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"we are pregnant" vs. "we are having a baby"

(10 Posts)
BabyBumpHopeful Sun 19-Jun-16 19:36:43

I keep reading people correcting anyone who says "we are pregnant" saying that he cannot be pregnant therefore it's incorrect... but then saying that "we are having a baby" is correct... when it's not. He's not having a baby either!

Surely the only correct statement then (that I can think of right now anyway) is "We are going to be parents"?

What do you end up saying? I know it's technically incorrect but I still say the "we're going to have a baby" because people seem to not realise that one is incorrect...

Uiscebeatha85 Sun 19-Jun-16 19:40:42

I say 'we're expecting a baby'

LolaStarr Sun 19-Jun-16 19:41:57

I can honestly say not one of those ways would bother me in the slightest hmm

PenelopePitstops Sun 19-Jun-16 19:45:24

I say I'm having a baby...! With DH stood next to me beaming.

Scoopmuckdizzy Sun 19-Jun-16 19:45:39

Oh who cares? Most people would assume that the female partner would be the one carrying the baby and only here on MN have I really noticed people get so uppity about it!

My husband may not be pregnant but he is sharing in the pregnancy experience with me. It's not been an easy ride for him either.

Miloarmadillo1 Sun 19-Jun-16 19:46:07

Both parents will 'have a baby' although only the mother will give birth to it, so that one wouldn't bother me.

BabyBumpHopeful Sun 19-Jun-16 21:06:08

I really hadn't given it any thought at all until MN but I really don't normally care either way... I'm just wary of ending up telling someone like those on MN who just think you're an idiot if you say it.

The "we are pregnant" thing makes sense to me because WE have achieved pregnancy. He was and IS involved in the pregnancy. I'm simply the one lucky enough to carry our child.

StarkyTheDirewolf Sun 19-Jun-16 22:59:44

My Dh is convinced he's having a sympathetic pregnancy grin he's had it worse than me! He's had morning sickness, food aversions and terrible muscle pain, I've sailed through really!

I've not really told anyone, I haven't needed to, my dms told everybody she's fallen over. But when I have, I've said "we're expecting" because we are.

zzzzz Sun 19-Jun-16 23:07:32

I say "I'm pregnant" and "we're having a baby"

"We're pregnant" sounds awkwardly "it's both of our baby you know"hmm

MrsJoeyMaynard Sun 19-Jun-16 23:16:55

I don't read "I'm having a baby" as "I'm going to give birth" (unless it's being said by a heavily pregnant woman who looks like she might be in labour).

I read it more as "I'm going to be a parent soon". It doesn't bother me. "We're pregnant" does make me a bit hmm But I don't really care enough to go around objecting to it. It's clear enough what the expectant parents mean.

I personally tend to go with "we're expecting a baby" when talking about it.

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