I am 11 weeks pregnant with my second and have a happy, healthy 2.5 yr old boy. When I was pregnant with my first I didn't worry that I would be a good mum to him and my mat leave was one of the happiest times as I loved being a mum and found his development fascinating. I had a reserve of energy (being my first) and the novelty of motherhood lasted a long time.
Fast forward 2 plus years and I am an exhausted working mum, struggling with work-life imbalance in London. My husband and I both have demanding jobs, are in the middle of ongoing renovations, and are tight financially. Both of of our salaries have gone up a lot since our first (though I am now part-time) but with childcare and child-related costs and renovations we don't see a benefit and currently can't afford some of the modern conveniences (cleaner, car). We don't have family nearby though have a great network of friends and a strong relationship.
I am anxious for this child as I know I don't have the energy, time or money I had with my first. When my first was a baby we did lots of groups, outings, activities and I was so positive about the whole thing. We had a great time and I think that went some way in making him the happy boy he is now. Now I feel jaded and am no longer naive about what is involved in keeping a household with two working parents functioning.
Is it just pregnancy hormones/first trimester exhaustion? Do I need a kick up the backside? (seeing friends struggle with fertility makes me feel guilty about my lack of perspective) Any advice? I would really like to enjoy my pregnancy and think this child deserves all of those happy hormones too....
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pregnant with second and anxious about more responsibility
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thewanderinglost · 25/04/2016 20:51
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