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Need someone to talk to - miscarriage

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Fuzyfelt23 Thu 20-Oct-16 08:44:59

I had a miscarriage the weekend, I was nearly 7 weeks pregnant. I just wanted somebody to talk to, I feel so awful I just don't know where to go from here.

Emz32 Thu 20-Oct-16 08:52:53

Sorry you are going through this. It's heartbreaking. Have you got a support network in RL? Iv been in your position & it's awful. Just try and take care of yourself.

MaisieDotes Thu 20-Oct-16 08:56:37

Sorry for your loss fuzy flowers

It's really hard and it's absolutely fine to grieve for as long as it takes to be able to function again.

MissClarke86 Thu 20-Oct-16 09:00:49

Let the feelings be whatever they are, and then when you're ready to try again go for it.

I had a MMC early in the year and am now 20 weeks pregnant again. Had a positive scan and found out it's a girl. I won't ever forget my miscarriage, but for whatever genetic reason it wasnt meant to be (it helped me to think that because my baby just didn't develop, but it doesn't help everybody so I'm sorry if ive upset you).

I now couldn't be happier. You will get through it just do it in your own time.

McBaby Thu 20-Oct-16 09:41:47

It's really tough and the hormones make it all so much harder to deal with. Look after you self and do what to need to do to get through each day.

I had a miscarriage in July I started bleeding at 10 weeks the scan showed the baby stopped developing at 4 weeks. It took a further 6 weeks for my hormones to get back to normal.

greenlizard Thu 20-Oct-16 09:54:00

So sorry to hear your news. I have had three miscarriages (I x MMC, 1 x Blighted Ovum and 1 x vanishing twin) and they have all been very painful emotionally and I will never forget any of them (or would wish to).

You will be feeling very raw right now and that's OK - I can promise you that it does get better even if it doesn't see this way just yet. Don't let anyone tell you that at 7 weeks it wasn't a baby because it was. My advice would be to let yourself grieve. There is a fantastic thread on Body and Soul - miscarriage and pregnancy loss. Drop by they will all understand what you are going through and support you.

Take care of your yourself xxxxxx

ps. I had one twin survive who is now 20 months and I am 39 weeks pregnant with number two.

Fuzyfelt23 Thu 20-Oct-16 10:26:42

Thank you for all your kind words. I just feel so devestated. I just wanted my baby so much 😞 X

Helbelle75 Thu 20-Oct-16 13:48:32

You're not on your own fuzzy. I had a MMC in May this year, and didn't know how I would get through it. I had to have a month off work, and became a bit of a recluse.
I found talking about it helped, to close friends and family and the more I talked about it the more I realised that other people had been through the same thing. Makes me very cross that it is so little talked about. I also went to CRUSE bereavement support which was very helpful. We have a memorial rose to our baby bean in the garden so that they are never forgotten.
I am now 15 weeks pregnant again, and I would say that has helped me the most. Not because this pregnancy is replacing the other, or that baby bean wasn't important, but because I have to stay as healthy and strong as I can for this little one.
Be kind to yourself, take time to grieve and keep talking on here. There is a miscarriage board which is really helpful.

elmo1980 Thu 20-Oct-16 14:17:49

So sorry it really is a horrid time. Was this your first pregnancy?

I lost my first at 5 weeks and I felt silly for being so upset about losing something so early on but I was so excited when I found out I was expecting I didn't even consider it not working. The best thing the Dr said to me at the time was that so many women lose their first as the body is treating it as a test run, just checking everything is working ok so that when you try again it's ready to go. It may be utter nonsense but I clung on to the fact it wasn't meant to be that time and my time would come again. Now I'm 26 wks and fingers crossed all will be ok.

Not sure if other people's stories help but all else I can say is be kind to your body, let yourself grieve, mope, cry, feel down, take time off work if necessary, things will get easier.

Fuzyfelt23 Thu 20-Oct-16 14:46:15

Thank you, yes it was my first, i'm hoping that next time we conceive it stays for good. I'm just hoping and praying

Lithica Thu 20-Oct-16 16:08:58

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. It is a tough time especially when you really want it to happen. I had a miscarriage earlier this year and it took some time to recover but I am now pregnant again.

I find writing down my thoughts and feelings helpful and channeling it to something you enjoy doing. Take your time to grief and I hope you will try again when you are ready. x

PassTheCake82 Thu 20-Oct-16 16:32:53

I am really sorry to hear this.

For what it's worth, I had a miscarriage earlier this year and I am now 29 weeks pregnant.

I found it very hard to deal with at the time and remember just feeling very empty to begin with but I found that talking to others who had experienced similar really helped. I still think about what happened all the time, i don't think it's something that will ever leave you but it will get easier in time. In the meantime, take care of yourself xxxx

NannyGR Thu 20-Oct-16 16:38:56

I feel for you fuzzy!!
I'm currently in the middle of a miscarriage... I also was just over 7 weeks pregnant, my first pregnancy after 4 very long years of trying!! I spent the first 24hrs in bed crying constantly... but I'm trying to look on the positive side thay atleast I now know I can conceive! Am here if you want to chat... I've found it very helpful to chat on here and the support has been amazing. I hope you begin to feel better again soon. X

Fuzyfelt23 Thu 20-Oct-16 17:58:23

Yeah On the plus at least it proved we can get pregnant. Just habe to have fun trying again I suppose. I just never thought it would happen to me... but i'm now finding out its very common

positivity123 Thu 20-Oct-16 21:43:19

So sorry you are going through a miscarriage. I had one last year, found out at the 12 week scan that it had stopped at 7 weeks. We'd told family as it never occurred to us that miscarriage was so common.
It was so upsetting but please believe me when I say you will get through it. Just cry, stay in your pj's and watch trash TV until you feel strong enough to face the world. If you an tall about it in RL please try to. You'll find that you've become part of a very sad secret club as so many people have been through it.
Your body is an amazing thing and knew this one wasn't meant to be but you can get pregnant and I'm sure you'll get your baby one day x

MoonlightMojitos Thu 20-Oct-16 22:07:31

Sorry you're going through this. I also had a mc at 6 and a half weeks in July with my first ever pregnancy. I never thought it would happen to me, I'd heard it was quite common but just never realised how common. I hope you do have people you can talk to in real life, it's good to tell people. As someone else said there is a good section in body and soul where you can share with others also going through this now. I'm not sure if it helps you or not to hear others people's stories so soon but I'm now pregnant again too so it can happen again quickly and it does not mean it will happen again. Take care of yourself.

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