Hi,
I'm new to the board but figured a problem shared is a problem halved. Sorry if it gets a bit rambley, I'm a bit all over the place lately.
I'm 32 weeks pregnant with my second child (a boy). My daughter is 2 1/2 years old. 2 weeks prior to her due date my husband was in an RTA and broke his femur, we were living with relatives as we'd sold our home and we were in the process of purchasing a new home. The week of the accident my bump grew 4cm and I had a lot of drama waiting to see a consultant and eventually just being told my daughter was probably on the large side. Despite this the hospital let me go the standard 14 days overdue before induction.
The experience was horrible, I was hooked up to all these machines and needles and felt like it was something that was happening to me rather than something I was doing. The contractions were hellish, after an eternity I couldn't breathe or speak as the pain was so intense. I had an epidural which helped but my daughter got stuck. They tried ventouse but the cup came off and tore her head. They tried again, no budging. They then opted to perform an episiotomy which tore badly when my daughter eventually came free. I was then rushed to theatre as I was haemorrhaging and my placenta had not fully come away. I remember being wheeled away from my injured husband sat in a chair with his crutches looking terrified with this baby slapped on his chest. My daughter was 10lb (4.55kg).
It was all very difficult. I felt guilty about her head wound, I felt guilty about my husband being injured and being so powerless during the whole process, I felt guilty about being so mopey when I should have been holding it together. I healed well but I had a 3rd degree tear and a lot of stitches (13) I have no ongoing issues with toilet or otherwise, I believe this was akin to dodging a bullet. I feel lucky in that regard.
With my current pregnancy the hospital is monitoring me closely (same hospital as last time). I have a growth scan scheduled at 36 weeks. Throughout the pregnancy I have had a lot of anxiety regarding the birth. I have the option of elective c section at 39 weeks or an induction at 38 weeks. I could also refuse induction and wait and see what happens. My consultant says I would be likely to go overdue again if I refused induction.
I do not want induction again, I hated every moment of it and still have nightmares. I do not want another tear from a big baby, my scar from last time still haunts me. I had a midwife appointment yesterday and I'm measuring big for dates and he's breech and causing me a lot of pain. I can't get out of bed in the mornings without the stabbing pains causing me to cry. As it's muscular and not bone pain I'm told they can't do anything for it.
Sorry for the essay. My questions are as follows -
I've heard that growth scans need to be taken with a pinch of salt and if he shows as being a reasonable size he could still be big. Has anyone experienced this?
I've heard that elective sections are more relaxed and calm than emergencies. Does anyone have any positive section stories? I've never had any surgery before (apart from my repair last birth) and the whole section idea fills me with worry. Being awake on a cold table feeling people rummaging around, and all those horror stories of feeling the cuts...
If I don't want induction and I don't want an overdue large baby really section is my only option. I think I'm just getting jittery as the scan date gets closer as I'm remembering how awful I felt last time around and I had a house move, newborn, and badly injured husband to keep me focused and busy. I want to sort my head space before my son arrives so I don't sabotage my recovery with anxiety as this time I can actually focus on him exclusively instead of dealing with 2 different hospitals, 3 sets of solicitors, insurance claims, removals, and all the other drama we had last time.
Thoughts?
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MythicHypercurve · 05/04/2016 16:13
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