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Rude / unusual things people have said to you

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KayTee87 · 18/02/2016 11:31

What are the rudest / most unusual things people have said to you since becoming pregnant? I've had;

Was there nothing on TV that month? Some people plan their children thanks!

Was it planned? Erm no I got married 6 months ago and then suddenly forgot how to use contraception.

You're absolutely huge, you're going to have a massive baby! Ok I'm 18 weeks pregnant, have put on 2lbs and measuring just right but yeah I'm sure your informed comment makes sense.

Are they going to charge you extra to tan your stomach snigger snigger (from a work colleague). I replied no as my stomach is still a lot smaller than many people's...

Same work colleague told me to lose a few pounds (she's 3 stones heavier than me and the same height Confused)

Also the belly rubbing arghh.. good to have somewhere to rant Grin

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Littleelffriend · 18/02/2016 11:37

From the HR girl at work "you're certainly filling out". Well, I'm still wearing size 10 trousers, you're nearer an 18.

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nehagarg · 18/02/2016 11:57

"Was it planned?" ... I get that all the time!! From people who are pregnant themselves! Whether it was or it wasn't, I would like to know what business that is of yours? Sheesh! DH told me to chill until he got asked it himself, lol Grin

I get "you are huge" and "you are tiny" all the time. I have realised it depends on what I am wearing. If I wear something that emphasises my bump, I am huge. If I wear something loose, I am tiny. Quite funny!

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5608Carrie · 18/02/2016 11:59

The worst one I ever got was "Oh dear, I wouldn't let a dog go through what a woman goes through in labour" said to me at 37 weeks!

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KayTee87 · 18/02/2016 12:04

Carrie that's terrible! One of my friends said to me 'good luck you're going to need it' in relation to labour. Well I'm sure if you managed I can manage Hmm

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Salene · 18/02/2016 12:05

You look like a whale

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KayTee87 · 18/02/2016 12:08

Omg salene! I'd have been tempted to say 'well I will lose this baby weight, what are you going to do about your face'

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TheGreaterGood · 18/02/2016 12:11

'Was it intended?' - from a male colleague. I'm 42 years old and have been married for 4 years... Confused

And a lot of people have said 'well done' when I've told them...not sure why but sounds a bit odd?

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Wait4nothing · 18/02/2016 12:13

You're having a girl because your face has gotten fat! (Tbf said in jest by someone I like so she was forgiven!)

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Vedamakesthebesttoast · 18/02/2016 12:13

I have twins, once a random stranger, middle aged man asked me in a packed lift (no escape route) if I'd had a vaginal birth. Yes he actually used the word vaginal and expected me to reply. I was utterly mortified. Why wod I want to discuss my vagina in public with a strange man???!!! Just WHY

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KayTee87 · 18/02/2016 12:18

HahaHaha veda that's the best yet!!

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Champagneformyrealfriends · 18/02/2016 12:25

"Oh, you're pregnant? I thought you looked weightier."

"Well I think you're silly!" Said quite aggressively when i told a woman (who'd asked) that we weren't finding out the sex. I then got a lecture about painting bedrooms Grin

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5hell · 18/02/2016 12:27

"have you started pelvic floor exercises yet?"

  • from a male friend in response to pg announcement! I'm fairly sure the state of my pelvic floor is not his concern. i forgave him as he's nice :)
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R0nJ0n · 18/02/2016 12:30

The worst thing is this won't stop for years, I found school age was more of less the end of the stupid comments.

People will ask "is he/she a good baby", when you're planning on having your next, if you were happy/disspointed with the gender, have an opinion on the way you feed, your sex life post birth, when you should wean, the use or not of a dummy, nurseries, when your DC should stop using a buggy, tantrums, nappies, potty training and every other bloody thing connected with babies and toddlers.

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Highlove · 18/02/2016 12:36

Yep another one who got: "I thought you'd put on weight." Thanks.

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joyalf · 18/02/2016 12:40

Loads of "was it planned?" from vague acquaintances (me & OH are not married, shock horror). Also one colleague who I'd never spoken to before said "no offence but your bump absolutely disgusts me, it really makes me feel sick", thanks a bunch. Didn't know what to say I was so shocked, wish I'd told her to FO.

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WilLiAmHerschel · 18/02/2016 12:45

Bloody hell Veda! What a weirdo!

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Needcaffeinenow · 18/02/2016 12:46

I have had "omg you are huge" and "you will never be tiny again!" People seem to be happy at me gaining weight which is so odd! Then I got "you have wide hips so the baby will just shoot right out of you" and "Oh I just thought you got fat as you are big all over." I really haven't gained that much really! All from people I barely know!!

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KayTee87 · 18/02/2016 12:48

Joyalf that's terrible, it's so hard to have a witty response ready isn't it! Something along the lines of 'well your face makes me sick' would have been good Grin

I had a male colleague call me fatty the other week ha-ha but he's generally nice so didn't hold too much of a grudge.
Also had a friend ask if I was still having sex. Erm none of your business!

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meatliqour · 18/02/2016 12:51

Who's the Father Confused

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KayTee87 · 18/02/2016 12:52

Oh I also had a friend screw up her face when I said I would be breastfeeding. She asked how long for so I said I'm not sure, as long as I can manage really (will be going back to work when baby is 10 or 11 months so might be hard after that). She said oh after 6 months it's disgusting to breastfeed. Is it really? I will be sure to keep your disgust in mind while happily feeding my child.

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Olbersparadox · 18/02/2016 12:53

LOL - Love these threads

FIL - "was it planned" . . . well after being married for 7 years - no it just happened.

Work Colleague "when are you due" - this was 4 months after giving birth!! Silly woman - the last time she saw me my tummy was huge and out there, I felt like smacking her!

My friend's sister who is about a size 26 said "Wow you're HUGE". I was thinking hardly considering I was in size 12 and she was i size 26 and not pregnant.

Some people said nothing after we announced our news.
PILs gave us the third degree - it was question after question after question, like two teenagers who forgot to use contraception.

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KayTee87 · 18/02/2016 12:53

Hehe meatliqour Grin reply with you / your partner depending on persons sex.

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AnnaMarlowe · 18/02/2016 12:54

As soon as people found out we were having twins I got lots of 'was it IVF?' questions?

Quite why anyone (including strangers in the street) thought this was their business is beyond me.

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Olbersparadox · 18/02/2016 12:55

Oh and a work colleague asked to try my milk when I was pumping at work. I thought it was odd - even though she is a friend, I poured some out for her to sip!
I guess as long as she wasn't planning on asking for some for her tea breaks.

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