Hi, I've suffered with anorexia since preteens and I had got myself to a healthy weight and BMI of 18.5 (8stone 3lbs at 5'5) when I'd conceived. I had panicked about the weight gain obviously throughout pregnancy but my pysc midwife had always reasured me that BMI calculations during pregnancy weren't reliable / used and that for low weight at conception I should expect to gain more weight than most, but that everyone gains what they gain and ya-da-yarda. I have maintained my meal plans and healthy eating throughout. Stayed at the gym, and I'm a waitress/ nursery teacher so I've been very active throughout my pregnancy. My husband kept the scales from me and I have seen a weight gain in my thighs and face and arms but had been coping. ANYWAY there's the back story! So I saw a new midwife as I've moved areas and she had to re-weigh me etc etc. she has classed me on my notes as obese. And a risk for anesthetic! I am so devastated and confused?! The NHS website says mothers with a BMI of 30+ BEFORE pregnancy are counted as obese. Just don't know what to do. But Then it says but even a 1-2 point gain in your BMI can cause complications in birth like the shoulders getting stuck and excess bleeding. But then it says there is no defined weight gain for during pregnancy. Then all the guidelines are about healthy eating and getting 30 mins a week excercise. But like I said I meal plan every meal, I go to the gym at least every other day. Which I have done the whole pregnancy?! I just don't know there doesn't seem to be any consistent answers!!! I had a full on panick attack and I just don't know how I'm going to eat anything?! Please can someone give me some advice?!
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I don't want to read and run but don't have any advice re: what the midwife has written or about the advice you've read. I've suffered with anorexia/bulimia since my early teens and had a similar BMI to you when I got pregnant. I too have found this a difficult journey but have learnt to accept the changes I've been going through. You sound like you've done the same and have been doing really really well. I know how hard it is so the fact that you haven't restricted, haven't binged, have done what you can to stay healthy and focused on your baby is excellent. Please try not to worry about what the midwife wrote. I think you should probably speak with her about why she's done that, the implications and your previous history but ultimately you mustn't let it impact what sounds like a really healthy journey for you so far. For some context, and if it helps, my sister has three children all of whom she gained about 4 stone with. In between she has always been a size 8/10 and about 8 stone 7. She just gains a lot during pregnancy, but it has never negatively impacted her or the births of her children and she is always back to her usual size 9 months later. I don't know if that helps, but I've found it a useful reminder of how this journey is just that, a journey and not a final destination. Hope that helps. 
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You won't bounce back to your post pregnancy weight straight after birth.
Your boobs will swell lumpily with milk and grow another cup size or so. Your tummy will look like you are still 5 months pregnant but with a deflated balloon texture rather than that ripe roundness you had at 5 months. Again, don't panic your body will sort the majority of it out over the space of a few months, but those hormones in the first week will make you want to cry.
Congrats on the pregnancy.
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