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Midwife said "he"

(28 Posts)
user1476991850 Tue 01-Nov-16 20:46:16

Does it mean anything? She knew we didn't want to know the sex so assuming she either slipped up or always says that for all to avoid saying "it". I've noticed a lot of online guidance also says he.

QueenOfTheNaps Tue 01-Nov-16 20:47:59

From my time of being pg (years ago) I read somewhere that health professionals will always use 'he'. It's not nice to refer to a baby as 'it' so they resort to 'he'.
I don't think it's a slip up, it's just MW's habit smile

NickNacks Tue 01-Nov-16 20:48:54

How would she know? Unless she did your scan?

maybethedayafter Tue 01-Nov-16 20:49:20

How likely is it that the midwife would even know the sex? It's the sonographer who does the scan and it doesn't get recorded anywhere as far as I know.

user1476991850 Tue 01-Nov-16 20:51:05

I'm sorry I meant to say the sonographer blush

ElsaAintAsColdAsMe Tue 01-Nov-16 20:53:42

Ime they always pick either he or she and stick with that with everyone. Saves calling the baby it.

SpaceDinosaur Tue 01-Nov-16 20:59:02

Did you tell the sonographer you didn't know and didn't want to know?

Objectively. It's probably just to stop the baby being called "it"
I had an extra scan this week (32weeks) and before I lifted my top I told them that we didn't know and didn't want to find out. Baby was referred to as "baby" and "little one" throughout. It's probably just that they don't like using "it" :-) don't worry!

user1476991850 Tue 01-Nov-16 21:24:47

Yes, she asked just before whether we wanted to know.

thecatsarecrazy Tue 01-Nov-16 21:37:07

Don't read anything into it. We don't know what we having but midwife and family refer to my bump as he. Its baby to me.

Dixiechick17 Tue 01-Nov-16 21:49:24

It's normal, I had a lot of scans in pregnancy and they always referred to my DD as a 'he' unless I corrected them.

user1476991850 Tue 01-Nov-16 21:57:55

Thanks all smile it sounds like a standard thing.

LHilton4981 Tue 01-Nov-16 22:06:01

They say you can tell by the heart beat..
mine sounded like a steam train which signifies a boy & i am actually having a baby boy. They say if it sounds like galloping horses then it's a girl smile the speed of the heartbeat is due to how much testosterone you have in your body too x

user1476991850 Tue 01-Nov-16 22:28:33

I've heard this too. I had a private scan at 9.5 weeks and the heart rate was 165. Not been told at my nhs scans what it was but I think my midwife is going to listen with a doppler at my next appt in a few weeks smile

Inthenick Tue 01-Nov-16 22:32:34

Forget about the heart rate thing. Yes there is a difference but its small and changes fast so even being a day or two out on your due date (all due dates are +\- 2 days even if you know exactly what day you ovulated as implantation isn't an exact timeframe either) so you can never be sure by heart rate.

How many weeks are you OP?

user1476991850 Tue 01-Nov-16 22:45:44

I do take all these things with a pinch of salt!

I'm 21 weeks now xx

Inthenick Wed 02-Nov-16 08:04:52

Ach, you'll never know if she accidentally said it or always says he. So it will be a surprise. But you're halfway there!

Kel1234 Wed 02-Nov-16 08:08:33

We didn't want to know and our baby was referred to as baby as well.
Though once I was convinced I heard someone say she, but my husband was sure he saw a little bit on the screen (not on purpose). We just agreed that neither of us could be sure and forgot about it. And enjoyed our surprise at the birth

Lapinlapin Wed 02-Nov-16 08:11:05

My sonographer did this and 'he' did indeed turn out to be a boy!

UnoriginalNN Wed 02-Nov-16 08:12:35

Out our 20w scan the sonographer was referring to DD as 'he' and only went ahead and confirmed she was a girl after we'd said we wanted to know. I just think it's their way of not saying 'it'.

PotteringAlong Wed 02-Nov-16 08:16:35

My hospital has a policy of saying "she" regardless! They were just avoiding "it"; don't give it another thought!

Oogle Wed 02-Nov-16 08:23:31

Sonographer said "baby is being a little minx!" so I instantly thought "girl". You'd use monkey to be more generic, right?!

Wrong. He's a boy grin

user1476991850 Wed 02-Nov-16 08:44:37

Sounds very varied but doesn't give anything away smile

Anyone care to guess? Xx

Nuggy2013 Wed 02-Nov-16 08:54:22

I have a ten day old DD and we didn't know what sex baby was. Midwives constantly referred to he/she throughout my labour because they don't use words like 'it' etc, really wouldn't worry x

sycamore54321 Wed 02-Nov-16 08:56:05

Sometimes they use 'he' as a communication tool to avoid confusion between the baby and mother - "his spine" or "his heartbeat" clearly must mean the baby, whereas "hers" could be either the mother or the baby. I wouldn't read anything into it.

Nottalotta Wed 02-Nov-16 09:00:54

Mine said she, I had a boy.

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