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how to tell parents !!

(6 Posts)
lminch1990 Wed 20-Apr-16 09:48:17

Right im not a young teen i shouldnt be nervous about this lol im 26 years old i have a 4 year old child already with a different dad my parents where nt happy about my son but come to terms with it but now when i hint im pregnant again all i get is "you better not be .. i dont want anything to do with it if you r... you will ruin you life ... one kid is one thing but 2 ull never be able to do anything" you see they dont like my oh yh we have had issues but what relationship hasnt we been together 3 years and getting on real well lately i think my dad has more of a problem with a mixed race child as child number 1 is white i dont know how to properly tell them without them adding stress to me or falling out with me any advice please xx

Guiltypleasures001 Wed 20-Apr-16 09:53:21

Lovely you are 26 8yrs past being an adult they are not only judging you but your first dc
I think how bloody dare they, your choices are your own to make and anyone who is not able to support you in those don't deserve a say, or a seat at that table.

If you need to formally tell them then breezely tell them in public where they are least able to make a scene, followed up by if you can't support me then low contact is fine with you.

No one should have to walk on egg shells to appease family, and second guess their own life choices,
Bollox to that

Oh and huge congrats on your pregnancy thankschocolate

lminch1990 Wed 20-Apr-16 17:33:25

They are just really funny its ok for my sister to have more kids because they like her oh and they are "settled" whats settled these days we both have jobs and got our own house im just going to have to come out and say it thankyou xx

RudeElf Wed 20-Apr-16 17:39:28

You dont have to tell them. I have had two unplanned pregnancies that werent well received by my parents. Tbh their reactions ruined both my pregnancies because i spent the whole time feeling guilty. I decided after ds2 that if i was to become pregnant again i wasnt letting anyone ruin it and if i thought anyone would react negatively then they didnt deserve to be told my good news. Of course they will find out eventually but you are under no obligation to listen to anything they have to say about it.

thecatsarecrazy Thu 21-Apr-16 09:27:19

Do you need to tell them at all? When I was 3 months we had what I thought would be a nice meal with my dh family and we told them our happy news. I was expecting my 2nd. And we got a grunt from mil and oh I thought you were joking from bil. I really wish we hadn't bothered

Annabrooke90 Thu 21-Apr-16 10:14:16

I'm 25 and pregnant, my parents dont know I'm 20 weeks now. I'm very close to them both, but I know what reaction I will get, mum just gets abit upset and thinks I'm not going to continue doing everything I'm doing (studying and going to uni) but she does have a point because this is my 5th baby. But I feel I'm a grown woman, I look after my children, I'm still continuing to do well with my studies, I have a uni offer in place and I have just got another job to put me on in the meantime.

I agree you don't have to tell them if you think it will dampen the excitement you have. It's your life and your choice.

Congratulations smile

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