DH would like to know the sex of this baby - but I don't!

[Didylicious]

I'm expecting my fourth baby. DH would like to find out the sex at our 20 weeks scan (not for ages yet as I'm only 12 weeks), but for once, I'd like a surprise.

I really think I do NOT want to know this time.

I'm worried the sonogropher might "write it down" for DH, and not tell me - but then DH would just tease me, and joke about it for the next 20 weeks.....

Can I "make" the sonographer not tell either of us?

[scorpio1]

i think they only tell if mother says so.

[daisynova]

I have the same problem but dh has almost talked me into it now. My scan is on Thursday!

[cazboldy]

my dh wanted to know last time (pg number 5) and I didn't.
I agreed in the end, but they couldn't tell as her cord was in the way!

[micegg]

My DH talked e into it last time and I can remember at DDs birth wishing I hadnt known. However, it was nice to call her a she/her instead of the baby or whatever else. I have my second scan tomorrow and will be stickin by my guns that we are not finding out. DH has agredd not to find out as he cant keep a secret.

[claireybraxtonhicks]

We had the same dilemma and in the end agreed that dh could have it written down IF he promised not to tell anyone else (didn't want other people knowing before me!) and promised not to let it slip or wind me up.

When the time came though baby was on my side and they couldn't tell!

I don't think they'll write it down for your dh unless you say that they can

[Flibbertyjibbet]

Tell him he will be finding out soon enough. I didn't want to know and I told the scanner that I didn't want him to know either.
How on earth would your dp be able to keep it secret if he knew and you didn't?????

[SoupDragon]

IMO, "not knowing" takes priority over finding out in any dispute like this.

[CountessDracula]

really Soupy?

So if OP wanted to find out and her dh didn't then she shouldn't?

Why does he want to find out?

[PurlyQueen]

If you don't want to know, then your husband will just have to wait . He'll find out soon enough

[PaulaYatesbiggestfan]

definitely do not find out ....esp if you have with the others
i would just tell him thats how it is
he will love it on the day!

[e14mum]

I was dying to find out at last scan, but DH wanted to wait. I think that "not wanting to know" does take priority- we'll know soon enough and I'm ok with that!
(and I hope your DH will be too )

[NAB3littlemonkeys]

I thnk you both have to be in agreement. We didn't find out with our first 2 but made a snap decision to with out third.

[SoupDragon]

Yes, CD, because you will, after all, find out eventually. It's not like you're not going to ever find out if you don't look at the scan. If both parents can't agree they want to find out then they shouldn't (IMO)

The chances of something being slipped by accident if one partner knows and the other doesn't is very high. I know - I only had to keep DS2 a secret for 3 days and it was difficult! Had he been a girl I would have struggled even more (I found out by accident at a 37wk growth scan).