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Hospital have made me feel like I'm bothering them.

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Colabottle10 Sat 30-Apr-16 13:37:04

I'm 24+4 and other than the 12 and 16 week appointments, haven't seen or bothered the midwife.

I've been sick all the way through, so have seen the GP at various points and am on medication for that and reflux issues.

Last Monday I woke with a headache that progressively got worse throughout the day despite paracetamol and sleep. When I woke at 5pm I thought I'd better give the MW a call. No answer. No answer at the community mws either so I called 111. They put me through to the Pregnancy Assessment Unit at the hospital who told me to go in. They were brilliant. Listened to babies heart (first time I'd heard it). Wee sample showed +++leukocytes so I had an infection, prob a UTI. consultant put me on 5 day course of abs and sent me home.

Over the week I've had a progressively worse pain in my groin, like a cystitis pain, which I put down to the UTI. Today is last day of abs but the pain is worse than ever. Walking is so painful. Called MW but no answer. So took myself to Pharmacist who couldnt. do anything. Told me to ring the hospital.

So ice just spoken to the rudest MW who talked to me like I was stupid. Said I didn't have an infection according to my notes, that it was just the dip test that showed the leukocytes but not the lab test. That my pain was SPD. Then she laboured on the fact I've not had any movements. I told her I had an anterior placenta and was told not to worry and she said 'yes I know what anterior means' but you should have felt something by now'. I said it was my first pregnancy and that is had flutters but wasn't sure if that was movements or not. She then spent ten minutes looking up what the period of time was for a referral because I wasn't feeling movements and said that I needed extra scans and started to scare me.

I've got a MW appointment on Wednesday with my usual lady so will speak to her about it, but I've read plenty of people don't feel anything till week 27 or 28, so I wasn't worrying. Now I'm in pain, it's a bank holiday weekend, I'm sat in the car outside the pharmacy in tears because she made me feel rubbish and stupid. I've been the least demanding on the NHS as I can be, certainly not ringing up all the time. She said oh, you were only here yesterday, when looking at my notes, and when I said that was for my GTT she backed off a bit. Made me feel like a total whinger.

Sorry, long post. Not really sure what to do now. I'm worried about the lack of movements, in pain and feel like I've been told off.

Artioo2 Sat 30-Apr-16 14:08:57

It sounds like you got unlucky with the midwife you got through to. If they heard a heartbeat last week and weren't worried, the likelihood is you're right and it's just your placenta position that's shielding movements. But it is good to get this checked out. What is she suggesting you do next, just wait for a referral? I would wait a few hours in the hope of getting through to someone else, ring up the assessment unit again, stress that you've not felt movement and are in pain and that someone their end has made you very worried and ask what they suggest. If she's genuinely worried about the movement thing, I don't understand why she wouldn't bring you in immediately for monitoring.

Everythinggettingbigger Sat 30-Apr-16 14:12:59

Didn't want to read and run. If you feel so bad I would go into the hospital, in my experience there is always one cranky midwife that isn't bothered about listening to mum just thinks they know best. I was sent by my community midwife at 26+6 to be monitored, one of the midwives actually refused to touch me and said it was ridiculous monitoring so early but the other 2 ladies who looked after me were amazing and I couldn't fault them. I had to go back for a scan a couple of weeks later and because I was that magic 28 week mark (even though they monitor from 26 weeks and I was nearly 27 at the time) she was there again and was like a completely different person!

Everythinggettingbigger Sat 30-Apr-16 14:14:28

Agree with Art, if she was genuinely worried she should have had you straight in for monitoring

Colabottle10 Sat 30-Apr-16 14:22:37

Yes, I've not been worried about the lack of movement and I'm cross that she focussed on this and just dismissed the pain I'm in as SPD (even though it feels like it's bladder / cystitis related) and told me to take paracetamol. Told me that because it's the bank holiday nothing will be done re a referral till Tuesday but didn't actually say what was being done, if I'm to expect a phonecall or what?

I'm also confused as to why I was told (and it's written in my notes) that I had an infection poss UTI on Monday and put on antibiotics because of the urine test, but MW today told me that my notes on the computer said no sign of infection....so why have I been taking 5 days worth of abs?

Heartbeat was fine on Monday when the nice MW listened to it.

