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When am I going to feel better? *sobs*

(16 Posts)
RedCrab Thu 29-Sep-16 07:08:23

This is DC3 so you'd think I'd be experienced! Only 13 weeks but I was kind of hoping by 12 weeks, I'd magically feel better. I have a nearly four year old and an 18 month old. Poor things are mostly ignored while I lay on the floor feeling sick/ being sick/ feeling dizzy/ exhausted/ generally hungover ALL the time. My 18 month old gets very upset when I'm sick and both of them ask me to play with them all the time but I have beg off, saying mummy feels poorly and I just put the tv on. Poor neglected things blush

I feel so awful. So much worse than with either current DC. It's not even the sickness. I just feel so shit all the time, like the worst hangover when by 7pm you just want to give up and go to bed because you feel so awful. What is happening in there??

Sorry for the moan. Waiting for that second trimester burst of energy to kick in!

Footle Thu 29-Sep-16 07:13:23

I felt much iller for much longer with my girls than my boys. No idea if this could apply to you , but throwing it in in case it helps.

RedCrab Thu 29-Sep-16 07:27:38

I definitely felt worse with my DD than I did with my DS - didn't even have MS with my son. But even though I felt bad and was sick with my DD, this is so much worse. A million times worse. Maybe it's tiredness from having two DC?

SprogletsMum Thu 29-Sep-16 07:29:45

I think it's probably tiredness from your other 2. I'm pregnant with dc4 and the only way omg coping is by going to bed when the dc do. I've had 3 late nights this week and feel like I've been hit by a truck.

fitzbilly Thu 29-Sep-16 07:31:12

Are you sure there's nothing else wrong like low iron levels? I know I get exhausted when my iron levels get low? Or some underlying virus?

Slave2thecat Thu 29-Sep-16 07:31:40

Oh sympathies. Pregnancy is tiugh at the best of times but you've got the added stress and guilt from your other two.
I've heard a mantra on here that - this too will pass. Keep saying that to yourself. It'll pass and a short intrude if tv for your kids won't hurt them (we all have to resort to less than perfect sometimes).

drinkyourmilk Thu 29-Sep-16 07:31:47

Redcrab I feel sick/actually vomiting all day long too, and through the night.
Get to a gp and ask for some med. It's improved my life 100%. I still have bad days, but mainly it's manageable now.
On, and I'm also 13 weeks. Didn't see gp till last week.

KayTee87 Thu 29-Sep-16 07:42:06

I felt like this when pregnant with my first, must be awful when you already have two. I felt better week 14 smile then the heartburn started

RedCrab Thu 29-Sep-16 07:49:03

I think it must be the tiredness. It's so bad. I'm struggling to take pregnancy vits because my gag reflex is on hyper drive so even putting a capsule in my mouth makes me gag. Actual sickness is now confined to mornings first thing - the rest is just this unidentifiable feeling-like-shitness!

Husband is self employed. Ds is in pre school five mornings a week. Dd is at home with me. I take DS to pre school, come home and make dinner/put on wash/ try to tidy/ play with DD. Pick up Ds at lunchtime and we have lunch and go to the park. Come home at four, have dinner at five, bedtime at six. Then I come downstairs and start work - I'm a freelance web/digital marketing consultant so I can do it on the sofa with half an eye on the TV but never really stopping.

I guess it's inevitable with subsequent children. Sproglets - four, I can't imagine. You must be exhausted.

Will definitely get iron levels checked, thanks!

SarahMOs Thu 29-Sep-16 10:06:51

I am 12 weeks today with my first and I am utterly miserable. I couldn't imagine it with little ones too. We recently put a new carpet in on the hallway landing and stairs and it's making me so so sick too! I'm waiting for that normal Sarah feeling to come back!

Throughgrittedteeth Thu 29-Sep-16 21:40:15

Another one here feeling constantly bloody awful. I feel you OP, it's crap. I don't remember feeling this consistently awful with my first pregnancy. I've lost weight and my skin is terrible. Waaaaah flowers

LBNM19 Thu 29-Sep-16 23:46:36

You will. Im 25 weeks pregnant with my 3rd have a 4 year old and almost 2 year old. I felt horrendous at the start untill around 14 week's. So sick. I literally did nothing. I ended up calling gp and 12 weeks for sickness tablets but she told me to hold off as i should start to feel better and i did.

Im tired now but feel much better than at the start. Hope.you feel better soon xx

bumbleclat Fri 30-Sep-16 03:24:51

I had this with my girl you need to sleep as much a possible.
I didn't stop feeling horrendous until 20 weeks so don't hold out for so called magical 12/16 weeks.
Take promethazine tablets they eased it a lot for me. Take care I know it's bloody horrible.
Ps I didn't do any housework it cooking for four months !

KateTheShrew Fri 30-Sep-16 07:31:10

I thought I would never feel better, but I did: definite improvement at 15 weeks (although still felt pretty crap), and now at 18 weeks I feel mostly back to normal, just tired and need to eat regularly.

It really sucks and I sympathise with the indefinable feeling-like-shitness, and the disbelief that it's ever going to go away, but most likely it will. Fingers crossed you feel better soon flowers

Blondeshavemorefun Fri 30-Sep-16 10:27:56

Def go and see gp and get medication

Agree tiredness makes it so much worse so rest as much as you can and go to bed as soon as other 2 in bed in evening. Even rest helps and the quieter and stiller I lie the better day I will have

I was so sick 4/8 weeks then saw gp who as very sympathetic and gave me cyzline - Def helps tho still have really good days and really bad days


Since being away on holiday I stopped feeling crap all morning and sick about 9m regardless of what I've eaten

zopeckham Wed 05-Oct-16 17:14:30

Hi OP,

ah my sympathies - sounds tough with two little ones already. It must pass sometime though! Can anyone help out to give you a bit of a break sometimes?

My partner is on strict washing up duty and if he ever moans I tell him I'm already doing two jobs!

Can totally relate, I'm 15 weeks and felt awful until 13/14 weeks when I stopped actually vomiting (which was exhausting and felt really violent, even out of my nose sometimes urgh). I had to hospital for a drip one Saturday eve (the best time to go to A&E). It's made an unwelcome return today but hoping this is a blip and baby must just be having a growth spurt.

Someone told me their friend who is heavily pregnant with twins ran a half marathon. I can't even run for a bus without feeling exhausted and like I'm going to throw up!

Anyway really hope you feel better soon or find some things that help,

Xxx z

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