ok, finally told dh I am pregnant

[christie2]

I finally got the nerve to break the news to dh yesterday. He is actually very calm about it. He told me he was so worried I was sick with something really awful ( we had a cancer scare last year where I was scanned for ovarian cancer but it was ok) that this was less of a worry to him. He was concerned I was sleeping so much. Anyway, other than being sick as a dog and tired, we are both getting used to the idea. Haven't told anyone else yet. I am dreading the reactions.

[Buda]

Why? Sorry - don't know background.

[ajandjjmum]

Is it not good news then?

[christie2]

Sorry, should have given more details. I am 44 and this is baby number 6 which dh did not want anymore. Came as a bit of a shock (which sounds crazy to say given the fact we have done this 5 times before) but have had 3 miscarriages and I truly believed I was pre-menapausal as crazy changes were going on. I thought the flushed cheeks were hot flashes. DH and I went through a long process a few years back of deciding on another, I wanted one and he didn't and it was tough but we had moved on and were doing fine. Anyway, I was terrified to tell him this had happened (and we were using protection) although dh says he should have gone ahead and had a permanent solution (the snip) but just never got around to it. Yes, it is good news, if fact it will be fine. But I do worry about my age, health concerns and concerns for the baby ie will it be ok at my age with the risks of downs' etc. The doctor asked if I was keeping it and I didn't even hesitate when I said yes so that was my answer. I knew I couldn't consider a termination but that confirmed it. dh agrees with this.

[mum2bejan]

I'm so pleased that hubby took it ok Christie. I know a number of people that have had babies in their 40's and everything turned out just fine. Main thing is to look after yourself, rest when you can and listen to advice from the doc's and midwife. You'll be just fine!

[Niecie]

Congratulations on your pregnancy! I hope everything goes well for you.

I am glad your DH took it calmly and sounds like he is a good bloke and accepting that he had a part to play in you getting pregnant too! If you are both agreed that you don't want a termination you can start planning and looking forward to your new baby. Don't worry about anybody else's reactions - so long as the two of you are happy and think you can cope then it is nobody elses business and your family are bound to love it when it arrives. Who can resist a baby?!

How many weeks are you? When is your due date?

[christie2]

thank you for your kind words. I will remember them when I get the usual "what are you insane?". Definately, he is going for the snip (or I am getting tubes tied).I don't know how many weeks, the doctor thinks it could be around 8 but we won't know until they do a scan which I have to book this week. So, looks like June maybe? It just seems so weird because for so long I wanted another, longed for it, then, worked so hard to move on, even went back to school last year and did my masters and loved it. I said to dh that I was so enjoying being thin, got a new haircut last year, bought new clothes and was going out a bit with friends, the kids were older and I could sit and read a book for long uninterrupted periods, no diapers. But having said that, I can have all that again, just not this year!I already feel fat!

[madamez]

~COngratulations. My cousin had a totally health DS2 at the age of 46 so it can be done. Best of luck.

[RGPargy]

Congratulations Christie!! So pleased DH took the news well.

Now you can at least sit back and enjoy being pg again. Dont worry about the age thing too much. I'm 39 and am due in a week!! We are also planning a second in the next year or so too. My cut off age for getting pg again is 45 tho so who knows how many more we will pop out before then!

[Buda]

Congratulations! (I am 43 with one IVF DS and may try again next year!!)

What are the ages of your others?

[Countingthegreyhairs]

Congratulations Christie2!! I'm so happy for you and your husband. I'm 43 and trying for no.2 so all these posts have given me hope.

[Pinkchampagne]

Congratulations!

[Walnutshell]

Blimey Fio, good for her though.

Congrats Christie. You will have to ignore those who declare you insane - people can be very rigid in their view of what you should do as a woman - especially other women I find... I hope you enjoy your pregnancy.

[christie2]

Sorry I didn't get back to mn sooner. The other children are 10, 9, 7, 5 and 3. Once I get through the third month which I am in now I will relax and it will seem really real. But given the severe morning sickness, it looks like this one is going to make it.

In her 50's...Gulp... dh is definately getting the snip after this one! Countingthegreyhairs-I really believed that my fertility time was done given some changes in my monthly cycles and signs that menopause was looming but, clearly I was wrong. Funny, recently, I read an article that the highest rate of unplanned pregnancies was women in their 40's not under 20's. I get it now. I think it is because we think those days are over for us, we become less careful or concerned about it. Also, for me anyway, my cycles becames so erratic it was hard to stay organized with dates and stuff.

[zookeeper]

congratulations - I think your baby is very lucky to have so many siblings - I'm sure he/she will be spoilt rotten and a great joy to you all.

[dd666]

congrats!!!
perhaps dh should consider the snip whilst you not feeling up to it rather than wait till after.