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My babies father doesn't want to know.

(9 Posts)
mommyteeshh19 Sat 27-Aug-16 21:09:38

I'm 7 weeks pregnant and found out two weeks ago, in this time my babies father has made my life hell. He has threatened me and told me I must get an abortion. Because I have gone against him he has told me that he will hate me aslong as I live, I will have to tell my child that he/she was a big mistake and unwanted etc. Now he has blocked me. I'm just feeling really sad now, at first I didn't care and was adamant I was gonna do this alone now everything is getting to me and making me question whether I'm doing the right thing. Just wondering if anyone has any advicesadsad

Whatsername17 Sat 27-Aug-16 21:32:56

I'm sorry you are going through this. You do not have to tell your child anything of the sort! If you want your baby, then your baby is wanted. End of story. If he doesn't want to be involved it is his loss. He knows how babies are made, he should have used a condom. Make your decision based on what you want. Good luck flowers

quitecrunchy Sat 27-Aug-16 23:36:50

Sounds like you and baby are both much better off without him.

fakenamefornow Sat 27-Aug-16 23:39:24

Completely agree with quitecrunchy

Congratulations on your pregnancy. Do you have some RL support?

Allyx123 Sun 28-Aug-16 00:22:25

I was in a similar situation. I'm not condoning his actions at all but it might just be how he's reacting to the shock (albeit a horrible way of reacting). He might come around but if he doesn't then you will definitely be able to do it alone! As long as you love and want your baby it will never be unwanted! Keep thinking positive 💖

EreniTheFrog Sun 28-Aug-16 06:42:16

You don't need to tell your child anything of the sort. He sounds absolutely horrible. Congratulations flowers on the pregnancy. You will be absolutely fine - and indeed better off - without him..

JoHowson Sun 28-Aug-16 07:13:28

I'm in a similar position.
After getting divorced earlier this year I had a alcohol induced one night stand in a hotel whilst on a hen party and now I'm 12 weeks pregnant.
I am not blaming anyone other than myself and I'm determined to be a good mother and refuse to get down about the future however daunting it may appear.

Iwasjustabouttosaythat Sun 28-Aug-16 07:33:25

Taking care of a baby is really hard work. Do you have a support network? Family/friends? Are you financially stable?

There's a lot to think about, but I don't think you should be giving the "father" another thought. He sounds awful and your baby would be better off never knowing him. If you're going to have this baby keep them well away from anyone who would ever tell them they weren't loved and wanted.

This is just the first of many times you will have to put your child's needs before everything else.

Nic0lajane Sun 28-Aug-16 08:18:28

Dont be pressured in to a decision, you must do what you want, not what anyone else wants. Ive been there and its horrendous and i made the wrong decision because i was weak and vulnerable. I have since regretted it and got married and struggled to conceive with my husband, having a miscarriage last year.
You have to be brave and be responsible for this decision. In a sense i do understand that the babies father is feeling anxious and out of control but i'd say 80% of the time ppl in his situation do come round once they come to terms with it. He's probably in shock. Ive never met anyone who regrets becoming a parent despite the circumstances it happened in. Having said that you do need to prepare yourself in the event he doesn't change his mind. Its a tricky situation and i feel for you. Confide in someone you can trust and know there is tons of support out there either way x

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