I'm on my third pregnancy. One dd aged 5, a mmc at 13 weeks, now 28+2. With dd and this time around I've found it a struggle to cope with the comments people make about my pregnancy size. I'm quite average when not pregnant- pear shaped, healthy bmi, size 10 top, 12 bottom. After years of ED, I'm generally happy with my figure and fairly body confident most of the time. Which is why I feel so pathetic, because I really struggle when people comment. My bump is measuring 27cm so in no way big, but everyone comments - some to talk about how 'huge' I am and some to say how neat it is. For as many 'are you sure there is only one in there?' Or 'Good grief! You've popped haven't you? It's going to be a big baby!' comments I've had, I've also had an equal number of 'Gosh, that's a tidy little bump isn't it?' Or 'you havent gained any weight any where else have you? Your all bump'. I know, rationally, that people just feel the need to make conversation. I know people do not mean any harm or to offend. I know I can't be both big and small so I should just ignore comments but I find it really hard. With dd I was measuring small at the end and people still commented the same way so the very fact that I'm even taking any notice this time is stupid. I feel so guilty to be bothered by it because, after my mmc, I know I'm so bloody lucky to be carrying this baby. I just feel like it's an endless stream of comments. My dh even said the other day that the women in the office at his school were saying what a neat bump I had. A compliment, but it still got to me that they had discussed my weight and then told my husband. I'm quite a private person and I hate being the centre of attention. Am I the only one who feels upset when people comment? I know I need to get over it and 'woman up' a bit. Any ideas how?
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Does anyone else find that 'bump comments' really get to them?
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Whatsername17 · 30/10/2016 09:17
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