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Sexy time during pregnancy

(16 Posts)
cara0463 Wed 14-Sep-16 20:09:59

Sorry about the crude title! I'm having a huge feel sorry for myself moment! I'm 23wks pregnant with our 3rd little one. I'm still working full time and I'm so tired and physically exhausted all the time so as you can imagine my libido is non existent. Did anybody else feel really guilty when they felt like this?? I feel like I'm neglecting my poor hubby but I just can't get myself 'in the mood'! I'm feeling so down about myself too. I feel like an ugly frumpy mummy and it's all making me a bit weepy! I know this is a bit of a silly post but just thought if anybody else was experiencing this we could have a natter!! blush

ImYourMama Wed 14-Sep-16 20:14:11

Gosh I'm in exactly the same boat OP, I'm 27 weeks and we got married less than 3 months ago, so I feel doubly bad. My lovely hubby says he's more than happy with just a kiss and a cuddle, but doesn't stop the guilt. I have 'made his day' a couple of times over the last couple of weeks, which lessens it, and far more preferable to me than actual sex etc. You're not alone, this pregnancy malarkey makes me feel about as sexy as Mr Blobby in a heatwave blush

sj257 Wed 14-Sep-16 20:16:28

I'm 22 weeks, and I think we've done it 3 times since being pregnant. Its also my third and also working full time! We did do it the other night for the first time since I've been showing, missionary position is definitely not practical anymore 😂

Please don't feel down about yourself. Have you spoken to your hubby? Sometimes they aren't very good at reassuring us! X

Whatsername17 Wed 14-Sep-16 20:16:47

I'm 21+5 and I find the more we do it the more I want. Having to be creative with positions as I'm getting a bump. I know as soon as dh feels baby move 'during' it will all stop though.

cara0463 Wed 14-Sep-16 20:19:22

Ahhhh thank the Lord I'm not alone! Haha! My hubby is also very understanding but I always get so paranoid he'll run off with a sexy, younger model! Pregnancy hormones are the worst! I just want to feel somewhat attractive again! It's all worth it in the end of course but it still sucks for now! sad

cara0463 Wed 14-Sep-16 20:21:39

I've spoken to him yeah and he's so reassuring, but you can't help but feel bad can you!? Normally when I feel like that a few glasses of wine help but obviously that doesn't help me now xxx

cara0463 Wed 14-Sep-16 20:22:21

I've spoken to him yeah and he's so reassuring, but you can't help but feel bad can you!? Normally when I feel like that a few glasses of wine help but obviously that doesn't help me now xxx

sj257 Wed 14-Sep-16 20:26:06

I completely understand. When I was pregnant with our first as soon as I started showing he wouldn't have sex! I felt awful about myself then 😞 anyway second time I made it clear to him that it wouldn't harm the baby and that I would be expecting him to have sex with me especially if I went overdue again 😂😂 he was fine, but it didn't work I ended up induced again 😂

MyBreadIsEggy Wed 14-Sep-16 20:28:38

I'm the same.
33 weeks with DC2 and I've had absolutely no sex drive whatsoever during this pregnancy. When I get in bed, the only thing on the agenda is sleep. I'm convinced it's because I'm carrying a boy! I had a girl last time and was all over my husband like a bloody porn star blush

cara0463 Wed 14-Sep-16 21:55:26

Porn star! Hahahah I love it! I need to get my sexy back. I'd say it went 24 weeks ago but it didn't ..it was 6 years ago when I had my first. sad

NovemberInDailyFailLand Thu 15-Sep-16 02:39:43

It seems very unlikely you'd want sex with two younger children, a pregnancy, and a full-time job. We've had more intimacy since I've been on maternity leave and resting a lot, and my other two are grown up and almost grown up, so it's way easier.

You'll probably feel much more in the mood if you could possibly have a weekend away together.

Evergreen17 Thu 15-Sep-16 08:09:09

I am 18+3 and too bloody tired to do it. I dont understand why I am so exhausted.
We were going to have some last night and then I just couldnt move.
Just got married a month ago and feel he will leave me
So tired
Glad to hear I am not a weird case

raviolidreaming Thu 15-Sep-16 09:07:34

I'm 20 weeks on Saturday and we haven't had sex since TTC! blush

Oysterbabe Thu 15-Sep-16 10:56:46

DH's latest software update has added a fertility monitor to his phone. He was showing it to me last night, clicked on the sexual activity tab and it says "no activity". Then he looked at me with this face sad
Piss off, you've got hands haven't you? grin

cara0463 Thu 15-Sep-16 19:32:28

Reading all these has cheered me right up!!! I don't feel so bad now. Not that i should have anyway I suppose! Xxxxx

NovemberInDailyFailLand Thu 15-Sep-16 20:54:15

You need to be rested. Otherwise, it just becomes another chore.

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