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Hubby wants to try again asap..

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Mummyandwife85 Mon 03-Oct-16 16:44:14

I'm going thru a MC taken 10,days n counting n today at hospital hubby asked the nurse when we can start ttc again she said as soon as u get a negative pregnancy test😑 I really don't know how I feel about going thru all this again 😑 confused I don't think I could for at least a few months I just want to get over this horrible time n get back to feeling"normal" xx

StealthPolarBear Mon 03-Oct-16 16:46:09

I'm sorry flowers
You need to tell him. Neither of you is right or wring but in this case your need for time trumps his desire to try again as soon as possible

gettingitwrongputingitright Mon 03-Oct-16 16:47:17

You need to wait until you feel ready. flowers

katiegg Mon 03-Oct-16 16:49:32

I'm sorry for your loss flowers

The only 'wrong' time to try again is before you feel ready. Talk to him, explain how you feel and take the time you need to grieve and heal. He may well think you will want to try again soon which is why he asked the nurse. Take your time. x

StealthPolarBear Mon 03-Oct-16 16:50:33

Do you have other children?

user1463652193 Mon 03-Oct-16 16:51:01

Sorry you're going through this.
Was he asking just so you know? To be honest it was one of the first things I asked when I had a miscarriage, but that is because that's what I wanted. It might not be that he expects you to immediately want to start TTC again, but just wants the facts? Make sure you speak to him so he know's how you feel and give yourself as much time as you need x

Mybeardeddragonjustdied2016 Mon 03-Oct-16 16:52:05

Maybe tell him that 2017 would be a fresh start and time ttc again. I mc in June and felt pressured to try again ASAP as we are stopping this month due to my age. It hasn't happened so we have sadly ran out of time. If time is on your side give yourself some time to grieve first. Sorry for your loss.

NovemberInDailyFailLand Mon 03-Oct-16 17:11:44

I'm so sorry you lost your baby. I had this situation back in December. Husband and I both wanted to try again immediately because it made us both feel a bit 'better' and because I'm approaching 40, but it's essential that you're both on the same page, here. You do need to grieve, it's very real and hurts deeply - I second the pp who suggested that perhaps a new year would be a good time to make a fresh start.

Mummyandwife85 Mon 03-Oct-16 17:13:00

He was only asking cos he is 43 and really does not fancy being 45 wen we finally have a baby of our own I have three kids he is amazing with the kids and loves them as his own he has already said it doesn't matter if we can't cos he has already got three beautiful kids but then today he asking about ttc again and chances of another MC ect .. I said I'm not ready yet ect and he totally understands but I think the loss may have made him want a baby more than ever n me recoil in fear 🙈 I need time out I feel my head and body are tired n drained xx

Mummyandwife85 Mon 03-Oct-16 17:14:52

Thank you all for ur advice n kind words💐🌷🌼🌻🌺🌹💮🌸

ConvincingLiar Mon 03-Oct-16 18:45:19

No harm in him asking what the parameters are. If would be a problem if he pressured you to try before you were ready.

Mummyandwife85 Mon 03-Oct-16 18:55:26

Ooh no he ant like that tbh he has been my rock thru all this he has been beside himself with worry bless him xx

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