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Pregnancy after miscarriage

(38 Posts)
oscarsmummyy Sat 01-Oct-16 12:28:22

Hiya, well I had a miscarriage in January and I'm now pregnant again 6 weeks 5 days and I'm just so scared and worried sad I have no symptoms atall, I've booked an early scan and I'll be 7 weeks 5 days and I'm just so scared about it. Has anyone gone through this and everything has been okay? Would love to hear some stories xx

blossombottom Sat 01-Oct-16 13:24:37

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oscarsmummyy Sun 02-Oct-16 08:58:03

Thankyou xx

ParForTheCourses Sun 02-Oct-16 16:34:04

I had no symptoms and had loads of energy in comparison to my miscarried pregnancy. Then just after my 8 week scan I started vomiting all the time and has killer boobs. Am near to giving birth so much better this time!

I was scared at all my scans. I don't think I'll relax until I hold my baby. I think that's normal. Good kuck. I hope all is good.

oscarsmummyy Sun 02-Oct-16 17:16:51

Congratulationssmile did you have any pain at the start of yours pregnancy? Thank you. X

LolaStarr Sun 02-Oct-16 17:23:51

Congratulations! I had a late miscarriage at 21 weeks last year. I'm now pregnant again at 36+3 weeks. It's hard, I've worried right the way the way through this time - all you can do is keep telling yourself that it's a compeltely new pregnancy and there's no reason to think it will go wrong again. Mild cramps are totally normal right at the start. Good luck, hope everything goes ok with you x

oscarsmummyy Sun 02-Oct-16 18:06:46

Congratulations and thank you. smile was you worried Incase you went to scans and find something wrong? I'm really scared, especially with no symptoms and some pain I'm worried and I feel like something's wrong (I think I've convinced myself) I just want Saturday @ 4:30pm (uk time) to hurry up sad I miscarried at 6+1 and passed baby at 6+3 so I'm happy I got past that gestation smile but the worry is with me and I feel like I shouldn't be because it was so early on and there's people such as yourself that have them later on which is more of a reason to worry sad I am so happy that you've got this far with your miracle starxxx

LolaStarr Sun 02-Oct-16 18:18:42

It doesn't matter how far on when you miscarry, you've still lost your baby, it still hurts as much. Yeah I've been a nervous wreck before all of my scans, and I've been scanned every 4 weeks right the way through. With regards to no symptoms I wouldn't worry, I had none this time until I was 7 weeks then it hit me, horribly sore boobs and morning sickness! Try to make the most of it while you feel ok 😊

oscarsmummyy Sun 02-Oct-16 21:11:00

I know I should count myself as lucky for having no symptoms but I honestly can't wait for the day that they start, I find symptoms to be more reassuring, especially morning sickness. I just can't wait for my scan, I just want to know everything is okay sadxxxx

ParForTheCourses Sun 02-Oct-16 21:34:59

Thanks ☺. I had aching through my cervix for a while and cramping at the start and at a few intervals.

With my first it was a mmc so my symptoms never disappeared until after the op but I felt off if that made sense?

oscarsmummyy Sun 02-Oct-16 21:46:33

I'm feeling really scared at the moment sad everyone keeps telling me not to panic and calm down and ease and enjoy it but I just can't! No one understands how petrified I am sad but it helps knowing other people had pain, no symptoms and everything was/is okay xx

ParForTheCourses Sun 02-Oct-16 21:59:44

It is terrifying. All you can do is try not to panic, distract yourself and avoid googling.

Sadly I've learnt if the worst will happen then getting worried or not you can't change it. And if it's the best then you feel crap for all the worry. You can't really win with emotions.

I'm only just enjoying it now. I brought a book which helped a little. Might be worth a read? Trying again by Douglas and sussman.

moonbabyandthebeast Sun 02-Oct-16 22:08:35

I had a miscarriage at 7 weeks between having DD and DS. I too felt as though it was wrong for me to be so upset when it was so early on and that I was so lucky to already have a DD. But you and your body have been through a trauma so please be kind to yourself. When pregnant with DS, I had no early symptoms other than cramping + didn't really feel movement until around 24 weeks despite everyone saying I would feel it earlier. I worried all the way through and held my breath at the scans but had to rationalise that some things were, to an extent, out of my hands, therefore worrying about things I couldn't influence was more like to have a detrimental effect on mine and baby's health. I now have a beautiful, perfect 8 month old DS (and 3yr old daughter) and consider myself to be hugely lucky and blessed. Congratulations on your pregnancy and I wish you all the very best.

oscarsmummyy Sun 02-Oct-16 22:15:47

Thank you for the suggestion of book, I might get it x

What was your signs of a mc at 7 weeks? I'm 7 weeks tomorrow and heard of a lot of mc at around then and I'm scared (like I've already said, sorry) with my previous mc, all I had was bleeding and then cramps a few days later xx

ParForTheCourses Sun 02-Oct-16 22:15:59

The worst is when people verbalise that you should be over it or not so grief and heart struck. Makes you feel even worse. People are insensitive.

