Finding work really difficult!! Is it just me?

[cupcake78]

I am only 18 weeks this week and I am finding work really hard at the moment.

I told the staff that I work with that I was prgnt about two weeks ago and since then I really feel like nobody is listening to what I say and just doing there own thing. I feel very isolated.

To top it all off I feel exhausted and my brain has turned to absolute mush.

I hate being at work at the moment and have a big nesting thing going on and just want to be at home sorting out. I have another 3 months + left at work and it seems forever.

Is it normal to feel like this so early on?

[Chocolateface]

I felt like this with DH1. At 5 1/2 months I panicked the baby would have nothing to wear, and rushed out of work to Gap to buy some outfits for him! Insane!

[Myfairone]

Hi Cupcake,

I feel exactly the same way! I am 26 weeks and have decided on a leaving date (22nd June) in the hope that it would motivate me a little - but sadly not!

Just yesterday a comment was made that really upset/annoyed me...it was to the tune of 'Dont bother emailing anything to her because she's useless now and will be leaving soon anyway'! Thought I was being very sensitive but its really played on my mind....Think a visit to HR may be in order!

So to answer your question...Yes its normal to feel the way you do! Just count down the weeks and it will be here sooner than you think!

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[cupcake78]

Good to know I am not alone. Just been and bought and Ice lolly to make it all better!!

Such a simple short term solution!

[Myfairone]

Cupcake - way to go girl!!!!!

I am at work and so far have shopped (internet of course) for baby monitors, breast pumps, bottles etc etc etc...now I'm lounging on Mumsnet and only getting up when I have to pee! Infact, I should imagine that everyone thinks I've left already!

Chin up!

[BetsyBoop]

felt like that as soon as I was preggo

had the opposite problem at work though, no one to start handing over my job to & they kept loading on the work & I was getting more & more knackered (infact my replacement arrived the week after my m/l started & I ended up doing a handover from home by phone! More fool me I know, when they'd had over 4 months to sort it out....)

[naturelover]

I'm 22 weeks and just wanted to say I cannot stand still working! Sadly I will probably work till 38 weeks or so for financial reasons (I've already decided to be a SAHM for a couple of years, so won't be back here at all). It just feels so pointless to be here while my heart isn't in it...

Brain has also turned to mush and I forget the most elementary things. Am itching to get home each day and potter around the house. Have started massive clear-out but haven't started buying baby gear yet though.

Anyone else expecting their first and already decided to be a SAHM?

[endlesslove]

Cupcake you are no alone. I have just been signed off this week - I just couldn't face the commute and the long 8 hours a day of listening to boring boring people and doing boring boring work!!! I look at my calendar non-stop to count down the weeks left. so no you are not alone. You have more important things on your mind. I also agree to think about the date you plan to leave to give yourself something to focus on. I still have 9 weeks left and my goodness that seems a lifetime away!

Naturelover - Yeah I am a first time mum to be and am going to be a SAHM. I am due on August 18th and so so excited. When you due?

[Nikki76]

Totally normal!! I think you have to switch off to some extent as its your body's way of preparing you for the big things lying ahead.

I used to be exhausted by the end of the day and some days when DH was working a late shift and I couldnt go home with him, I got a taxi home as couldn't do the bus!

Ended up being signed off a week earlier than my leaving date as was so exhausted and couldn't take the crap they were throwing at me - its as if they want to squeeze everything out of you before you leave with no appreciation for how hard it was just to show up and do a good job!

[Daisypops]

I felt like this too. No one seemed to listen when i spoke. I remember one occasion when I offered to get my boss and 2 colleagues some directions for a meeting they were going to and they all completely ignored me despite me repeating myself 3 times, I nearly burst in to tears, then I just wanted to smack them all! And I have a boss who is a complete tool who made numerous unreasonable comments about pregnant ladies. I tossed it off as soon as I could, shopped for baby things, came on mnet, made tea and went to chat to colleagues in other offices for hours! Your leaving date will seem ages away but I just thought of the money and that kept me there til the end. x

[Babylovesmuffins]

hi Cupcake
Yes, I feel like that at the moment (and have done for a good few weeks now) - I'm 23 weeks.

Everyone at work is driving me MAD!! Even the smallest things set me off at the moment. I feel less capable of doing my job well as everything seems like such an effort but obviously I wouldn't admit that to

I'm counting down the days... "Only" 12 weeks to go!!

[naturelover]

Endlesslove I'm due 29 Aug. Am also excited though a bit apprehensive about huge change of lifestyle that comes with decision to be a SAHM. Some people feel the need to tell me it's too early to have made that decision and that I will be bored after six months... But I can't imagine being bored at all. My mum loved being a SAHM and got huge satisfaction from it (and did a great job of being a mum too - hard act to follow!)
My job doesn't pay well enough to make it worthwhile coming back anyway, what with London childcare prices.

