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Twins

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Twinshelpneeded Wed 19-Oct-16 23:48:19

Two weeks ago I found out I was pregnant and was sent for a dating scan as I didn't know how far along I could be yesterday I dad my scan and was shocked to find not only am I nearly 17 weeks its twins . u might me thinking that's not so bad but I'll add I already have 8 children my youngest is 8 months old . so I'm looking for advice really
What do I do about a pram
How do u sleep ur twins together or apart
How do u tell ur twins apart
Is it going to be as hard as I expecting it to be
Is it normal to be this terrified

Thank u in advance for ur help

Oh p.s not all my children are at home one have flown the nest already

UnicornPee Thu 20-Oct-16 06:40:16

Wow congrats!!
I'm 17 weeks with one and have a large solid baby bump! Did you think you'd just put a bit of weight on?!!
Good luck for the future

alloutofnameideas Thu 20-Oct-16 06:49:25

I slept my twins together for 18 months. They shared a crib then a cotbed then two cotbeds strapped together so they had a big square. My next youngest was 17 months when my twins arrived so I used a double pushchair for the toddler and one twin and put the other twin in a sling on me. I also had a buggy board for the two and half year old to ride on. My twins were boy girl so easy to tell apart.

Are your twins identical? Are they sharing a sac and placenta?

Twinshelpneeded Thu 20-Oct-16 06:59:50

Hi yes I thought I'd put on loads of weight stupidly lol don't know how I could of been so silly .

All they said at the san was posteria placenta but I'm due for a more in depth on in couple of weeks . she said she thought it was identical twins but might be wrong they weren't very helpful tbh honest hoping. For more info when I have next one . when u say u strapped to cots together did u remove one side from each ?

alloutofnameideas Thu 20-Oct-16 07:09:36

Yes. The two sides that would make the middle were not put on. They slept happily in there. I only split them up because we moved house so changed sleeping arrangements

Twinshelpneeded Thu 20-Oct-16 07:14:18

Aw that's a fan idea my partner is building a crop for them for when they are small
Were u as terrified as me when u found out

alloutofnameideas Thu 20-Oct-16 07:15:39

I cried for three weeks. It was a shock to be pregnant at all. Found out at 9 weeks there were two. DH was thrilled. I was massively shocked

Twinshelpneeded Thu 20-Oct-16 07:15:42

*crib

Twinshelpneeded Thu 20-Oct-16 07:17:40

Aww I feel happy but apprehensive my little man will be 14 months when they are due but been told they may come early just worried lll struggle

ikeawrappingpaper Thu 20-Oct-16 07:17:41

Congratulations. Yes it's perfectly natural to feel terrified. Personally I found the lead up worse in terms of fear, than the reality warranted. Once the twins were actually here I just knuckled down and got on with it, found ways of handling the two of them that worked for me and it was actually fine while I was in it (the baby but I mean). Mine are 5 now and the fact that they are twins has much less practical ramifications iykwim.

Mine slept in the same cot - normal sized one, until about 10months I think, when they started kicking each other so I separated them, but put cots side by side. They still top and tail in bed sometimes just for fun.

I had a mountain buggy duet - which is the narrowest double buggy you can get, and was really great. When they got older I used a maclaren single and buggy board - in theory swapping the stander/sitter but in practice one twin usually preferred sitting and the other standing.

Do you have a supportive partner and family/friends around? Take any help that is offered!

Good luck smile

ikeawrappingpaper Thu 20-Oct-16 07:19:59

I only had one older DC when they arrived who was 4 btw, but it cant have been that bad since I've gone on to have another one...!