Helbelle75 Sun 02-Oct-16 22:25:20

I had a mmc in may at 11 weeks. I'm now 13 weeks pregnant again. I had an early scan at 10 weeks and couldn't quite believe it when everything was OK. I was nervous for the 12 week scan as well, but all looking fine.
.Miscarriage is just horrendous and a lot of people don't understand. I had to have a month off work and it still wasn't long enough. The grief is crippling.
I think it's normal to be worried, miscarriage takes the innocence away from pregnancy. Try not to worry, hope your scan goes well.

Happymum1702 Sun 02-Oct-16 22:31:36

I miscarried in jan at 10.5 weeks but had been spotting since week 7. It was more difficult than I think it might have been, because I had a scan at 8+3 and saw a heartbeat and was told everything was fine. I had a gut feeling all along though, that it wasn't. This time I am 6+5 and whilst I don't have the same gut feel I am nevertheless so worried the same thing will happen. It's why for me personally I don't even want an early scan this time. I had really strong symptoms until 2 days ago when they suddenly stopped. No more nausea, sore boobs etc. plus I've had aching in the wrong places sad
I just keep telling myself positive thinking and that there's no reason this one will end the same way. I have a daughter aged 2.5 so I know that i can have a healthy baby which gives me a lot of hope. However we have been trying to conceive for 18m now (including the mc) so I am also exhausted from the monthly cycles of hope and then disappointment. Just want this one to be healthy and happy! I find keeping busy is the only thing that really works and at the end of every day I celebrate another day of being pregnant smile I really can't wait to get past my personal milestone of 10.5 weeks though. Seems forever away!!

Happymum1702 Sun 02-Oct-16 22:39:32

Before I worry anyone about the previous scan showing heartbeat but not working out. Just FYI -there were lots of other signs it wasn't normal. Eg. Had a larger yolk sac than normal (apparently not usually a good thing - not always bad but generally not a good sign). It also measured almost 2 weeks smaller than it should have. But despite this they said it was looking good and as we saw the heartbeat clearly & that gave reassurance & they said babies can measure smaller if the actual conception happened later than the date would suggest. But despite their justifications, there were a lot of things which simply weren't really normal. And to be honest. I already knew deep down.
I can't work out this time if I have a bad gut feel or am just massively worrying! It's so confusing.

moonbabyandthebeast Sun 02-Oct-16 22:49:20

My main symptom of mc at 7 weeks was horrendous cramping (as in, lying on sofa in a ball not knowing what to do to get comfortable) I mc 3 days later. Looking back I think I knew there was 'something wrong' with that pregnancy from the very start and although I was worried throughout my subsequent pregnancy with DS, I never had that same gut feeling. I do agree that mc takes the innocence away from pregnancy. I relished my pregnancy with DD but (as awful as it sounds) was wishing the time to just pass with DS pregnancy- I was so desperate for him just to be here and safe.

oscarsmummyy Tue 04-Oct-16 07:21:31

My symptoms have gone sad 7w 1d x

LolaStarr Tue 04-Oct-16 08:08:49

Try not to worry. They can be non existent one day and come back with a vengeance the next day! You haven't had any bleeding and that's a really good sign. Not long until your scan now!

ParForTheCourses Tue 04-Oct-16 08:43:42

Definitely try not to worry. Lots of people's symptoms disappear, my friend's did at around 8 weeks and then from 9/10 she was very ill.

No bleeding is good news and with mmc often symptoms remain until after you miscarry or have an operation.

oscarsmummyy Tue 04-Oct-16 17:45:26

I only had minor symptoms asif af was arriving but it still worries mesad no bleeding but I keep finding myself keep checking Incase there is anyblush so nervous for my scan xx

ParForTheCourses Tue 04-Oct-16 17:59:26

Like period cramps? I had those too up until about week 20. Doctor told me the uterus has to stretch so much even at the start that it can get very uncomfortable.

Hood luck for your scan flowers

LolaStarr Tue 04-Oct-16 18:45:48

I lost my baby last year due to severe bleeding, and even now at 36 weeks I find myself checking every time I go for a wee. You'll start dealing with the worry a bit better as you get further on. It doesnt totally go away unfortunately, or at least it hasn't in my case!

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