6 weeks pregnant and going mad

[iMum]

Have just got off the phone from the early pregnancy asses unit, trying to orgaise an early scan-no joy, although I have got one in 2 weeks time.
I am driving myself bonkers with thoughts that baby has already dies (as has been the case in the past) I no longer feel pregnant, or am I making myself? i dunno I am so convinced that ive lots this baby already.
no pain other than normal achy pains, no bleeding-yet.

[MrsTittleMouse]

I'm sorry. It must be awful to be second-guessing your body all the time. The chances are that this little one is OK though, if you can just get through the next 2 weeks....

[Aitch]

oh sweetheart, it's a terrible, torturous time if you've lost babies before, i know. you probably already know that early preg symptoms wax and wane, that's the way of it so you can't read anything into it. just pick up the biggest book you have in the house and read it in the hopes that a fortnight will have passed by the time you've finished. my sympathies right now, but also my quietly whispered congratulations.

[LadyOfWaffle]

Is there any way you can have a private scan done? Might put your mind at ease xxx {{hugs}}

[theowlwhowasafraidofthedark]

I'm sorry, its such a stressful time. I've almost reached 10 weeks, but have had a lot of spotting over the past 6 weeks.
Every time I 'lose' a symptom I get really stressed out (I confess to have been really happy to have my head down the toilet puking this morning...)
I've held off having an early scan, not sure why but I think part of me needs to know that what happens is out of my control.
I waited over 12 months to get pregnant and the thought that it might go wrong terrifies me, at the same time I'm desperately trying to hold a non-baby related life together.
No sure where I'm heading with this ramble, butmaybe a private scan would help if you can afford it. If you're based anywhere near London I think can just turn up at st georges at the early pregnancy unit and get a scan without a referral

[Aitch]

isn't there a knicker-checkers anonymous thread? for people who are struggling with this? i presume it's also in Pregnancy.

[iHeartMum]

Thanks peeps, not sure where my op was headed, but i do feel so stressed and in turmoil really, I want to be all hapy and tell the world about our news but I have sucha bad feeling. Iwas feeling so strongly sick earlier on and now nothing, I know I have no control, I know its out of my hands but this pain is so strong in my heart, loosing babies is horrific at whatever stage (and ive done it all!) you'd think with all my practise at it I'd be an old hand by now!

[Aitch]

the fear gets worse, i find, not better. my symathies over your previous losses, but believe me when i say that pg symptoms do not remain the same all the time. if you haven't had any bleeding that's a positive sign.

[Aitch]

oh, and having told people the first time, not the second, by the third (dd) i actually didn't tell the majority of people until i was 18 weeks and tbh some didn't find out until she was born.

[whomovedmychocolate]

Ah consider yourself lucky that this week you aren't being sick. You surely will be next week!

You could pay for a private scan - an early scan costs about £40 round here - don't know where you are- but it would at least put your mind at rest.

During my second pregnancy (the first successful one) I used to do pregnancy tests for the first eight weeks, each one got progressively darker quicker and it reassured me. I'm sure this is completely unscientific but I was sure that the HCG levels would plummet within 24 hours if things went wrong (they do, but normally it takes a few days).

We all have these sort of dark thoughts early on in pregnancy and later on too. Unless you are actually bleeding, everything is very likely to be okay.

[iMumbelievablyamarous]

I have never been so pleased to feel sick ever in my life-am feeling much more positive today as have had permenant sea sickness feeling all day.
Hurruah!

[MrsTittleMouse]

Great news!

[AitchTwoOh]

oh brill, that's excellent. well done.

[iMum]

Just to let you know, my suspicions were right-I misscarried this morning

[AitchTwoOh]

oh dear, you poor thing, are you sure? i'm so sorry for the loss of your wee pregnancy, iMum.

[FrannyandZooey]

iMum, I am very sorry to hear this
how cruel when you were just feeling a bit reassured to have the morning sickness as well
please take care of yourself

[scorpio1]

take care

[iMum]

Thanks peeps, Feel like crap atm.
but will try again.

[MrsTittleMouse]

to hear that.

[iMum]

Question, after i have finished bleeding form the mc is it as if i have just had a period? ie will i ovulate roughly 14 days later? as we are going to ttc again asap.
I know some people say wait but-I dont see the point, i miscarry so easily that waiting only drags it all out.

[AitchTwoOh]

if that's when you ovulate, you might do. maybe buy some opks to use so that you'll know. i am sorry, imum, it's gutting.

[iMum]

Thanks Aitch-ive lost 5 now in different ways. but I think what is oressing me atm is that my best bud is preggers too, and we were due the same week! this will be very hard to deal with if I dont have a baby of my own as well.
A complete repeat of a situation 2 years ago when my sister in law and I were expecting at the same time and I lost, she didnt and I still find it very hard not to feel sad about that!

[belgo]

Sorry to hear this iMum; I've had miscarriages at 6 weeks and 7 weeks, and both times I ovulated about two and a half weeks later.

If you want to start TTC again immediately I can understand that, and if the miscarriage completes itself naturally, there is no reason why you shouldn't start TTC again immediately.

Good luck.

[AitchTwoOh]

i didn't wait to try after my second ectopic, i just couldn't face a break, funnily enough, and i got pregnant the second time we tried, with my lovely dd. i hope things work out next time, imum, and that you grieve for what you might have had so that when you do meet your child you are ready and happy.

[iMum]

I just dont understand it, Ive still got terrible morning sickness-or is it just stress?
The hosp were particularly useless with this mc, I didnt even see a doc! they told me to do another test after a week and phone through with the negative result, well whats the point of tha? nurse said blood test indicates a very early faily pregnancy, ie babe died very soon after conception, my body just held on to it for a bit.
bugger
feel pants-have been a crap mum, wife etc etc.
just want to run away a bit really, not from my life so to speak but from everything else does that make sense? I just need to be me for a bit, me without the mc.

blah

[Julezboo]

Imum, i to have had 5 losses, Preg again now, just 7 weeks today and have had a pretty up and down week told i was mc'ing, had scan on fri and i lost a twin but one baby is there!

Please push for a scan, one blood test will tell them nothing they need to do two to see if HCG levels are rising HTH and good luck x