I would feel differently about this pregnancy (i.e. anxious) even if we had a positive outcome from the amnio. I certainly do, but don't know what to do about it. Tried calling the midwife team this morning and got as far as saying I was worried about the time lapse between scan and appointment, she said the timing was fine, see you then and plonked phone down.

Any advice oh wise ones?

[VictorianSqualor]

Can you ask for consultant referral instead?
Then you won't have to deal with the mw team.

[hatcam]

Not sure - do I just ask my doctor for a referral to consultant?

Am worried that if I do this I won't be able to give birth at local hospital which is mw only....

Feel like a real old whingebag, think it would be good just to voice concerns to midwives but given they haven't got any time (not their fault!) can't seem to do this...also worried about p*@£ing one of them off and then finding that she's the one on duty when I go into labour!

[mrsboogie]

It doesn't make sense that they won't discuss your scan results there and then. Surely they can tell you if everything looks ok? That is inhuman treatment - looking to see whether your baby is ok and refusing to tell you for four weeks.

[VictorianSqualor]

You could call the hospital and request to see a consultant or ask your midwives to refer you, if there is any problem with the pregnancy they will refer you anyway, I've had cons care with both my last two pg's (no's 2&3)just because my first was a CS.

[hatcam]

New policy apparently, when I had my first scan when they did the nuchal fold, it was really obvious that it was a high measurement (even I knew it was high) but I was told - everything with the baby looks fine - then lo and behold 2 weeks later I get a call from the genetics counsellor.

I've been told by other mums that if you get a nice ultrasound scanner they will give you a good bit of info, but it depends who you get and there's no 'official' discussion until your midwife appointment.

Quite glad from your reaction that it's not just me thinking it's a bit rubbish!