[cupcake78]

It is so good to know I am not alone.

I have five weeks holiday that I am trying to save up so hopefully I will be able to leave at the end of July. Take August off as holiday and start my maternity leave beginning of Sept.

Not sure if this is a good idea or if I should just stick it out another three weeks and leave mid August under holiday. This will be my first time so I don't know what would be best.

I am not due till 24 Sept, which really does seem like forever away.

13 weeks to go and counting!!!!!! or it may be 16 (god that really is forever).

[cupcake78]

OOH!! and came in this morning to find someone else sat at my desk.

"you don't mind do you, just for today" so I have had to move my stuff up stairs (with no help) and find another seat.

I am not imagining this!!

[MrsMar]

Hi Cupcake, I'm in the same situation. I'm 19 weeks now (due 19th Sept) and going to do the same as you, save all my annual leave and finish work end of July, maternity leave starting beginning of Sept, but I'm really feeling like I can't hold it together until then. I work shifts and they're constantly changing, more than normal, so I can't keep up with what's going on. I was supposed to be off today and tomorrow (in lieu of the weekend which I'm working) and have had my days all swapped so I've worked one on one off for the past two weeks. Not having 2 days off in a row is horrible, I'm just so exhausted. I've also got a really dumb manager who puts on this really irritating smiley face "everything alright??" attitude, and then ignores me when I say I'm struggling with all the shift changes. I'm supposed to be doing some training on friday, and she's decided it would be "fun" for me to do another three courses that day to make the best use of my time! AAARRGGHH!!!!!

Phew! rant over!!! You do have my sympathies, we'll have to use mn to vent every now and then! I'm soooo tempted to ask my gp to sign me off for a week when I see her in a couple of weeks. Just the matter of 5 12hour night shifts to do before then! When does it ever end?????

[CairoFi]

I know the feeling!

I'm 30 weeks and my husband has had an accident and been in intenstive care for 4 days. I went back to work today and ended up getting a load of hassle for stuff that happen when I wasn't even there!!!

I wish I could tell them to stick the job! Talk about unsupportive, never-mind, what goes around comes around. I'm off in 5 weeks and by that time work will be TOTAL nightmare and I'll be at home on my backside! Blee!

[RGPargy]

OMG, i cant believe what some of you ladies are having to put up with!!

Do yourselves a favour and get signed off. Honestly, some work places are a complete effin' joke!!

When i was pregnant with my first son (17 years ago now), i got signed off for TWO WEEKS with "pregnancy and malaise", which in English means "she's knackered".

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[izzzie]

hello
i'm also totally fed up with work. i'm 28 weeks pregnant and now all i really care about is the baby and the house.
i am doing my best and working really hard but i feel some of the powers that be are not taking me seriously. my replacement is already lined up (I am only taking six months off so they are just moving someone from another department to cover for me) and suddenly he seems to be the big star while my contributions are systematically undermined. I have lost confidence in my ability to do the job well but i/we need the money as my husband was made redundant and so i am the only one with a steady income.
And i've got 10 weeks still to go! however, got three weeks holiday I can take between now and leaving so i might reduce it that way!

[bumperlicious]

cupcake - I understand too. My team all seem to ignore the fact that I am pg, don't ask about it or ask how I am very much. Have been thoroughly miserable throughout the whole of the pg. Got so fed up crying at work, eventually went to my welfare office (and cried) and they suggested that I might need some time off. So finally at 30 weeks was signed off for two weeks and honestly it was the best thing! I spent 2 weeks just pottering and sleeping when I needed to. Back at work now, and feeling pretty uncomfortable and fed up again, but only 2 weeks to go.

Anyway, that was a bit of a ramble, but the point is if you can take some time off then do it! If you can't be signed off maybe take a couple of days leave, so you can have a couple of 4 day weeks and do something lovely for yourself.

[bumperlicious]

Just to add btw, that I had originally intended to work until the last minute, but am now actually finishing 5 weeks before EDD, and will not be a moment too soon. Yes it's less time to spend with LO after it's born, but didn't want to be burnt out and miserable and unprepared when it comes. Finish when you need to - you won't regret it. Only 8 working days for me to go!

[Leadona23]

Hiya I am 32 weeks pregnant and only started my maternity leave on the 2nd I’ve some complications already in the pregnancy and I’ve been telling my partner that my body is in a lot of pain due to those complications, but my partner keeps telling me that I should of waited to take maternity leave and that I didn’t try hard enough I feel so left out and not understood at all no clue on what to do

[Cafeaulait27]

Soon as I told people I was pregnant at work I felt like people don’t involve me in anything much, the difference is really noticeable, it’s like I’m not there sometimes. I’m glad I held off telling them until 20 weeks (mostly wfh due to covid).

In a way I think it’s a good thing as my workload is less so I’m less stressed out, but on the other hand I feel a bit left out and very unmotivated xx