Hi, need some advice/support from anyone who has been through something similar ...
I'm 38 and 7+5 with my first. My partner of ten years and I have been TTC since April. I told him a few years ago I wanted kids but it's taken him a while to come around to the idea and to be ready (I've waited very patiently all this time!). Recently we'd had many conversations about babies and having a family, we stopped using contraception, and he seemed totally on board. I got pregnant a lot more quickly than I expected but I was over the moon and thought he would be too. When I told him he was subdued but seemed happy about it. Yesterday we had an argument during which he said some horrible things, including accusing me of "deliberately" getting pregnant to fit in with some "plan" I'm supposed to have had, that it's all about me and he's just tagging along for the ride, and that he doesn't want the baby - that broke my heart. He said he's not ready and "maybe next year or some time in the future". Now he's not speaking to me - he's skulking around as if I've done something terrible to him. I just don't know what to do. He's a very selfish and self-centred person generally, but I really thought we were in this together and now I just feel completely shell-shocked. I don't want to terminate as he suggested because this may be my last chance to become a mum, and it would destroy our relationship anyway as I would resent him. But I can't be a single parent if he decides he really doesn't want this. Has anyone else had a partner behave like this? Is it just cold feet? I'm just feeling so confused and alone right now.
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