I feel so guilty to even be expressing these thoughts but am really struggling. I've wanted to be pregnant for so long and experienced a late pregnancy loss last time around, so I know I should be (and am) extremely grateful to be pregnant. I'm 27weeks, but I feel massive. People keep on telling me I look like I'm about to drop, and yesterday a colleague told me I was massive. I have always been sensitive about my body shape and size, so it's really hit a nerve. I keep telling myself that the main thing is that my baby is healthy and appears to be growing, but I can't stop myself worrying. I feel grotesque in all my clothes. I know I've gained lots of weight through over eating especially in the first 12 weeks when I felt sick constantly and eating was the only thing that helped, and it's a vicious cycle because I'm an emotional eater and can't seem to stop.
Things have got worse this week because I've found out a girl I work with is 15 weeks pregnant. She still has a flat stomach and is showing no signs of being pregnant whatsoever. At 15 weeks I was bursting out of my jeans and people guessed I was expecting. I know it's so so vain and I hate myself for it but I keep thinking how people are naturally going to make unfavourable comparisons between us, just like I am.
Sorry this sounds terribly self pitying. I just wondered if anyone else struggled with similar issues whilst pregnant?
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Feeling depressed about my size
obsessed1 · 10/12/2016 17:24
OP - I was 58kg when I fell pregnant, 76kg when I gave birth... and 53kg and happy in a teeny bikini 9 months after giving birth while eating lots. How? By breastfeeding exclusively for sux months and continuing to breastfeed. Do not despair 
I felt exactly the same during my pregnancy. I gained about 3 stone in total (due to over eating cos of morning sickness and inactivity toward he end due to a dvt) but even at 12 weeks people were saying I was huge, massive, enormous 
(one that particularly annoyed me) and kept asking if I was having twins!! It really used to piss me off 
I remember one girl I used to work with kept saying 'compared to my sister you are absolutely huge' - I wasn't. Her sister was 6 weeks ahead of me and at least 4 stone heavier to begin with.
What really annoys me is that people don't see any problem with openly saying these types of things to women who are probably already feeling down and a bit emotional, especially about the way they look. You wouldn't say 'you're huge' to a fat person so I don't know why people feel it's ok to say to a pregnant women. There is more tactful ways of saying it. I remember a couple of older ladies I work with that were so lovely and made me feel like I looked gorgeous the whole time, they were full of compliments saying I looked glowing and all sorts, even if what they really meant was my belly was getting big, they did it in a way that actually made me feel good about it.
What I wanted to -scream- say to people was 'Yes, your belly gets big and yes you put on some weight, that is generally what happens during pregnancy. Sorry, not everyone stays in shape, eats healthy, puts on minimal weight, has a nice little neat bump and pops right back into shape!'
Also congratulations and all the best for the rest of your pregnancy
I've had a few wobbles with the way I look and second pp's advice to find maternity clothes that suit you. I know lots of people like to show off the bump in tight-fitting clothing but I always feel a bit lumpy and frumpy 
I've been wearing long layers over skinny jeans (waterfall cardigans and long scarves are your friends) or a maternity dress with a cardigan cinched in under my boobs to create an empire line. Much more flattering if you feel sensitive about the size of your bump.
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