I don't really want to ring back and have to go through it all again if I'm honest. I'll try some paracetamol and see if that eases the pain. Having a quick google my pain does sound like SPD rather than a UTI, just didn't like the way the MW made me feel.

I'm also cross that the 2 times in my pregnancy I've needed to speak to my MW they'e not worked after 5pm and not worked at the weekend.

ElspethFlashman Sat 30-Apr-16 14:27:45

If the dipstick says leukocytes often you're put on prophylactic ABs. In other words "just in case".

hellsbells76 Sat 30-Apr-16 14:45:41

Community midwives work 9-5 Mon-Fri as a general rule - outside these hours we work an on-call rota for emergencies and home births and a skeleton service at weekends for essential visits. So you need to call triage/labour ward with any worries outside of normal working hours - there will be a midwife there 24/7. I'm sorry you've had a negative experience and suggest you complain to the manager of the department about the individual midwife who spoke to you like that as that isn't acceptable. However it's not really reasonable to expect a community midwife to be available to you 24 hours a day. We have lives and families too!

Tribblewithoutacause Sat 30-Apr-16 14:55:59

Honestly, I wouldn't even bother with pregnancy assessment unit. I'd ring 111 and ask for a out of hours GP, you'd see a Dr sooner rather than you would in the unit. Plus it sounds like a UTI, so they'd be able to get you sorted quicker than a MW would.

Colabottle10 Sat 30-Apr-16 15:47:24

When I rang 111 on Monday, they put me straight through to PAU and the MW there said I could call the OOH GP but they would more than likely send me to PAU anyway. We live in the sticks, so it's a 30min (fast) drive to the hospital and the same in the other direction to the GP....

RobberBride Sat 30-Apr-16 15:54:11

If you think it maybe SPD/PGP, try googling or asking friends for an osteopath recommendation (or try the PGP charity, they have lists of osteopaths/physios recommended by women with SPD/PGP). Phone on Tuesday morning and you should be able to get an appointment next week. That may help with the pain. flowers

RobberBride Sat 30-Apr-16 15:55:19

This is the link www.pelvicpartnership.org.uk/images/Recommended_practitioners.pdf

kiki22 Sat 30-Apr-16 18:29:22

There is always one I called to ask for an appointment about my birth choice due to traumatic first labour and was told it was to early to think about labour I told her not for me and got an appointment with me own mw who was lovely and supportive about it.

Call them back or go to a&e if your in pain your in pain regardless to what it is you need help to manage it possibly more than paracetamol, remember it may be the nhs but these people are paid to do a job just like anyone else, if you had a builder in who said I think your roof is going to fall down but I'm off home you wouldn't put up with it don't just because it's 'free'

Tribblewithoutacause Sat 30-Apr-16 21:40:56

How you feeling now OP?

Colabottle10 Sat 30-Apr-16 21:56:45

I've been using a hot water bottle and that's helped slightly but moving around is agony!

WhoTheFuckIsSimon Sat 30-Apr-16 22:05:19

Midwife needs to refresh herself on rcog guidelines about fetal movement which basically say not to be concerened about reduced fetal movements until past the 28 week Mark. And you're right that an anterior placenta will make it harder to notice movement at this stage.

If you had +++ leucocytes on dipstick it's likely to be a uti rather than contamination. Lab tests are actually very inaccurate for UTIs and miss about 80% of infections. So just because nothing grew in the lab doesn't mean you didn't have an infection. Saying that pain on walking sounds more like spd.

Hope you're normal midwife is more helpful.

WhoTheFuckIsSimon Sat 30-Apr-16 22:06:27

If you're still in agony you need to see someone before Weds.

Tribblewithoutacause Sat 30-Apr-16 22:20:28

Is going to the loo agony? Do you have any other symptoms besides painful movement?

Colabottle10 Sun 01-May-16 07:44:38

No other UTI symptoms, not painful to wee or anything like that. Been sore moving in bed. Will see what today brings.

Afreshstartplease Sun 01-May-16 07:45:54

If your still in pain op please go in and get checked out

Mummyme87 Sun 01-May-16 14:18:43

Spf pain is normally associated with pain the hip/lower back/pelvis region more so when getting out of bed, sitting to standing, getting out of a car, walking (particularly up stairs). It can be excruciating. Take regular paracetamol and avoid abducting your hips. Request a physio referral but to be fair they can take a while to see you. An osteopath or chiropractor maybe better

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