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manda1989 · 21/01/2017 08:28

hello im a 27 (nearly 28 year old) i have an 18month old child from a previous relationship and have been in my current relationship for just over a month now and i found out the other day that im pregnant...the problem is he wont tell his mum...he says how do you tell your mum your having a baby with someone you aint been with long...im worried he aint ready to be a dad he is 25 but all my family already know...he says he is over the moon that we are having a baby and he has even told his mate and his mates kids so why aint he telling his mum who is more important to tell

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Kelsey28 · 21/01/2017 08:39

Can I ask how many weeks pregnant you are? maybe he is cautious in case something goes wrong?

manda1989 · 21/01/2017 08:43

im not sure yet i have a midwife app on the 15th of feb

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MiniAlphaBravo · 21/01/2017 08:47

I find it a bit strange that you've already told all your family to be honest. He surely doesn't have to tell his mum everything immediately at 25?! It must be a massive shock to have go pregnant so soon, unless you weren't using contraception, in which case it's not really surprising at all and he will have to deal with it if you are keeping the baby.

Kelsey28 · 21/01/2017 08:47

If he is unsure how to tell his mum, could you tell her together?

Kelsey28 · 21/01/2017 08:49

Also I found out I was pregnant at 10 weeks so very close to the safer 12 weeks. My fiancé of five years still freaked out about having to tell his mum and didn't for two weeks. A lot of men have strange reactions to pregnancy news.

FishInAWetSuitAndFlippers · 21/01/2017 08:52

You have only been together a few weeks, give him chance to absorb the news before announcing it to everyone. You must both be in shock. Not telling his mum at this early stage isn't a problem at all.

manda1989 · 21/01/2017 09:02

i was on the pill and ive only met his mum once for about 5 minutes

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PotteringAlong · 21/01/2017 09:07

I hadn't told my mum I was pregnant at this stage with any of my pregnancies and I was married.

I think it's more unusual that you have told them to be honest.

manda1989 · 21/01/2017 09:10

i have epilepsy and my family have to know im pregnant incase i have a fit

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BastardGoDarkly · 21/01/2017 09:13

You must only be three /four weeks? Its not unusual at all to wait until 12 to tell people.

Nightmare all round being pregnant so soon, are you sure he wants the baby?

PotteringAlong · 21/01/2017 09:49

That's fine, but that doesn't mean that him not rushing to tell his mum is a problem.

Ilovecaindingle · 21/01/2017 09:52

You are expecting him to let his mother knows her little boy has sex!!
You already have a child so know the impact on your life - the good and the bad! He hasn't a clue!! Give him some time to adjust first!!

haveacupoftea · 21/01/2017 12:14

Just because your family were thrilled doesn't mean his will be if I told my mum i'd got pregnant by someone i'd known a month she would be furious.

sarahnova69 · 21/01/2017 12:20

I think I'd probably focus less on whether he's told his mum (I've been married the better part of a decade and I wouldn't tell my mum before twelve weeks) and more about what this pregnancy means for you and whether you want to continue it, given that your relationship is very very new and untested, and that there is a fairly high chance it will not survive the strain.

annlee3817 · 21/01/2017 12:32

It didn't really seem real to my DH until we had the first scan, he didn't want to tell anyone before then, he couldn't get his head round it or visualise it. When we went for the first scan and he saw the heartbeat it all became very real, and we'd been married for two years, together for five. I think it's normal for them to keep it quiet and to take time to get their heads around it.

manda1989 · 21/01/2017 12:36

firstly i dont believe in abortion it should be illegal and secondly im very happy im pregnant

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sarahnova69 · 21/01/2017 12:43

OK, great. Well, then your only options really are to wait and see how things play out, but also prepare yourself for the possibility that your relationship isn't ready for this.

Blondeshavemorefun · 21/01/2017 14:01

So you've been with partner for a month and already preg

Did you have sex the first night together as usually wouldn't know till 4-6w as go from last period

Is there anyway he could think baby isn't his? (Sorry)

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 21/01/2017 14:08

I got pregnant very early in my relationship with DP. We didn't tell our families until 16 weeks. It's not unusual to not tell people immediately.

manda1989 · 21/01/2017 14:38

no im not a slag i havent slept with anyone since my ex in october and my last period was 14th of dec

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TheFirstMrsDV · 21/01/2017 14:42

Its nice you are happy to be pregnant. Congratulations.
Your views on abortion an women who have more than one partner are pretty shite though. Maybe keep them to yourself if you want people to take the time and trouble to advise you?

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 21/01/2017 15:04

No one said you were a slag... It's not unreasonable to think that you could have had a partner before your current one.

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Kelsey28 · 21/01/2017 15:32

You seem incredibly immature.

ColourfulOrangex · 21/01/2017 15:48

Give him time it's very early days, most people don't make it common knowledge until they have the first scan

haveacupoftea · 21/01/2017 22:22

You'll be about 5 and a half weeks if the first day of your last period was 14th December.

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