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Nutter Boss - maternity leave syndrome ! Anyone else ?

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mummyrazzle · 12/02/2008 16:06

Am 39 weeks today and finished up work on Friday. My employer has told the rest of the girls in my work not to speak to me while I am off work and that I was lazy and hadn't done any work in the past 3 weeks (which is a lie). Of course they are not taking any notice but it has left me feeling down about my maternity leave !! She is married to someone who doesn't want kids and I think me pushing my fat pregnant belly in her face and then gettting gifts was the final straw ! Sorry to bore but just need a bit of cheering up

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fiona76 · 12/02/2008 16:08

Outrageous!! How long have you worked for her? You must be glad not to see her for a while. Are you going back after the baby?

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finallypregnant · 12/02/2008 16:10

I'd be writing a letter to the HR department saying that this sort of chat isn't acceptable and if your boss has a problem then you expect it to be put in writing to you immediately so any issues can be addressed however, that's me and it's not as easy done.

Outrageous behaviour though.

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Carey87 · 12/02/2008 16:11

That is sooooooo bad!!!

It just shows that what she says/done is wrong as all the other girls are still talking to you.

Dont take any notice of her!!!

(And concentrate on the georgous gifts you got instead!!)

Cxx

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2childrenandit · 12/02/2008 16:11

Hellp mummyrazzle, the thought of doing some cheering up today appeals.... You know you worked (as much as you could at 39 weeks!) in you last few weeks at work - obvioulsy your colleagues know this too, and it sounds as though your boss is a bit jealous. Having sais this, you have left work for mat leave now and dont need to think (easier daid than done I know) but you need to concentrate on you and baby and resting up for your upcoming big event!

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mummyrazzle · 12/02/2008 16:19

Thanks for that girlies ! Am glad I dont have to see her for a while and have a feeling that I will look for somewhere else when my 9 months leave is almost up. I suspect it is a jealousy thing but its just not nice when I have worked for her for 4 years. Am gonna go swimming now and lie on my fat belly and pretend I am thin again ;)

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lollipopmother · 12/02/2008 16:23

I would be writing a letter of complaint, or get your partner to do it. Absoultely disgraceful behaviour, I wouldn't let that go unchecked at all!

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Alexa808 · 14/02/2008 07:11

That's such appalling behaviour from your boss. I certainly wouldn't let that pass unnoticed. Don't ignore it! If you plan on going back to work for her you'll face a hard time. Just imagine your child has the flu or you're dead tired after tending to it all night...there will certainly be no sympathy from her. She'll bully you and make your life misery.

If I were you, I'd have a recorded chat and leave a complaint about her in HR. HR is going to handle this confidentially. Just name witnesses and the incident will appear in your bosses' record.

This way you're insuring yourself, that should anything like this happen in the future, you can have HR relate to this previous misbehaviour and take action.

Think of the future. Don't ignore her slagging you off. You don't deserve that.

Enjoy your last weeks till your birth. I hope it will all go well!

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Alexa808 · 14/02/2008 07:12

PS: If you leave a complaint in her record, she won't even know...until it happens again and disciplinary action is taken, or when she leaves.

Thus, her new employer will know what a bitter cow she is.

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PortAndLemon · 14/02/2008 08:13

Really, I would raise it with HR. You will be protecting yourself (by putting a stop to this right now in case it becomes an issue later on) and protecting the next woman in your office to become pregnant.

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dizzydixies · 14/02/2008 08:27

well said portandlemon, she is a cheeky trout and should be held accountable for it.

in the meantime just think when the MOST inconvient time for her during the day is, fluff up your beautiful newborn baby and waltz in and disrupt the bloody look of them with all the ooohhing and aahhiing over lovely new baby and if SHE DARES to ask for a cuddle, just look at her and say 'I'd rather you didn't' you can always blame it on your hormones lol

(sorry, have just realised I can be quite a vindictive bitch when I want to be )

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nauseous · 14/02/2008 09:02

Your boss sounds like an utter b*itch! V selfish. Definitely complain, thats unacceptable. Hmm... I wonder how we'd react if a man had said that? Love the walzting (sp?) in with beautiful newborn idea...!

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piggyp · 14/02/2008 10:25

what a cow! Think dizziedixies idea is the best! Also nice that your collegues obviously think more of you than her.