Twinshelpneeded Thu 20-Oct-16 07:21:19

I have a very supportive family partner is still in flip out mode he goes from choosing names with me to suggesting adoption in 5mins I think he will be fine once he gets over the shock lol

Would u say I'd need a double or triple pram

alloutofnameideas Thu 20-Oct-16 07:24:02

I was told to prepare for them to be early but they were born at 38+5 so not early at all. You will be fine. You already know what you're doing with babies. There is just two of them. Toddlers is a little more challenging. Mine are about to turn 4 so every day has its own little troubles. But baby 5 came along this year so that hasn't helped the twins really. Accept any help that is offered. I had very little and felt quite isolated at times. I don't know anyone else with as many young children as me and always felt a bit of a burden for play dates and getting out of the house to go to play barns or toddler groups just felt like too much trouble a lot of the time. But I found if I forced myself to get out it was all a lot easier. Don't know what your plans are for feeding but I breastfed mine and it was really easy. They had a boob each. Tandem feeding was a faff so I fed them one at a time.

alloutofnameideas Thu 20-Oct-16 07:26:12

I looked at triple prams but they are massive and complicated. That's why I chose to use a carrier for one child or the buggy board. Thankfully my toddler walked early so by the time I wanted both twins in the pushchair he was fine to walk (with a harness and reins tied to one side of the pushchair because he kept wandering off) or hop on the buggy board.

Twinshelpneeded Thu 20-Oct-16 07:39:40

I've not been able to breastfeed as yet for various reasons holing to this time do twins wake for feeds at the same time ?

One thing that worries me is I have always had big babies and I'm huge by the end of the pregnancy so worried I'm going to have 2 massive babies this time is my bump going to come round the corner 5 mins before I do lol I'm 17 weeks now and jumped up 4 trouser sizes how I ever thought I was gaining weight I don't know lol

Twinshelpneeded Thu 20-Oct-16 07:41:00

Do u think a 14 month old or younger would be safe on a buggy board ? And what if he gets sleepy I don't think I will venture out a lot tbh not alone anyway haha

alloutofnameideas Thu 20-Oct-16 08:13:16

My twins were 8lb 7oz and 7lb 5oz. So not small at all. There are buggy boards that are a seat as well as for standing on. But if you will have someone else with you what about keeping an extra single buggy in the car for them to push the toddler in?

Twinshelpneeded Thu 20-Oct-16 08:28:23

Yes I think I will do that just worried about those time were I have to go out but I'm on my own just seen a little chair that pulls along behind the pram I may get that with a twin as if its a twin then I can push one side while the seat is the other because it sticks right out

Twinshelpneeded Thu 20-Oct-16 08:29:18

Omg u just made me think our car isn't big enough

lozengeoflove Thu 20-Oct-16 08:55:53

Sweet baby Jesus allout! You deserve a huge gold medal, encrusted with diamonds. Your twins were massive! My second DC was 8.5, so smaller than one of your twins.

That's all I have to add here. I don't have twins - am in utter awe of people who do smile

lozengeoflove Thu 20-Oct-16 08:56:34

And big congratulations twins grin flowers

ikeawrappingpaper Thu 20-Oct-16 10:10:16

My dcs 1 and 4 were big - 8.10 and 8.13 respectively - but my twins were 5.4 and 5.8 born at 37wks. Its impossible to be sure but big singletons don't necessarily equal big twins.
If it were me, I would get a double buggy and a carrier that could be used equally for a twin or the toddler. I have a Manduca which is fab because the newborn bit is built in, so it's there is you need it, but can just be ignored if you don't. That way you would have maximum flexibility to use buggy + buggy board when toddler is alert and awake, and swap to carrying either one baby or toddler when toddler gets tired. Buggy board can be clipped up to the back of the buggy out of the way. I used a lascal universal one and it was great - didn't stick out too far so that I could actually walk behind it, and easy to hook up when not in use.

Twinshelpneeded Thu 20-Oct-16 10:20:25

Thank u for ur help I had a carrier for my munchkin but I just can't carry him anymore he's a big boy he is 8 months and in 12-18 month clothes but maybe its because I've been pregnant and not known that I can't carry him I wouldn't want to separate the twins too much would feel like I was favouring one over the other lol

Twinshelpneeded Thu 20-Oct-16 10:25:14

My babies have between 9lb and 9lb 6oz
I'm diabetic too so that can cause them to be bigger .

I'm so excited one minute and actually terrified the next

SnugglySnerd Thu 20-Oct-16 10:30:16

Congratulations! I'm 18 weeks with twins so having similar worries. Quite excited though.
We need a bigger car as DD will also be in a car seat for a few more years. It is helpful reading some of the ideas on this thread.

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