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To have another baby?

(6 Posts)
fluffypacman Sat 19-Mar-16 21:00:54

We have x2 dc. I used to want a large family but the realities of having children are somewhat different to what I imagined. I really struggled wi the transition from 1-2 children. I was adamant that I wanted no more and DP in agreement. My children are age 4&2 and life is getting a little easier and back to some form of normality. This issue is that a fAir few of my friends have announced pregnancies. Initially while thankful for them as it was what they want I had no broody feelings. Another friend has just announced her 3rd baby and for the first time I have stirrings of broodiness. DP has asked if I want another and seemed reasonably open to the idea. Does this urge pass? I'm knocking on 40 so it needs to be now or never. There's all the financial issues to consider but now the ideas there I'm feeling a little excited by the thought.

Mrsmulder Sat 19-Mar-16 21:11:21

Op, you could be me except I have never said never re a 3rd. Just kept putting it off. As it happens I had to stop contraception for other reasons and so we have had a chat and decided to just go for it. We can afford it though money would be tight. Have started ttc this month and I am a bit nervous I must admit but excited too. I am also on the wrong side of 35 so feel it's now or never too

fluffypacman Sat 19-Mar-16 22:36:11

Good luck. It's such a turn around for me. After having dc2 I thought I might be tempted but the reality of the juggle of having 2 demanding, very small but gorgeous people soon made me re think. I'll sit on that thought for a bit and talk to hubby a bit more. I had been getting rid of all our baby toys and all the clothes have gone, so I'd definitely closed that door mentally. It's just opened a crack today.

Mrsmulder Sat 19-Mar-16 23:01:59

I know what you mean. I always thought I would have 3 and then I had my 2nd! I love them to bits but they are hard work. Mine are 2 and 4 also so now I feel life is getting easier I have a strange desire to make it difficult again grin

We have had a couple of new babies in the family recently and dd is so lovely with them, that has helped sway me. Tbh it's the pregnancy I am worrying about more than another baby. Take your time though and think it through. I decided in the end that I was overthinking though and just went for it. Good luck

MsFiremanSam Sun 20-Mar-16 08:04:06

Had the exact same thought process a year or so ago. The broody feelings just didn't go away though and I'm now expecting number three. We are really excited and suddenly all those reasons to not do it aren't important. I'm finding pregnancy really, really hard - but I'm looking forward to my family finally being complete and doing the baby bit one more time, with absolute closure and no regrets. My friends who stuck at two said they knew they were done and sold all their baby stuff - I never felt that certain and if we hadn't had another I think I would always have wondered.

Marquand Tue 22-Mar-16 08:48:43

I'm 43 and expecting number 3. The doubts don't go away once you're pregnant! I absolutely adore my kids (6 and 3), and I know I'll love a 3rd one, and that it will enrich our lives tremendously.

Still, I know this one will make our lives a lot more complicated (my oldest keeps reminding us that the children will outnumber the adults), and more expensive, and busier, and that it will be at least 2 years before I start getting a bit of my life back.

Fortunately I wasn't wildly excited about number 1 or 2 before they arrived, and I immediately fell head over heels in love when they arrived. I am therefore not beating myself up about feeling a bit blase about the pregnancy.

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