I'm 36 weeks today (I've been lurking for a long time but too shy to post so I hope this thread is ok). My first DD was born four years ago by emergency section because I had had hyperemesis for the entire pregnancy but that last week I was barely able to keep water down and ended up on a drip and too weak to give birth naturally though I tried. Long story short DD had a blood clot in her renal artery which proved fatal.
I'm 36 weeks pregnant today with DD 2 and I want her so much, I'm so happy to be having her, but I don't feel half as excited as I did with DD1, I love feeling her kick and I don't feel like I'm struggling to bond with her but every time I get excited I end up stopping myself and forcing myself to calm down. I didn't know dd1 was ill until after the birth and I'm terrified of being overly attached to dd2 and losing her aswell. I feel like its taking a lot of the joy from my pregnancy and adding a lot of worry as I find myself monitoring her movements in a seriously OTT way, (thankfully both my midwife and hospital are incredibly supportive and understand why). Trying to balance being careful and being paranoid.
My hyperemesis has been really bad this last few weeks again and I have a scan Thursday to check on her growth (also she had some cysts on her brain at my 20 week scan with fmt but they are apparently completely normal at that stage so I'm trying not to worry about them but they will be checking they have gone aswell).
Dd2 is on 90th percentile, growing well and incredibly active but I still cant shake the fear that I will find out after birth that something is wrong again. Someone please tell me to stop being stupid.
I'm not entirely sure why I'm posting here but I just wanted to reach out and tell someone how I'm feeling as I can't really talk to her dad about it (dd1 was before we got together and he 'Doesn't want to think about it')
Sorry for the super long post and thankyou to anyone who reads it.
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CrazyGreyhoundLady · 10/10/2016 00:19
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