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Getting pregnant again!

(11 Posts)
Louu456xo Thu 30-Jun-16 16:14:46

My son is nearly 10 moths old and myself and partner have been talking about when is an ideal time to have another baby. When do you think is an ideal age?????

Shortninbread Fri 01-Jul-16 05:43:46

Three years apart worked well for us. Only one lot of nappies at a time. Close enough in age to play together when older.

TheFirie Fri 01-Jul-16 05:45:54

My DSs have a 3 year gap and not that they are 12 and 9 they still play a lot together

Oysterbabe Fri 01-Jul-16 06:53:45

This a very interesting website for weighing up the pros and construction of different age gaps.

We're hoping for 2 years and will start trying when DD is 1.

www.thealphaparent.com/2012/07/what-no-one-tells-you-about-child.html?m=1

icklekid Fri 01-Jul-16 06:59:25

Interesting site. Ds will be 2 (and 2 months) when baby 2 is due. For us it works in terms of my career and feeling ready. Don't want to leave it much longer as kind of want to get the newborn stage out the way (did not enjoy it with ds!) And he is now at an age where he can entertain himself, feed himself and yet still has 2h naps in the afternoon. If baby 2 arrives on time or late there will be 3 school years between them which would be nice as not got gcse and a level at same time and less time with 2 to fund through uni etc...can you tell I'm a teacher? wink

Sierra259 Fri 01-Jul-16 07:00:44

We have a 3 year gap which seems to be working well. DC1 is old enough to understand more about what's going on and entertain themselves during feeds. Gets the free hours at nursery, so we have been able to continue that for their routine and my sanity! Also we'll only have 9 months of them both in childcare when I return to work, before DC1 starts school. No double buggy. I think I would have found it very hard with a smaller gap!

The one (minor) disadvantage is having to store DC1's old toys/clothes for so long rather than just being able to get rid of them!

MyBreadIsEggy Fri 01-Jul-16 07:10:54

I was pregnant again when my Dd was 8 months old - planned for it too....just didn't think it would happen quite that quick!
Dd will be 17 months old when DS arrives. I'm excited but terrified at the same time!!
We already have loads of baby stuff left over from when Dd was tiny (crib, breast pump, bedding and blankets etc) so the only new "big buy" is another cotbed, because Dd is still sleeping in hers, and I've bought a second hand double pram. I like the idea of getting nappies and weaning and the "baby stage" done with in a short space of time, and then watch them grow together smile

Oysterbabe Fri 01-Jul-16 07:18:24

(Construction?!?! Stupid bloody phone. Cons obviously)

Sunflower30 Fri 01-Jul-16 07:28:13

There is 2 1/2 years between mine and I have found this ok. Eldest was able to walk a bit or stand on buggy board (so no need for a big double pushchair!) and was potty trained. A friend of mine had 2 yrs between hers and has said she wouldn't have such a small gap again. Having said that, a small age gap would be lovely when they are a bit older for a play friend!

Raines100 Fri 01-Jul-16 07:33:31

We had 2.5 years, then 3.5 years. With the first 2, the hardest year was Dc1's pre-school year. I had a 1year old and a 3.5yo, and that was hard work, and 2 in childcare was ridiculously expensive. 3.5 years has been easier.
On the other hand, dc1&2 are very close and do everything togethether, which was just what I wanted.

kiki22 Fri 01-Jul-16 08:00:06

I will have 4.5 years its the same gap as between my niece and ds (she lives with us part time) I often hear that they want a small gap so that the kids will be close and play together but I've never found 5 years a problem they are so close stuck to each other like glue and play together over other kids. Hopefully it will be the same this time round.

For us the benefits of a bigger gap have been more 1 on 1 time as a baby/toddler ds goes to school when ds2 is born so ds2 gets 6 hours 5 days a week 1 to 1, less fighting because the big one os old enough to reason with and understand why babies/toddlers are doing annoying things and the biggie for me has been the company of the big one while going through the lonely baby stage someone to talk to is great.

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